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Jul 30, 2015 16:11:33 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2015 16:11:33 GMT -5
So...the guy was stalking you and THEN you decided to give him your number?
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NomoreDramaQ1015
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Jul 30, 2015 16:13:42 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 30, 2015 16:13:42 GMT -5
Do you have a facebook page or anything like that? If you do Google yourself and see if your page comes up and check your dating profiles too. Some of those web sites will "helpfully" share your information with other internet sources. You have to choose to opt out otherwise it automatically does so. Sometimes without you knowing. I found out facebook will share my personal information with people I email. It helpfully linked itself to my email account without me knowing. A friend of mine told me that all my info popped up in the corner of his screen when he opened up his hotmail account. Yeah I changed that in a hurry. Make sure all your settings on any social media are as private as you can get them.
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Jul 30, 2015 16:17:01 GMT -5
Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 30, 2015 16:17:01 GMT -5
Or do what's been suggested already. Stay the freak out of the bars. No one is saying you can't meet a decent man in one. Only that your track record on this isn't stellar. Find different things to do. Better quality things. You meet better quality people overall. I have a number of outside interests, including volunteer work. I've met some odd people, but virtually no one that makes me think "911 material!"
Take your associations to a higher level, and the people you meet will be on a higher level. And make these men wait. Giving out your contact info on a first or second meeting raises the desperation flag.
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Jul 30, 2015 16:22:42 GMT -5
Post by nutty on Jul 30, 2015 16:22:42 GMT -5
No he wasn't stalking me, he came back Sat, he got my number sat. We went out on tuesday, he wasn't into commitment (neither am I) BUT he would still come up to see me I don't want to date, so tbh I am not looking at these men as dateable, just fun well into stalking comes in to play.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 30, 2015 16:51:32 GMT -5
Nutty.....anyone is not better than no one.
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Jul 31, 2015 7:47:45 GMT -5
Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 31, 2015 7:47:45 GMT -5
don't want to date, so tbh I am not looking at these men as dateable
They seem to be thinking you are. Maybe you need to change your approach and upfront state you aren't interested in anything. Weirdos will move on if they don't find an easy target.
I am starting to wonder if they think since you are on a dating site (again check your privacy settings) and you are sliding them your number they think you are interested. Creepy guys aren't going to realize you are "being nice". Believe me, I know that from experience.
So stop handing your number and may not be a bad idea to take your profile off of some of these dating sites. From the way you describe them they sound like the adult only section of Craigslist. A good place to meet weirdos trolling for desperate women to hook up with (or fellow crazy women). Join ZOOSK or something like that if all you are out for is quality male friendships and maybe the occassional hook-up.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 31, 2015 8:28:48 GMT -5
No, I don't see an issue here. So the guys she's been talking to just happen to be crazy... that means she's due to meet some good ones soon, right? Just keep doing exactly what you're doing nutty - it's bound to work eventually because it's clearly them, not you!
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Jul 31, 2015 11:49:01 GMT -5
Post by nutty on Jul 31, 2015 11:49:01 GMT -5
Obviously part of it is me, my picker is broken LOL. A lot of this is that I don't want a serious relationship so I am "under picking".
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Jul 31, 2015 13:06:23 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 31, 2015 13:06:23 GMT -5
A lot of this is that I don't want a serious relationship so I am "under picking".
Just b/c you don't want a serious relationship doesn't mean you need to lower your standards and hand out your number at the bar or put yourself on "interesting" dating sites. You can have a good time and still have high standards.
I have seriously high standards for people I just meet. Doesn't mean I automatically won't be friendly but you don't get anything beyond my first name, if even that. You'll get more information out of me once I am sure my whacko radar isn't going off.
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