thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 4, 2016 15:31:47 GMT -5
Not two people, but when my brother got married, his wife's family decided he was no longer "David"*, but "Dave". One of them was talking to my sister about "Dave", and she asked "Who is Dave?" and they said my brother. She said "No, his name is David. It has always been David and will always be David." She was corrected and told he goes by Dave. Brother had no idea where this was coming from, and he informed his new relatives that he was "still David". I guess they tried to decide for him that since he was now married and "grown up", he should have the "grown up version". They now call him "David", as they should. My dad is a "Jr". He hates it and refused to name my older brother after himself. He had very strong feelings that a child should have his own name. I guess Gramma was in tears over it. I ticked off my ex in-laws the same way by refusing to give my son his father's name in any form (father was on the same page). My ex's father was named "Donald Davis Lastname*". He named his first son Donald Davis Lastname Jr. Second son was Davis Donald. Third son (different mother) was Gregory Donald Lastname. My ex (forth son, same mother as son #3) was "Jeffrey Donald Lastname". They named the ex's sister after his mom (both mom and daughter went by the same nickname, so they were "big" and "little"). I figured there was enough name sharing in that family to last a few generations. My brother "David"s MIL, wife, and daughter all share the first name, so the MIL goes by the first name, the SIL by first name unless she's with her mom, and my niece by first and middle name (and it's a mouthful!) *names changed, effect the same Why should they call him David? I didn't follow the story, but it sounds like he wanted to be called Dave and got bullied into being called David. My family always called me the short version of my name. Unfortunately, a third of people my age have a name with the same shortened name - male and female. I prefer to be called by my full name so there may be some chance that I would be one of three instead of one of 14 people in the room with the same name. I think it is incredibly rude if someone decides that I should be called some version of my name. Even if that person has called me that in the past. I don't want to be introduced by another version of my name, because then I escentially have two names. Sorry that when I was 12 something worked for me and now that I am 40 it does not.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 4, 2016 17:14:00 GMT -5
Not two people, but when my brother got married, his wife's family decided he was no longer "David"*, but "Dave". One of them was talking to my sister about "Dave", and she asked "Who is Dave?" and they said my brother. She said "No, his name is David. It has always been David and will always be David." She was corrected and told he goes by Dave. Brother had no idea where this was coming from, and he informed his new relatives that he was "still David". I guess they tried to decide for him that since he was now married and "grown up", he should have the "grown up version". They now call him "David", as they should. My dad is a "Jr". He hates it and refused to name my older brother after himself. He had very strong feelings that a child should have his own name. I guess Gramma was in tears over it. I ticked off my ex in-laws the same way by refusing to give my son his father's name in any form (father was on the same page). My ex's father was named "Donald Davis Lastname*". He named his first son Donald Davis Lastname Jr. Second son was Davis Donald. Third son (different mother) was Gregory Donald Lastname. My ex (forth son, same mother as son #3) was "Jeffrey Donald Lastname". They named the ex's sister after his mom (both mom and daughter went by the same nickname, so they were "big" and "little"). I figured there was enough name sharing in that family to last a few generations. My brother "David"s MIL, wife, and daughter all share the first name, so the MIL goes by the first name, the SIL by first name unless she's with her mom, and my niece by first and middle name (and it's a mouthful!) *names changed, effect the same Why should they call him David? I didn't follow the story, but it sounds like he wanted to be called Dave and got bullied into being called David. My family always called me the short version of my name. Unfortunately, a third of people my age have a name with the same shortened name - male and female. I prefer to be called by my full name so there may be some chance that I would be one of three instead of one of 14 people in the room with the same name. I think it is incredibly rude if someone decides that I should be called some version of my name. Even if that person has called me that in the past. I don't want to be introduced by another version of my name, because then I escentially have two names. Sorry that when I was 12 something worked for me and now that I am 40 it does not. It's the other way around - He wanted to be David but they decided for him that he should be called Dave.
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Post by Apple on Jul 4, 2016 17:39:00 GMT -5
Not two people, but when my brother got married, his wife's family decided he was no longer "David"*, but "Dave". One of them was talking to my sister about "Dave", and she asked "Who is Dave?" and they said my brother. She said "No, his name is David. It has always been David and will always be David." She was corrected and told he goes by Dave. Brother had no idea where this was coming from, and he informed his new relatives that he was "still David". I guess they tried to decide for him that since he was now married and "grown up", he should have the "grown up version". They now call him "David", as they should. *names changed, effect the same Why should they call him David? I didn't follow the story, but it sounds like he wanted to be called Dave and got bullied into being called David. My family always called me the short version of my name. Unfortunately, a third of people my age have a name with the same shortened name - male and female. I prefer to be called by my full name so there may be some chance that I would be one of three instead of one of 14 people in the room with the same name. I think it is incredibly rude if someone decides that I should be called some version of my name. Even if that person has called me that in the past. I don't want to be introduced by another version of my name, because then I escentially have two names. Sorry that when I was 12 something worked for me and now that I am 40 it does not. No, he wanted to be called David. His in-laws just "decided" for him, out of nowhere, and he corrected them. He has never in his life introduced himself as "Dave", and has never used the shortened version of his name, nor does he want to.
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 4, 2016 18:03:31 GMT -5
Got it. I am having reading comprehension problems today. That is pretty rude of them. We have added an adult David to our family recently, and because of his personality I have never even thought to call him Dave.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jul 5, 2016 12:12:44 GMT -5
Why should they call him David? I didn't follow the story, but it sounds like he wanted to be called Dave and got bullied into being called David. My family always called me the short version of my name. Unfortunately, a third of people my age have a name with the same shortened name - male and female. I prefer to be called by my full name so there may be some chance that I would be one of three instead of one of 14 people in the room with the same name. I think it is incredibly rude if someone decides that I should be called some version of my name. Even if that person has called me that in the past. I don't want to be introduced by another version of my name, because then I escentially have two names. Sorry that when I was 12 something worked for me and now that I am 40 it does not. My husband is named Anthony and absolutely hates being called "Tony". It's particularly strange when he is introduced as Anthony and someone immediately says "nice to meet you Tony".
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 5, 2016 16:03:31 GMT -5
That has happened to me too. That is actually okay, because you can correct them right away and play it off like maybe they misheard it, instead t of them just being a jerk.
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