Artemis Windsong
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Sept 11, 2014 10:55:47 GMT -5
I would have turned and ran like h*ll away from the man who was my first husband. Me too. I was 18 when I met him so would like to be just before that. I was working in a factory and just getting started in life. He was too old for me and controlled me too much. Life was much better post divorce. I would have saved my money and taken a class or two in accounting as I could afford them and tried to land an office job. I have different ideas on housing now than then, I didn't believe owning a home was a good thing, rent was cheaper. I would like to have know about inflation and compound interest. All we wanted was to be loved and feel loved. That leads to huge mistakes.
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ginpin
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Post by ginpin on Sept 11, 2014 22:21:36 GMT -5
I wouldn't change anything in my life, even though I am divorced. I love my kids and couldn't imagine life without them. However, I would go back and tell my mom to not quit her good job. She would be in a much better place today if she had stayed there.
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ginpin
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Post by ginpin on Sept 11, 2014 22:25:58 GMT -5
Yes, if I could retain present knowledge, I would go back to age 6 and start over. I would not go to 5 because I was sick and spent a year in bed, but definitely would go at age 6. There is a book called Replay, dealing with this. Fiction. Came out in 1998 by Ken Grimwood . There is a frou-frou romance novel by Jude Deveraux called 'The Summerhouse'. It is about three women who are able to live two weeks in their past, knowing what they know now, and after the two weeks they could either keep things the way the are currently, live with any changes and remember that they went back, or live with any changes and forget that they went back. It was pretty good!
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Opti
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Post by Opti on Sept 11, 2014 22:35:20 GMT -5
If you could turn back the clock to relive any period of your life, would you, and if so, what period of your life would it be? I'd have to think on that a bit. If I could only relive it as it happened, but enjoy it more there are several periods from my marriage especially some trips I'd like to re-experience like the 10 days we spent in Scotland plus northern England.
Definitely the whole time I was with almost husband #2. I'm wiser and more experienced now. I'd see things with better eyes and heart than I did then. (1994-2000, so 34-40 yrs. old)
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Opti
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Post by Opti on Sept 11, 2014 22:39:32 GMT -5
Actually I'd like to re-experience any week between 1985 and 2003 and relish the money, choices of groceries and non-home-cooked food I indulged in.
<Visions of Walnut Acres hash dance in my head along with XBF's gifts of lots of McD food the first 6 months we dated. > << And being able to take paid sick days... memories. >
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Sept 11, 2014 22:51:32 GMT -5
Changing anything in the past would only alter everything else that led to this point in your life.
You can remember and reminisce the good times, and mourn or regret the bad times or bad decisions you made.
About all we can do is make adjustments now not to repeat anything you regret from your past.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 12, 2014 7:59:05 GMT -5
I'd still like to go back with the wisdom I have now. My acceptance of the fact that my mother was incapable of loving me or anyone but herself would have saved me a lot of heartache and bad relationships. I might not have had the kids I had of course but I'd have had other kids or not, and still have made a good and happier life for myself.
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Post by nutty on Sept 12, 2014 8:10:28 GMT -5
Nothing, everything I have done has lead me to the place I am in. It has shaped me, I learn from my mistakes, I do not dwell on coulda, shoulda, woulda.
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