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Post by sesfw on Jul 16, 2015 13:36:53 GMT -5
I went to my 50th several years ago and enjoyed it. I also went to 10 and 30. Don't think I knew about the ones in between.
At 10 yrs no one had changed that much and careers and families were in the making. 30 yrs the kids were mostly gone and careers had started to level off. 50 yrs most were retired and comparing notes with each other.
The things I did notice was the jerks in high school were still jerks at age 67-68. The muscular athletic heroes didn't keep their physic well. About half the 'prom queen' set were still very nice, and the other half were
The basic personalities didn't change much .... but I still had a good time.
The committee posted all members that had been lost to this world and a couple of them were good HS friends. I was sorry to see, but glad to know.
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Post by billisonboard on Jul 16, 2015 13:38:09 GMT -5
This thread got me thinking this year is 40 years for my classmates who made it to graduation. I looked at who was running the show and laughed. Thought, "Of course she is still in charge. "
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 16, 2015 14:25:38 GMT -5
I've never had the least bit of interest in attending any reunions.
The every 5 years thing seems kind of random. Why not 5 consecutive years? My aunt is 97 and once they got so old I think it was 5 or 10 years lumped together but they were consecutive years.
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Post by cktc on Jul 16, 2015 14:38:21 GMT -5
I was planning to attend my 10 year but had a last minute work trip to Italy that I couldn't pass up. My graduating class was about 100 and I think only 10-15 people went to the reunion so I don't think I missed much. My DH and I were from the same class, and between the two of us, facebook, and weddings we have a pretty good idea what most of our classmates are up to now anyway.
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Post by teen persuasion on Jul 16, 2015 22:15:47 GMT -5
I really haven't been in touch with any of the girls in my group of friends from HS, so I'd really like to see them at an event like this, but it doesn't sound like that's likely here.
I don't do Facebook (except to see what my kids are posting: pics from Hawaii, Quidditch matches, and lots of Pottermore stuff, apparently), so that's most likely why I haven't been in touch with the HS gang. I don't really have the time or desire to go tracking everyone down after so long, that's why I thought the reunion would be a good shortcut. Guess not.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2015 22:22:34 GMT -5
High school sucked the first time around, I have no interest in experiencing it again. We didn't like each other then, not sure what makes anybody think I'm going to like them now.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 16, 2015 22:33:14 GMT -5
I went to my 20th and 25th and had a blast! I plan on going to all of my reunions in the future. There is nothing like catching up with the people you grew up with
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 16, 2015 22:59:41 GMT -5
This thread got me thinking this year is 40 years for my classmates who made it to graduation. I looked at who was running the show and laughed. Thought, "Of course she is still in charge. " Every class has one of those. Every darn class.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2015 0:17:21 GMT -5
I was told the only people that go to mine for the most part are the Al Bundys who had their best years in high school and still can't let go of losing in the high school playoffs. Needless to say I have never been and have no desire to ever go, the only fun reason would be to lift my leg on those that couldn't make it out of that wretched little town, but that just ain't me.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 17, 2015 1:41:10 GMT -5
What do people that are single (no boyfriend etc) do at these things? I mean, it would be one thing, if you could get back in touch with some of your old friends and sit together. But if that is not the case.... I don't want to sit at a table alone, looking desperate, or like I don't have any friends. And I don't enjoy making small talk with people I don't know. That sounds like pure torture. Oh, And I get to pay
They don't make enough alcohol, to make this sound like a good time.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 17, 2015 9:38:10 GMT -5
I really haven't been in touch with any of the girls in my group of friends from HS, so I'd really like to see them at an event like this, but it doesn't sound like that's likely here. I don't do Facebook (except to see what my kids are posting: pics from Hawaii, Quidditch matches, and lots of Pottermore stuff, apparently), so that's most likely why I haven't been in touch with the HS gang. I don't really have the time or desire to go tracking everyone down after so long, that's why I thought the reunion would be a good shortcut. Guess not. Facebook is way faster and cheaper. I'm FB friends with my HS BFF, we still never talk. Just like each other's pictures. lol
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2015 10:06:06 GMT -5
I was told the only people that go to mine for the most part are the Al Bundys who had their best years in high school and still can't let go of losing in the high school playoffs. Needless to say I have never been and have no desire to ever go, the only fun reason would be to lift my leg on those that couldn't make it out of that wretched little town, but that just ain't me. It is me!!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2015 10:11:22 GMT -5
What do people that are single (no boyfriend etc) do at these things? I mean, it would be one thing, if you could get back in touch with some of your old friends and sit together. But if that is not the case.... I don't want to sit at a table alone, looking desperate, or like I don't have any friends. And I don't enjoy making small talk with people I don't know. That sounds like pure torture. Oh, And I get to pay They don't make enough alcohol, to make this sound like a good time. I feel sorry for the dates/spouses bcuz they must be bored out of their minds.
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Post by mmhmm on Jul 17, 2015 10:16:22 GMT -5
I never went to any of my high school reunions. Really didn't have any desire to go. I was pretty much a rather bookish loner through high school and my friends were primarily from the university. There's really not a soul I can think of from high school that I'd want to sit and schmooze with. Heck, I didn't want to do that when I was there!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2015 10:30:18 GMT -5
I never went to any of my high school reunions. Really didn't have any desire to go. I was pretty much a rather bookish loner through high school and my friends were primarily from the university. There's really not a soul I can think of from high school that I'd want to sit and schmooze with. Heck, I didn't want to do that when I was there! You might really be surprised. I dreaded going because those weren't happy years. Yet, I was surprised at the number of men and women who never gave me the time of day telling me they thought I didn't want to be friends with them. They thought I was "stuck up" when I wasn't at all. But even the mean bullies that bullied me had changed. It was kind of nice. I'm human enough to admit that two women who treated me badly have paid for it and I'm not overly sorry for the karma. I'm thinking if they did it to me, they did it to others too.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 17, 2015 10:31:18 GMT -5
I loved my time in high school. had a great experience. I still have almost no desire to go to a reunion. But I am a sociopath, so take that for what it is worth.
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Post by mmhmm on Jul 17, 2015 10:37:32 GMT -5
I never went to any of my high school reunions. Really didn't have any desire to go. I was pretty much a rather bookish loner through high school and my friends were primarily from the university. There's really not a soul I can think of from high school that I'd want to sit and schmooze with. Heck, I didn't want to do that when I was there! You might really be surprised. I dreaded going because those weren't happy years. Yet, I was surprised at the number of men and women who never gave me the time of day telling me they thought I didn't want to be friends with them. They thought I was "stuck up" when I wasn't at all. But even the mean bullies that bullied me had changed. It was kind of nice. I'm human enough to admit that two women who treated me badly have paid for it and I'm not overly sorry for the karma. I'm thinking if they did it to me, they did it to others too. I think I'd have been more inclined to go if I'd really palled around with my schoolmates. I didn't, though. I really didn't know many of them, and didn't know any well. As I said, I was the loner who was usually buried in a book. I was never bullied and wasn't really unhappy. I was just different. While I could be friendly and was treated nicely by other students, I was never close to any of them because I didn't choose to be.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 17, 2015 11:07:44 GMT -5
I'm thinking because we have aged and some of us have either been confronted with our own mortality or that of others, perspective changes.
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Post by cktc on Jul 17, 2015 11:16:08 GMT -5
What do people that are single (no boyfriend etc) do at these things? I mean, it would be one thing, if you could get back in touch with some of your old friends and sit together. But if that is not the case.... I don't want to sit at a table alone, looking desperate, or like I don't have any friends. And I don't enjoy making small talk with people I don't know. That sounds like pure torture. Oh, And I get to pay They don't make enough alcohol, to make this sound like a good time. I feel sorry for the dates/spouses bcuz they must be bored out of their minds. I went to my ex's 10 year. It wasn't terrible. It was actually kind of amusing observing interactions and meeting people that reminded me of my old classmates. If most of his friends weren't stoner/dropouts who weren't invited I might even have gotten a few stories.
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Post by teen persuasion on Jul 17, 2015 11:45:55 GMT -5
I feel sorry for the dates/spouses bcuz they must be bored out of their minds. I went to my ex's 10 year. It wasn't terrible. It was actually kind of amusing observing interactions and meeting people that reminded me of my old classmates. If most of his friends weren't stoner/dropouts who weren't invited I might even have gotten a few stories. I went with DH to his ES reunion a few years ago, and it wasn't too bad. One couple I already knew - they had an apartment in our neighborhood a few years after college. The others I hadn't met, but DH had mentioned them in stories over the years, so I was finally putting faces to names. It helped that he knew the core group of friends were definitely planning to attend, so they all met up beforehand to begin catching up. They've continued staying in touch thru FB. It was also a neighborhood thing - they mostly lived in the same area and grew up together. My HS drew from a larger area (multiple school districts), so my friends were scattered all over, which is why we've lost touch. There was only one friend who attended the same college I did. I'm now married to her ex. I'm obviously not going to seek her out, too awkward, but it'd be interesting to run into some of the bunch and see where they are in life now. Guess I'm just curious.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Jul 17, 2015 11:51:31 GMT -5
Ex-husband: very awkward Ex-boyfriend: eh, who cares.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 17, 2015 16:27:58 GMT -5
What do people that are single (no boyfriend etc) do at these things? I mean, it would be one thing, if you could get back in touch with some of your old friends and sit together. But if that is not the case.... I don't want to sit at a table alone, looking desperate, or like I don't have any friends. And I don't enjoy making small talk with people I don't know. That sounds like pure torture. Oh, And I get to pay They don't make enough alcohol, to make this sound like a good time. I feel sorry for the dates/spouses bcuz they must be bored out of their minds. I agree. And if it isn't that fun for the person who knew people.... I went with my ex (husband at the time) to his reunion. Other than saying hello, when I was introduced to people, I don't think I said 5 words all evening. It was so long and so boring. He had been student body president, so he knew lots of people. My ex loved going to his reunion. Me, not so much. They had a formal sit down dinner, then people took turns standing at a microphone talking. It reminded me of a funeral. There is only one person I wish I would have stayed in touch with after graduation. The reason we didn't stay in touch, was that our lives took very different paths. I'd like to talk to her again. But I'd rather do that privately. Actually, I can think of two people I'd like to see. But I'd still rather do it privately. You know- Let's do lunch. Maybe some day it will happen, maybe not. To me reunions feel kind of like you're being put on display, to see if you and your life, measure up to others expectations. I have no interest in being judged, or in judging others. Not my idea of a good time. I'll pass, thank you.
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Post by cronewitch on Jul 17, 2015 16:41:08 GMT -5
I went to one of my mom's, she was class of 44 in a small town so only 5 in her class. Class of 42 invited everyone they had been in school with so mom and her sister class of 46 were invited too. All the people were over 80 so many brought along a child or grandchild to drive them. I got to know many of mom's friends and took lots of digital pictures so was able to burn mom a CD and ordered her prints. It was fun and nice people mom had known her entire life. Most got rooms at the same motel so there was parties in the rooms too.
I went to a dozen different schools and hated the final one class of 66 with 32 in my class who mostly didn't speak to me. I looked at the year book once but didn't really know any of them, threw it away. I found some on Classmates.com and one emailed me a couple of times. They had reunions in another city, the first year someone paid for food for everyone and most people didn't show or pay so that year it was prepay but I didn't want to go. Next year will be 50 years and I haven't been back to the town or seen anyone from the school, can't imagine they even remember me.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 17, 2015 16:56:17 GMT -5
I feel sorry for the dates/spouses bcuz they must be bored out of their minds. I agree. And if it isn't that fun for the person who knew people.... I went with my ex (husband at the time) to his reunion. Other than saying hello, when I was introduced to people, I don't think I said 5 words all evening. It was so long and so boring. He had been student body president, so he knew lots of people. My ex loved going to his reunion. Me, not so much. They had a formal sit down dinner, then people took turns standing at a microphone talking. It reminded me of a funeral. There is only one person I wish I would have stayed in touch with after graduation. The reason we didn't stay in touch, was that our lives took very different paths. I'd like to talk to her again. But I'd rather do that privately. Actually, I can think of two people I'd like to see. But I'd still rather do it privately. You know- Let's do lunch. Maybe some day it will happen, maybe not. To me reunions feel kind of like you're being put on display, to see if you and your life, measure up to others expectations. I have no interest in being judged, or in judging others. Not my idea of a good time. I'll pass, thank you. I think that is a sad way of thinking of reunions. I truly loved catching up with friends fhat I missed and people that i shunned because they weren't in my clique back then. I have made some good friends from the reunion...people that I wouldn't give the time of day back then. I'm no longer a bitchy teenager and genuinely like people I'm also ok with who I am now and don't give a rats ass if someone judges me.
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Post by teen persuasion on Jul 17, 2015 17:44:12 GMT -5
Ex-husband: very awkward Ex-boyfriend: eh, who cares. Lol, half way between: ex-fiance. So, sorta awkward?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2015 20:47:24 GMT -5
I think that is a sad way of thinking of reunions. I truly loved catching up with friends fhat I missed and people that i shunned because they weren't in my clique back then. I have made some good friends from the reunion...people that I wouldn't give the time of day back then. I'm no longer a bitchy teenager and genuinely like people I'm also ok with who I am now and don't give a rats ass if someone judges me. That's the way I felt. I had the most fun visiting with people who weren't in my orbit back then. At the 40th the rental car lady at the airport issued me an ugly lime-green Ford Fiesta after I refused offers to upgrade to something more splendid. I thought it was hilarious, and made.a point of showing it to my former classmates.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 18, 2015 13:03:54 GMT -5
I agree. And if it isn't that fun for the person who knew people.... I went with my ex (husband at the time) to his reunion. Other than saying hello, when I was introduced to people, I don't think I said 5 words all evening. It was so long and so boring. He had been student body president, so he knew lots of people. My ex loved going to his reunion. Me, not so much. They had a formal sit down dinner, then people took turns standing at a microphone talking. It reminded me of a funeral. There is only one person I wish I would have stayed in touch with after graduation. The reason we didn't stay in touch, was that our lives took very different paths. I'd like to talk to her again. But I'd rather do that privately. Actually, I can think of two people I'd like to see. But I'd still rather do it privately. You know- Let's do lunch. Maybe some day it will happen, maybe not. To me reunions feel kind of like you're being put on display, to see if you and your life, measure up to others expectations. I have no interest in being judged, or in judging others. Not my idea of a good time. I'll pass, thank you. I think that is a sad way of thinking of reunions. I truly loved catching up with friends fhat I missed and people that i shunned because they weren't in my clique back then. I have made some good friends from the reunion...people that I wouldn't give the time of day back then. I'm no longer a bitchy teenager and genuinely like people I'm also ok with who I am now and don't give a rats ass if someone judges me. Some of the people I hung out with were what I think of as the popular girls / school bitches. I've run into a few of them over the years and have not been under the impression that they've changed a whole lot. I've never been very bitchy. I wasn't unpopular and I'm both okay with who I was then and who I am now, so none of that concerns me. But sitting there with a smile on my face, if I'm not having a good time, hardly seems like a good time. I did and saw a lot of that when I went with my ex to his reunion. I'm glad you had the opportunity to catch up with people, since that's what you wanted to do. Maybe I'll change my mind later, but as of right now, I don't.
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Post by gooddecisions on Jul 18, 2015 13:47:06 GMT -5
I missed my own ten year because it was thanksgiving and I forgot all about it, but have been a date to a ten year and a twenty year. I had a great time and wasn't bored at all. I studied up on some trivia/pop culture from whichever year and could break the ice that way. A lot of people talked about their jobs, family and travel and I thought it was very interesting. But I don't mind talking to strangers and know how to ask questions that don't bore me.
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Post by beergut on Jul 18, 2015 17:54:49 GMT -5
I enjoyed my time in HS, but didn't go to my 10 year, it was at an inconvenient time.
Our 20th is this year, and I plan to go.
In June I attended a reception for four teachers who were retiring from my HS with a combined 160 years teaching experience between them. Over 400 people showed up to wish them well and thank them for the influence they had in their lives. I ran into several of my classmates there, and was able to find out what some others were up to. We've just started a class Facebook page this year.
We had 178 people in my graduating class, and I knew all of them, so it is a little different.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 18, 2015 18:19:32 GMT -5
I enjoyed my time in HS, but didn't go to my 10 year, it was at an inconvenient time. Our 20th is this year, and I plan to go. In June I attended a reception for four teachers who were retiring from my HS with a combined 160 years teaching experience between them. Over 400 people showed up to wish them well and thank them for the influence they had in their lives. I ran into several of my classmates there, and was able to find out what some others were up to. We've just started a class Facebook page this year. We had 178 people in my graduating class, and I knew all of them, so it is a little different. Mr. Holland's Opus x 4. "...There is not a life in this room that you have not touched, and each of us is a better person because of you. We are your symphony Mr. Holland. We are the melodies and the notes of your opus. We are the music of your life.".
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