cronewitch
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Post by cronewitch on Sept 17, 2014 17:04:19 GMT -5
I would apply then invite son to come or not. Assuming he hated the idea of missing his Senior year, prom, graduation etc I would let him stay with family. Then I would expect him to come for Christmas vacation, summer and the next Christmas. If he was coming with I would look at his schooling, can he home school or would he go local and which language would his school be, can he go to the college he could if he didn't move?
My choice for son would be home school one of those K-12 online schools make him responsible for education. Then he isn't tied to the same location all the time. You go set up housekeeping then he comes a month or two at a time. Let him bicycle around Europe next summer, take train rides go to museums and theaters but return home to go to prom and keep up with his friends or be in a play. With texting and computers he might not feel so far from home and have plenty of adventures to tell the others about.
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Tennesseer
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Post by Tennesseer on Sept 17, 2014 20:35:08 GMT -5
If you found a job opening in Europe that you thought would be perfect for you, would you apply? What if... You still had a child in school? There was a language requirement, but you weren't as fluent as you'd like to be pre-interview? It was a huge paycut (but with increased benefits that made the cuts much easier to take)? You did not lose your current benefits (amount of vacation/sick time, pension, retirement "401k")? Just curious Go for it and don't sweat the small stuff.
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Apple
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Post by Apple on Sept 17, 2014 20:42:21 GMT -5
Bonny -- good point about the taxes, I honestly have no clue. However, if I make it to an interview I'll definitely ask.
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Apple
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Post by Apple on Sept 17, 2014 20:47:40 GMT -5
My choice for son would be home school one of those K-12 online schools make him responsible for education. Then he isn't tied to the same location all the time. You go set up housekeeping then he comes a month or two at a time. Let him bicycle around Europe next summer, take train rides go to museums and theaters but return home to go to prom and keep up with his friends or be in a play. With texting and computers he might not feel so far from home and have plenty of adventures to tell the others about. I've been thinking something like this too. Homeschooling would make it possible for him to come and go. I also look at it like being a foreign exchange student. If he wanted to do foreign exchange, I would back him 200%. I'd be fine with sending him to a foreign country to live with strangers. So, if that's the case, I should be able to leave him home with family, shouldn't I? As far as it being one year or two... I would not have him move this year, he's already auditioned for one play and looking forward to the musical this spring. Also, the government tends to move pretty slowly, so it may not even be close to being an issue by the time the interview and hiring process was over.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 17, 2014 20:59:19 GMT -5
It's been my dream to live in Europe since college so I know I would go for it.
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Apple
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Post by Apple on Sept 18, 2014 10:18:04 GMT -5
As for moving, I found this: So, moving would be covered. My guess is that the housing would be much smaller than what I currently have, so I would just bring the things I enjoy most and things I'd have to have anyway (a bed, etc) so I'm not forced to purchase new once there. I don't have a ton of sentimental stuff, but I'd want to take the glider chair I got when DS was born, my hippo (a foot stool that belonged to my grandparents), my turtle (same story as hippo), the beds and my old dresser. DS's military memoribilia would either come with us or go into my parent's attic. If there was room, I have a player piano I really don't want to get rid of, but if I had to I'd see if the old hotel it came from would want it back in their ball room (it had been offered in the past but then owners didn't want it, it's a beautiful old hotel in a ghost town, still in operation, at least seasonally). Oh, and my coffee and kitchen table, because they are both awesome (coffee table is an old dog hatch from a Liberty or Victory ship, and kitchen table is a beefy teak table from reclaimed lumber--it's gorgeous, with hand made teak chairs). Coffee table is similar to this one, but I like mine better.
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