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Post by chiver78 on Nov 8, 2015 20:40:17 GMT -5
What you should have said was "study hard so you won't be on food stamps like Mom". I worked in a grocery store as a teenager so I do remember people being crazy, but I don't think they were as crazy 15 years ago. The thing I hated most about it was the management - they hovered over us kids like hawks. I may have done something different....
"Actually, ma'am, I am the manager of this store. I am filling in here only briefly. You have no way of knowing that, but felt justified in insulting me as a low-level employee not worthy of respect. ALL of my employees, by the way, are likely more responsible than you, since they work and support themselves rather than claim government welfare benefits. As I am unwilling to allow any of my employees to be abused in such a manner, I would appreciate you finding another store in which to do your shopping, unless you are now thinking an apology is in order?"
as much as I want to this, anyone in a position to actually speak this response would quickly lose their job. you know htis as well as I do.
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 8, 2015 20:49:44 GMT -5
PREACH SISTER! Imagine how we feel having to serve them? This lady I was ringing for told her son loud enough for me to hear (on purpose I am sure): that is why you need to study hard; so you are not here one day ringing and bagging groceries. Biatch! You just paid for your groceries with an EBT card and you are using me as a lesson? I pay for my own groceries with money I earned ringing/bagging yours. That is what I wanted to say, instead I smiled and told her son: listen to your mom kid, she is full of wisdom. Believe me I had to bite my tongue hard for that one! You're a good man Carl!
Today I went to the grocery store to buy 3 items. Store was packed. I find it hysterical that now that Albertson's bought Safeway and plastered "Three's a Crowd" the store is ALWAYS packed even during the off hours.
Anyway I was in a regular line because (no joke) the express line had 20 people in line. The guy in front of me with about 25 items leaves the line with his ice cream carton, doesn't say a word. Cashier starts to scan and I interrupt and say "Guy took off let me jump ahead". She lets me and starts ringing my stuff up. Guy returns and I said "She was ready to ring up, so I jumped ahead". He gave me a funny look and said "Sorry, I was going to let you ahead of me". Uh yeah. That's why you never said a word while it took you 5 minutes to unload your cart. Instead I said "It worked out for me".
I swear people have "vacation brain" when they shop and check common sense at the door.
"three's a crowd" ......??
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Post by tallguy on Nov 8, 2015 21:00:52 GMT -5
Actually, I don't. Only someone in a position to speak that response could get away with it. (I don't try to keep up on The Haitian's threads but isn't he a store manager?) I would have no problem firing a customer in that circumstance, though I doubt it would come to that. A simple "bringing to her attention" of her offensiveness should be enough to correct it. And if not, and if corporate management took a dim view of my standing up for my employees, then they're too screwed up to work for in the first place. (And can you think of a better way to get your employees on your side? To build loyalty?)
Now, would I think twice if I were desperate to keep the job? Probably. Would I still have enough confidence in myself to do it anyway? Probably.
Edit: Actually, I probably wouldn't make the comment about her being on benefits if I were in fact in that situation. That is a little much, perhaps.
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Post by Bonny on Nov 8, 2015 22:06:30 GMT -5
chiver78
"Three's a crowd" means they will open another register if more than three people are in line at the register.
Total joke. Lines are longer than pre-acquisition. They need to take the signs down since they can't fulfill the promise.
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 8, 2015 22:34:10 GMT -5
thanks, Bonny. I'd never heard that term before. learn something new everyday, right? tallguy, you have far more optimism than I do. I suppose my opinions are biased by my HS years in Carl's field, but YMMV. sent from my electronic distraction
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 8, 2015 23:11:44 GMT -5
I was at a Kroger's store having my items scanned when the young cashier scanning my items spoke loudly past me to the cashier and bagger in the next lane and said her Kroger co-worker, 'John Smith', had just privately come out to her and told her he was gay. She thought it was so important to tell the other employees that she blabbed the news to them. I told the cashier her blabbing the news was out of line and not hers to tell the other employees.
When I got home I called the store manager and told her what had taken place. I advised him to have a Come-To-Jesus meeting with her as the cashier had no idea if the customers around who heard her comment might know the young man in question or know his parents and possibly tell them what they had heard at the store. The manager told me he would speak to her.
I never saw the cashier again. I assume the manager canned her.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2015 2:14:53 GMT -5
chiver78
"Three's a crowd" means they will open another register if more than three people are in line at the register.
Total joke. Lines are longer than pre-acquisition. They need to take the signs down since they can't fulfill the promise. "can't" or "won't"? I think it's probably closer to "won't"... because they'd have to pay for more employees (or more hours for current employees).
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Post by cronewitch on Nov 9, 2015 6:52:57 GMT -5
I was going to post this experience my wife and I had a couple of weeks ago. this just reminded me. We were at Costco finished shopping, stopped to a Costco hot dog and Coke, Eating the hot dog when a little girl four or five years old from the table behind me, climbed on the bench where I was sitting looked at me , Said Loudly, "DON'T TOUCH ME"! I just ignored her, But I felt like punching her mother in the mouth. Really, Are you kidding me. I was in line at a grocery store when a little girl said don't touch me. Her mother apologized and said they just come from a stranger danger lecture. My brother is a grand father and little kids like him, he tells them he is the stranger their mother warned them about. They ask their mother if he is and she always says yes. Teach your kids not to bother strangers but tell them who strangers are, the word is still new to them. Funny uncles are ok to talk to but not strangers.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 9, 2015 7:47:15 GMT -5
Years ago I was called to principals office and asked some really odd questions about my dept head and a student. Turns out he had put a band aid on her knee and her parents interrogated her over it and found out that her MALE PE teacher put the band aid on. I was the only female btw. Lucky for him I happened to be in the office at the time getting some ice for a student and therefore was a witness that nothing happened. But it sure made me wonder about the parents of that little girl. I put hundreds of band aids on kids during my career but after that incident, I carried them on me. No way was I going to set them down, wash off blood, and put bandaid on and get accused of molestation. He always sent kids to the office after that and told everyone to do the same. It made for an interesting conversation when I got into the PE office because I was as basically confused after I left principals office as I was during the entire conversation. The dept head filled me in.
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Post by Shooby on Nov 9, 2015 7:50:56 GMT -5
Wow. You can't even put a band aid on? I put a band aid on one of my basketball player's arms at practice the other night. People are ridiculous nowadays.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 9, 2015 7:52:05 GMT -5
Not in the PE office with no other witness. Never even thought anything of it until that happened.
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Post by Shooby on Nov 9, 2015 7:55:53 GMT -5
I am confused about what their is to witness to put a bandaid on a girl's knee? I mean what where the parents complaining about exactly?
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 9, 2015 7:56:28 GMT -5
Never occurred to me because I don't Molest children that I could be accused of it because I cleaned a kid up in the office. Most kids and their parents are decent people but I know how I would have reacted if my kid had come home with a bandaid on. "What happened?" "I got hurt in PE." "You okay?" "Yup." End of conversation. I wouldn't interrogate him or her to find out that the big bad PE teacher had them ALL ALONE for maybe a whole minute, remember this office is shared by four other people so you have to make your molestation a fast one.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 9, 2015 7:57:08 GMT -5
I am confused about what their is to witness to put a bandaid on a girl's knee? I mean what where the parents complaining about exactly? Because he was alone in the office with a child. We think nothing of it but the parents did.
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Post by Shooby on Nov 9, 2015 8:00:35 GMT -5
I am confused about what their is to witness to put a bandaid on a girl's knee? I mean what where the parents complaining about exactly? Because he was alone in the office with a child. We think nothing of it but the parents did. Maybe they should home school.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 9, 2015 8:03:02 GMT -5
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Post by OldCoyote on Nov 9, 2015 9:15:07 GMT -5
No, this is where mom and dad have taught her that that every one out there is a molester! That is your assumption. NEWS FLASH: Your assumptions are not equal to facts.
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Post by cronewitch on Nov 9, 2015 10:07:56 GMT -5
I am confused about what their is to witness to put a bandaid on a girl's knee? I mean what where the parents complaining about exactly? Because he was alone in the office with a child. We think nothing of it but the parents did. I belonged to a group once of teens and adults that had a rule that no opposite gender people could be in a room together with the door shut, doctors don't normally either, they keep a witness. He should have known he was risking the child saying something happened, little kids not likely to lie but teens might.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 9, 2015 15:48:25 GMT -5
I think " coached" little kids are equally able to lie. I think that little girl was coached by her parents to blow it out of proportion but when confronted with the fact there was a witness, they had to back down. But our dept became much smarter after that.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2015 19:38:05 GMT -5
Years ago I was called to principals office and asked some really odd questions about my dept head and a student. Turns out he had put a band aid on her knee and her parents interrogated her over it and found out that her MALE PE teacher put the band aid on. I was the only female btw. Lucky for him I happened to be in the office at the time getting some ice for a student and therefore was a witness that nothing happened. But it sure made me wonder about the parents of that little girl. I put hundreds of band aids on kids during my career but after that incident, I carried them on me. No way was I going to set them down, wash off blood, and put bandaid on and get accused of molestation. He always sent kids to the office after that and told everyone to do the same. It made for an interesting conversation when I got into the PE office because I was as basically confused after I left principals office as I was during the entire conversation. The dept head filled me in. I could see if the band aid went on her butt or somewhere under her shirt or other clothing... but on a KNEE?Seriously? Those parents need to be smacked upside the head with a huge clue-by-four.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2015 19:47:32 GMT -5
I think " coached" little kids are equally able to lie. I think that little girl was coached by her parents to blow it out of proportion but when confronted with the fact there was a witness, they had to back down. But our dept became much smarter after that. I disagree. Your department became more cautious. Smarter would have included educating parents on what "molestation" is. Giving in to crap like this is part of the problem. It's a whirlpool taking society down the drain. (I'm not saying there was much of a choice, or even disagreeing with being more cautious. I just HATE the fraidy-cat society we are turning into. I used to wish I was born in the future... with all it's amazing promise of technology and innovation... I'm not sure I wish that anymore. The future I see coming is turning into one where EVERYONE is terrified to leave their home.)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2015 20:25:45 GMT -5
I was going to post this experience my wife and I had a couple of weeks ago. this just reminded me. We were at Costco finished shopping, stopped to a Costco hot dog and Coke, Eating the hot dog when a little girl four or five years old from the table behind me, climbed on the bench where I was sitting looked at me , Said Loudly, "DON'T TOUCH ME"! I just ignored her, But I felt like punching her mother in the mouth. Really, Are you kidding me. I was in line at a grocery store when a little girl said don't touch me. Her mother apologized and said they just come from a stranger danger lecture. My brother is a grand father and little kids like him, he tells them he is the stranger their mother warned them about. They ask their mother if he is and she always says yes. Teach your kids not to bother strangers but tell them who strangers are, the word is still new to them. Funny uncles are ok to talk to but not strangers. When my daughter was about 3 or 4 years old we were in line at a grocery store and the lady behind us said something friendly to DD. DD frowned and told the lady "my Momma told me not to talk to strange people". I was horrified and corrected her "strangers, not strange people!" The lady just thought it was funny.
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 9, 2015 20:38:39 GMT -5
I went to our main library in the city to drop off 4-5 boxes of books I had read over the years of which I know longer had a need to keep. As instructed by the library, I went to the back of their building and put the boxes of books on the loading docks.
While I was unloading, three girls, maybe about 10 or eleven yesrs old, were cutting through the back of the library going from school to home. Out of the blue, one of the girls said outloud, "Please mister, don't rape me." The girls all started to laugh over her comment.
The only thing I wondered about, beside the fact the comment was just bizarre, was 'Is this what life is like in her home and neighborhood?'
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Nov 9, 2015 20:54:12 GMT -5
As happens so often, I have an experience and here is a thread on it!
I went to the grocery store tonight. The young man bagging groceries had an obvious disability. He grabbed my cream cheese spread and read out loudly but hesitantly "Honey Nut Cream Cheese"! He was seemingly very proud of being able to read the label. The cashier looked horrified and I guess I can understand that a little. Had I had a carton of Trojans or some Monistat, I might have been embarrassed, but this didn't bother me.
He proceeded to ask me what I used it for and I told him it was for my bagels. He asked if he could use it on crackers. I said I didn't see why not, that I had never used it on crackers, but that it was probably very good. He asked if he could put it on a potato and I said it wasn't my taste as it was a bit sweet, but he could put a bit of potato aside and try it on that little bit without running his whole potato. He seemed happy and satisfied.
I did notice that people behind me in line seemed agitated by me taking a bit longer to get through the line and out of their way. It was then I realized those agitated people are usually ME. I'm going to try to be less impatient because someone else may be taking just a moment to be kind to someone else. If I'm in such a big hurry that I can't take the time to be nice or get irritated at someone who is, perhaps I need to schedule a bit better so I'm not always on a dead run.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2015 20:56:00 GMT -5
I went to our main library in the city to drop off 4-5 boxes of books I had read over the years of which I know longer had a need to keep. As instructed by the library, I went to the back of their building and put the boxes of books on the loading docks. While I was unloading, three girls, maybe about 10 or eleven yesrs old, were cutting through the back of the library going from school to home. Out of the blue, one of the girls said outloud, "Please mister, don't rape me." The girls all started to laugh over her comment. The only thing I wondered about, beside the fact the comment was just bizarre, was 'Is this what life is like in her home and neighborhood?' "Please mister, don't rape me" should NEVER be a joke. It amazes me that with kids like those girls loose on the planet, people wonder why claims of rape, when it actually does happen, are questioned.
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 9, 2015 21:07:05 GMT -5
As happens so often, I have an experience and here is a thread on it!
I went to the grocery store tonight. The young man bagging groceries had an obvious disability. He grabbed my cream cheese spread and read out loudly but hesitantly "Honey Nut Cream Cheese"! He was seemingly very proud of being able to read the label. The cashier looked horrified and I guess I can understand that a little. Had I had a carton of Trojans or some Monistat, I might have been embarrassed, but this didn't bother me.
He proceeded to ask me what I used it for and I told him it was for my bagels. He asked if he could use it on crackers. I said I didn't see why not, that I had never used it on crackers, but that it was probably very good. He asked if he could put it on a potato and I said it wasn't my taste as it was a bit sweet, but he could put a bit of potato aside and try it on that little bit without running his whole potato. He seemed happy and satisfied.
I did notice that people behind me in line seemed agitated by me taking a bit longer to get through the line and out of their way. It was then I realized those agitated people are usually ME. I'm going to try to be less impatient because someone else may be taking just a moment to be kind to someone else. If I'm in such a big hurry that I can't take the time to be nice or get irritated at someone who is, perhaps I need to schedule a bit better so I'm not always on a dead run. Good for you. I give seniors a pass on being a bit slow as I know I will be them pretty soon.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Nov 9, 2015 21:15:12 GMT -5
It's funny how some habits irritate a person and it's because we don't understand. It wasn't too long ago I asked my mom why seniors tend to stand there counting out the exact change instead of just handing over one of the bills. I had just been behind a person who counted out something like 78 cents to pay her bill exactly. Mom explained to me that she likes to use her change if she can because her purse gets heavy with a bunch of change in it. Makes sense to me now and it will not be so irritating when I know it could be because the lady has trouble carrying a heavy purse.
My mom also told me that sometimes seniors are just a pain in the ass because "we find it amusing on occasion".
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 9, 2015 21:48:54 GMT -5
As happens so often, I have an experience and here is a thread on it!
I went to the grocery store tonight. The young man bagging groceries had an obvious disability. He grabbed my cream cheese spread and read out loudly but hesitantly "Honey Nut Cream Cheese"! He was seemingly very proud of being able to read the label. The cashier looked horrified and I guess I can understand that a little. Had I had a carton of Trojans or some Monistat, I might have been embarrassed, but this didn't bother me.
He proceeded to ask me what I used it for and I told him it was for my bagels. He asked if he could use it on crackers. I said I didn't see why not, that I had never used it on crackers, but that it was probably very good. He asked if he could put it on a potato and I said it wasn't my taste as it was a bit sweet, but he could put a bit of potato aside and try it on that little bit without running his whole potato. He seemed happy and satisfied.
I did notice that people behind me in line seemed agitated by me taking a bit longer to get through the line and out of their way. It was then I realized those agitated people are usually ME. I'm going to try to be less impatient because someone else may be taking just a moment to be kind to someone else. If I'm in such a big hurry that I can't take the time to be nice or get irritated at someone who is, perhaps I need to schedule a bit better so I'm not always on a dead run. 1) cream cheese on crackers is excellent. I love chive 'n onion on triscuits. 2) I love that you stopped and took the time to chat with the guy who was obviously trying to reach out and be sociable. don't let assholes behind you deter you from doing that again. personally I've found that no matter how much of a rush I may be in, I smile and remember that I have all the time in the world for someone who might be reaching out for their only interaction that day.
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 9, 2015 21:53:59 GMT -5
chiver78-chive 'n onion on a bagel ham sandwich.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Nov 9, 2015 22:02:12 GMT -5
As happens so often, I have an experience and here is a thread on it!
I went to the grocery store tonight. The young man bagging groceries had an obvious disability. He grabbed my cream cheese spread and read out loudly but hesitantly "Honey Nut Cream Cheese"! He was seemingly very proud of being able to read the label. The cashier looked horrified and I guess I can understand that a little. Had I had a carton of Trojans or some Monistat, I might have been embarrassed, but this didn't bother me.
He proceeded to ask me what I used it for and I told him it was for my bagels. He asked if he could use it on crackers. I said I didn't see why not, that I had never used it on crackers, but that it was probably very good. He asked if he could put it on a potato and I said it wasn't my taste as it was a bit sweet, but he could put a bit of potato aside and try it on that little bit without running his whole potato. He seemed happy and satisfied.
I did notice that people behind me in line seemed agitated by me taking a bit longer to get through the line and out of their way. It was then I realized those agitated people are usually ME. I'm going to try to be less impatient because someone else may be taking just a moment to be kind to someone else. If I'm in such a big hurry that I can't take the time to be nice or get irritated at someone who is, perhaps I need to schedule a bit better so I'm not always on a dead run. 1) cream cheese on crackers is excellent. I love chive 'n onion on triscuits. 2) I love that you stopped and took the time to chat with the guy who was obviously trying to reach out and be sociable. don't let assholes behind you deter you from doing that again. personally I've found that no matter how much of a rush I may be in, I smile and remember that I have all the time in the world for someone who might be reaching out for their only interaction that day. Agreed. My issue is that I've been one of the assholes before. It's not very attractive sometimes to have to look at yourself in the mirror.
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