toomuchreality
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 20, 2015 5:16:49 GMT -5
Death Is Nothing At All All is well Death is nothing at all, I have only slipped away into the next room. Whatever we were to each other, we still are. Please, call me by my old familiar name. Speak of me in the same easy way you always did. Laugh, as we always laughed, at the little jokes we shared together. Think of me and smile. Let my name be the household name it always was, Spoken without the shadow of a ghost in it. Life means all it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. Death is inevitable, so why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, - for an interval very near. Nothing is past or lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before, Only better and happier. Together forever. All is well. Henry Scott Holland
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 20, 2015 9:06:03 GMT -5
I'm so, so very sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find comfort in the warm Florida sun.
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Post by cktc on Oct 20, 2015 12:43:24 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss Zib.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2015 14:55:26 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss. I'm sure this is a very hard time for you. Take care of yourself. jma23
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TheOtherMe
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 20, 2015 21:28:57 GMT -5
The cat came back. She opened the door, he walked in, and looked all smug. That's a cat for you! Hope kitty stays in the house so you don't worry. Enjoy Florida.
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raeoflyte
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 23, 2015 16:06:45 GMT -5
I am so sorry Zib.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 23, 2015 19:43:32 GMT -5
Re-homed the office cat today I'm hoping this works out better.
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mmhmm
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Post by mmhmm on Oct 23, 2015 19:53:32 GMT -5
Re-homed the office cat today I'm hoping this works out better. Glad you found a home for kitty.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 23, 2015 19:55:54 GMT -5
Such a good cat.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 28, 2015 5:17:18 GMT -5
The ex and her kid went into the office and stripped it of everything, supposedly with the executors permission. Got the office people all upset. Told them it'd be turned into a brewery. Um, no. I told the lawyer up here that'd he'd better do a better job of protecting my interests in DH's estate or I'd be getting a lawyer up here, paid by the estate of course, to do it for me.
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mollyanna58
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Post by mollyanna58 on Oct 28, 2015 7:40:10 GMT -5
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 28, 2015 8:58:11 GMT -5
I know. 7 million dollars isn't enough, right? She's got to be out grasping for more.
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mollyanna58
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Post by mollyanna58 on Oct 28, 2015 9:49:17 GMT -5
I know. 7 million dollars isn't enough, right? She's got to be out grasping for more. $7million? Holy moley! I thought the bulk of estate was going charity.
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taz157
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Post by taz157 on Oct 28, 2015 9:52:55 GMT -5
I know. 7 million dollars isn't enough, right? She's got to be out grasping for more. $7million? Holy moley! I thought the bulk of estate was going charity. Yeah that. I'm sorry Zib of having to go through all this.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 28, 2015 10:15:20 GMT -5
She got 5 mil in divorce and alimony. Then 2 more when he died. I was trying to get him to leave the bulk of his to charity but hadn't the time yet to get it done. Too late now. His charity seems to be her and her kids.
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Bluerobin
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Post by Bluerobin on Oct 28, 2015 12:49:39 GMT -5
She got 5 mil in divorce and alimony. Then 2 more when he died. I was trying to get him to leave the bulk of his to charity but hadn't the time yet to get it done. Too late now. His charity seems to be her and her kids. Ask the lawyer about having her arrested for stealing stuff from the office.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2015 13:05:03 GMT -5
The ex and her kid went into the office and stripped it of everything, supposedly with the executors permission. Got the office people all upset. Told them it'd be turned into a brewery. Um, no. I told the lawyer up here that'd he'd better do a better job of protecting my interests in DH's estate or I'd be getting a lawyer up here, paid by the estate of course, to do it for me. I missed something, what are your interests in the estate? Last I read you were not inheriting from him.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 28, 2015 13:16:36 GMT -5
I am the beneficiary of everything that goes into the trust until I die. Therefore everything including the office stuff that does not belong to the office, goes into the trust. Only I can give anything away before that time and it must be to one of the three kids. Therefore the ex coming into the office even with her son, a potential beneficiary, is not cool.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 28, 2015 13:22:46 GMT -5
She got 5 mil in divorce and alimony. Then 2 more when he died. I was trying to get him to leave the bulk of his to charity but hadn't the time yet to get it done. Too late now. His charity seems to be her and her kids. Ask the lawyer about having her arrested for stealing stuff from the office. The executor gave her permission. According to my friend who is a lawyer this is not her call. So im getting a non friend lawyer and playing hardball. I think the lawyer who drew up the will and trust is communicating with the executor including the fact that I'm talking about getting a lawyer here to protect myself. I feel the executor sandbagged me. But me talking about lawyering up might change the tune.
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dannylion
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Post by dannylion on Oct 28, 2015 13:37:36 GMT -5
Ask the lawyer about having her arrested for stealing stuff from the office. The executor gave her permission. According to my friend who is a lawyer this is not her call. So im getting a non friend lawyer and playing hardball. I think the lawyer who drew up the will and trust is communicating with the executor including the fact that I'm talking about getting a lawyer here to protect myself. I feel the executor sandbagged me. But me talking about lawyering up might change the tune. This is such a shame. One has to wonder what they're getting out of such grasping, petty behavior. It cannot possibly be making them happier, unless they're operating on a completely different definition of "happiness" than normal people.
I hope your lawyer is able to step in and deal with them so that if you can't avoid the ugliness altogether, at least there will be another layer of insulation.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2015 14:02:19 GMT -5
She got 5 mil in divorce and alimony. Then 2 more when he died. I was trying to get him to leave the bulk of his to charity but hadn't the time yet to get it done. Too late now. His charity seems to be her and her kids. They are his kids too aren't they?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2015 14:04:06 GMT -5
Sorry still trying to wrap my brain around the situation. What was there in the office they would be interested in having?
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Post by Bluerobin on Oct 28, 2015 14:13:12 GMT -5
Sorry still trying to wrap my brain around the situation. What was there in the office they would be interested in having? If it goes to court, demand the return of the $50,000 petty cash fund!!! When ZIB gets her lawyer, demand the present executor be removed for dereliction of duty. Nothing should have been removed without Zib's consent.
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 28, 2015 14:25:28 GMT -5
She got 5 mil in divorce and alimony. Then 2 more when he died. I was trying to get him to leave the bulk of his to charity but hadn't the time yet to get it done. Too late now. His charity seems to be her and her kids. Ask Tell the lawyer about to have having her arrested for stealing stuff from the office. Fixed
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mollyanna58
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Post by mollyanna58 on Oct 28, 2015 14:33:33 GMT -5
Ask Tell the lawyer about to have having her arrested for stealing stuff from the office. Fixed The executor gave the ex-wife and stepson permission to remove the items. There may be some remedy against the executor and perhaps Zib can recover the items, but I doubt the family members did anything illegal.
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Bluerobin
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Post by Bluerobin on Oct 28, 2015 14:38:50 GMT -5
The executor gave the ex-wife and stepson permission to remove the items. There may be some remedy against the executor and perhaps Zib can recover the items, but I doubt the family members did anything illegal. If it all goes into trust for Zib, she is the owner, not them, and she must agree.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2015 14:47:45 GMT -5
The executor gave the ex-wife and stepson permission to remove the items. There may be some remedy against the executor and perhaps Zib can recover the items, but I doubt the family members did anything illegal. If it all goes into trust for Zib, she is the owner, not them, and she must agree. I don't know a lot about trusts but isn't it usually a trust or an executor, not both? I don't really know how they work. Isn't this trust actually for his kids?
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 28, 2015 15:31:35 GMT -5
Sorry still trying to wrap my brain around the situation. What was there in the office they would be interested in having? One is his kid, the other two he inherited. Probably the Neiman.
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Post by swamp on Oct 28, 2015 15:49:01 GMT -5
If it all goes into trust for Zib, she is the owner, not them, and she must agree. I don't know a lot about trusts but isn't it usually a trust or an executor, not both? I don't really know how they work. Isn't this trust actually for his kids? Items not already in the trust go though probate and get put in the trust by the executor.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2015 16:18:07 GMT -5
Did this woman never move on with her life? My ex husband is on his third wife now, I was the first. I didn't/don't like either of the wives, but I always respected their position as his wife. Even if my ex was wealthy, there is no way I'd make a spectacle of myself by doing some of the things you say this woman has done.... even if I don't respect him or his wives, I respect myself.
I'm sure you have enough on your plate without having to deal with extra shenanigans. Lawyer up asap and let him/her deal with the sharks. ((((hugs))))
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