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Post by Tiny on Sept 23, 2015 15:39:03 GMT -5
So, just got done dealing with an issue where a user got their tail in knot and threw a hissy fit over the fact that an informal for their eyes only sent to them file name contained their misspelled name. ::sigh:: they could just rename the file and be done with it.
It makes me wonder how many other people are so passionate about the spelling of their name that it causes ire when they see it spelled wrong (or inconsistent with whatever punctuation/abbreviations they prefer) in ONE TIME ONLY instances?
What about pronunciation? Do you correct people you may never meet or talk to again when they mangle your name?
With the whole service person as a 'friend' thing going on, I HATE having to give my name to people I'm only going to interact with for a minute or two - they aren't going to get the last name right - and there's a chance that they might shorten the first name I give them to one of it's dozens of variations - even though I didn't introduce myself with one of those variations. ::sigh::
I totally and completely understand being upset and pursuing having one's name correctly spelled on official documents and such or when your moniker will be in public view (even if it's just a couple of people in the office).
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Sept 23, 2015 15:44:13 GMT -5
People misspell my name all the time. It really doesn't bother me. I suppose it would if it were my mother doing it. Otherwise, I guess I don't really care. It is, however, something for parents to think about when naming their children. If you give your child a unique name or a common name with a unique spelling, chances are it is going to be butchered their entire lives. I guess people think it's way cool to be unique in naming their kids, but I'm not sure their kids appreciate it in the long run and they are the ones who have to live with it.
Nothing much can be done about last names, I suppose. Mine is very common so I've not had issues with it.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 23, 2015 15:51:28 GMT -5
it makes me a little nutty when it's misspelled in response to an email that contains my contact information as a signature at the bottom of the message, or if I've just signed it as " -chiver" at the end of my message. that's just being lazy, my name is *right there* for you to see.
my name wasn't in the top 10 for girls in my birth year, but there were a lot of us in my school system over my years there. my name has a couple pretty common spellings, as well as a few others that are pretty random. I've got one of the common spellings, but for whatever reason people like to use the wrong damn vowel.
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Post by lexxy703 on Sept 23, 2015 15:57:19 GMT -5
I don't often get it misspelled but it sort of rhymes with a few other apparently more common names & over the phone I often get called one of those names. Unless it is important that the correct name be used such as they are taking down information, I just let it go. It really doesn't matter.
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Post by mroped on Sept 23, 2015 15:58:04 GMT -5
I worked for this guy for two and a half years so he wrote about 130-140 checks to me. I don't believe he spelled my name right once! Even if I try teaching people how to say my name they can't pronounce it right so why bother? As they say : " ...just don't call me late for dinner!"
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Sept 23, 2015 16:02:52 GMT -5
Chiver makes a good point. If it's in correspondence that contains the correct spelling of my name, it is a bit irritating. Agreed that it's a case of being too lazy to actually look. I sincerely hope I've not done that to anyone but I can't guarantee I haven't.
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Post by cael on Sept 23, 2015 16:05:32 GMT -5
My first name (Elizabeth/Liz) is pretty hard to mess up, but both my maiden name and married last name are unusual or foreign, so they get butchered all the time My poor husband's name is Panagiotis (give pronouncing it your best shot, you're disqualified if you're Greek) and he didn't even learn to spell it until he was in middle school or something, so you can imagine how that gets attempted. (he goes by a nickname so the full name doesn't have to be spelled super frequently)
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Post by Cookies Galore on Sept 23, 2015 16:12:47 GMT -5
My name is Meghan and I get the Megan/meghan mix ups, no big deal. But I do find it somewhat irritating when I send and email and sign it meghan and they respond with megan. Total laziness, but not a big deal.
I do get beyond pissed off when I get mail addressed to a person who doesn't exist. My name is Ms. Meghan My Name. It is NOT Mrs. Meghan His Name and it is most certainly NOT Mrs. His First and Last Name!
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 23, 2015 16:18:25 GMT -5
I do get beyond pissed off when I get mail addressed to a person who doesn't exist. My name is Ms. Meghan My Name. It is NOT Mrs. Meghan His Name and it is most certainly NOT Mrs. His First and Last Name! ooh, that's obnoxious. my dad flipped out on a telemarketer one night, they called looking for my Nana - my mom's mom, who had just passed away about a month earlier. the caller asked for Mrs. Nana <Dad's last name> and I'd be willing to bet the guy had to take his headphones off to save his eardrums for what my dad had to say about it. years later though, I wonder how the hell would they come up with that as a name combination?
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Post by flamingo on Sept 23, 2015 16:34:22 GMT -5
I do get beyond pissed off when I get mail addressed to a person who doesn't exist. My name is Ms. Meghan My Name. It is NOT Mrs. Meghan His Name and it is most certainly NOT Mrs. His First and Last Name! My gramma sends all cards/correspondence to me address as Mrs. His First and Last Name. She KNOWS I didn't take his name, but she's old school and back when she got married she ceased to be Ms. Her Name and became Mrs. His First and Last Name. So, we will probably never break her of that habit. More irritating is when she sends checks with made out to "Flamingo His Last Name". My bank isn't real happy about cashing those, and gramma doesn't understand why I'm not cashing her check. DH and I FINALLY opened a joint bank account just for this type of stuff and our bank now lets us deposit these checks in there. Obviously, gramma isn't the only one who gets it wrong, but it's most irritating when she does. Funny (?) story, when I first moved to our current city last year, the electric company screwed this up and sent the bill addressed to "Flamingo His Last Name". We never got the bill. My assumption is the mail carrier didn't leave the bill (at the time, only my last name was on the mailbox, as DH hadn't yet moved/changed his address). I finally got suspicious and called them about 6 weeks or so after the bill was due. I had a heck of a time trying to straighten it all out. First, it didn't occur to me that was the problem, so they couldn't find me, then when they found me in the system, no one could figure out why the bill never got to me. Oh, and my last name that I kept? Not one person has ever spelled it right on the first try!
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Post by Cookies Galore on Sept 23, 2015 16:53:55 GMT -5
I take care of pretty much everything so it's all in my name, so I LOVE IT when hubs is called Mr. My Name.
Friends of ours did send us their wedding invitation addressed to Mr. And Mrs. Meghan My Name. It made me laugh and want to give them a bigger gift!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2015 17:00:05 GMT -5
Having a very uncommon surname for the last 42 years, I have pretty much learned to answer to anything. I joke that my next husband will be named "Smith" but I don't really don't plan to name my pool boy other than "Come here, pool boy"
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Post by lynnerself on Sept 23, 2015 17:10:02 GMT -5
Like Dark I use a less used version of a very common first name. I find that it sometimes is a useful screening tool to see if someone really knows me or not. I am amused and somewhat perplexed when someone I have known for a long time gets it wrong, it's like they haven't been paying attention. But I don't get angry.
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Post by giramomma on Sept 23, 2015 17:10:30 GMT -5
I have a first name that's easily misspelled. Men and women can also have my first name.
Misspelling my first name and mispronouncing my last name doesn't really bother me much.
What DOES bother me is how much gender stereotyping that we still get in 2015. I work in a male dominated field. I cannot tell you how many times people see my email and assume it's DH's. Pisses me off.
Finally, when we bought this house, the mortgage company put my name on the loan and deed FIRST. I was so excited. I was tired of being put last on everything up until then. Even when I was the only person working....
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Post by tskeeter on Sept 23, 2015 17:14:18 GMT -5
So, just got done dealing with an issue where a user got their tail in knot and threw a hissy fit over the fact that an informal for their eyes only sent to them file name contained their misspelled name. ::sigh:: they could just rename the file and be done with it.
It makes me wonder how many other people are so passionate about the spelling of their name that it causes ire when they see it spelled wrong (or inconsistent with whatever punctuation/abbreviations they prefer) in ONE TIME ONLY instances?
What about pronunciation? Do you correct people you may never meet or talk to again when they mangle your name?
With the whole service person as a 'friend' thing going on, I HATE having to give my name to people I'm only going to interact with for a minute or two - they aren't going to get the last name right - and there's a chance that they might shorten the first name I give them to one of it's dozens of variations - even though I didn't introduce myself with one of those variations. ::sigh::
I totally and completely understand being upset and pursuing having one's name correctly spelled on official documents and such or when your moniker will be in public view (even if it's just a couple of people in the office).
If a misspelled name is such an enormous problem in your life that it's worth the effort of a hissy fit, your life must be flippin great! I guess that I'm immune to the emotional distress caused by a misspelled name. I'm part of a fairly large family. It was not uncommon for a distracted Mom or Dad to call one of us by the wrong name. Often it was easier to call us by our position in the family birth order. Of course, if was a little disconcerting to friends to hear me referred to as number two, considering the other uses for that terminology. They seemed to be more comfortable with #2 son. At least we didn't have a dog. In DW's family, you could be referred to by the dog's name.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2015 17:31:10 GMT -5
I have an unusual name. It's pronounced just like it's spelled and not difficult to say, but people still have a hard time with it. I don't get all bent out of shape about it, but I do judge and make assumptions about people based on their reactions to my name. In certain situations, I feel like it's disrespectful when someone hears me say my name and then they don't make any effort to say it correctly and just say it however they want to. Asking me to repeat it or spell it doesn't bother me, even if they still say it wrong. At least they made some kind of effort. A lot of people say it wrong and I still respond. Random people that I'll never see again, sometimes I just give them my middle name or last name to avoid the hassle with my first name.
I don't get upset about it being misspelled either, but again, in certain situations it makes me think a certain something about the person that misspelled it. Especially if I know they have access to something it's spelled correctly on.
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Post by teen persuasion on Sept 23, 2015 17:35:33 GMT -5
My maiden last name started with a Z, therefore no one could spell or pronounce it. I don't know why Z makes people incapable of spelling or speaking, it was spelled phonetically, but I'm used to people mangling it. Now my husband's last name is foreign, so everyone wants to swap the order of a few letters to better conform to English conventions, and pronunciations are all over the place. So, again I am used to people who don't know me mangling it. Not worth getting bent about.
We live in a small community, and with all of our kids, anyone associated with the school or kids in general know our name well by now. However, at least one music director deliberately mispronounces it to help him remember how to spell it properly! He is well liked, and it isn't done in spite or thru ignorance, it is more of a pet name at this point.
The kids make a point to use the special character version spelling of the last name whenever possible, and not just stick an apostrophe after the final vowel. Some teachers also make the effort to get it right.
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Post by yogiii on Sept 23, 2015 17:56:40 GMT -5
My maiden name is a boys name and my first name is foreign. So I always hated the first day of school when the teacher would decide my name must be out of order when doing roll call and shout "boy name" while I had to sheepishly raise my hand and say "no, that's my last name". By the time I hit 4th or 5th grade, most of the class would gear up during the pause to yell my name out before the teacher could attempt whatever.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 23, 2015 18:01:16 GMT -5
The shortened version of my given name is usually spelled with a Y. I changed it to an I in the 4th grade since there were probably 4 same named girls in my classes all the way to hi school. Common name for the time. I don't get bent out of shape if people spell it with a Y - common error - except for family - they will get the stink eye I would just tell people who asked me how to spell my maiden name - just look it up in the Bible!! ETA: If I get a phone call and somene ask for me by my given name - I just tell them they have the wrong number or she's not home - can I take a message
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Post by swamp on Sept 23, 2015 18:16:49 GMT -5
I find it irritating but not fatal. Both my first and last names are unusual and nobody ever pronounced them right.
Mr swamp is also often referred to with my last name. He thinks it's funny.
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Post by alabamagal on Sept 23, 2015 19:10:24 GMT -5
I do get beyond pissed off when I get mail addressed to a person who doesn't exist. My name is Ms. Meghan My Name. It is NOT Mrs. Meghan His Name and it is most certainly NOT Mrs. His First and Last Name! My gramma sends all cards/correspondence to me address as Mrs. His First and Last Name. She KNOWS I didn't take his name, but she's old school and back when she got married she ceased to be Ms. Her Name and became Mrs. His First and Last Name. So, we will probably never break her of that habit. More irritating is when she sends checks with made out to "Flamingo His Last Name". My bank isn't real happy about cashing those, and gramma doesn't understand why I'm not cashing her check. DH and I FINALLY opened a joint bank account just for this type of stuff and our bank now lets us deposit these checks in there. Obviously, gramma isn't the only one who gets it wrong, but it's most irritating when she does. Funny (?) story, when I first moved to our current city last year, the electric company screwed this up and sent the bill addressed to "Flamingo His Last Name". We never got the bill. My assumption is the mail carrier didn't leave the bill (at the time, only my last name was on the mailbox, as DH hadn't yet moved/changed his address). I finally got suspicious and called them about 6 weeks or so after the bill was due. I had a heck of a time trying to straighten it all out. First, it didn't occur to me that was the problem, so they couldn't find me, then when they found me in the system, no one could figure out why the bill never got to me. Oh, and my last name that I kept? Not one person has ever spelled it right on the first try! I could have written this except it is my MIL that used to write checks to me with DH last name. She thinks I am just pretending to go by my original last name. My last name was misspelled at Ellis Island when my family came over from Poland. The good thing is that if I google my last name I am related to everyone that shows up. And I can almost always use my last name as a user name on websites.
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Post by thyme4change on Sept 23, 2015 19:37:58 GMT -5
I also have a common name with many different ways to spell it. I have variable reactions.
If it is someone I know well and work with often, it hurts my feelings if they can't take the time to look at my name on the email "To" line and get it right. It makes me wonder if they consider me at all. Do they respect me or am I just a warm body.
If it is someone I only have email exchanges with (there are many of them) I usually think they are lazy or lack attention to detail if they can't glance up and get my name correct. It doesn't bother me that my name is spelled wrong, but it does make me question their work.
In most other places, I don't care. Again - if I consider you a friend and we hang out and have for a while - you should care enough to get it right. If I see my name on the list of parents, written by someone who doesn't know me and mine is spelled wrong - I don't care at all.
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Post by kittensaver on Sept 23, 2015 19:39:13 GMT -5
Having a very uncommon surname for the last 42 years, I have pretty much learned to answer to anything. I joke that my next husband will be named "Smith" but I don't really don't plan to name my pool boy other than "Come here, pool boy" I gave up a never-spelled-correctly and even MORE never-pronounced-correctly Italian last name for a very common Jewish last name (akin to "Smith" type of common) when I got married. At the time I was happy because how could folks possibly mess up this very simple, common last name?
Oh man - do they ever! They add an extra letter in the middle, they add an 's' to the end . . . who knew a "Smith-level" name could get so misspelled?
ETA: I was born at the very tail end of an era when two-name girls were popular (think Betty Lou, Mary Sue etc etc). There were 4 other girls in my kindergarten class with my name (and its variations). I've totally given up trying to get my name used OR spelled correctly. I'm a two-namer who goes by both names. It gets misspelled and shortened all kinds of crazy ways. I don't even bother with people I don't know - I even give them a semi-fake name at Starbucks - - it's too much work (and sometimes really funny) how they try to put my real name on the cup, so I don't bother anymore. But the people who know me call me by my correct name. I only insist my name be correct on legal, credit and bank documents. The rest - meh - there are plenty of other more important things.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Sept 23, 2015 19:56:22 GMT -5
My first name canbe spelled with or without the "e", but I spell it with an e. You'd be surprised how often it's spelled without the e. Like others I get annoyed when people respond to an email with my name in the signature block at the end and don't bother to check to see what the correct spelling is. They sometimes use the incorrect name after I bring it to their attention!
my last name is French but is a very common name which can also be a girls name if spelled slightly differently. It's spelled with an accent mark over the last letter. I've always pronounced it correctly (the French pronunciation), but I don't get upset if everyone else uses the English pronunciation.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 23, 2015 20:00:45 GMT -5
thyme, if you are who I think you are from the FB group, we share the same annoyances for the same spelling.
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Post by msventoux on Sept 23, 2015 20:07:59 GMT -5
Depends on who it is. A coworker for over 10 years who still gets it wrong about 40% of the time? Extraordinarily irritating, but then I remember the source and that coworker can barely remember their name, so it's not personal and I blow it off. I don't care if it's someone I've just met or deal with infrequently. Depending on my mood and the likelihood of continued interactions with them, I may or may not correct them. Completely clueless people who aren't even remotely close to getting my name right? I don't correct them more than once, and that's not usually enough for them to get it right. I find it amusing to hear them call our office and ask for "Jenny" when my name is "Amanda". Then they try to describe me..."You know, the dark haired gal with the glasses in her 30's." Which describes pretty much all of our female staff. Our admin person is much less amused by this process than I am.
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Post by thyme4change on Sept 23, 2015 21:09:45 GMT -5
thyme, if you are who I think you are from the FB group, we share the same annoyances for the same spelling. I'm the funny one.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2015 21:17:30 GMT -5
People misspell my name all the time. It really doesn't bother me. I suppose it would if it were my mother doing it. Otherwise, I guess I don't really care. It is, however, something for parents to think about when naming their children. If you give your child a unique name or a common name with a unique spelling, chances are it is going to be butchered their entire lives. I guess people think it's way cool to be unique in naming their kids, but I'm not sure their kids appreciate it in the long run and they are the ones who have to live with it.
Nothing much can be done about last names, I suppose. Mine is very common so I've not had issues with it. I read of an Ashley whose name was spelled Ashole. I think the parents were way off the mark with that unique spelling.
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Post by teen persuasion on Sept 23, 2015 21:20:21 GMT -5
Actually, there is one misspelling that kind of bugs me, but it's more just a head-scratcher. At home we call DS5 Xander, short for Alexander (he uses Alex at school). Multiple extended family members have written his name as Zander. Why would you change the X to Z, rather than just drop the first few letters?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2015 21:24:33 GMT -5
Actually, there is one misspelling that kind of bugs me, but it's more just a head-scratcher. At home we call DS5 Xander, short for Alexander (he uses Alex at school). Multiple extended family members have written his name as Zander. Why would you change the X to Z, rather than just drop the first few letters? I would not know how to pronounce xander. I would spell a name like that how it sounded. Since it is just a nickname I wouldnt even think there was a right or worng way to spell it.
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