NomoreDramaQ1015
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 6, 2014 9:02:43 GMT -5
Meh, I don't think I "missed out" on anything in my 20's. To be honest from what I witnessed around me I didn't really WANT to partake. I don't party, I don't drink and I've never been much interested in dating so I didn't have a lot in common with my peers.
I miss some things about my 20's. I don't regret taking out $5k more in student loans and going to Borneo for 3 weeks. That's not likely to happen again anytime soon because I have responsibilities now and no easy access to "free" money anymore.
Sometimes I miss the lack of responsibility to anyone but myself. It gets frustrating sometimes to have to constantly keep three other people in mind.
I also feel awkward sometimes when DH hangs out with his friends and they talk about all the stupid stuff they did in their teens/20s and I don't have any stories of my own to share.
That being said I look at some of my friends that are still stuck in 20's mode and I am glad I left it all behind. There was so much freaking drama in my early 20's. I like not having to worry about making gas last till my next payday. I like having a stable job and having a family. I am also much more comfortable in my own skin because feeling the need to have to conform or "impress" people is behind me.
You're single Phoenix so you can do a lot of things that people tied down with family can't. Instead of sitting around wondering if you missed out why don't you get moving on making your 30's the "best decade ever?"
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Nov 6, 2014 9:27:29 GMT -5
Tomorrow is the best day of my life.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Nov 6, 2014 9:31:38 GMT -5
Tomorrow is the best day of my life. (Pssst, Archie. Sorry to have to tell you this. You must have missed the memo. Tomorrow has been cancelled.)
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sesfw
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Post by sesfw on Nov 6, 2014 10:07:52 GMT -5
So, did I miss out on my 20's, on something amazing?
You won't know the answer to this until you are in your 50s and can see a broader picture. Try not to worry about it. It's life.
My 20th b-day is was pg with DD. Don't remember anything about my 30th. 40 was a b-day party lunch at work. 50 was 'dang, am I this old so soon?'. 60 bypassed me and 70 DH took me for a hot air balloon ride and a buffet breakfast. Haven't gotten to 75 yet, less than 2 years.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Nov 6, 2014 10:22:43 GMT -5
I had a lot of fun in my 20s. Like, a serious A LOT OF FUN. I look back fondly at some of the good times, but I think I also block out all the bs and not so fun times. I'm 33 and I feel like something switched on when I turned 30, because I am happier, more confident, more self-aware, more thoughtful, more responsible, just more "more."
The only thing I regret is I didn't travel enough when I was young and dumb. But I'm fixing that!
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Nov 6, 2014 10:26:42 GMT -5
I want the confidence I have now with the body I had in my early 20's.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 6, 2014 10:29:11 GMT -5
I was too busy working and owning a home to enjoy my twenties. My thirties were much better. My forties and fifties were tough but now, at almost sixty, I'm hoping for nirvana.
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sesfw
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Post by sesfw on Nov 6, 2014 10:40:37 GMT -5
I'm hoping for nirvana.
Stuff dreams are made of.
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Post by cael on Nov 6, 2014 10:44:40 GMT -5
So. I turned 30 almost 2 years ago now ( ) and I decided I was going to make 30 my bitch. I did - I traveled, did some music related things (which forced me to get over some anxiety), got a tattoo, and had a generally super good year. My 20s weren't bad, I just really thought my 30s could be great, so I wanted to start them out well. 30 is the new 20 after all you'll be just fine!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Nov 6, 2014 10:46:56 GMT -5
My 30's were the best. So far, my 40's suck balls.
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Post by cktc on Nov 6, 2014 11:28:37 GMT -5
I did a lot of fun and exciting things in my 20s, but I can think of nothing more depressing than the notion that my best years are behind me.
I’m 31 now and I still have an abundance of dreams and plenty of time.
Happy birthday and welcome to the dirty thirties!
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Post by Firebird on Nov 6, 2014 11:57:09 GMT -5
Happy birthday, Phoenix.
My 20s were awesome because I was learning who I was. And yes, I had a lot of fun and I'll always cherish the fun and freedom of my early-twenties independence.
But I'm not sorry they're coming to a close (I'll be 29 in February). I'm actually very excited for my 30s and 40s. My kid will be getting older and more fun, we'll finally move to a place we want to live and start settling down. Maybe have another kid. I'm pretty stoked to see what life has in store for me next.
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Post by Angel! on Nov 6, 2014 12:36:00 GMT -5
My twenties? Like, wow man, how am I supposed to remember them?
let me count the Grateful Dead shows attended.... does that help?
But seriously, they were good. High times, not so high times. I remember turning 30 and thinking that this was no big deal at all, why do people make it one? In so many ways life really is only beginning at 30- so much exciting stuff ahead!
I will say, in my 50's, I marvel at just how much energy I had. Up all day, up all night, you go back, Jack, do it again.... Wow. I'm not sure why, but I always thought you were much younger.
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Post by cronewitch on Nov 7, 2014 2:55:51 GMT -5
My 20s weren't my best years either. I was married before I turned 20, lived in tiny apartments. went to school, worked low paid work. Tried to get pregnant and failed. Worked boring assistant bookkeeping job. Thirty is the beginning of adulthood in full, career is away from entry level, income growing, cars not breaking down as much being on a job more than a year or two not a miracle. After 34 was really good, divorced, more money, perfect health, dating a lot, beautiful apartment and soon a house and my very own ISO to have fun with. 40s were great, way better job, bigger house, lots of long weekends camping and fishing. 50s not so good lost good job, couple of bad years then new job was too much work no time for vacations but saving money. 60s so far not bad first half still working too hard but now retired, finally free, as much vacation as I want. I am spending 3 day weekend with ISO at his house starting tomorrow and if I decided to stay 4 day I could just call my handyman and tell him not to come Monday.
Happy Birthday 30 is good do something remarkable this decade.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Nov 7, 2014 8:59:46 GMT -5
30's are definitely the best - you still have plenty of energy but also more income and stability to do all those fun things. So far the 40's aren't bad either, but it's not as "youthful" as the 30's that's for sure. I'm finding that the 40's hurt. Unfortunately, so of that is the effect of all the fun I had in my 20's.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Nov 7, 2014 22:08:10 GMT -5
You guys are probably right. Dealing will all this crap at work has been hard, but it's also kind of given me a piece of mind that I haven't had before. The fact that I've dealt with it and come back stronger again makes me start to think I can overcome life's challenges.
I think I should focus on expanding my horizons. Start trying new hobbies and traveling on my own. I actually have money and vacation time now, something I never really had until I was 27. Might as well make the most of it.
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Post by morrisr2d2 on Nov 8, 2014 18:22:25 GMT -5
Age is honestly a number. Just look forward and live your dreams. I just turned 40 and am loving life. I was nerdy in my teens and twenties and at 40 now feel fully mature and self confident. I am also getting in the best shape of my life and hitting the weights hard, at 40!! Something guys in their twenties usually do. And I have financial security and very secure in who I Am. 40s and beyond will be great, just have to work at keeping my heath top notch. And my 86 year old grandma likes to remind me how young I am. It's all perspective. But yes I do remember being in my 20s thinking how old 40 was!
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Nov 8, 2014 18:39:36 GMT -5
I love my 20's... I traveled to Europe most summers, did whatever I wanted, yet still held a job and went to school. I packed up and moved across the country because I felt like it. I had amazing energy and stamina and I just had a freaking blast. I freaked about turning 30... I also got married at 30. Now, at 34... I feel old. In comparison to my 20s... My life is insanely boring! I haven't yet found the balance between being the free spirit who followed her every whim and the responsible married 30 something. We have 8pm dinner reservations tonight with friends... I am whining because 8pm feels really late for some reason. My 20 something self needs to come kick my ass.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Nov 8, 2014 18:44:24 GMT -5
I love my 20's... I traveled to Europe most summers, did whatever I wanted, yet still held a job and went to school. I packed up and moved across the country because I felt like it. I had amazing energy and stamina and I just had a freaking blast. I freaked about turning 30... I also got married at 30. Now, ait 34... I feel old. In comparison to my 20s... My life is insanely boring! I haven't yet found the balance between being the free spirit who followed her every whim and the responsible married 30 something. We have 8pm dinner reservations tonight with friends... I am whining because 8pm feels really late for some reason. My 20 something self needs to come kick my ass. Sent from my Nexus 10 But 8 is late!! I used to go out at 10 p.m. if you made me do that now, I'd cry.
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GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Nov 8, 2014 18:53:04 GMT -5
I'm older than both of you. We don't eat dinner most week nights before 8.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Nov 8, 2014 19:37:42 GMT -5
I love my 20's... I traveled to Europe most summers, did whatever I wanted, yet still held a job and went to school. I packed up and moved across the country because I felt like it. I had amazing energy and stamina and I just had a freaking blast. I freaked about turning 30... I also got married at 30. Now, ait 34... I feel old. In comparison to my 20s... My life is insanely boring! I haven't yet found the balance between being the free spirit who followed her every whim and the responsible married 30 something. We have 8pm dinner reservations tonight with friends... I am whining because 8pm feels really late for some reason. My 20 something self needs to come kick my ass. Sent from my Nexus 10 But 8 is late!! I used to go out at 10 p.m. if you made me do that now, I'd cry. Exactly! But I also never slept 8 hours unless I was sick. I could drink all night and roll into work a few hours later... Multiple times a week. I suppose I am paying for that now. Plus... I am hungry now! Sent from my HTC One_M8 using proboards
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Nov 8, 2014 19:40:52 GMT -5
I'm older than both of you. We don't eat dinner most week nights before 8. Eating dinner at home at 8pm and having an 8 pm dinner reservation for a party of 6 are vastly different. Eating at home at 8- I am done in 15 or so minutes. 8pm reservation out with a party of 6... That could easily have us leaving at 10pm. 10 is usually my bedtime! LOL Edit to add... We didn't get out until 11pm. Zzzzzzzz Sent from my HTC One_M8 using proboards
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Post by Firebird on Nov 10, 2014 11:29:41 GMT -5
Every time DH and I go out for a date night, we're all excited to have the whole evening for a nice long dinner, some drinks, whatever... then at least one of us taps out by 9 or 10pm. AND we wake up hideously early. That part is even more annoying. We took a weekend trip alone a couple of weeks ago - as usual, I was all excited to sleep in and then I wake up around 4:45 to find DH awake and fresh as the morning dew wanting to go get breakfast
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Post by greeniis10 on Nov 10, 2014 13:47:52 GMT -5
Every time DH and I go out for a date night, we're all excited to have the whole evening for a nice long dinner, some drinks, whatever... then at least one of us taps out by 9 or 10pm. AND we wake up hideously early. That part is even more annoying. We took a weekend trip alone a couple of weeks ago - as usual, I was all excited to sleep in and then I wake up around 4:45 to find DH awake and fresh as the morning dew wanting to go get breakfast That is DH and I exactly. Tomorrow night DS2 and I are going out of town for a concert and driving home afterwards. I've already taken 1/2 of Wed. off, but I'm certain it will take me at least through the weekend to fully recover.
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