marvholly
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Feb 11, 2016 7:15:47 GMT -5
Post by marvholly on Feb 11, 2016 7:15:47 GMT -5
stalker?
DD2 & I traveled together >10 years ago. We both were members/joined an online travel discussion group. DD2 has been back in the same area a couple times & was active in the discussion group each time. Since DD2 & DD1 are vacationing in the same area I ‘thought’ she would become active there again. I have been looking for about a month and NO GO.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Feb 12, 2016 9:50:26 GMT -5
As in stalking your daughter? Well, kind of, I guess. Do you not have other contact with her?
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Post by mroped on Feb 12, 2016 11:57:20 GMT -5
You are not stalking! You are just checking on your progeny! It's called parental concern. disclaimer: parental concern means that at some point you are in fact stalking your own kid but is done for their safety and your own peace of mind.
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marvholly
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Feb 13, 2016 6:33:35 GMT -5
Post by marvholly on Feb 13, 2016 6:33:35 GMT -5
I do have regular contact w/her - generally by phone 1-3x/week. Actual visits are rare as she lives about an hour out & shares custody of the kids w/her XDH.
It is not so much concern as interest in her plans for her trip since I have traveled in the same area a BUNCH of times. In fact, I just asked if anyone needed to borrow my water shoes.
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Feb 15, 2016 12:53:25 GMT -5
Post by tloonya on Feb 15, 2016 12:53:25 GMT -5
stalker?
DD2 & I traveled together >10 years ago. We both were members/joined an online travel discussion group. DD2 has been back in the same area a couple times & was active in the discussion group each time. Since DD2 & DD1 are vacationing in the same area I ‘thought’ she would become active there again. I have been looking for about a month and NO GO.
Oh, I see you ARE talking. But why are you concern about stupid post in the forum? It is sounds kind of sort of disturbing. 'I though she will be posting'...WHY? You thought - you were wrong. Move on, call her one more time. It is so strange to expect anyone to do something like post in forum. And it is also strange to call ex husbahd DEAR like XDH. It like saying 'on one beautiful day he got hit by the bus'.
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Feb 15, 2016 12:57:19 GMT -5
Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Feb 15, 2016 12:57:19 GMT -5
Maybe, after several visits, she's " got this" and doesn't need the discussion group advice any longer. Or, maybe, she's too busy to post there again. As to whether you are a stalker or not, if you're just noting a single instance of her absence from an expected activity, then, no. If you're regularly driving by her house -- an hour away -- at night, to check on her, then, yes, yes you are a stalker.
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Post by tloonya on Feb 15, 2016 12:59:27 GMT -5
You are not stalking! You are just checking on your progeny! It's called parental concern. disclaimer: parental concern means that at some point you are in fact stalking your own kid but is done for their safety and your own peace of mind. Expecting your child to post in the forum is not a parentlal concern. Calling, visiting is
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Post by marvholly on Feb 16, 2016 6:51:52 GMT -5
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By your definition I am NOT a stalker. I just was expecting her to participate in an activity as she has previously done even afte having a kid + a FT job. I NEVER just drive past either DDs homes. Neither is a short or fun drive. Getting together is ALWAYS planned in advance.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Feb 16, 2016 8:41:19 GMT -5
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By your definition I am NOT a stalker. I just was expecting her to participate in an activity as she has previously done even afte having a kid + a FT job. I NEVER just drive past either DDs homes. Neither is a short or fun drive. Getting together is ALWAYS planned in advance. Having read your posts for years, I know very well that you wouldn't drive by their houses to check on them -- unless their houses fell along a pre-planned route you were already driving to score fabulous grocery deals. :-)
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 16, 2016 8:48:34 GMT -5
Why not ask her next time you talk to her on the phone if she's lost interest? You can let her know you enjoyed those times and places and wonder if she'll be going back there. It's perfectly normal to wonder what your loved ones are up to and to remember fun times had together, whether out in the wilds or on a forum. Doesn't sound stalker-ish to me.
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Post by marvholly on Feb 17, 2016 6:30:49 GMT -5
Why not ask her next time you talk to her on the phone if she's lost interest? You can let her know you enjoyed those times and places and wonder if she'll be going back there. It's perfectly normal to wonder what your loved ones are up to and to remember fun times had together, whether out in the wilds or on a forum. Doesn't sound stalker-ish to me.
I plan to do so. prob NOT today as she usually goes out on Wed eve (XDH has kids).
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Post by marvholly on Feb 17, 2016 6:33:20 GMT -5
GRG
By your definition I am NOT a stalker. I just was expecting her to participate in an activity as she has previously done even afte having a kid + a FT job. I NEVER just drive past either DDs homes. Neither is a short or fun drive. Getting together is ALWAYS planned in advance. Having read your posts for years, I know very well that you wouldn't drive by their houses to check on them -- unless their houses fell along a pre-planned route you were already driving to score fabulous grocery deals. :-)
I don't think there are any grocery/drug stores near either DD that I do NOT have closer to my home. Actually there are a couple near one BUT the deals I see posted on a blog are NO better than my stores.
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Feb 18, 2016 6:58:27 GMT -5
Post by marvholly on Feb 18, 2016 6:58:27 GMT -5
Ok. Talked to DD2 on Wed. Asked outright why I had NOT seen her on the travel board we both belong to. She said she checked & the discussions were not relevant and/or interesting. Not wanting to waste her time.
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Post by tloonya on Feb 18, 2016 13:25:22 GMT -5
Ok. Talked to DD2 on Wed. Asked outright why I had NOT seen her on the travel board we both belong to. She said she checked & the discussions were not relevant and/or interesting. Not wanting to waste her time. Why is NOT in caps? Like you are ordering here to BE there. Strange. Even to a helicopter like me.
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