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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 21, 2014 9:46:37 GMT -5
Good luck!
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Post by giramomma on Jun 24, 2014 5:42:03 GMT -5
Thanks all. DH just checked his email.
Didn't get the job. I'm sad for him, frustrated, and a little relieved.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2014 5:50:29 GMT -5
Sorry to hear.
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 24, 2014 13:58:17 GMT -5
Oh geez I'm so sorry.
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Post by Opti on Jun 24, 2014 13:59:24 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that. It sounded like his odds were good.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 24, 2014 14:03:15 GMT -5
Sorry Gira.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 24, 2014 14:18:27 GMT -5
Sorry Gira.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 24, 2014 15:00:20 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that. It sounded like his odds were good. Yeah, I thought so too. Problem is DH is too stubborn to work with someone like an interview coach to see what he can improve upon. He's always had problems getting jobs after college. I don't know why. I think there is something funky with his interviewing. I don't understand it, because I interview well. I've always gotten every job I've interviewed for.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2014 17:10:49 GMT -5
I'm sorry Gira. Maybe if your DH is disappointed about this too he would be more open to exploring this? Why are you relieved? Because of the logistics?
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Post by giramomma on Jun 24, 2014 19:33:36 GMT -5
I'm sorry Gira. Maybe if your DH is disappointed about this too he would be more open to exploring this? Why are you relieved? Because of the logistics? I wish. Let's just say this isn't the first time he's been turned down. Eventually, he'll need both hands and a foot to start counting how many jobs he's had interviews for and then not gotten the job. To be fair though, this is a job with the public sector. So, he's pretty certain that for some of the jobs he's applied for, someone was already identified as the person they were going to hire, but went through the motions of interviewing other folks, even though they didn't have any intentions of entertaining the other candidates. It's how I got my job. It's how one of my co-workers got her job. It's how other folks where my DH works got their job. And, well, you can't fight that even with a good interview. And the politics. He was set to take on another temporary job for 6 weeks when I was on maternity leave with the littlest. DH's direct supervisor approved everything. The supervisor above the direct supervisor said no. Just because she didn't want to share DH with another unit. And that was the end of it. DH is super stubborn about how he interviews. I dunno. I think it's frustrating to him, but it just hasn't dawned on him that it could be him sometimes. He's really, really laid back. I think that can be taken the wrong way in an interview. I feel like my DH and job interviews are like Phonenix and women. The amusing thing about all of this is DH wasn't even interviewed for the job he has now. He took another interview and didn't get the job. About a week later, folks he'd never met before called him up and offered him the job he has now on the spot. I am relieved because this job was temporary. It was guaranteed to last for two years. That meant that I couldn't cut down my workload in that time. And frankly, having DH work 40 hours, plus me working 60+ hours a week and doing everything else (including my volunteer stuff) is hardly what I call manageable. I ran a budget, and there was no room to hire help. All the extra money (about 1200/month) had to be saved to pay for the kids private school incase he never worked again. I can't swing paying 3 kids private school tuition on my income alone. So, basically, we'd have nearly double the income coming in for 2 years, and we wouldn't be able to spend any of it, except for the increased daycare costs. There was a chance that the job would have funding for 4 years. If that was the case, then I could have loosened the purse strings a little. There were other opportunity costs. The littlest would not be have been able to go to preschool, just daycare to 4K. It isn't that big of a deal, because she's learning all she needs to. But my kids tend to get bored with our sitter by age 3, and then we switch them. DH and I would never see each other. He'd have to leave for work at 5:30 every morning, which means he'd need to go to bed a littler earlier..which could lead to us not seeing each other awake a day or two a week. I'm not sure we could handle the older two kids being in activities. I still have to be den leader through Feb of 15. There's no way I'd be able to fit that in if I have to pick up more of the slack at home. Even things like grocery shopping, DH would have to do at like 8 or 9 pm at night. Blergh. I'm already tired as it is now. I was pretty afraid the job would push me over the edge. I was willing to risk it for better opportunities down the line. But, given a choice, I'd prefer to keep my DH working part time.
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Post by taz157 on Jun 24, 2014 20:54:26 GMT -5
I'm sorry gira, but it maybe a blessing in disguise.
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Post by giramomma on Aug 24, 2014 12:00:17 GMT -5
Update: DH applied for a few more jobs this summer, and had another interview.
I didn't think he'd get this last one, because they wanted one person to work two half time positions (to equal full time.)
As it turns out, the interviewing folks liked him so much they created an extra half time position just for him.
This looks to be a good move. He gets a $2/hour raise, gets his flexible hours, and he's out from where he currently is. He just needs to coordinate moving from one area to another.
And, he said the funding is indefinite (forever). Which is important for being a contract worker.
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Post by Waffle on Aug 24, 2014 12:20:33 GMT -5
Congrats!
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 24, 2014 12:44:54 GMT -5
That's awesome.
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Post by gacpa on Aug 24, 2014 15:45:39 GMT -5
My husband used to be a contract worker, so I know how that goes. Congratulations, and I hope he likes his new job.
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Post by NastyWoman on Aug 24, 2014 18:06:54 GMT -5
Congratulations
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 24, 2014 18:12:37 GMT -5
Glad to hear DH found something that will suit him, giramomma! Great news!
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Post by kjto1 on Aug 24, 2014 18:53:30 GMT -5
Congratulations!
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Aug 24, 2014 19:26:56 GMT -5
That's wonderful, giramomma !! Congrats to him !
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Post by tcu2003 on Aug 24, 2014 20:54:14 GMT -5
Congrats! Wonderful news!
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Post by giramomma on Aug 25, 2014 7:25:03 GMT -5
Thanks all for the kind words!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 25, 2014 8:21:22 GMT -5
Wonderful. Does this create some breathing room in your budget?
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Post by giramomma on Aug 25, 2014 8:52:28 GMT -5
Wonderful. Does this create some breathing room in your budget? I think so. Next school year (2015-2016) DD2's preschool and after school costs are going to run us $200/month more than we are currently paying for daycare. The raise will help off set the extra costs, and now I don't have to worry about saving up that extra money ahead of time. Plus, DH can contribute a little more to his deferred comp, which will be nice. We're fortunate that he still gets to pay into the WRS. We're still doing fairly well by normal people standards. Not so much by YM standards or my personal standards. I guess it's time to lower my standards I'm also impatient and I have to learn how to deal with the stress better. It's been an ugly few days in the gira household.
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