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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2016 10:45:25 GMT -5
A lot of homeschoolers work at our local red robin and when she asked there they said her nose was no problem because she can flip it or put in a filler, but her hair would be an issue.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 19, 2016 10:59:13 GMT -5
I'm fine with hair it can always grow back or be dyed back to a more natural color. Also fine with nose piercing and belly button. Tounge piercing is a no until she has her own dental insurance and can pay to have any damage her piercing causes fixed herself. And for the love of god no gauges when she's living with me. It's not a moral issue or anything it's the fact that looking at people with giant holes in their ears makes me gag. I can't even make eye contact with people who have ear gauges. I feel like a douche and I've tried to densensitize myself but it's not happening.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Sept 19, 2016 11:07:09 GMT -5
And for the love of god no gauges when she's living with me. It's not a moral issue or anything it's the fact that looking at people with giant holes in their ears makes me gag. I can't even make eye contact with people who have ear gauges. I feel like a douche and I've tried to densensitize myself but it's not happening. OMG yes, I totally forgot about that! Yeah, DS ain't gettin that AT. ALL.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 19, 2016 11:29:39 GMT -5
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Post by Pants on Sept 19, 2016 11:52:38 GMT -5
I'm fine with hair it can always grow back or be dyed back to a more natural color. Also fine with nose piercing and belly button. Tounge piercing is a no until she has her own dental insurance and can pay to have any damage her piercing causes fixed herself. And for the love of god no gauges when she's living with me. It's not a moral issue or anything it's the fact that looking at people with giant holes in their ears makes me gag. I can't even make eye contact with people who have ear gauges. I feel like a douche and I've tried to densensitize myself but it's not happening. You know that means that is all both your girls will beg for until they are 18, right? That's how that works.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2016 12:28:28 GMT -5
I've actually found that my being reasonable about the things that aren't permanent has led to the kids being more likely to listen to me about the things I feel strongly against... I don't know. I'm also told I have easy kids?
No to gauges, that's not undo able. No to tongue piercings because she's had like 8k work in her mouth and they are more danger prone., recommend waiting till 20s for tatoos... We'll see how that goes.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 19, 2016 12:38:14 GMT -5
Gagues are un doable up to a point. I had a friend who started but changed his mind. All he had to do was remove the gauge and things went back to normal. I remember him telling me they instructed him he has to wear each gauge for X amount of time to make sure the tissue stays permenately stretched out. I forgot what size you have to get to before you hit the point of no return and would require surgical intervention to fix your ears. I had a friend in HS who had them big enough I could have put my hand thru them. Just thinking about it makes me want to
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 19, 2016 12:56:47 GMT -5
Before daughter got her second nose piercing I told her she had to call two employers to find out their policies on hiring and face piercings... And one could NOT be Hot Topic. is torrid the larger size store for their sistet hot topic or is it the other way round?
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Post by naughtybear on Sept 19, 2016 12:58:38 GMT -5
I've shopped at Torrid and don't think there is anything unusual about it.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 19, 2016 13:01:17 GMT -5
I've shopped at Torrid and don't think there is anything unusual about it. maybe it's changed but I'd swear one of them was originally set up for larger sizes.
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Post by naughtybear on Sept 19, 2016 13:45:50 GMT -5
It is, I was referring to someone stating it was a Hot Topic plus.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2016 13:47:09 GMT -5
I've never heard of Torrid.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 19, 2016 14:18:11 GMT -5
I've taken DD to Hot Topic and Charlotte Russe and found acceptable things at both. There were also cute but not age appropriate things. I'd still buy a few things at Hot Topic for myself. (Lots and lots of band t shirts) To milee's point, yes, shopping for girl's clothes is way harder than you think. Every store, every size (sometimes even within the store) is different. I once bought my DD a size 4 pair of jeans and a size 8 pair of shorts at the same place. W.T.F.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Sept 20, 2016 9:18:39 GMT -5
I was at an Irish festival last weekend and saw an 18-24 month old boy with an honest to goodness mohawk (not a faux-hawk, and it was pretty long/spikey), dyed green. DS1 had just asked for a mohawk cut earlier that day. DH said maybe next summer. (I'm sure DH had a faux-hawk in mind, though.)
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Post by milee on Sept 20, 2016 9:50:20 GMT -5
That little girl looks fantastic! Such cute hair. I never understand why people are so freaked out about unusual hair styles. Hair is so easy to change. You can do whatever crazy thing you want and it's not permanent. If I had a kid that wanted unusual hair, that wouldn't bother me one bit and if school said it was a problem, I'd want to understand what was problematic about it. So much of our reaction to things is (IMHO) based on societal conditioning that doesn't have much grounding in logic. This morning at my son's school I saw a high school aged girl wearing really short shorts. She was raising her arms above her head to fix her hair and that pulled the shorts up even higher - both her butt cheeks were clearly showing. My initial reaction was (internal monologue) - whoa! Those shorts are too short! Someone needs to talk to this girl, her butt is hanging out! But then when I thought about it for a couple seconds I started wondering if I really felt this was an issue or I had just been hearing other people say things like that for so long, that this was my default reaction. Heck, it was her body and she was comfortable with her clothes. She wasn't showing anything that can't legally be shown on a public street. It's going to be almost 100 degrees today and humid as heck. Why was this any of my business? I thought she actually looked good - probably because I remembered fondly the days when my ass looked like that - but even if I didn't think she looked good, I could just not look. Why did I think it was my business to render an opinion on what she was wearing? IMHO, we as a society would be much happier if we stopped worrying about and judging other people about things that are temporary, harmless and don't impact anyone else. *** *** Before it appears that I'm all peace, love and happiness with everything, I have to be honest that with my kids and with people who work for me, I do have certain preferences that mainly relate to my ideas of sanitation and permanency. Facial piercing and ear gauging not only can provoke a gag reflex in people, they're sometimes not super sanitary, either. For hair, if it's clean, I really don't care what style it is. If it's not clean, it's not OK no matter what the style is. Clean dreadlocks = fine. Dreadlocks in the making or unwashed dreads = gross. Same for any hair style - the people who think others can't tell that they're trying the latest "no wash" thing with their hair are nuts. You don't have to wash hair daily with shampoo to keep it clean, but for most people if they don't use shampoo at least a couple of times a week, they stink. For whatever reason they can't smell it, but I can and I suspect other people can too... unwashed hair is gross no matter what color or style it is.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 20, 2016 11:21:07 GMT -5
I have only seen it online never in person but have you guys seen the gauge that goes inside your lip? You can see someone's gums and teeth. .. and spit. ..and anything they chew. .. I see that and wonder how many of those people will end up on Botched. I can't imagine that's something that is easy to reverse if you change your mind.
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 20, 2016 12:32:56 GMT -5
I saw someone on TV who had them in their cheeks. It was totally gross.
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 20, 2016 12:35:49 GMT -5
Thing 1 has the little flap that connects your top lip to your gums pierced. I didn't even know it was a thing until she did it. It was so weird when she had oral surgery because we could see it in the x-ray. The doctor said "And I see that there is an alien object here. Have you been abducted by aliens recently?"
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2016 12:38:41 GMT -5
So much of my parenting years have been spent wondering why my first instincts are what they are...
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 20, 2016 12:59:25 GMT -5
I saw someone on TV who had them in their cheeks. It was totally gross. DH saw that and just about threw up. The other thing i learned on Botched is how little training most people have in doing these piercings. They said those types of piercings are essentially maxiofacial surgery and you got people who have never had a day of medical training in their lives putting holes in your face.
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Post by milee on Sept 20, 2016 13:26:09 GMT -5
So much of my parenting years have been spent wondering why my first instincts are what they are... Me too. I know I talk about parenting a lot - probably too much - but part of that is because I have to consciously think about it a lot. Trying really hard to do a good job and raise happy, successful kids to be happy, successful adults which sounds so much easier than it is. So much of what I saw growing up and frankly see around me now doesn't seem geared to that or doesn't work for my kids. Add in the fact that each kid is so, so different and parenting feels like something that consumes a lot of my brainpower. Much more than just about anything I do. It's not intuitive for me, it's not something I'm naturally great at... and I feel like I have to concentrate on it really hard to end up with good results. I could not be happier with my boys and think they're going to be OK, but I will probably never be one of those people who feels like parenting is effortless. Feels kind of like running a marathon. I'm on mile 15 or so and things are going well, but if I stop running for a while or run the wrong way things could easily go off the rails. This is probably why I'm looking forward to being a grandparent. Hopefully I'll get to do more of the fun stuff without the constant stress of worrying that I'm screwing them up somehow.
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Post by swamp on Sept 20, 2016 13:28:45 GMT -5
So much of my parenting years have been spent wondering why my first instincts are what they are... Me too. I know I talk about parenting a lot - probably too much - but part of that is because I have to consciously think about it a lot. Trying really hard to do a good job and raise happy, successful kids to be happy, successful adults which sounds so much easier than it is. So much of what I saw growing up and frankly see around me now doesn't seem geared to that or doesn't work for my kids. Add in the fact that each kid is so, so different and parenting feels like something that consumes a lot of my brainpower. Much more than just about anything I do. It's not intuitive for me, it's not something I'm naturally great at... and I feel like I have to concentrate on it really hard to end up with good results. I could not be happier with my boys and think they're going to be OK, but I will probably never be one of those people who feels like parenting is effortless. Feels kind of like running a marathon. I'm on mile 15 or so and things are going well, but if I stop running for a while or run the wrong way things could easily go off the rails. This is probably why I'm looking forward to being a grandparent. Hopefully I'll get to do more of the fun stuff without the constant stress of worrying that I'm screwing them up somehow. FWIW, I don't think you talk about it too much. I enjoy reading your take on parenting. We can all use some introspection on why we parent a certain way, and why we make the choices we do with respect to our kids.
I'm finding parenting to be much harder than I thought it would be.
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Post by milee on Sept 20, 2016 14:07:29 GMT -5
Most recent Parenting Fail: DH was traveling for the last week and a half, arriving home after the kids were asleep Sunday night. Monday morning the youngest wanders into the living room, still in PJs and hair all tousled. Is the first thing he says to his Dad "Hi"? Nope. Instead, he gets a gleeful look on his face and exclaims, "Dad, while you were gone Mom let us drink Scotch!" (In my defense, there's a little more to the story. The boys and I had been having a really good talk about moderate drinking. I want them to be able to drink socially without it being a problem, so we were talking about what that might look like in different situations. I was pointing out how different types of alcohol can be tricky because the serving size varies so much. ie - a can of beer = a 5 oz glass of wine = only 1 oz of hard alcohol. They asked what hard alcohol was and I named Scotch as an example. Older son remarked that when he'd tried a sip of beer and wine he didn't like either of them and I said that hard alcohol was even stronger so probably less likely to be something he liked. He jokingly asked if he could try Scotch and I said "sure" thinking not only would he really hate it, but also because I think the more we make something taboo and secret, the more kids want to experiment. Letting him try a drop and hating it kills two birds with one stone - makes him cautious of hard alcohol - my throat is on fire! - and keeps it from being tempting taboo. So I drip literally a couple of drops into a glass - not even enough to make the bottom of the glass wet - and hand it to older son. He takes a sip and his eyes light up, "It tastes just like Walker's Shortbread cookies!" He likes it. So, yeah, that blows the theory he will hate it and learn to be cautious. Meanwhile, younger son takes the glass and since there's not enough to even pour out at that point, licks it to taste it because his older brother did, too. So yes, technically, I did "let" them drink Scotch. )
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2016 14:09:28 GMT -5
I'm all for learning how to drink reponsibility at home. I just can't get my kids to drink...
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Post by milee on Sept 20, 2016 14:41:53 GMT -5
I'm all for learning how to drink reponsibility at home. I just can't get my kids to drink... Do they like shortbread cookies? Then they might like Scotch. I think the flaw in my plan was that I gave them a taste of the good stuff.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 20, 2016 14:43:44 GMT -5
DH was traveling for the last week and a half, arriving home after the kids were asleep Sunday night. Monday morning the youngest wanders into the living room, still in PJs and hair all tousled. Is the first thing he says to his Dad "Hi"? Nope. Instead, he gets a gleeful look on his face and exclaims, "Dad, while you were gone Mom let us drink Scotch!"
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 20, 2016 14:45:10 GMT -5
For the record, the hot pink from the BSWEET line of spray in hair color faded out of my daughter's hair in about 48-72 hours and a shampoo got the dregs oUT wit no problems. The lilac was very subdued in her hair. But the hot pink was amazing the first few hours.
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Post by yogiii on Sept 20, 2016 14:45:53 GMT -5
Me too. I know I talk about parenting a lot - probably too much - but part of that is because I have to consciously think about it a lot. Trying really hard to do a good job and raise happy, successful kids to be happy, successful adults which sounds so much easier than it is. So much of what I saw growing up and frankly see around me now doesn't seem geared to that or doesn't work for my kids. Add in the fact that each kid is so, so different and parenting feels like something that consumes a lot of my brainpower. Much more than just about anything I do. It's not intuitive for me, it's not something I'm naturally great at... and I feel like I have to concentrate on it really hard to end up with good results. I could not be happier with my boys and think they're going to be OK, but I will probably never be one of those people who feels like parenting is effortless. Feels kind of like running a marathon. I'm on mile 15 or so and things are going well, but if I stop running for a while or run the wrong way things could easily go off the rails. This is probably why I'm looking forward to being a grandparent. Hopefully I'll get to do more of the fun stuff without the constant stress of worrying that I'm screwing them up somehow. FWIW, I don't think you talk about it too much. I enjoy reading your take on parenting. We can all use some introspection on why we parent a certain way, and why we make the choices we do with respect to our kids.
I'm finding parenting to be much harder than I thought it would be.
One thing no one mentions is that all I see in my kids are our worst qualities combined. Where did the good ones go?
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 20, 2016 14:47:47 GMT -5
FWIW, I don't think you talk about it too much. I enjoy reading your take on parenting. We can all use some introspection on why we parent a certain way, and why we make the choices we do with respect to our kids.
I'm finding parenting to be much harder than I thought it would be.
One thing no one mentions is that all I see in my kids are our worst qualities combined. Where did the good ones go? Hiding behind the bad ones.
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