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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2015 12:28:15 GMT -5
What did you decide?
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Ombud
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Post by Ombud on Mar 1, 2015 12:42:46 GMT -5
The bidding war will begin soon. He was accepted to 2 schools without auditioning and they don't know about each other (1 within 5 days of applying but he was 1st chair for their conductor last series). Right now they are both within 5k of a free ride but we're waiting until the last 2 respond (1 sort of has since they extended an email to pick his dorm on their dime -- cross country / track or french horn but if horn they want the standard audition)
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2015 13:57:30 GMT -5
Woo! Hoo!
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2015 14:00:41 GMT -5
I'm paying a third of everything. At some point I will figure out what I spent and put that amount in a joint account with DS. The only reason I decided this was because her bio said he'd match anything I put in and I decided that this was such a miracle that I'm going to take advantage of it. I wonder if he does this so I don't go after him for back alimony and CS that he still owes. 8 years later.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2015 16:07:02 GMT -5
That's very generous of you Zib, if you can afford it (since you plan to give the same amount to both kids). I'm glad her dad is finally helping out, I hope he comes through. If I recall you just sold a rental, that's good timing! We definitely want to pay for undergrad, I'm not sure we feel the same about grad school, but I'm sure we'd want to contribute if we can. We have time to worry about it LOL (DS3 is in 11th grade) and the 3 others are done. Congrats to your DD, and to you!
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2015 18:06:24 GMT -5
If he doesn't come through, that will be the end of their relationship and his "thing" is to pretend he's a great dad and has a great relationship with the kids. His pride if she never speaks to him again won't allow it. He, of course, was hoping I wouldn't do anything. But no one except DH, you all, and my west coast family knows I sold a house. Timing is everything. Just because I got a few bucks to save, bye bye to it. The kids have no idea he owes me thousands of dollars. Not their business or their problem.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2015 18:17:13 GMT -5
Zib, it's a great thing to spend your money on LOL.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2015 18:22:40 GMT -5
That brat better buy me a periwinkle blue BMW convertible. It's a family joke. I need to remind her of it.
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 1, 2015 21:41:57 GMT -5
Zib, you could always tell DD that she needs to pay you half of what you put towards her education back and then turn around and give that money to DS. That way they both get the same amount from you and DS won't be "punished" for being the goid child. Just a thought...
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 2, 2015 9:53:31 GMT -5
That's an excellent idea! Thank you.
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Post by lynnerself on Mar 2, 2015 11:13:08 GMT -5
It looks like DD will have to shell out $500 today to hold her spot at her 2nd choice school. She has been accepted to her first choice contingent on her retaking some classes. She needs to make sure she has time to do that before class starts in the fall. She has not been able to talk to Someone from school number one, and the deadline to accept #2 is today.
She is fairly sure she can work out things with #1, and is upset at "throwing away" the $500. But needs to do this just in case.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 2, 2015 11:23:04 GMT -5
Yup, DD had to put down a grand. It's official now!
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Post by Ombud on Mar 2, 2015 16:25:04 GMT -5
Just found out that one of his top 3 needs a deposit. Guess we'll do it tonight. His current conductor called me to tell me. Probably doing it when he gets home from HS today as he's performing again tomorrow (wind symphony). At least they don't require an in-person audition (school will do that)
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Post by bean29 on Mar 2, 2015 16:40:22 GMT -5
DS just texted me that he has a Grant lined up for part of his tuition next semester. Apparently he gets more the better his GPA is so hopefully he will improve his GPA. Minimum is $1,000 and DD will be eligible for same Grant when she is a Sophomore.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2015 17:07:18 GMT -5
those of you that are pitting schools against each other for aid - are these big state universities (20k+ students)? I can't imagine that unless you're some prize winning national champion that they don't have enough talent in their application pool to just move to another candidate.
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Post by Ombud on Mar 2, 2015 17:19:16 GMT -5
In our case, yes.
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Post by lynnerself on Mar 4, 2015 16:44:45 GMT -5
DD was accepted to all 5 schools And she has been told she only needs to retake one class for her 1st choice school. So she didn't send money to any of the others. And in a side note, she got engaged this week end! (Her 1st choice school is in the city where her boyfriend fiance currently works.)
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