The platinum wedding day!

[mmhmm]

Like dannylion, my family is boring. Grandson was married recently and not a hint of drama (other than the poor bride nearly passing out from the heat). Outdoor weddings do have their risks. Other than that little glitch, things went swimmingly.

From appearances, this wedding was overpriced, IMO. I just can't see where $50K went!

[zibazinski]

Jul 13, 2015 10:40:34 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Jul 13, 2015 10:35:01 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Are you kidding? She's worth millions. He will never leave her, he will just pray he outlives her.

They are both fairly young, right? That's a long time to wait for the First Savings and Loan of Spouse to cough up funds.

And she could disown him. Not commonly done, but she could write a will that leaves her money to someone else, or a charitable cause.

I just hope this does not turn into something you'd see on Investigation Discovery.

She married him with no prenup. As did the other two kids. All three spouses will hit the jackpot someday.

[zibazinski]

Jul 13, 2015 10:45:43 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

Like dannylion, my family is boring. Grandson was married recently and not a hint of drama (other than the poor bride nearly passing out from the heat). Outdoor weddings do have their risks. Other than that little glitch, things went swimmingly.

From appearances, this wedding was overpriced, IMO. I just can't see where $50K went!

I'll try to get ahold of that sheet with the figures on it.

[ArchietheDragon]

Jul 13, 2015 10:45:57 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Jul 13, 2015 10:40:34 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

They are both fairly young, right? That's a long time to wait for the First Savings and Loan of Spouse to cough up funds.

And she could disown him. Not commonly done, but she could write a will that leaves her money to someone else, or a charitable cause.

I just hope this does not turn into something you'd see on Investigation Discovery.

She married him with no prenup. As did the other two kids. All three spouses will hit the jackpot someday.

But they have already hit the jackpot of love. 

[zibazinski]

Yeah right. What they have done is mirror the marriages they've seen.  Thanks but no thanks.

[NancysSummerSip]

Jul 13, 2015 10:45:43 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

Like dannylion, my family is boring. Grandson was married recently and not a hint of drama (other than the poor bride nearly passing out from the heat). Outdoor weddings do have their risks. Other than that little glitch, things went swimmingly.

From appearances, this wedding was overpriced, IMO. I just can't see where $50K went!

I went to a wedding like that years ago. Outdoors in South Florida, ninety-plus degrees. Bride was almost eight months pregnant. Groom/baby daddy flipped out and left her when he found out she was pregnant, claiming he was never really over his previous girlfriend. Bride told him, "Good, get lost. I'm having this child with or without you." He wound up coming back and they got married. The reception was indoors - yes, indoors, in a building with A/C. Why, you ask, was the ceremony not indoors as well? I never did find out why. Would have made a heckuva lot of sense. It was a small building, but we could have sat in our luncheon seats, watched the ceremony and had lunch.

[swamp]

Jul 13, 2015 10:45:57 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Jul 13, 2015 10:40:34 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

They are both fairly young, right? That's a long time to wait for the First Savings and Loan of Spouse to cough up funds.

And she could disown him. Not commonly done, but she could write a will that leaves her money to someone else, or a charitable cause.

I just hope this does not turn into something you'd see on Investigation Discovery.

She married him with no prenup. As did the other two kids. All three spouses will hit the jackpot someday.

Nothing to put in the prenup. She doesn't have any money yet.

Inheritences are separate property as long as you keep them separate, and even if the prenup said it's separate, if she commingles it with joint funds, its presumed to be a gift.

I feel bad for your DH. It seems like lots of people are waiting around with their hands out waiting for him to die.

[swamp]

And I see how you can get a $50k wedding easy.   I got married in 2003 in a LCOLA and spent $13k, and it wasn't even that fancy. If I went with complete open bar at the reception, it would have been $20,000.  I didn't even have an expensive dress or a limo.

[zibazinski]

She didn't either. I've got to get ahold of those figures. No, there won't be any divorces. Spouses have waited too long for the payoff and now it's times two because there'll be money from their mom, too. When she dies.

[zibazinski]

Jul 13, 2015 11:42:36 GMT -5 swamp said:

Jul 13, 2015 10:45:57 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

She married him with no prenup. As did the other two kids. All three spouses will hit the jackpot someday.

Nothing to put in the prenup. She doesn't have any money yet.

Inheritences are separate property as long as you keep them separate, and even if the prenup said it's separate, if she commingles it with joint funds, its presumed to be a gift.

I feel bad for your DH. It seems like lots of people are waiting around with their hands out waiting for him to die.

Inheritances are supposed to be seperate property but a judge can simply award more assets to make up for not getting a piece of that pie too.

[swamp]

Jul 13, 2015 11:52:21 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Jul 13, 2015 11:42:36 GMT -5 swamp said:

Nothing to put in the prenup. She doesn't have any money yet.

Inheritences are separate property as long as you keep them separate, and even if the prenup said it's separate, if she commingles it with joint funds, its presumed to be a gift.

I feel bad for your DH. It seems like lots of people are waiting around with their hands out waiting for him to die.

Inheritances are supposed to be seperate property but a judge can simply award more assets to make up for not getting a piece of that pie too.

they can, but that's pretty rare.

[zibazinski]

I'm sure it will. Part of being successfully married is finding someone to put up with you.

[zibazinski]

I've got the price list. I can't post it right now bcuz I need to have my iPhone and iPad together and I've only got my phone.

[thyme4change]

Jul 13, 2015 10:50:54 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Jul 13, 2015 10:45:43 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

Like dannylion, my family is boring. Grandson was married recently and not a hint of drama (other than the poor bride nearly passing out from the heat). Outdoor weddings do have their risks. Other than that little glitch, things went swimmingly.

From appearances, this wedding was overpriced, IMO. I just can't see where $50K went!

I went to a wedding like that years ago. Outdoors in South Florida, ninety-plus degrees. Bride was almost eight months pregnant. Groom/baby daddy flipped out and left her when he found out she was pregnant, claiming he was never really over his previous girlfriend. Bride told him, "Good, get lost. I'm having this child with or without you." He wound up coming back and they got married. The reception was indoors - yes, indoors, in a building with A/C. Why, you ask, was the ceremony not indoors as well? I never did find out why. Would have made a heckuva lot of sense. It was a small building, but we could have sat in our luncheon seats, watched the ceremony and had lunch.

I went to a wedding in June in Phoenix - and the ceremony was outside.  Granted the view was gorgeous!  The bride said she always wanted to get married outside - so they did.  We all hung out inside and right before the ceremony, it was a race to get chairs, and it was a 15 minute ceremony, and we all had a bottle of water

[thyme4change]

LOL Miss Tequila.

A couple of years ago, I told my husband I was going to keep any money my parents left me separate, except when I wanted to spend it on "us."  He said "That's cool."  Either he really doesn't feel like he has a stake in my family's money, or he is thinking that if he is casual about it, I will let my guard down.  What do all y'all think?

[mollyanna58]

I thought Zib's DH was leaving everything to charity.

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Jul 13, 2015 10:41:41 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Jul 13, 2015 10:36:25 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Actually until both her parents die, she isn't worth millions. But his brothers sure are envious of his good fortune. 

That's like a good friend of mine that refers to his inlaws as his 401k plan. 

Or the one that calls them his insurance plan?

[zibazinski]

Jul 14, 2015 21:38:59 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

Jul 13, 2015 10:45:57 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

She married him with no prenup. As did the other two kids. All three spouses will hit the jackpot someday.

*Quote removed as quoted post has been removed. mmhmm, Administrator*

Yes, if by hitting the jackpot you mean I get to be a full time nurse, I sure hit it alright.

[zibazinski]

Here we go!

For 200 guests.
Ceremony 2645, site fee 1770, chairs including delivery fee 875
Reception site fee 6360(included tax) tent, tables, linens, catere fee 5697 food 14,188.60berverages 5,000 cake 1000
Music for ceremony, cocktail hour and dj 2200
Flowers 3000
Gown 3500
Photography 3000
Stationary 1964
Decorations, tips, marriage license fee 2840

[ArchietheDragon]

Jul 15, 2015 9:31:21 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Here we go!

For 200 guests.
Ceremony 2645, site fee 1770, chairs including delivery fee 875
Reception site fee 6360(included tax) tent, tables, linens, catere fee 5697 food 14,188.60berverages 5,000 cake 1000
Music for ceremony, cocktail hour and dj 2200
Flowers 3000
Gown 3500
Photography 3000
Stationary 1964
Decorations, tips, marriage license fee 2840

Not bad.   adds up quickly though. 

Caterer fee on top of the food is a little odd, though

[Cookies Galore]

Oh, she had 200 guests? Then I think that's in line. Wedding costs add up.

[Cookies Galore]

Jul 15, 2015 9:35:17 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Jul 15, 2015 9:31:21 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Here we go!

For 200 guests.
Ceremony 2645, site fee 1770, chairs including delivery fee 875
Reception site fee 6360(included tax) tent, tables, linens, catere fee 5697 food 14,188.60berverages 5,000 cake 1000
Music for ceremony, cocktail hour and dj 2200
Flowers 3000
Gown 3500
Photography 3000
Stationary 1964
Decorations, tips, marriage license fee 2840

Not bad.   adds up quickly though. 

Caterer fee on top of the food is a little odd, though

Service fee and taxes, possibly? Our reception for food and open bar was a bit over $12,000 (I think) and that didn't include gratuity/service fee, taxes, and other fees. There were also additions that added up.

[zibazinski]

You think that's a lot but then you realize that's really only 100 people, then their dates. Plus, she had to have kids in/at her wedding even though DH said NO or at least get babysitters for them.

[ArchietheDragon]

Jul 15, 2015 9:37:39 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Jul 15, 2015 9:35:17 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Not bad.   adds up quickly though. 

Caterer fee on top of the food is a little odd, though

Service fee and taxes, possibly? Our reception for food and open bar was a bit over $12,000 (I think) and that didn't include gratuity/service fee, taxes, and other fees. There were also additions that added up.

true.  that stuff can add up.  

[Miss Tequila]

Jul 15, 2015 9:24:06 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Jul 14, 2015 21:38:59 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

*Quote removed as quoted post has been removed. mmhmm, Administrator*

Yes, if by hitting the jackpot you mean I get to be a full time nurse, I sure hit it alright.

But you realize that people are probably judging you for marrying a sick man, knowing you will be inheriting his millions. I don't know you or your motives but I'm assuming you married him because you loved him. But you are the first one to question the motives of the people marrying into his family. I just don't get it

[Lizard Queen]

Jul 15, 2015 9:31:21 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Here we go!

For 200 guests.
Ceremony 2645, site fee 1770, chairs including delivery fee 875
Reception site fee 6360(included tax) tent, tables, linens, catere fee 5697 food 14,188.60berverages 5,000 cake 1000
Music for ceremony, cocktail hour and dj 2200
Flowers 3000
Gown 3500
Photography 3000
Stationary 1964
Decorations, tips, marriage license fee 2840

Damn!  Stationary??  WTF? Were the invitations made with gold-leaf? It's like, anywhere there might have been an opportunity to save money, the option to spend a lot more was chosen instead.  I guess it's cool, if you can afford it and all.  It just seems like you could get a lot more for that much money.

[zibazinski]

Well it includes postage and those save the date cards. Plus probably the programs and there was stuff outlining the weekend. Her mom rented a suite so I'm sure that got tucked in there as well as where she and her husband spent the night. Then her mom have a Sunday morning brunch, that's probably in there too, somewhere. Maybe even MOB dress. Who knows?

[zibazinski]

Jul 15, 2015 9:46:28 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

Jul 15, 2015 9:24:06 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Yes, if by hitting the jackpot you mean I get to be a full time nurse, I sure hit it alright.

But you realize that people are probably judging you for marrying a sick man, knowing you will be inheriting his millions. I don't know you or your motives but I'm assuming you married him because you loved him. But you are the first one to question the motives of the people marrying into his family. I just don't get it

He wasn't this damn sick when we first got together. I married him because HE wanted it. It made sense at the time because of all the hoopla about me making decisions for him while not being his spouse even though I had the legal papers designating me as his medical poa. Yet not one person has asked me to prove I'm his spouse so I could have easily just lied and said I was. Crap.

[NancysSummerSip]

Jul 15, 2015 9:31:21 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Here we go!

For 200 guests.
Ceremony 2645, site fee 1770, chairs including delivery fee 875
Reception site fee 6360(included tax) tent, tables, linens, catere fee 5697 food 14,188.60berverages 5,000 cake 1000
Music for ceremony, cocktail hour and dj 2200
Flowers 3000
Gown 3500
Photography 3000
Stationary 1964
Decorations, tips, marriage license fee 2840

I must have missed the decorations, because they sure did not show up in the photos.

Three grand for flowers? Whoa!

I don't know what to say about the food and beverage bill. You said the food wasn't good. Even if it was, and the liquor was top shelf, this bill would floor me.

And almost two grand for stationery? Was it the kind that has solid gold leaf or platinum edging on it?

Even for two hundred guests, I'm not getting the expense.

But you realize that people are probably judging you for marrying a sick man, knowing you will be inheriting his millions. I don't know you or your motives but I'm assuming you married him because you loved him. But you are the first one to question the motives of the people marrying into his family. I just don't get it

I could be wrong about the timing, but I though Zib and her DH had been together before he was sick. And without her being his wife, she'd have no way to be in the hospital with him, no way to monitor his care and his doctors would tell her nothing. Basically, unless she's his spouse, the medical field treats her as a stranger, regardless of how long they've been together.

OT: One of the underlying reasons the gay community pushed so hard for the legalization of gay marriage goes along these lines as well: longtime committed partners could not be allowed into the hospital rooms to take care of one another and get medical information when the other partner became ill. Unmarried partners are unwelcome and unwanted and are forced aside and let their loved ones suffer alone. I've never been a fan of this, and don't think marriage should be what it takes to solve it, regardless of sexual orientation.

Sorry, off the soapbox now.

[imawino]

Jul 15, 2015 9:31:21 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Here we go!

For 200 guests.
Ceremony 2645, site fee 1770, chairs including delivery fee 875
Reception site fee 6360(included tax) tent, tables, linens, catere fee 5697 food 14,188.60berverages 5,000 cake 1000
Music for ceremony, cocktail hour and dj 2200
Flowers 3000
Gown 3500
Photography 3000
Stationary 1964
Decorations, tips, marriage license fee 2840

None of that seems out of line. And I seem to recall you saying your husband was contributing, but not paying the whole thing. I hope he had a nice time at the wedding.