wvugurl26
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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 16, 2016 13:55:49 GMT -5
One of them my brother wouldn't even go up front to the line where the casket was. I bet no one remembers that. They remember that he came.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 16, 2016 14:33:45 GMT -5
I don't want myself or anyone to remember DH the way he looked dead. I want him alive in my memory. My dad looked better in the casket than he did the months before he died of cancer. He had lost a lot of weight, and was very gaunt. It was like seeing his old self there, from before he got sick. I'm glad for you.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 16, 2016 14:47:28 GMT -5
One of them my brother wouldn't even go up front to the line where the casket was. I bet no one remembers that. They remember that he came. I have an extremely difficult time being anywhere near the casket. So does my brother. When it came time to do the procession past the casket he was hanging back and so was I. I confessed I was waiting for him to go first. He was waiting for me to go first. We didn't want to go at all but we knew it'd mean the world to my grandmother so we walked together. DH on the other hand is one of those people who can walk up to the casket and will even touch the body. We don't always get along at wakes b/c his idea of respect for the dead is totally different from mine.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 16, 2016 14:51:26 GMT -5
One of them my brother wouldn't even go up front to the line where the casket was. I bet no one remembers that. They remember that he came. I have an extremely difficult time being anywhere near the casket. So does my brother. When it came time to do the procession past the casket he was hanging back and so was I. I confessed I was waiting for him to go first. He was waiting for me to go first. We didn't want to go at all but we knew it'd mean the world to my grandmother so we walked together. DH on the other hand is one of those people who can walk up to the casket and will even touch the body. We don't always get along at wakes b/c his idea of respect for the dead is totally different from mine. can't look at dead bodies, can't go near caskets. can't. nope. can't.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 16, 2016 14:52:25 GMT -5
My dad looked better in the casket than he did the months before he died of cancer. He had lost a lot of weight, and was very gaunt. It was like seeing his old self there, from before he got sick. I'm glad for you. Eh, it just helped me understand what the cancer did to him. I'm glad he didn't have to suffer any longer.
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Lizard Queen
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 16, 2016 14:53:52 GMT -5
One of them my brother wouldn't even go up front to the line where the casket was. I bet no one remembers that. They remember that he came. I have an extremely difficult time being anywhere near the casket. So does my brother. When it came time to do the procession past the casket he was hanging back and so was I. I confessed I was waiting for him to go first. He was waiting for me to go first. We didn't want to go at all but we knew it'd mean the world to my grandmother so we walked together. DH on the other hand is one of those people who can walk up to the casket and will even touch the body. We don't always get along at wakes b/c his idea of respect for the dead is totally different from mine. Had an xbf who told me his religion required him to touch the body. Lutheran?? I don't know. I'm getting better with it, as I deal with it more and more.
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NomoreDramaQ1015
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 16, 2016 14:54:01 GMT -5
My family knows it's enough that I managed to walk in the door of the funeral home. DH is Presbyterian. I'm Lutheran and if that is a requirement then nobody has ever told me about it. My grandmother didn't look like herself in the casket. My mother thought the same thing. Took us till long after her funeral to realize it was b/c she wasn't wearing her customary bright pink lipstick. Mom didn't think to bring it from the house.
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wvugurl26
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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 17, 2016 6:51:05 GMT -5
One of them my brother wouldn't even go up front to the line where the casket was. I bet no one remembers that. They remember that he came. I have an extremely difficult time being anywhere near the casket. So does my brother. When it came time to do the procession past the casket he was hanging back and so was I. I confessed I was waiting for him to go first. He was waiting for me to go first. We didn't want to go at all but we knew it'd mean the world to my grandmother so we walked together. DH on the other hand is one of those people who can walk up to the casket and will even touch the body. We don't always get along at wakes b/c his idea of respect for the dead is totally different from mine. I just find that weird to touch the body. I just try to walk by and not look. With my brother it was our grandpa's last living brother and he filled that role of "grandpa" to all of us. It sucked. Wild horses couldn't have dragged him up to the front.
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