kittensaver
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Post by kittensaver on Apr 7, 2016 15:01:12 GMT -5
Regarding dad/grandpa's new car:
Two cousins shared the page and said "come on, let's help Uncle Frankie get a new vehicle." I want to tell them I will match whatever they donate, because so far they have not donated anything. They are trying to get other people to give money but they aren't giving any themselves. Do they realize this?
I would be questioning how much longer dad would be driving. When I first read this, I thought the exact same thing .
As in, perhaps their real agenda is to get a car for themselves and Uncle Frankie is just their cover?
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sesfw
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Post by sesfw on Apr 8, 2016 17:50:07 GMT -5
I remember a 'gofundme' page that was discussed on this forum several years ago.
A young lady graduated from college with a useless degree and $100K in debt. She spent part of her SL money on a 'year study' in Europe and was now having to live with her parents because of her high debt payment.
Last I heard anything about this people had donated about $10K towards her $100K.
If I know the people I will do a direct donation.
I don't get any gofundme notifications at all
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TheOtherMe
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 8, 2016 18:31:09 GMT -5
I see them on FB. Currently I am being asked to help fund a $950 car repair for a man who goes to Paul McCartney concerts. Sorry, your priorities are all mixed up. Why are you going to see McCartney when you can't afford to repair your car to get to work to support your family? When I looked at who has donated, he is halfway to his goal and it's all from other Paul fans.
If it's medical or a horrible accident with totally unexpected funeral expenses and I know the people, I might donate. I have to know the people involved or the situation and I prefer to do it outside of gofundme.
Last summer, there was a horrible car accident in the area of our state where my mother grew up. 3 of a family's 5 children were killed in the accident. Happened when the corn was tall at an intersection without stop signs. No ticket issued to other driver. My cousins knew the family. That account ended up collecting over $60K. Apparently both parents had jobs with no paid leave for this type of thing and they had two other children to deal with in addition to burying three children. If the goal had not been exceeded, that is one I probably would have donated for. Really tugged at my heart.
Parents don't plan to buy one child, let alone three.
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mollyanna58
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Post by mollyanna58 on Apr 8, 2016 20:33:26 GMT -5
Good timing. I just got a FB gofundme request from a relation. She is a teacher who is raising money for new books and Ipads for her students. In one day, she has raised $100.00, including $50.00 from the person who posted it to FB.
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cronewitch
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Post by cronewitch on Apr 8, 2016 20:55:30 GMT -5
I see them on FB. Currently I am being asked to help fund a $950 car repair for a man who goes to Paul McCartney concerts. Sorry, your priorities are all mixed up. Why are you going to see McCartney when you can't afford to repair your car to get to work to support your family? When I looked at who has donated, he is halfway to his goal and it's all from other Paul fans. If it's medical or a horrible accident with totally unexpected funeral expenses and I know the people, I might donate. I have to know the people involved or the situation and I prefer to do it outside of gofundme. Last summer, there was a horrible car accident in the area of our state where my mother grew up. 3 of a family's 5 children were killed in the accident. Happened when the corn was tall at an intersection without stop signs. No ticket issued to other driver. My cousins knew the family. That account ended up collecting over $60K. Apparently both parents had jobs with no paid leave for this type of thing and they had two other children to deal with in addition to burying three children. If the goal had not been exceeded, that is one I probably would have donated for. Really tugged at my heart. Parents don't plan to buy one child, let alone three. That is where family steps up. My brother lost three kids in a house fire when he had no insurance except to cover the mortgage. He didn't live with the wife and kids, wife was in a hospital 19 year old with mom and 17 year old and three little ones were home. The mom and son had suitcase of clothing left the daughter only a nightgown she was wearing. They needed three funerals and a place to live, clothing and everything. The family stepped up the mom and kids stayed with her mom, my mom flew in my brother and his adult kids and paid all the motel and food and things for them. The funeral home gave 3 for the price of 1 on the funeral, an uncle donated plots. All the cards had money even from other little kids, one son of the youngest gave a dollar. My coworkers took up a collection and others donated money too. They didn't ask they were busy trying to survive the disaster. The mother couldn't even open the cards she was too upset so someone else opened them and took out the money for her, don't know if she ever looked at the cards. That is when family matters not internet strangers, family knows when there is real need not just wants.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 9, 2016 5:50:52 GMT -5
I'm so ever grateful that no one on my FB does this. It's bad enough when posters post pictures of kids or family in a hospital bed, totally violating their privacy, then ask for likes. I'd like you to stop posting private pictures. Actually my friends don't but they share some idiot friend that does. I started saying things like why would you embarrass a total stranger like this and they actually stopped.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Apr 9, 2016 7:27:36 GMT -5
I donated once. A 48 year old mom of three died suddenly of an aneurism. The kids were about 7, 10, and 12. Both she and dad had decent jobs and are very good people.
A relative set the page up for funeral expenses
I wanted to help out.
There was one request that got someone problems in family court. Child was removed for drug use by parents and domestic violence. Dad had a free attorney. He put up a go fund me page for legal expenses. Never declared the money on the application. Busted. The request also backfired on him. The request got shared on FB with comments not to share because he's a drug using woman beating scumbag.
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