Wedding rings

[tractor]

So, who's diamond is bigger, yours or your spouses?

May seem like a stupid question, but my diamond is bigger than my wife's, and after 22 years it doesn't seem to bother her. Here's the quick story, about two years before I got engaged, my mom decided she needed a bigger diamond for her 25th wedding anniversary. She went ahead and bought a big rock, and gave me her original stone, which I had put into my wedding band when I got married. I couldn't afford much when we got married so Mrs Tractor got what I could pay for, a much better cut, but a smaller stone.

Footnote: needing a larger stone was only a symptom of my parents failing marriage, they were divorced shortly after they made 27 years. Her 1 1/2 carat stone now sits in her safety deposit box waiting to go to my sister, who has made it very clear that she will be donating the stone to charity as soon as is she inherits it.

[Deleted]

Lol. I don't have a diamond and I never wear my band.

[ArchietheDragon]

Is this a euphemism?

[tractor]

Jul 16, 2015 13:50:02 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Is this a euphemism?

I hope not

[ArchietheDragon]

Jul 16, 2015 13:51:16 GMT -5 tractor said:

Jul 16, 2015 13:50:02 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Is this a euphemism?

I hope not

In that case, my wife has the larger diamond.  I am diamondless. 

[The Captain]

Jul 16, 2015 13:46:02 GMT -5 tractor said:

So, who's diamond is bigger, yours or your spouses?

May seem like a stupid question, but my diamond is bigger than my wife's, and after 22 years it doesn't seem to bother her. Here's the quick story, about two years before I got engaged, my mom decided she needed a bigger diamond for her 25th wedding anniversary. She went ahead and bought a big rock, and gave me her original stone, which I had put into my wedding band when I got married. I couldn't afford much when we got married so Mrs Tractor got what I could pay for, a much better cut, but a smaller stone.

Footnote: needing a larger stone was only a symptom of my parents failing marriage, they were divorced shortly after they made 27 years. Her 1 1/2 carat stone now sits in her safety deposit box waiting to go to my sister, who has made it very clear that she will be donating the stone to charity as soon as is she inherits it.

DH's ring is a solid gold band.  My stone is small by today's standards but I really couldn't care less.  It was what DH could afford when he decided to marry me and it's what I'll wear to the grave.

Or maybe not.  It doesn't bother me but every few years or so DH tells me he want to upgrade the main stone.  I usually find something that makes far more sense for us to spend the money on and put it off again.

Yes, I do like my bling.  BUT I like having money in the bank even more. 

[flamingo]

I don't have a diamond-my engagement ring is a ruby. Inherited from my MIL, we reset it, but didn't cut it down. My wedding band is more of an anniversary band, but does have diamonds in it.

My DH currently has a $30 ring he wears. He lost the first $100 ring I bought him (no stones, just a symbol/design that has meaning to us). He lost the first ring within our first year of marriage; this ring he's had for almost 4 years now.

So, mine are bigger 

[Cookies Galore]

My engagement ring has a 2.6 karat pale amethyst and teenie diamond chips on the band. My wedding ring has teenie diamond chips on the band. Both rings are rose gold.
Hubs wears a tungsten and silver ring.
ETA: I'm sporting a grand total of $1200 on my hand between both rings. Hubs' ring was $300.

[mmhmm]

My wedding ring has a large diamond (about 3 carats) and several smaller ones. My late DH had a diamond ring about the same size but it wasn't his wedding ring. That was a wide, etched gold band. That one, sadly, had to be cut from his finger when they took him for heart surgery. It could probably be repaired but I've kept it as is. I've still got both diamond rings and have thought about having them converted to something I could wear. Then, it occurred to me I don't really wear jewelry anymore. I think I'm going to give one to my daughter and one to my son.

[ArchietheDragon]

Jul 16, 2015 14:22:57 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

My wedding ring has a large diamond (about 3 carats) and several smaller ones. My late DH had a diamond ring about the same size but it wasn't his wedding ring. That was a wide, etched gold band. That one, sadly, had to be cut from his finger when they took him for heart surgery. It could probably be repaired but I've kept it as is. I've still got both diamond rings and have thought about having them converted to something I could wear. Then, it occurred to me I don't really wear jewelry anymore. I think I'm going to give one to my daughter and one to my son.

Hell ya.   mmhmm pimping it!

[mmhmm]

Jul 16, 2015 14:24:35 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Jul 16, 2015 14:22:57 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

My wedding ring has a large diamond (about 3 carats) and several smaller ones. My late DH had a diamond ring about the same size but it wasn't his wedding ring. That was a wide, etched gold band. That one, sadly, had to be cut from his finger when they took him for heart surgery. It could probably be repaired but I've kept it as is. I've still got both diamond rings and have thought about having them converted to something I could wear. Then, it occurred to me I don't really wear jewelry anymore. I think I'm going to give one to my daughter and one to my son.

Hell ya.   mmhmm pimping it!

LOL, Archie! If I were "pimping it", I'd be wearin' it! I used to wear jewelry more often. Now, with my day-to-day jeans and tee-shirts, it doesn't seem quite appropriate. Besides, as a nurse I never wore jewelry. It got in my way and could injure the sensitive skin of our elderly patients. Now, it just no longer appeals. Most of my jewelry came from my late DH, anyway. He was the "stone and gold hound."    (I think it was because he couldn't think of anything else to get me as gifts.)

[bean29]

Jul 16, 2015 14:04:19 GMT -5 The Captain said:

Jul 16, 2015 13:46:02 GMT -5 tractor said:

So, who's diamond is bigger, yours or your spouses?

May seem like a stupid question, but my diamond is bigger than my wife's, and after 22 years it doesn't seem to bother her. Here's the quick story, about two years before I got engaged, my mom decided she needed a bigger diamond for her 25th wedding anniversary. She went ahead and bought a big rock, and gave me her original stone, which I had put into my wedding band when I got married. I couldn't afford much when we got married so Mrs Tractor got what I could pay for, a much better cut, but a smaller stone.

Footnote: needing a larger stone was only a symptom of my parents failing marriage, they were divorced shortly after they made 27 years. Her 1 1/2 carat stone now sits in her safety deposit box waiting to go to my sister, who has made it very clear that she will be donating the stone to charity as soon as is she inherits it.

DH's ring is a solid gold band.  My stone is small by today's standards but I really couldn't care less.  It was what DH could afford when he decided to marry me and it's what I'll wear to the grave.

Or maybe not.  It doesn't bother me but every few years or so DH tells me he want to upgrade the main stone.  I usually find something that makes far more sense for us to spend the money on and put it off again.

Yes, I do like my bling.  BUT I like having money in the bank even more. 

I guess this is a guy thing.  My DH has offered to get me a different diamond/ring more than once.   I like my ring.  I don't need a different/bigger/better one.  I would be happy with a plain gold band with a little etching in it.  Like Captain, I have a long list of things that the $$ would be better spent on.

DH has a wedding ring with a diamond in it.  It is smaller than mine, but I don't know how much.  He rarely wears it. 

[ken a.k.a OMK]

I gave my wife a diamond engagement ring that she combined with other diamonds to make a ring after we were married 25 years.

We eloped and didn't have rings. Three days later we traveled (100 miles) to her parents for Christmas. Her mother said we had to have rings to make it look ligit for the family and bought us gold bands. I still wear mine.

[Artemis Windsong]

My new name is charity and I will gladly take the diamond. 

[alabamagal]

My engagement ring has a diamond. I stopped wearing it after it fell off twice while unloading the washing machine, one time requiring a repair call to disassemble the machine and retrieve my diamond.

Neither wedding band has diamonds and neither of us wear them. We don't wear them because of jobs that require being around machinery and chemicals.

[The Captain]

Huh.  This just reminded me.  When my mom passed she had two wedding sets (don't ask me why).  Sissy and I actually fought over who got what ("you take it, I don't need it" - "yea but you have the daughter to pass it on to").

Neither set was what mom got married with. 

Since I got most of Mom's and Grandma's jewelry (I'm the only breeder) I told sissy it was only fair she got the bigger diamond.  She used that as a trade in when she got an anniversary band to go with her wedding ring.

So I have a bunch of Mom's jewelry that I can't wear (woman wore a size 4 ring - where the hell did I come from ).  It's been sitting in my jewelry box for almost 6 years now.

Do I get the rings resized for myself?  Wait to pass them on to DD (who may not even like them - some are already starting to look dated).

Huh.

[tractor]

I know I'm somewhat strange being a guy who loves jewelry, but I say take any of the old rings and have them made into something you or your kids will wear. I ended up with my moms diamond because I was the only one out of three boys and a girl who would wear it. Something deep down inside loves those sparkly things...

I have also been blessed with two boys and a wife who only likes cheap jewelry. I can't wait until I get a grand daughter who will let me buy her nice things, I've started to stock up on loose stones already.

[sesfw]

When DH#1 and I married we just had gold bands. Later, about 15 yrs, I found a set I liked that complimented the band and we bought it. It had a small diamond in it.

A couple of years after he died I took all rings and had them melted down and made into two abstract pendants for the g-daughters after I'm gone.

DH#2 gave me a 1 ct princess diamond with 8 smaller diamonds in a channel.  Our bands are plain.  DH likes to give me nice bling and I wear them to church and special outings.  I have them, might as well wear them.

[kittensaver]

My wedding set is a gold, three-stone engagement ring (two 1/4 carat sides with a 1 carat center) paired with a diamond eternity band.

DH has a gold band.

Kittensaver for the win .

[wyouser]

My wife has the ring with the diamonds. I was just banded....I mean I got a band.....That is.. my band was never stoned....Awwww, you guys know what I mean

[cael]

My engagement ring is a .75c pear solitaire, and I love it, it's exactly what I wanted. My wedding band has small stones equaling I think a half carat, rounds and baguettes, across the top of the band.  DH.... his original ring was a nice tungsten band with a small round diamond, maybe like 1/8c, in the middle. We both loved it... then he lost it not 4 months after we got married. so now he has a $50 band we got at the mall. It isn't bad looking.. he always sees other guys with it and assumes they lost their original bands, too. DH actually did like having a small diamond in his ring, so we'll replace it someday.

I would not want to upgrade my rings, I love them and would not want anything bigger.

[The Captain]

Jul 16, 2015 15:16:52 GMT -5 tractor said:

I know I'm somewhat strange being a guy who loves jewelry, but I say take any of the old rings and have them made into something you or your kids will wear. I ended up with my moms diamond because I was the only one out of three boys and a girl who would wear it. Something deep down inside loves those sparkly things...

I have also been blessed with two boys and a wife who only likes cheap jewelry. I can't wait until I get a grand daughter who will let me buy her nice things, I've started to stock up on loose stones already.

Nothing wrong with liking a little bling.

Except for the one wedding set with the diamond, most of the rings are sliver with marcasite and semi-precious stones.  It would probably cost me more to get them sized then they are (honestly) worth, let alone re-cast into something else.

They're still pretty and it seems a shame they're just sitting in a jewelry box.  Sissy could wear them (she's got the same tiny fingers) but they are simply not her style.

I'm trying to de-clutter my life and am purging and giving away a lot of stuff we don't use or need.  Maybe I'll pick out the one I like the best, get that sized and give the rest to goodwill so someone else can enjoy them.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

DH's wedding band is stainless steel, no diamond.  Didn't think ahead of time about the fact it would be impossible to adjust.  I also had it engraved so that would get ruined if we adjusted the band width.

I've offered to get DH a new one but he said no.  He can't wear it most of the time anyhow since he works in a manufacturing environment.  Plus he's attached to the original.

I wear my bands every day.  I believe my diamond is 1.5 carats.   Some women think it's big other women comment it's tiny compared to theirs.

Whatever. I really don't have any clue about how to judge the quality of a diamond or it's size.  For all I know this could be CZ and I'd never be able to tell you.

It's not CZ in case anyone is wondering.  DH had it checked out b/c he was afraid hte girl before me may have taken the diamond and had it replaced.  He wanted to make sure he got back what he paid for.

[flamingo]

Jul 16, 2015 15:16:52 GMT -5 tractor said:

I know I'm somewhat strange being a guy who loves jewelry, but I say take any of the old rings and have them made into something you or your kids will wear. I ended up with my moms diamond because I was the only one out of three boys and a girl who would wear it. Something deep down inside loves those sparkly things...

I have also been blessed with two boys and a wife who only likes cheap jewelry. I can't wait until I get a grand daughter who will let me buy her nice things, I've started to stock up on loose stones already.

You can adopt me and buy me nice, pretty, bling-y jewelry!!   LOL

[zibazinski]

I've got my dad's first ring to my mom. I think DS will ask for it. I think it's around a carat but no clue as to quality or value. Told him to find out if she likes round and used. It's not like used people. She might want something new or a different cut. Mine is 2 something. Not quite sure. Round cut. Don't know enough about quality but I know it's good bcuz that was important to DH. He wavered between that and another of better quality but it was more money and his jeweler said you couldn't tell for the price difference.

[zibazinski]

He's got two diamonds from his mom and dad that I think he should have either made into a necklace for his DD or if they're close, maybe earrings.

[Chocolate Lover]

Jul 16, 2015 15:16:52 GMT -5 tractor said:

I know I'm somewhat strange being a guy who loves jewelry, but I say take any of the old rings and have them made into something you or your kids will wear. I ended up with my moms diamond because I was the only one out of three boys and a girl who would wear it. Something deep down inside loves those sparkly things...

I have also been blessed with two boys and a wife who only likes cheap jewelry. I can't wait until I get a grand daughter who will let me buy her nice things, I've started to stock up on loose stones already.

You found the love that so many of the female posters here never had I guess.  

Our bands are simple, gold and from Walmart. Don't care, it's what we could afford. My ring is CZ and again don't care. I like it. I have no interest in buying something more expensive, I have way more stuff that money needs to go to. Besides, it wouldn't be right anyway, it wouldn't be the original.

[zibazinski]

I told DS if he proposes in Italy take a cz to give her. Not the real thing to get stolen by TSA. DH was crazy to bring mine to cayman.

[hoops902]

Jul 16, 2015 13:49:29 GMT -5 oped said:

Lol. I don't have a diamond and I never wear my band.

Ditto.  I have a ring somewhere that's black and titanium or something...it was cheap.  I told my wife I'd wear it for a week after we got married, then it went into a box. 

She hates I don't wear it (I don't wear any jewelry, watch, etc...I'd just fidget with it).  I cite the studies that say that men with rings are more likely to get hit on by women...and that only guys who actively want to get laid by other women would ever wear a wedding ring.  She's not buying it, but she lives with it.

[hoops902]

I'm also a good YMer, I didn't buy my wife an engagement or wedding ring.  She inherited her grandmother's ring, was already wearing it on her right hand, and didn't want to wear 2 diamond rings.  She asked if she could just keep wearing that one when/if we got engaged.  I said "Sure honey, whatever will make you happy" while secretly fist-pumping in my mind.