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Post by zibazinski on Nov 15, 2016 13:22:02 GMT -5
I'm sorry. It's painful, I know.
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Post by quince on Nov 15, 2016 13:23:37 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss. The way you have handled everything is inspiring.
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Post by taz157 on Nov 15, 2016 13:45:42 GMT -5
An update: DH died, probably as I was writing that post. Well, he wouldn't be surprised at that! He'd been on enough meds that I'm sure it was peaceful. The hospice nurse has come and gone and the social worker is here till the funeral home arrives to remove DH's body. I'll be OK- have already talked to DS and to my Dad, who's just been though all of this with my mother's passing on October 4. He died at home, without aggressive medical intervention, just as he wanted. I wouldn't have had it any other way. It's how people used to pass away before the medical industry intervened, with the added support of hospsice and plentiful quantities of morphine. At this point it's a relief for both of us. I'm very sorry about your DH. Hugs and prayers during this difficult time.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Nov 15, 2016 14:06:54 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Nov 15, 2016 14:17:27 GMT -5
I know how difficult this was for you. It is a blessing you were able to give him comfort and care in his final hours.
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Post by Regis on Nov 15, 2016 14:19:53 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss, Athena.
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Post by Pants on Nov 15, 2016 15:01:19 GMT -5
athena - as others have said, your grace and strength under unimaginable pressure is just incredible. I hope that his passing is peaceful and you find comfort as you can in the life you lived together.
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Post by Pants on Nov 15, 2016 15:02:22 GMT -5
Well i should have read the whole thread. I am sorry for your loss, athena, and glad it was peaceful in the end.
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Post by janee on Nov 15, 2016 15:05:59 GMT -5
Hoping happy memories are a comfort to you. Also that you helped your DH pass the way he wanted. No one could ask for more.
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Post by Jaguar on Nov 15, 2016 15:09:16 GMT -5
Sincere Condolences on your loss. I'm so sorry.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Nov 15, 2016 15:14:38 GMT -5
An update: DH died, probably as I was writing that post. Well, he wouldn't be surprised at that! He'd been on enough meds that I'm sure it was peaceful. The hospice nurse has come and gone and the social worker is here till the funeral home arrives to remove DH's body. I'll be OK- have already talked to DS and to my Dad, who's just been though all of this with my mother's passing on October 4. He died at home, without aggressive medical intervention, just as he wanted. I wouldn't have had it any other way. It's how people used to pass away before the medical industry intervened, with the added support of hospsice and plentiful quantities of morphine. At this point it's a relief for both of us. I am so sorry for your loss and I think you made the best decisions for you both and by respecting his wishes during this difficult time. Athena, I know you are strong but be extra gentle with yourself. Your grief may take a toll on you in ways you may not realize so just be extra vigilant at taking extra good care of yourself. My deepest and sincerest condolences. (((Hugs)))
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Post by swamp on Nov 15, 2016 15:18:07 GMT -5
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Post by myrrh on Nov 15, 2016 15:39:15 GMT -5
I wish I had better words. Hugs Athena. Glad your DH was able to go the way he wanted.
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 15, 2016 15:48:30 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss @athena53. Lots of love and hugs coming your way from NorCal
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2016 16:11:19 GMT -5
Athena, I know you are strong but be extra gentle with yourself. Your grief may take a toll on you in ways you may not realize so just be extra vigilant at taking extra good care of yourself. Thanks to all of you- I'm not up to replying individually but I really wanted to address this one. Sometimes I'm just too darn independent and capable for my own good. The first time DH tried frantically to get out of the bed, getting all bruised and twisted in the process, I tried to reason with him. It didn't work. I had a full-blown meltdown. Guess what-that didn't work, either. Then I called hospice. They told me to break into the box they'd given me and give him one of the heavy sedatives. Peace. A long time ago a psychologist developed a scale of stress levels for major life events, including good ones. Over a certain level there's a risk of physical problems. Right up at the top: change in health status of a family member, loss of a parent, loss of a spouse. I also know one caregiver who developed advanced colon cancer while her husband was dying. They all thought it was stress. She died the following year. Luckily, I just had That Test earlier this year. And I'm typing this from the stationary bike in the gym.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 15, 2016 16:16:44 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for your loss, Athena. Praying for peace and comfort for you. Your grace and strength throughout the amount of sorrow you've experienced recently is admirable. Thank you for sharing bits and pieces about your husband the memories you've made together over the years - he was an incredible man from everything you've posted.
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Post by dannylion on Nov 15, 2016 16:31:26 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, Athena. Wishing you peace and comfort.
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Post by suesinfl on Nov 15, 2016 17:21:52 GMT -5
Athena, I cried at work this morning when I read your first post and then again when I read your afternoon post. I'm sorry I couldn't tell you how sorry I am for the loss of your DH, but at least his no longer in pain. You are an amazing woman.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Nov 15, 2016 17:26:41 GMT -5
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Nov 15, 2016 17:32:34 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. May you have peace and comfort and strength during this difficult time. It's so good to hear that you are taking care of yourself.
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Post by bean29 on Nov 15, 2016 17:33:57 GMT -5
Althena53,
My Condolences on your loss.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2016 17:39:48 GMT -5
I'm sorry.
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Post by Happy prose on Nov 15, 2016 17:46:19 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Athena. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Nov 15, 2016 18:27:50 GMT -5
I'm sorry Athena.
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Post by ners on Nov 15, 2016 18:34:27 GMT -5
@athena53 So sorry for your loss.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Nov 15, 2016 20:04:42 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss @athena53. .
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 15, 2016 20:12:06 GMT -5
Athena, I am so very, very sorry. I will never know what it's like to lose a spouse. I do know how wonderful hospice is and what a gift they are. Do take care of yourself now. You have been through so much. Your first post describing your DH sounded like my mom's last days. I knew from that post it would not be long. I am glad that DH left this world the way he wanted. Hugs to you.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Nov 15, 2016 22:23:05 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss , sending much love and good karma your way
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Post by plugginaway22 on Nov 15, 2016 22:30:34 GMT -5
So very sorry, what a gift that you could keep him at home and comfortable, and that you went to your Mom's funeral together! Peace to you.
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Post by Tired Tess on Nov 15, 2016 22:41:30 GMT -5
The Lord's peace be with you {{{hugs}}}.
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