Someone make me feel better.

[973beachbum]

I am having a really rough week.  My Mom was hospitalized for a bowel obstruction on Saturday.  It was caused by scar tissue from some surgeries in the 80's and although she seemed to be much better on Sunday they think there is another blockage so is still in the hospital with an NG tube and suction.

In case that isn't stressful enough this was the last big weekend of summer which is a big deal around here.  So school doesn't start till thursday but the grocery store had me working all weekend and every night this week. 

And just to top it off they aren't laying me off this winter.   What the hell did I do to deserve that?!?!

[movingforward]

So sorry about your mom. Wishing the best to you both.  Can you possibly just quit your part-time job for the winter and get another one in the spring? 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

What the hell did I do to deserve that?!?!

You're breathing? It doesn't take a lot to be a good store clerk. Stop breathing and see if they lay you off.

Sorry about your mom. Can't help you feel better though because I had a crappy weekend as well.

[giramomma]

I'm sorry..I hope things turn around for the both of you soon.

[ArchietheDragon]

You are sooooo good looking. 

[973beachbum]

Sept 2, 2014 13:10:49 GMT -5 movingforward said:

So sorry about your mom. Wishing the best to you both.  Can you possibly just quit your part-time job for the winter and get another one in the spring? 

That is probably what I'm going to do but I feel jipped.  They promised me this was summer only and I couldn't stay after Sept.

My real job is only about 30-35 hours a week.  So I thought this would be no problem adding 15-20 there.  Man did I underestimate the amount they would work me!  That or I overestimated the abilities of my almost 50 year old body.

The YM part is I took home almost $6000 this summer and saved almost every penny.  Does that earn me any YM brownie points?

[973beachbum]

The hardest part for me right now is probably that when I am having a rough time and need to vent I call my mom.

[movingforward]

The YM part is I took home almost $6000 this summer and saved almost every penny. Does that earn me any YM brownie points?

Yes. Yes, it does.  Working two jobs is rough.  I didn't mind it at all in my 20s (worked two jobs from age 22 - 28) but doing it now would be hard.  to you for doing it!

[Wisconsin Beth]

While we're not the same as your mom, we're here for you to vent to. 

Hugs and best wishes to you and your mom. 

[whoisjohngalt]

Sept 2, 2014 13:21:26 GMT -5 973beachbum said:

The hardest part for me right now is probably that when I am having a rough time and need to vent I call my mom.

I am so so sorry

I talk to my mom daily, so know how you feel. 

I hope your mom recovers quickly!

[saveinla]

Sorry about your mom beach. Hope she gets better soon.

You did such a great job, that they could not let you go 

[NancysSummerSip]

Sept 2, 2014 13:07:59 GMT -5 973beachbum said:

I am having a really rough week.  My Mom was hospitalized for a bowel obstruction on Saturday.  It was caused by scar tissue from some surgeries in the 80's and although she seemed to be much better on Sunday they think there is another blockage so is still in the hospital with an NG tube and suction.

In case that isn't stressful enough this was the last big weekend of summer which is a big deal around here.  So school doesn't start till thursday but the grocery store had me working all weekend and every night this week. 

And just to top it off they aren't laying me off this winter.   What the hell did I do to deserve that?!?!

Aw, Beach.

I wondered why the grocery store was a zoo last week. School started, and it was like the parents had never, ever shopped before, and never would again.

I'd ask the store to limit your winter hours. No, actually, I might tell them to limit your winter hours. Money is nice, but pointless if you are too stressed to deal with life.

[dannylion]

Sorry to year about your Mom, Beach.  Sending good thoughts for a speedy recovery.

The store probably doesn't want to lose a good worker.  Negotiate for fewer hours, if they won't agree, then just quit.

I try to avoid all shopping during the last week of August and the first week of September. The stores seem to be filled with frantic parents and desperately unhappy children.

[zibazinski]

Trouble is you're reliable and that's rare. So they keep you and add hours.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Why not just quit if you're tired of working at the supermarket and feel you've saved enough money?

I quit my last server position. I was working here full time and then speeding off to work there. It got to be too much for me. I decided I needed to devote myself to my full time job instead of trying to split my attention.

Servers are a transient population nobody expected me to stay forever. Supermarket tellers are the same way, nobody expects long term loyalty. If you want to leave there is another body waiting in line to take your place.

I leave it off my resume because it has nothing to do with the type of full time jobs I want and was a six month short term gig.  The only time I include it is if an application requires my entire work history and they say they'll validate it via background check.

Otherwise I've never had anybody say anything about it, it's not relevant unless I am trying to get another server position.

They really didn't want me to leave but I didn't owe them anything anymore than they owed me. I left on good terms and if I ever want to come back they're happy to accept me.

[Deleted]

Aw I'm sorry Beach. I hope your mom turns the corner. 

If you start skipping shifts they'll probably lay you off ... 

[Deleted]

Sept 2, 2014 13:21:26 GMT -5 973beachbum said:

The hardest part for me right now is probably that when I am having a rough time and need to vent I call my mom.

Hope your mom gets well soon.  Prayers to both of you.

I lost my mom a year and a half ago.  I still need to vent to her, and tell her things, and show her clothes that I bought, etc. etc.

And then I remember that I can't do that anymore...............

[souldoubt]

To put things in perspective a friend of a friends parent just got killed by a suspected drunk driver.  Mid 50's and gone without the slightest warning.  Generally when it's something health related families get to prepare or say good bye but not in this case.  Right now I'm a fan of the 'any day above ground is a good one' mantra considering how quick it can all be over.    

[busymom]

I agree that it's a sign you're a good employee when a temp job magically turns into a permanent position. Only you can decide if you wish to quit, or make some additional $$$.

Sorry to hear about your Mom. We hope she's out of the hospital & feeling better soon!

[Nazgul Girl]

   Sorry to that your mother is going through this difficult time, beachbum.   I hope for a quick and good recovery for her.   

   Hopefully, you'll be happy to have the job at some point this winter , but I hope you find one more to your liking.

[Opti]

Sorry to hear about your Mom Beach, but hopefully soon she'll be

fixed up and better than when she went in.

Sounds like you've been working considerably more than 20 hours

a week at the grocery store. Do what works for you. Quit, request a

ceiling of 15 hours a week or less...

 whatever.

Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

[ZaireinHD]

smiling?
cute enough to get a little smile?

[Jaguar]

973beachbum ~

[taz157]

Sept 2, 2014 13:34:15 GMT -5 saveinla said:

Sorry about your mom beach. Hope she gets better soon.

You did such a great job, that they could not let you go 

[mamasita99]

Hoping for a successful recovery for your mom, and try to take this week in baby steps. Heck, it's already Wednesday!

[Miss Tequila]

Sorry about your mom

If you hate the part time job, why not just quit?

[MarleyKeezy78]

Awww Beach  Hope your mom is feeling better soon! And I would just tell the store no. No need for all the added stress

[greeniis10]

Any update on your mom, beach?  I hope she is improving.  Sorry for all your stress.  Hang in there and vent away here!

[973beachbum]

Thanks for the good wishes all!  She is doing a little better.  they took out the tube and suction this morning and she was walking around some.  She still can't eat though because the tube irritated her stomach so she is having trouble holding food down.  Hopefully that will improve as well.

As far as the part time job yes it is the grocery store @tbird and I was very much looking forward to a winter of being laid off.   It was always supposed to be a summer only position.  I knew they would tire me out this summer but never did I think there were be bunches of weeks where I was there over 35 hours.   I did it knowing it would end right after labor day.  It was just so surprising to see my name still on the schedule.  I was literally talking out loud to the schedule asking "what the hell do you mean I'm working next week?".

We are a very feast or famine area for work.  During the summer our population in the entire county goes from 90,000 during the off season to over a million in the summer on weekends.  So the good news is the store doesn't have the business to schedule me like this in the winter.  I will say that although I don't envision my kids growing up to be a frozen food clerk most of them are very nice and hard working people.  I can honestly say there aren't a bunch of ignorant slackers running around the place. 

I am probably going to give them a new availability sheet that has very reduced hours available on it.  My kid is going to college not summer camp so there is probably no amount I could possibly make that would be more than I could use.   As long as my hours stay under 15 it is a nice PT job and the people are very nice and close by.  If it breaks 20 more than one week in a row I will put in my notice and say sorry it was nice but I just can't do this.

[ZaireinHD]

cool plan - don't wait til the part time stresses out of first then quit.
Quit before the part time stresses you out.

and here are some cookies to keep at the register!


cheer up!