How Long it Too Long

[billisonboard]

To do something just for spite. (Inspired by the hoarders thread).

"Back in the day", Idaho issued a new license plate each year. My grandfather saved them for who knows how many years, nailed them up in his garage. When he had to move, he gave them all to my brother except for my birth year which he gave to me. I am pretty sure that my brother has his up in his garage with an open space for the one that is sitting in a box in my garage. This summer will be the thirtieth anniversary of my grandfather's move.

Anyone think I should send it to my brother?

[Cookies Galore]

Keep it forever!

Spite is a great reason to do things. A lot of people would like to see me eat meat again. Haven't eaten it for 18 years. Even if I wanted to get back on the meat wagon, I will never give anyone the satisfaction.

[Tiny]

No, he's probably already gotten a replacement via eBay or some other online venue so his 'wall of plates' is complete.   And if the plates all the same number he's probably smart enough (he IS related to you after all!)  to have purchased a selection of plates to intersperse with the originals so the one 'different' one doesn't stand out.

But, if you really want to go for 'spite' I'd suggest framing and displaying your plate promenantly and proudly in your home.  

Even better if you can work it into family photos that you post on line or use at Christmas time (as a Christmas Card).  

[yogiii]

I'm pretty sure I don't care enough to do stuff out of spite.  Either that or I'm the bitch and all the other people are spiting me and I'm not noticing.  Hmmm, both are viable options.

[Opti]

I'm not big on spite. I think its bad for your health. If your Grandpa

gave you the plate, why is spite even involved?

[NancysSummerSip]

Oh, I dunno. There's doing things out of simple spite, and then doing things to piss off people. It's a fine line. To me, doing something just for spite does not benefit me. I prefer to do something to piss off someone and make sure there is a benefit to me.

I've told this story before, but it's a good example of what I mean:

A few years ago, I ran in a local 5K. As I was coming into the last half-mile, I caught up to a woman running with a little girl who was perhaps seven or eight. As I caught up to them, the woman spotted me, poked the kid (who I assume was her daughter) and said, "Hurry up, run faster. You don't want the fat lady to beat you, do you?"

The fat lady outran them both. Kid was crying and mom was bitching at her at the finish line. I outran them because I could, which is not really spite. But it did piss off Not-Mom-Of-The-Year.

[Lizard Queen]

Have someone take a picture of your face next to the plate.  Put it in a frame roughly the size of a license plate and send that to your brother.

[Opti]

The fat lady outran them both. Kid was crying and mom was bitching at her at the finish line. I outran them because I could, which is not really spite. But it did piss off Not-Mom-Of-The-Year.

I'm sure it made her unhappy, but she likely remains obsessed on outside appearance

and will remain a bitch about it to her poor child. I hope it made you feel better, but sadly

nothing you would have done likely would have helped the kid. Some people are unnecessarily

mean to others because of their beliefs.

It is better to be nice than a perfect weight IMO.

[NancysSummerSip]

I did not say anything to her, though I felt bad for the kid, having Mommie Dearest for a parent.

[billisonboard]

Apr 8, 2015 12:30:53 GMT -5 Opti said:

I'm not big on spite. I think its bad for your health. If your Grandpa

gave you the plate, why is spite even involved?

Because it is just sitting in a box, I don't really have any attachment to it, and the only reason I haven't given it to him in the past is because he is a smug little shit who Mom always liked best.

[ken a.k.a OMK]

NancysSummerSip 

I was running a 5K that my company sponsors. I wasn't competitive, just having fun. Coming down the stretch I was looking at the clock. Then I heard someone behind me picking up his pace. It was our CEO. I decided he wasn't going to pass me in the last 30 yards and he didn't. 

[billisonboard]

Apr 8, 2015 12:41:52 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Oh, I dunno. There's doing things out of simple spite, and then doing things to piss off people. It's a fine line. To me, doing something just for spite does not benefit me. I prefer to do something to piss off someone and make sure there is a benefit to me.

I've told this story before, but it's a good example of what I mean:

A few years ago, I ran in a local 5K. As I was coming into the last half-mile, I caught up to a woman running with a little girl who was perhaps seven or eight. As I caught up to them, the woman spotted me, poked the kid (who I assume was her daughter) and said, "Hurry up, run faster. You don't want the fat lady to beat you, do you?"

The fat lady outran them both. Kid was crying and mom was bitching at her at the finish line. I outran them because I could, which is not really spite. But it did piss off Not-Mom-Of-The-Year.

My ex and I used to do organized bike rides. She had very specific "rules" on who was allowed to pass us and who couldn't. The rules were based on what type of bike the person was riding, the clothing they were wearing, and definition in their leg muscles. She would pretend she was really just joking about the rules. She wasn't. I did mention she is my ex, right?

[ken a.k.a OMK]

Apr 8, 2015 13:15:49 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Apr 8, 2015 12:30:53 GMT -5 Opti said:

I'm not big on spite. I think its bad for your health. If your Grandpa

gave you the plate, why is spite even involved?

Because it is just sitting in a box, I don't really have any attachment to it, and the only reason I haven't given it to him in the past is because he is a smug little shit who Mom always liked best.

 

[NancysSummerSip]

Apr 8, 2015 13:21:26 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Apr 8, 2015 12:41:52 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Oh, I dunno. There's doing things out of simple spite, and then doing things to piss off people. It's a fine line. To me, doing something just for spite does not benefit me. I prefer to do something to piss off someone and make sure there is a benefit to me.

I've told this story before, but it's a good example of what I mean:

A few years ago, I ran in a local 5K. As I was coming into the last half-mile, I caught up to a woman running with a little girl who was perhaps seven or eight. As I caught up to them, the woman spotted me, poked the kid (who I assume was her daughter) and said, "Hurry up, run faster. You don't want the fat lady to beat you, do you?"

The fat lady outran them both. Kid was crying and mom was bitching at her at the finish line. I outran them because I could, which is not really spite. But it did piss off Not-Mom-Of-The-Year.

My ex and I used to do organized bike rides. She had very specific "rules" on who was allowed to pass us and who couldn't. The rules were based on what type of bike the person was riding, the clothing they were wearing, and definition in their leg muscles. She would pretend she was really just joking about the rules. She wasn't. I did mention she is my ex, right?

OK, now that kind of thing would be spite. People like that make me want to just go up and poke a hole in their bike tires.

[NancysSummerSip]

Apr 8, 2015 13:20:02 GMT -5 ken a.k.a OMK said:

NancysSummerSip 

I was running a 5K that my company sponsors. I wasn't competitive, just having fun. Coming down the stretch I was looking at the clock. Then I heard someone behind me picking up his pace. It was our CEO. I decided he wasn't going to pass me in the last 30 yards and he didn't. 

And you kept your job, right?

[ken a.k.a OMK]

I was finishing a 10K once, minding my own business, when a lady (I use the term loosely) pushed me out of the way to get to the chutes before me. 

[The Captain]

Apr 8, 2015 13:15:49 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Apr 8, 2015 12:30:53 GMT -5 Opti said:

I'm not big on spite. I think its bad for your health. If your Grandpa

gave you the plate, why is spite even involved?

Because it is just sitting in a box, I don't really have any attachment to it, and the only reason I haven't given it to him in the past is because he is a smug little shit who Mom always liked best.

Be the better man and give it to him.  Then you'll be able to give him a smug little grin every time you see him

[Deleted]

I think you should keep it if you really want it. If only wanted for spite I would let your brother have it.

I have sort of a story like that with grandmas cookie cutters. I borrowed a few from her one year .

 They were ancient. I used them at Christmas , washed them and they were put  away with my other cutters. Maybe by DH, maybe me, I don't remember , but had every intention of getting them back to her before she needed them again.

Then she died. I had forgotten all about them by then.

Family went through grandmas house and started claiming everything. I could not bring myself to participate, too soon. I was not concerned about it either as she had made sure over the years to note the special things that family members would like after her death.

One cousin really loaded up I found out later and did not inform other family members of some of the things she found. All of these things sentimental value only but still some felt that they should have had at least known of them before taken by one cousin. You all know how it goes.

Next Christsmas down come the cookie cutters and there they are! I had completely forgotten about them , but felt a little smug I guess that I had gotten them. Still do.  Shame on me.

[NancysSummerSip]

Apr 8, 2015 13:25:04 GMT -5 ken a.k.a OMK said:

I was finishing a 10K once, minding my own business, when a lady (I use the term loosely) pushed me out of the way to get to the chutes before me. 

Now, if that had been me that she'd pushed, I would have pushed back. Knocked that beyotch over, too.

[NastyWoman]

Apr 8, 2015 12:47:32 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

Have someone take a picture of your face next to the plate.  Put it in a frame roughly the size of a license plate and send that to your brother.

Based on your description of him as "a smug little shit who mom always liked better" I suggest that you improve on LL's suggestion and have an annual picture of yourself taken (use a newspaper as proof of the date) and make that into a BD card.  Inside "It may be your BD, but I still have the best present from DGP".  Andf do it soon so as to get the most satifaction out of rubbing it in  

[NancysSummerSip]

Don't mention the meat wagon to Blue Robin. He will try to hijack it and take it to the Boom Boom Room all for himself.

[Opti]

Apr 8, 2015 13:15:49 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Apr 8, 2015 12:30:53 GMT -5 Opti said:

I'm not big on spite. I think its bad for your health. If your Grandpa

gave you the plate, why is spite even involved?

Because it is just sitting in a box, I don't really have any attachment to it, and the only reason I haven't given it to him in the past is because he is a smug little shit who Mom always liked best.

Your choice, but I'd choose to perceive it as someone I can give stuff to I don't want

that won't end up in a landfill right now. Do you really want keep this another 10 or 30 years?

[billisonboard]

Apr 8, 2015 14:52:42 GMT -5 Opti said:

Apr 8, 2015 13:15:49 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Because it is just sitting in a box, I don't really have any attachment to it, and the only reason I haven't given it to him in the past is because he is a smug little shit who Mom always liked best.

Your choice, but I'd choose to perceive it as someone I can give stuff to I don't want

that won't end up in a landfill right now. Do you really want keep this another 10 or 30 years?

I'm not sure. He is awfully smug.

[tskeeter]

Apr 8, 2015 14:57:39 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Apr 8, 2015 14:52:42 GMT -5 Opti said:

Your choice, but I'd choose to perceive it as someone I can give stuff to I don't want

that won't end up in a landfill right now. Do you really want keep this another 10 or 30 years?

I'm not sure. He is awfully smug.

I don't know how long is too long.  But a vindictive person would make DB the executor of their estate.  And then make a bequest that gives the license plate to another relative.  One who really doesn't care about the plate.  But who would never give it up. 

[Peace Of Mind]

I'm not a spiteful person.  I'm lazy and it takes too much energy.  It's much easier to just ignore people I don't much care for.   Keep it if you want it and get rid of it if you don't.    

[sesfw]

Send it to him.

Story ......... When a tornado went through Indiana many years ago it wiped out the home of DH's parents, and in cleaning up the rubble DH picked up an oil lamp that his older brother had studied by. DH kept it even though it rightfully should have gone to his brother.

When his brother was close to death last summer DH finally did the right thing and sent it to him.  It was clean and in good repair.  It was the right thing to do.

[Shooby]

Spite is like drinking poison and hoping that person dies.  Waste of time generally.  The best revenge has always and will always be living well.

[thyme4change]

I ran into a girl that hurt my feelings in 7th grade.  I think she wanted to make nice, I blew her off.  300 million people in the country - I don't need her.  Happy to say she got super fat.  

[Deleted]

DH's dad took his moms collection of mothers day plates she had gotten from the kids over the years when they split up.

[NoNamePerson]

I always figured "spite" would turn into "spit" and blow back on me