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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2016 18:55:40 GMT -5
I'm sooo glad that you went to your boss(es) Drama and talked honestly with them, and ultra glad that they were receptive and there for you to succeed (as they should; it's part of their job) That should in itself make you calmer and less anxiety ridden.
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ArchietheDragon
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 19, 2016 19:00:29 GMT -5
I am the opposite of a worrier. There are things that I should be worried about that I could give a rats ass about
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Post by swamp on Jul 19, 2016 19:52:47 GMT -5
Generally no.
If if I can do something to fix it, I do it. If I can't change it, worrying doesn't help the situation.
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Post by mmhmm on Jul 19, 2016 20:03:59 GMT -5
I'm not a worrier. Mother was and my DD is. I, however, am my father's daughter and my son is his mother's son. If I can fix it, I'll fix it. Otherwise, it's just gonna have to do what it is it's going to do. I'm movin' on.
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Post by mroped on Jul 19, 2016 21:13:59 GMT -5
I used to! Then I heard one of Murphy's laws:" if anything could go wrong, IT WILL go wrong!" So what's the point?
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 20, 2016 3:12:34 GMT -5
I think I'm more of a fatalist now. I just don't care. I was concerned about leaving a mess and now I won't and if I get sick, I do. If I die, I do. I just don't care enough about anything even myself anymore , to care one way or another. Sad but true.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 20, 2016 9:19:22 GMT -5
I'm not at all surprised. It's amazing to me how you function.DH says the same thing. IDK. I went to the EAP here a few times and what they suggested when my anxiety would go thru the roof is sit down and ask myself what is the worst case scenario and how realistic is it? If it DID happen what would I do? I also have been trying to let go of the things I can't control and focus on what I can. This past year and a half there have been far too many things for me to process and too many uncontrolled variables for me to think thru. It was emotional/mental overload. Now that DH and I have talked we are working together to fix what we can control. Hopefully now I can start doing the same thing here at work. Two more months to master the genotyping makes me FAR less stressed. Even in a master's hands PCR can be tempermental. I haven't done it in 10 years, pretty much all I remember is what PCR stands for.
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Post by lund on Jul 22, 2016 9:30:36 GMT -5
I don't worry much, but I am a planner and often have a back-up plan for the back-up plan....
I think it better to focus on what I can do, and to improve my "baseline position" in case something happens in the future.
Things like Having a fair EF (still not where I would like it, but OK) Having no consumer debt Having a reasonable (and slowly shrinking) mortgage Trying to keep weight in check (needs some more trying...) Having the pantry well-filled
and so on prevents unnecessary worry.
I have some things to do though, like checking that all papers and insurance are up-to-date (which needs to be done yearly).
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Post by Value Buy on Jul 23, 2016 20:08:16 GMT -5
My husband and I just had an awakening the other night. We realized we could end up in assisted living, and MIL too, dear God all 3 of us. I told son this and he hasn't even responded poor guy. I said someone will need to see the bills keep getting paid, and there are expenses for DD too.
It's going to cost a bundle if he won't take over, liquidate everything and see the bills are paid for all of us. I hope either he or I will be able but who knows. I'm thinking I need to talk to our attorney and set up a contingency and/or an accountant I'm going to go to also. No bills paid, no one to contact, and 3 old incompentent people out on the street.
He and I are still fine, but we won't know when we are not, yet we still have time. But it's a real possibility, more for him then me I think.
My husband said we live to long anymore, LOL!
Pat, get a grip on it! You and your husband are fine. Trust me. You are both "young acting" whether you realize it or not. None of us live forever. All of us could end up in assisted living someday. Many of us might drop dead on the floor someday or even tomorrow. Just plan on the monetary side to handle any and all situations, and breathe a little easier. My wife and I are going through the will making process right now, because quite frankly, we figure there is a better chance of both of us dying in a car crash while motoring around the country doing things, rather than to just one of us. As of now, we are not planning a trust. The will is to instruct distributions of the equities we own, and selling the properties that we have at the time of death for distribution. We will probably rename some of the equities in a poa to the kids. The IRA'S all have the children listed as recipients on the forms with the companies already. Life is way too short to worry about the crappy things that might happen to us. Just prepare for the bad times, and then have some fun before becoming to weak physically or mentally to do what you always wanted to. I do wish your husband would be welling to travel with you. That would take some pressure off you. Does he have anything he wants to actually do other than work, that you could share doing with him?
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Post by Value Buy on Jul 24, 2016 10:21:41 GMT -5
I do not want to speak for your husband, but darn, the Mall of America is not on my bucket list! I know you are doing it for your daughter, so that is fine too, and I am sure hubby understands this as well. Does he like fishing? Maybe side trip a couple of days and all three do some serious fishing while up there. P.S. fishing is not on either of our bucket lists either
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jul 24, 2016 12:33:24 GMT -5
I worry more about GrS1 than I do the 18 other GrK.
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