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Post by zibazinski on Dec 18, 2014 11:53:34 GMT -5
Not enough money out there to pay me for babysitting!!
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 18, 2014 11:54:34 GMT -5
My wife usually gives me $50 if I have to babysit my kids for the day while she is doing something.
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Post by giramomma on Dec 18, 2014 11:55:09 GMT -5
Sorry, I'm very snappy about sleep. If a certain acquaintance tells me one more time about how her kid sleeps 13 hours at night and takes a 3 hour nap every day, well, I may need to be committed to an insane asylum. I'm with you. My first two kids slept through the night (12 hours) between 10 and 12 weeks. The littlest felt sleep was optional for a year. DH and I switched off every other night. If it was my night, I slept for 3 hours, in two 1.5 hour chunks. If it was DH's night, I slept 5 hours, two 2.5 hour chunks. She's over 2.5 now, and it's only been recently that I've stopped waking up at 1, 2, or 3 in the morning. We are now finally to the point where we can leave her with someone other than my ILS. Shoot she cried when the ILs watched her up until she was 15 months or so. DH and I haven't been out alone past 6 pm in three years. We're going out to dinner by ourselves on Monday, and paying a babysitter to watch the kids. I am, pee in my pants excited over this. And, for the most part, sleep training would not help, because DD2's sleep or lack their of was all about her emotional needs. Sleep training doesn't fix anyone's emotional needs.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Dec 18, 2014 11:58:53 GMT -5
We pay the local in-home daycare rates for our babysitters that come to us, and we keep the fridge stocked with their favorite snacks ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png) It's about $250/wk for both kids ($150/wk for infant, $100/wk for toddler), or $50/day for both. Dear God, I pay closer to 100/ DAY for my toddler.
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Post by Firebird on Dec 18, 2014 12:06:40 GMT -5
The problem is when you're already paying $50 for the day to the closed center, paying another $50 is getting a little steep!
Agreed. Just the way it goes though. We're in that position this month.
Actually, I'm kind of pissed at her Thursday daycare right now because I got a call last Monday (after paying for all four Thursdays in December) saying that they would no longer be able to take her every Thursday because Babybird made one too many children and the DCP got written up for it.
They can still take her on an ad hoc basis (when someone cancels) and this won't matter for much longer, so whatever, but it's still annoying. I ended up booking her Friday daycare for today and last Thursday, so it didn't end up impacting us much but I did end up double paying those days.
We're lucky that we can easily roll with this kind of thing. I don't know what we would have done if we had one of her full time slots and she suddenly told us she couldn't have Babybird anymore and we didn't have a backup.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 18, 2014 12:07:02 GMT -5
We pay the local in-home daycare rates for our babysitters that come to us, and we keep the fridge stocked with their favorite snacks ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png) It's about $250/wk for both kids ($150/wk for infant, $100/wk for toddler), or $50/day for both. Dear God, I pay closer to 100/ DAY for my toddler. Welcome to KC ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) And I am betting my salary is probably 1/4th of yours as well. Haha!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 18, 2014 12:20:00 GMT -5
I paid $210 a week in 1983 for DS.
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Post by Firebird on Dec 18, 2014 12:22:36 GMT -5
Sounds pretty steep for the 80s. I think we get a pretty favorable deal now. It typically works out to around $1k/month but she gets undivided Nana attention for 60% of that time. Which is, of course, priceless ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Dec 18, 2014 12:25:42 GMT -5
Dear God, I pay closer to 100/ DAY for my toddler. Welcome to KC ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) And I am betting my salary is probably 1/4th of yours as well. Haha! Ahh the great midwest. Yeah, I think I paid closer to 1000/month for an infant in Missouri. Much more reasonable!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 18, 2014 12:27:27 GMT -5
My $210 a week was pretax taken out of my paycheck. HCOLA
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Post by Firebird on Dec 18, 2014 12:32:13 GMT -5
Ahh the great midwest. Yeah, I think I paid closer to 1000/month for an infant in Missouri. Much more reasonable!Why haven't we started the "I pay more in daycare so that means I love my child more than you love yours" argument yet? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/charmed.png)
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 18, 2014 12:33:12 GMT -5
Ahh the great midwest. Yeah, I think I paid closer to 1000/month for an infant in Missouri. Much more reasonable!Why haven't we started the "I pay more in daycare so that means I love my child more than you love yours" argument yet? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/charmed.png) Just because I"m sleep deprived doesn't mean I'm completely insane! ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/raspberries.png)
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Post by swasat on Dec 18, 2014 12:42:37 GMT -5
Ahh the great midwest. Yeah, I think I paid closer to 1000/month for an infant in Missouri. Much more reasonable!Why haven't we started the "I pay more in daycare so that means I love my child more than you love yours" argument yet? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/charmed.png) Ooh Ooh....lets do that! I am horribly bored. Plus we haven't had a 100 page discussion on hot topics in a while. So "I pay more in daycare so that means I love my child more than you love yours" will lead to... "I don't pay ANYTHING in daycare because I am SAHP so I am better!"
will lead to ..... "SAHP vs WOHP" (Wait, we just had that one. Scratch that!) will lead to..... "I feed all organic, homemade food food to my child vs your store bought food, so my kids are smarter"
will lead to ..... "I homeschool/public school vs your public school/homeschool, so of course I am better"
will lead to.... "Me and my child are STEM vs your liberal arts degrees"
![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/coffee.gif) Start please.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 18, 2014 12:48:51 GMT -5
![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahthat.gif) I'm pissed about ds preschool that my $280 is only covering 4 days, but I can blame that on picking a preschool in a public school. I'd lose my mind if my daycare center did that. why is it any different? I chose a preschool in the public school district, so we knew we were paying even for the days that school is closed. Pre-school is optional in my mind so we deal with it, and doesn't substitute for daycare since they only run 930-3. A perk in my mind of using a daycare facility (instead of an in home care daycare) is that you aren't scrambling for extra coverage. You're paying to have them available for the hours/days convenient for you.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 18, 2014 12:50:27 GMT -5
Ahh the great midwest. Yeah, I think I paid closer to 1000/month for an infant in Missouri. Much more reasonable!Why haven't we started the "I pay more in daycare so that means I love my child more than you love yours" argument yet? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/charmed.png) Ooh Ooh....lets do that! I am horribly bored. Plus we haven't had a 100 page discussion on hot topics in a while. So "I pay more in daycare so that means I love my child more than you love yours" will lead to... "I don't pay ANYTHING in daycare because I am SAHP so I am better!"
will lead to ..... "SAHP vs WOHP" (Wait, we just had that one. Scratch that!) will lead to..... "I feed all organic, homemade food food to my child vs your store bought food, so my kids are smarter"
will lead to ..... "I homeschool/public school vs your public school/homeschool, so of course I am better"
will lead to.... "Me and my child are STEM vs your liberal arts degrees"
![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/coffee.gif) Start please. Well that took the fun out of it. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) <Beth wanders off to go eat lunch.>
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 18, 2014 12:51:52 GMT -5
I chose a preschool in the public school district, so we knew we were paying even for the days that school is closed. Pre-school is optional in my mind so we deal with it, and doesn't substitute for daycare since they only run 930-3. A perk in my mind of using a daycare facility (instead of an in home care daycare) is that you aren't scrambling for extra coverage. You're paying to have them available for the hours/days convenient for you. But if you know you are paying by month, rather than by day, then you know if there is a holiday, you don't get a credit for that. If you have a contract in which you pay by the day, I would agree, that if they charged you for a day that you didn't go, that would be weak. For instance, we use a Jewish community center for day care. They are closed on certain holy days. We don't pay less in those months just because they are closed.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 18, 2014 12:57:06 GMT -5
I don't pay for any days in which my in-home daycare is closed, and it's closed very infrequently. That varies by the proprietor though. Some will require that you pay them for their vacation days, while others always have a back-up ready.
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Post by Firebird on Dec 18, 2014 12:59:18 GMT -5
If you have a contract in which you pay by the day, I would agree, that if they charged you for a day that you didn't go, that would be weak.
Yes and no. If it's the same day every week, that's pretty much the same as a weekly contract. That's what we (used to) have with both of our daycares. We pay them in advance for every Thursday and Friday, respectively, for that particular month. If those days are holidays, too bad for us. I'm more or less okay with that because we're holding a spot on their roster.
However, when we have an ad hoc relationship (like we're about to have again with the Thursday daycare) and she calls me to say she can take Babybird all the Mondays in January, and one is a holiday, I wouldn't pay her for that Monday. Just for the ones she was actually there.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 18, 2014 13:20:22 GMT -5
Isn't that odd? My daycare that I used closed when teachers were off and we didnt pay. That two weeks I got in my paycheck always paid for Christmas.
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Post by cronewitch on Dec 18, 2014 13:24:13 GMT -5
I wonder if I as an old women who never had kids and doesn't know anything about diapers and has never used a wipe could take care of a baby for a few hours. I was thinking if we get another generation I could go to the house for the night and watch the baby sleep. My niece said when her son was one she hadn't had a night of sleep in a year. So he is 18 now and if he had a baby I could go and watch the baby sleep once a week say from 7PM to 7AM night. Since the parents would be asleep I could change the baby or give it a bottle whatever woke it up and if it was sick or something I could wake them up. They could go to a movie or dinner and still be home in time to sleep all night. I don't know if we will get another generation but I wouldn't want to deal with a baby that walks just an infant like 2-11 months old.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Dec 18, 2014 13:26:21 GMT -5
Ahh the great midwest. Yeah, I think I paid closer to 1000/month for an infant in Missouri. Much more reasonable!Why haven't we started the "I pay more in daycare so that means I love my child more than you love yours" argument yet? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/charmed.png) I'm only a part time parent. I only love her half the time.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Dec 18, 2014 13:27:06 GMT -5
Isn't that odd? My daycare that I used closed when teachers were off and we didnt pay. That two weeks I got in my paycheck always paid for Christmas. We play flat rate. Vacations, Holidays, whatever. Irrelevant.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 18, 2014 13:28:12 GMT -5
Isn't that odd? My daycare that I used closed when teachers were off and we didnt pay. That two weeks I got in my paycheck always paid for Christmas. We play flat rate. Vacations, Holidays, whatever. Irrelevant. that is what I was getting at. Flat rate. Why couldn't I say it so succinctly?
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Post by yogiii on Dec 18, 2014 13:30:02 GMT -5
I wonder if I as an old women who never had kids and doesn't know anything about diapers and has never used a wipe could take care of a baby for a few hours. I was thinking if we get another generation I could go to the house for the night and watch the baby sleep. My niece said when her son was one she hadn't had a night of sleep in a year. So he is 18 now and if he had a baby I could go and watch the baby sleep once a week say from 7PM to 7AM night. Since the parents would be asleep I could change the baby or give it a bottle whatever woke it up and if it was sick or something I could wake them up. They could go to a movie or dinner and still be home in time to sleep all night. I don't know if we will get another generation but I wouldn't want to deal with a baby that walks just an infant like 2-11 months old. I think most new parents would consider that the most thoughtful gift.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 18, 2014 13:41:33 GMT -5
I chose a preschool in the public school district, so we knew we were paying even for the days that school is closed. Pre-school is optional in my mind so we deal with it, and doesn't substitute for daycare since they only run 930-3. A perk in my mind of using a daycare facility (instead of an in home care daycare) is that you aren't scrambling for extra coverage. You're paying to have them available for the hours/days convenient for you. But if you know you are paying by month, rather than by day, then you know if there is a holiday, you don't get a credit for that. If you have a contract in which you pay by the day, I would agree, that if they charged you for a day that you didn't go, that would be weak. For instance, we use a Jewish community center for day care. They are closed on certain holy days. We don't pay less in those months just because they are closed. Assuming I had the choice of that or another equally as good daycare center that only closed for the typical holidays I'm already off work (Christmas day, 4th of July, Labor day, etc). I would go with the center that didn't close for a random week here or there. Because its painfully expensive to have to pay a babysitter for a full day when I'm still paying a full months daycare bill. We pay $15 an hour for 2 kids, and $10 for 1. Thankfully we only have to pay for 1 day of babysitting this year over winter break because of how the holidays fall.
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Post by midjd on Dec 18, 2014 13:45:02 GMT -5
I wonder if I as an old women who never had kids and doesn't know anything about diapers and has never used a wipe could take care of a baby for a few hours. I was thinking if we get another generation I could go to the house for the night and watch the baby sleep. My niece said when her son was one she hadn't had a night of sleep in a year. So he is 18 now and if he had a baby I could go and watch the baby sleep once a week say from 7PM to 7AM night. Since the parents would be asleep I could change the baby or give it a bottle whatever woke it up and if it was sick or something I could wake them up. They could go to a movie or dinner and still be home in time to sleep all night. I don't know if we will get another generation but I wouldn't want to deal with a baby that walks just an infant like 2-11 months old. I think most new parents would consider that the most thoughtful gift. I agree. My mom and sister did that last year -- I think DD was about a month old, so it must have been around Christmas. DH and I got to sleep for about 6 hours straight and it was amazing.
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Post by bean29 on Dec 18, 2014 14:21:19 GMT -5
My MIL was our PDCP and it was wonderful. I paid her as if she was a day care provider. I always told her that I got paid for vacation, so she got paid for vacation too. I did this b/c I understood regular daycare centers charged this way, and the care my kids got from her was way beyond anything I would have gotten from anyone else.
My MIL cooked for my kids and washed their clothing and usually gave them baths too. To me, paying her made it her "job". I really think paying her made is a very enjoyable experience for her - she fed them (and us) and she spend money on them, buying them clothes etc (she really didn't spoil them with toys) and never felt taken advantage of.
When my MIL was on vacation, my Mother watched the kids. I did not pay my Mother, but both my Sister and I had our MIL's providing daycare and my Mom said she did not want to provide FT care, but enjoyed doing the backup care.
I guess I would just go with the flow - offer cash but if they will not accept then I would do GC's or take them out to dinner etc. To me, it is different to have someone babysit for a few days or a few weeks vs. daily. If someone is watching your kids on a daily basis, they have to rearrange their lives to make that work. You are paying them in consideration of that fact, if your Mom really does not want to be paid - then maybe just accept it as the gift it is.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 18, 2014 15:44:15 GMT -5
I wonder if I as an old women who never had kids and doesn't know anything about diapers and has never used a wipe could take care of a baby for a few hours. I was thinking if we get another generation I could go to the house for the night and watch the baby sleep. My niece said when her son was one she hadn't had a night of sleep in a year. So he is 18 now and if he had a baby I could go and watch the baby sleep once a week say from 7PM to 7AM night. Since the parents would be asleep I could change the baby or give it a bottle whatever woke it up and if it was sick or something I could wake them up. They could go to a movie or dinner and still be home in time to sleep all night. I don't know if we will get another generation but I wouldn't want to deal with a baby that walks just an infant like 2-11 months old. This would be an awesome gift! I've heard of people hiring night nannies before. I would seriously consider it if I knew that A wouldn't scream for me anyway. Basically it's someone who stays overnight and keeps the monitor nearby to wake up with the baby. I can imagine this would be a good job for a college student who may be up studying most of the evening anyway.
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