How jaded are you?

[Phoenix84]

On a scale of 1-10, how jaded are you about politics, the country, the world, your life?

As I've gotten older, I've grown increasingly jaded over the politics and future prospects of the country, and to a certain extent the world.

On a personal level, I'm kind of jaded when it comes to dating/interpersonal relationships, but otherwise fairly positive.

What say you?

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I say I don't think your scale goes high enough for me

[milee]

Politics - 10

Country - too vague. Cautious because I think we're heading into some very tough economic times which will be difficult to address because of the increasingly polarized political views in this country.

World - 5. Yes, there is poverty, war and corruption but this is the best time to be alive in all of recorded history and I think things are improving for much of the world.

My life - 5.  10 for some parts, 3 for others. Much of my life is really awesome and the future looks good. Parts aren't so awesome and only time will take care of them, so I wait on those.

[sarcasticgirl]

I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately. Especially living in chicago... the state of Illinois finances and the drastic changes in the economy in this city have me wondering if we should get out of here. I love this city, I really do, but it becomes more of a shit show every day.

My faith in humanity is at an all time low. Everything is fueled by hate these days. It is disgusting.
The economic climate has changed so much, employers are trying to get every drop of sweat they can put of their workers. They hold the upper hand because it isn't easy to leave and find another job.

I have really changed priorities... I want a simpler life, I don't want all this stress. I don't want all this stuff. I want more time outside, I want more time to take care of myself.
I'm 35 and I am burnt out on being swamped and busy and running around like a chicken with my head cut off.

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[Phoenix84]

Apr 20, 2016 10:45:25 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I say I don't think your scale goes high enough for me

I guess another way to word it is "what's your faith in humanity."

What has caused this lack of faith to be off the charts?

[Phoenix84]

Apr 20, 2016 11:20:10 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately. Especially living in chicago... the state of Illinois finances and the drastic changes in the economy in this city have me wondering if we should get out of here. I love this city, I really do, but it becomes more of a shit show every day.

My faith in humanity is at an all time low. Everything is fueled by hate these days. It is disgusting.
The economic climate has changed so much, employers are trying to get every drop of sweat they can put of their workers. They hold the upper hand because it isn't easy to leave and find another job.

I have really changed priorities... I want a simpler life, I don't want all this stress. I don't want all this stuff. I want more time outside, I want more time to take care of myself.
I'm 35 and I am burnt out on being swamped and busy and running around like a chicken with my head cut off.

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What are you changing to get more time and less stress?

[giramomma]

I'm pretty jaded too. So much of it is out of my control, really. 

That's why I really like the resolution/ goal thread. Reminds me what I really need to be focusing on.

[Deleted]

I am about a 10 on politics. That being said, I am pretty optimistic that technology is going to solve a lot. The Internet supports freedom and is an antidote to the mainstream press. Bit coin might not win out, but block chain is here to stay. Education can be pretty much free for so many and soon will be available to all.

On the whole I am more optimistic then pessimistic. If that is relevant to how jaded I am.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Apr 20, 2016 12:00:52 GMT -5 Phoenix84 said:

Apr 20, 2016 10:45:25 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I say I don't think your scale goes high enough for me

I guess another way to word it is "what's your faith in humanity."

What has caused this lack of faith to be off the charts?

How much time you got?

The way my former boss treated me after it was announced I was losing my job and apparently no longer of value.  The way DH's termination was handled.  The way the company that hired DH after that treated him.  The way the DHHS office people treated me, the way the unemployment office treated both of us.

The way people instead of finding a solution to the problem or owning up to mistakes throw other people under the bus.  The way Kids & Co gives me attitude when I tell them their doorbell isn't working.

The list goes on.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Politics? 10. You can't discuss politics with people who don't share your views. It's nice to learn from others, but all most do is act like sarcastic pigs instead of trying to discuss issues. I'm one of them.

Country? 7. That makes me sad. So out of control with things we shouldn't be out of control over.

The World? Maybe 5. The rest of the world seems to be making more progress than we are.

Life? Not at all. I have a great life.

ETA:  THat was supposed to sarcastic KIDS - not PIGS!!  Pigs can't be sarcastic.  Love auto correct stuff.

[sarcasticgirl]

Apr 20, 2016 12:03:10 GMT -5 Phoenix84 said:

Apr 20, 2016 11:20:10 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately. Especially living in chicago... the state of Illinois finances and the drastic changes in the economy in this city have me wondering if we should get out of here. I love this city, I really do, but it becomes more of a shit show every day.

My faith in humanity is at an all time low. Everything is fueled by hate these days. It is disgusting.
The economic climate has changed so much, employers are trying to get every drop of sweat they can put of their workers. They hold the upper hand because it isn't easy to leave and find another job.

I have really changed priorities... I want a simpler life, I don't want all this stress. I don't want all this stuff. I want more time outside, I want more time to take care of myself.
I'm 35 and I am burnt out on being swamped and busy and running around like a chicken with my head cut off.

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What are you changing to get more time and less stress?

Priorities. Mostly in regards to money and where it is spent.

I am putting work/life balance and life quality above the almighty $$$$$$.

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[gregintenn]

I'm at peace, but don't expect my kids will have it as good as I do.

[souldoubt]

Politics, Country & World - what milee said.  I just posted in the 'Financial Incompetence' thread on the main YM board and realized people probably think I'm a doom and gloomer.  I don't think it's that bad but politically there's a lot of divisiveness and it seems to be getting worse in recent years.  We're propping up a lifestyle as a country that we can't afford and sooner or later tough choices will actually have to be made which is necessary for long term success.

Personal - 8.  I'm pretty happy with my life as financially things are good, personally they're great and most everyone is happy and healthy.  It will be higher once my mom gets a job because I know she's struggling right now.  Not necessarily financially but this is  someone who has been working regularly for 40+ years that is now taking unemployment while she'd rather work.  

[lexxy703]

I view the future with fear. The economy & our political climate are just spiraling out of control. I am worried more than jaded I guess.

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

In the past 10 years or so, my "jaded" level has started to escalate to new heights.  

I've come to realize that, in some respects, my parents did me a huge disservice.  I was raised to be a "nice" girl, to smile, to be pleasant, and if I didn't have anything nice to say, to not say anything at all.

It took me a long, long, time to realize that, contrary to my upbringing, sometimes, sometimes, people need to be put in their place because they're being jerks.  Unfortunately, my parents didn't teach me how to be assertive, and that is an extremely valuable life skill that when used appropriately and properly, can go a long way.  I'm learning, but I've made mistakes along the way.  

The problem, of course, is now that I feel like I am "allowed" to have an opinion about someone else's bad behavior, and am learning how to express that opinion, I am finding (too?) many occasions to judge other people's selfish, self-centered, behavior.  It's a vicious cycle.  When I was numb and nice, stuff just rolled over me.  Now?  Well, at best, my tongue is hemorrhaging and my blood pressure is through the roof.  I do work really hard to express my opinions in a calm, thoughtful, way, but the urge to smack other people and be done with it is getting harder to repress.  I'd like to think that if I had always been assertive, I might have developed the ability to selectively genuinely ignore other people's bad behavior by now and maybe feel a lot less jaded about the future of the human race than I currently do.  

I'm still the "Golden Rule Girl" at heart and in practice because I sincerely believe that treating others the way I would want to be treated is the only way such a vast sea of humanity has a chance of ever getting along.  But, given the current state of politics/the world/the economy/the obsession with the Kardashians over Peace Corps volunteers and adoptive parents and the like, I'd be lying if I didn't say that there are days when I wonder why I bother.  

[Deleted]

Apr 20, 2016 12:09:01 GMT -5 @hickle said:

I am about a 10 on politics. That being said, I am pretty optimistic that technology is going to solve a lot. The Internet supports freedom and is an antidote to the mainstream press. Bit coin might not win out, but block chain is here to stay. Education can be pretty much free for so many and soon will be available to all.

On the whole I am more optimistic then pessimistic. If that is relevant to how jaded I am.

LOL

I was going to say the opposite.  I'm fairly optimistic until I get on Facebook.  Then I'm just embarrassed to be a human after reading half the crap posted there.   

[Bonny]

Apr 20, 2016 13:53:28 GMT -5 GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said:

In the past 10 years or so, my "jaded" level has started to escalate to new heights.  

I've come to realize that, in some respects, my parents did me a huge disservice.  I was raised to be a "nice" girl, to smile, to be pleasant, and if I didn't have anything nice to say, to not say anything at all.

It took me a long, long, time to realize that, contrary to my upbringing, sometimes, sometimes, people need to be put in their place because they're being jerks.  Unfortunately, my parents didn't teach me how to be assertive, and that is an extremely valuable life skill that when used appropriately and properly, can go a long way.  I'm learning, but I've made mistakes along the way.  

The problem, of course, is now that I feel like I am "allowed" to have an opinion about someone else's bad behavior, and am learning how to express that opinion, I am finding (too?) many occasions to judge other people's selfish, self-centered, behavior.  It's a vicious cycle.  When I was numb and nice, stuff just rolled over me.  Now?  Well, at best, my tongue is hemorrhaging and my blood pressure is through the roof.  I do work really hard to express my opinions in a calm, thoughtful, way, but the urge to smack other people and be done with it is getting harder to repress.  I'd like to think that if I had always been assertive, I might have developed the ability to selectively genuinely ignore other people's bad behavior by now and maybe feel a lot less jaded about the future of the human race than I currently do.  

I'm still the "Golden Rule Girl" at heart and in practice because I sincerely believe that treating others the way I would want to be treated is the only way such a vast sea of humanity has a chance of ever getting along.  But, given the current state of politics/the world/the economy/the obsession with the Kardashians over Peace Corps volunteers and adoptive parents and the like, I'd be lying if I didn't say that there are days when I wonder why I bother.  

I think we may be twins!

[ArchietheDragon]

I am grumpy. 
I am angry.
I am surly.

But I am not sure I am jaded.   Sure, life is not peaches and rainbows like you think it is when you are 19, but that is just life.   I believe we live in the greatest times of human history and that it will continue to just get better and better. 

[movingforward]

Politics - 10.

Everything else 3-5.  I am not a doom and gloom person.  The world has always had problem.  There will always be problems.  In many ways the world and our country is about 1000x better than it used to be.  Equality, medicine and quality of life are all aspects of society that have come a long way over the years (at least in the first world economy). 

I am lucky enough to currently work for a great organization.  I have worked for bad people so I know what others are saying.  It seems like no one is ever off the clock these days.  As great as my CEO is I still have to remind her that I do like a work/life balance and I make sure I have it.  I don't check emails in the evenings or on the weekend (texts are sometimes harder to avoid).  I will occasionally check them when on vacation but not unless there is something pending that needs to be addressed.  When I have to work a weekend then I take comp time later at some point. 

Honestly, I try to stay away from too much news.  The media loves doom and gloom.  Last week I was on vacation and was so busy I couldn't tell you anything that was happening in the world.  I didn't go online once - no FB, no YM, no news...nothing.  I didn't even watch the news.  When I returned to my hotel in the evening I either read to wind down or watched some silly comedy on TBS.  Do you all know how glorious it was to not see Donald Trump's face for a entire week!  It was pure bliss!  There was political stuff going on in the city but I paid zero attention.  All I did was go to Broadway shows, tour museums, shop and eat (oh man, did I eat!). 

[Tennesseer]

I am imperial jade jadeite jaded.

[Bonny]

Apr 20, 2016 15:34:41 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

I am imperial jade jadeite jaded.

LOL, I told one of my girlfriends recently that we have to be mindful that our work (we did collections together many years ago) made us see people at their worst.

I'm sure no one shows up in HR telling everyone how great their bosses and co-workers are!

[Tennesseer]

Apr 20, 2016 15:47:19 GMT -5 Bonny said:

Apr 20, 2016 15:34:41 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

I am imperial jade jadeite jaded.

LOL, I told one of my girlfriends recently that we have to be mindful that our work (we did collections together many years ago) made us see people at their worst.

I'm sure no one shows up in HR telling everyone how great their bosses and co-workers are!

I cannot recall one time an employee stormed into my office, announced or unannounced, singing me the praises of their boss.

One bizarre incident was an employee who scheduled an appointment with me to tell me the conversations within her workgroup about the sexual practices of one of her co-workers was disturbing to her. Apparently she and several other employees asked a co-worker to tell them what being gay was like and what sexual things did gays do with each other. They asked so he told them. As time went on, the employees asked him more sexually related questions and he answered their questions.

The employee telling me this now wanted the conversations to stop and she was beginning to dislike the employee very much. I told the employee I would schedule a brief workgroup meeting and discuss the issue. I spoke with the workgroup and told them while there is nothing wrong with asking personal questions if the addressee wishes to answer, but they should hold those conversations outside of work and focus on getting their work done. Everyone agreed.

Several weeks later, the employee came back and told me she was still having problems. I asked her if the sexual conversations during work started back up again. She told me no, they had not. She told me she just could't stop thinking about what this employee did in the privacy of his home with other adult, consenting individuals and it was causing her to lose sleep a night. I told her that this was no longer the gay employee's problem nor was it my problem. I told her it was her problem. I suggested she speak to a professional outside of work about her issues.

[Deleted]

Apr 20, 2016 13:53:28 GMT -5 GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said:

In the past 10 years or so, my "jaded" level has started to escalate to new heights.  

I've come to realize that, in some respects, my parents did me a huge disservice.  I was raised to be a "nice" girl, to smile, to be pleasant, and if I didn't have anything nice to say, to not say anything at all.

It took me a long, long, time to realize that, contrary to my upbringing, sometimes, sometimes, people need to be put in their place because they're being jerks.  Unfortunately, my parents didn't teach me how to be assertive, and that is an extremely valuable life skill that when used appropriately and properly, can go a long way.  I'm learning, but I've made mistakes along the way.  

The problem, of course, is now that I feel like I am "allowed" to have an opinion about someone else's bad behavior, and am learning how to express that opinion, I am finding (too?) many occasions to judge other people's selfish, self-centered, behavior.  It's a vicious cycle.  When I was numb and nice, stuff just rolled over me.  Now?  Well, at best, my tongue is hemorrhaging and my blood pressure is through the roof.  I do work really hard to express my opinions in a calm, thoughtful, way, but the urge to smack other people and be done with it is getting harder to repress.  I'd like to think that if I had always been assertive, I might have developed the ability to selectively genuinely ignore other people's bad behavior by now and maybe feel a lot less jaded about the future of the human race than I currently do.  

I'm still the "Golden Rule Girl" at heart and in practice because I sincerely believe that treating others the way I would want to be treated is the only way such a vast sea of humanity has a chance of ever getting along.  But, given the current state of politics/the world/the economy/the obsession with the Kardashians over Peace Corps volunteers and adoptive parents and the like, I'd be lying if I didn't say that there are days when I wonder why I bother.  

We have a LOT in common, judging by this post. A few years ago, I came to the conclusion that "people ain't shit". I was actually sad to realize I'd started believing that because I'd always tried to give people the benefit of the doubt. I think its just my nature to try to treat people a certain way (like I'd like to be treated), but sometimes now I wonder what's the point.

[Jake 48]

I'm jaded about being jaded, but what really gets me is this entitled mentality that exists. Nobody wants to take any personal responsibility for themselves

[Deleted]

Apr 20, 2016 15:11:19 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

I am grumpy. 
I am angry.
I am surly.

But I am not sure I am jaded.   Sure, life is not peaches and rainbows like you think it is when you are 19, but that is just life.   I believe we live in the greatest times of human history and that it will continue to just get better and better. 

You're a dwarf with multiple personality disorder.

[gregintenn]

Apr 20, 2016 19:09:39 GMT -5 @hickle said:

Apr 20, 2016 15:11:19 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

I am grumpy. 
I am angry.
I am surly.

But I am not sure I am jaded.   Sure, life is not peaches and rainbows like you think it is when you are 19, but that is just life.   I believe we live in the greatest times of human history and that it will continue to just get better and better. 

You're a dwarf with multiple personality disorder.

[ners]

I am with NomoreDramaQ1015 the scale does not go high enough.

As I get older I feel that i get more and more jaded.  Need to work on changing my outlook.

[msventoux]

I don't remember a time when I wasn't jaded.  I've never been an optimistic, see the good in everything type of person.  As time goes on I just feel more and more justified in being jaded. 

[sesfw]

I'm not sure how to explain how I feel.  The older I get the more I really don't care.

With politics it's the younger generations that will have to live with their election decisions.  I have sadness and pity for them.  They have the rights but they don't realize they have the responsibilities also.

On a personal level I'm trying to be kinder to other people.  Whether or not it is returned doesn't matter.  I think I'm very naïve because people find it easy to lie to me.  I have found it easier on my nerves if I believe everything that is told to me and mostly keep my distance.

Jaded?  I don't know

Realistic?  I try to be.

[midjd]

My life improved dramatically when we cut our Comcast service. No more network news. I browse Google News headlines and only click on what I want to read. It's just wonderful. Now only if there were some way to filter out all the animal/kid abuse stories I see on Facebook, my bubble would be complete