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Post by steff on Jun 12, 2014 20:57:19 GMT -5
For a number of reasons (beyond the obvious) I was part of the stoner crowd in high school. I was all about being as invisible as I could be and the best group to vanish into was the stoner crowd. Only as an adult did I find out (thru FB) that I wasn't as invisible as I tried to be. I have friend requests from people that I'm like "you have no clue who I am because I was so far outside your circles" but then find out that they remember me from a random party/football game/dance. Or they remember that I didn't care that you copied my work because I was just cruising thru anyway. I didn't join any clubs, but I circled around them. If I could occassionally get sucked into something, I would do it and then vanish when asked to join.
Some of the cool kids went on to be important type people (there's a city councilman!), but we had our share of "can't wait to talk about THEM at the next reunion bbq". We had 2 murderers. One was actually on death row & was put to death for killing his mom, dad, & pregnant sister for a $100,000 inheritance. The other killed his gf, their daughter, and then himself. The head cheerleader (Most popular chick) is on her 4th marriage & looked like a hammered bar hag. The star QB (Most popular dude) came out a few years ago after his 2nd divorce. One of the head dancers on the drill team is now a professional Dominatrix. I think most shocking is how many have died over the years. We're all in our mid-late 40's, yet we're dropping like flies.
What I learned from reunions & even FB friending HS folks is that none of them really had the great lives that I thought they did as teens. Coming from a seriously fucked up house, I thought being involved meant you had it together. That you had choices & options & support that made everything happy happy joy joy. some were actually trying to be invisible in their own ways. Be involved to not have to go home. Be involved to get lost in a crowd. It really made me see some of them completely differently than I had before.
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Post by sesfw on Jun 12, 2014 21:06:18 GMT -5
My 50 year reunion in 2009 was interesting. The cool girls that wouldn't talk to me before are actually very nice. The cool guys were jerks in HS and still are.
My crowd stayed very close to the same.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2014 21:23:28 GMT -5
Actually, getting older doesn't suck. You aren't that worried about being fashionable all the time. You aren't that worried about redoing your house all the time. The "kids" go home with their parents. You don't feel as bad about hiring out stuff that you "could" do but don't "want to." You can actually access that big wad of money, without penalty, that you saved if you need to. And there are all those senior discounts!!!! A drink at McDonald's for 50 cents? 5% off at Publix on Wednesday PLUS the penny coupon? Wow!
Seriously, I love being 60. I think it's my favorite age yet. Students ask how old I am, and I am happy to tell them. I have nothing to prove any more. If I haven't proved it already, it is history. I am an extremely competitive person, but I have already competed and won.
Getting old ROCKS!!!!
I don't believe you. I got invited to join AARP, and I was not pleased in the slightest Well, you must have missed the cool stuff like the Publix discount and the Walgreen's Senior Day.
You know, in your fifties you can't go BACK to when you were in your forties. So you have to have something to look forward to . . . like your SIXTIES. I honestly look like I did when I was in my fifties (I hope), but I get all these awesome discounts, etc. Plus, I get cut some slack on being "stylish" since short skirts don't look quite the same.
I love it, love it, love it.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jun 12, 2014 21:28:24 GMT -5
If mocking the dumb kids who ask if Alaska is part of the United States gets him through the day who am I to argue .
You're his mom...that's who you are to argue. What if another mother said, "If mocking nerd kids who wear bow ties and top hats get him through the day, who am I to argue." Somehow, I doubt you'd find that funny. To encourage, or at least not DIScourage your child to mock someone else because they aren't as smart as he is (or any other reason)....I have no words.
I was a "cool" kid. I was also a "jock" and a "smart" kid. The group I hung out with were the "cool" kids because we were kind to others, didn't do drugs or drink, excelled in school and were respectful and behaved ourselves. I obviously failed in the "romance" department, but I'm fairly successful, live on my own and support myself comfortably.
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Post by truthbound on Jun 13, 2014 4:35:08 GMT -5
I was never in danger of being one of the "cool kids"!
Neither was I. I just remember enjoying beating a lot of them up. The looks on their faces was priceless.
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Post by skubikky on Jun 13, 2014 6:09:04 GMT -5
One day the teacher asked if they would rather live anywhere in the world but they couldn't return to the US or live in the same state for the rest of their lives. One girl raised her hand and says "That depends, is Alaska part of the United States?" And several others said "Yeah, is it?" sadly that was just the tip of the iceberg. DS texted me to tell me about his dual-citizenship since he was born in Alaska and to tell me what a waste of time that class was. LOL, one of my favorite orienteering sessions in AK was when the guides shared some of the stupidest questions. My favorite was what kind of currency do you use in AK?
Stupid questions? It depends on who is asking it and how sometimes it's understandable due to ignorance not stupidity. I'm usually more interested on how the question is answered. Is the respondent intelligent enough to teach the answer so that it wouldn't be asked again?
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Post by The Captain on Jun 13, 2014 8:06:52 GMT -5
The cool girls from my HS class all have really horrible facelifts . Back then, I experienced their bullying as meanness, not as insecurity. Now I know better. They pretty openly post their fears about aging on FB . . . Truly a great insight I wish we could get more of our kids to understand much sooner...
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 13, 2014 8:18:43 GMT -5
If mocking the dumb kids who ask if Alaska is part of the United States gets him through the day who am I to argue . You're his mom...that's who you are to argue. What if another mother said, "If mocking nerd kids who wear bow ties and top hats get him through the day, who am I to argue." Somehow, I doubt you'd find that funny. To encourage, or at least not DIScourage your child to mock someone else because they aren't as smart as he is (or any other reason)....I have no words. I was a "cool" kid. I was also a "jock" and a "smart" kid. The group I hung out with were the "cool" kids because we were kind to others, didn't do drugs or drink, excelled in school and were respectful and behaved ourselves. I obviously failed in the "romance" department, but I'm fairly successful, live on my own and support myself comfortably. You are right. He does not mock them to their face. All he does is send me a text or tell me after school. I do tell him that he needs to be respectful to everyone and as far as a know he is. Yes he does tell us about the stoner kid that slept through Chemistry or the girl that asked if Alaska was part of the United States. It's not like he is in class yelling out "OMG you are such an idiot".
He is well known for being well spoken and polite- the only time he is a total smart ass is around me and his dad or his friends. He is literally the kid that if another kid was having a rough time they would ask my son "can you ask so and so to sit with you at lunch today? He seems sad". He is the kid that asked me when he was 14 "Mom, I know it's late notice but can we invite Wyatt to my birthday party? He seemed really sad at school this week". Wyatt had yelled at my son months earlier and said he didn't want to be friends with him anymore. A few months later Wyatt's mom was also going through breast cancer treatment and Wyatt was pretty upset. So yes he invited Wyatt to his party, Wyatt came and had a great time.
He is asked on a regular basis to tutor the other kids which he happily does. He would never say anything rude to someone's face but yes I'll readily admit he will tell me "this girl at school asked in Alaska was part of the US in Health today. How do you get to 10th grade without knowing what the 50 states are?"
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2014 8:28:07 GMT -5
Back in my day of the dinosaurs, the cool popular kids seemed to get all of the attention, because this is what they craved and worked for. They were the big fish in our little school pond. However, once they got out into the ocean most either sank and hid out on the bottom or were eaten by bigger fish.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2014 8:43:10 GMT -5
Well I'm pretty dead set against aging... it's not that I'm insecure.. it's that getting older SUCKS!!! Actually, getting older doesn't suck. You aren't that worried about being fashionable all the time. You aren't that worried about redoing your house all the time. The "kids" go home with their parents. You don't feel as bad about hiring out stuff that you "could" do but don't "want to." You can actually access that big wad of money, without penalty, that you saved if you need to. And there are all those senior discounts!!!! A drink at McDonald's for 50 cents? 5% off at Publix on Wednesday PLUS the penny coupon? Wow!
Seriously, I love being 60. I think it's my favorite age yet. Students ask how old I am, and I am happy to tell them. I have nothing to prove any more. If I haven't proved it already, it is history. I am an extremely competitive person, but I have already competed and won.
Getting old ROCKS!!!!
You pretty much nailed it. I agree it rocks, this until your body begins to betray you. Once the body parts start falling off it no longer rocks. I feel compelled to preach to you younger folks, "Take care of your bodies NOW, so you're able to enjoy the retirement you've worked so hard and long for." My cocky younger self thought I could lift like a man. Now, I have back issues. Not a lot of rocking going on here most days.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2014 8:49:03 GMT -5
LOL! I think zib, justme & I all went to the same high school.
Next time my reunion rolls around, I'll introduce you to our high school quarterback. He's the one with at least a double chin. The other members of the "popular" crowd didn't fare so well. Now the nerds, & the quiet folks that weren't in the "in" crowd, are doing quite well, thank you very much! Our high school quarterback, at the age of 30, overdosed on drugs and is now dead. Our Senior Homecoming queen had 4 kids who were all taken away from her. Of course, that was ages ago and I'm sure that the cool kids today are much wiser.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2014 8:54:32 GMT -5
Nope... Getting old/aging sucks! If healthy, there are many benefits to getting old. With me, I hate looking old. That part sucks big time. I had never considered myself vain and had always thought I would wear my wrinkles with pride. NOT!! I've always looked years younger than my actual age, but that has caught up with me. I want cosmetic surgery and battle with myself over spending the money.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jun 13, 2014 9:02:28 GMT -5
Gee, most of the football players and cheerleaders from my high school are married working adults with kids, the same as anyone else I graduated with. We had a lot of athletes in the honors and AP classes, even had a football-playing class president. I was more of a punk in high school (still kind of am) and I got along with most everyone. You all must have went to some suck-ass high schools.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 13, 2014 9:25:19 GMT -5
I've met trainwrecks from every clique in high school. I've also met successes and average people from every clique.
I certainly can't point and say that all the popular people became McD workers glorifying the old days and all the nerds work for Bill Gates.
I'll admit it is depressing sometimes to run into someone who I thought had it all together in high school and find out what they've become since. On the flip side it's awesome to run into someone who I thought was going to be screwed and find out they're quite successful/happy as adults.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 13, 2014 9:36:45 GMT -5
I was a certified uncool kid.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 13, 2014 9:37:35 GMT -5
Good news for all parents that worry that their kids are not cool: www.foxnews.com/health/2014/06/12/cool-kids-dont-stay-cool-forever-study-suggests/?intcmp=latestnewsThe "cool kids" in middle school may not be so cool when they grow up: A new study suggests these once-popular teens are at greater risk for relationship and drug problems in adulthood.My kids went to a very small private school and were never quite in the cool group. My middle son, in particlar was a very quiet, keep to himself nerd. He was well liked but never really had any friends. Went off to college and made a huge group of new friends and got a girlfriend, total tranformation. WHAT A BULLSHIT! I want to see that study group in action. How do they determining all this crap?
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Post by sesfw on Jun 13, 2014 12:49:46 GMT -5
AARP can go smoke it!
AHHH .......... getting your invite from AARP is the first sign you have passed the half century mark.
I enjoy the senior discounts. You can't stop the years, might as well learn to like them.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jun 13, 2014 12:59:13 GMT -5
I have run into HS classmates in various places in the US. I do not keep in contact with anyone from HS.
I ran into a guy I knew in O'Hare. He was actually in a couple of my college classes after we graduated from HS. We chatted, went our separate ways as I was on my way to San Antonio, he was on his way to Burlington.
The funniest one was I was seated on a flight next to the guy who was the BMOC when I was a senior. As I was the proverbial new kid, I went to class, kept my nose clean and realized that HS was a very short period of life. I don't think that this guy knew my name, and there were a whopping 67 people in my graduating class. 25 years after HS, he was probably 100 lbs overweight and had lost most of his hair and tried to hide it. He also tried to pick me up. I still don't think he knew who I was. His loss, not mine.
Funny, I would have been thrilled at that sort of attention when I was 17. At 42, I thought he was slimy.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2014 15:30:32 GMT -5
LOL - Susanna - I just looked up the walgreens senior day - 20% off - not too shabby! But - you have to be 55 OR have the AARP membership - what a racket! I can't remember what the AARP membership was going to cost - but I'm thinking 149? Might be worth it $$$ wise. But I'm not going to dig out the membership from the recycling bin...... I think it's more like $15 a year but don't know for sure since spouses are free, and DH already belonged.
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Post by hurley1980 on Jun 13, 2014 16:47:17 GMT -5
LOL! I think zib, justme & I all went to the same high school.
Next time my reunion rolls around, I'll introduce you to our high school quarterback. He's the one with at least a double chin. The other members of the "popular" crowd didn't fare so well. Now the nerds, & the quiet folks that weren't in the "in" crowd, are doing quite well, thank you very much! Our high school quarterback, at the age of 30, overdosed on drugs and is now dead. Our Senior Homecoming queen had 4 kids who were all taken away from her. Of course, that was ages ago and I'm sure that the cool kids today are much wiser. I don't know what the high school QB of my school is doing now, probably something middle class and normal, but the QB of our across town rival is a SB winning QB for the Packers (God I hate Aaron Rodgers!!!!). Most of the popular kids at my school who stayed in town (including my husband at one point) became drug addicts or alcoholics, since there's nothing else to do in town but party. The ones who left town are the ones who became successful.
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Post by billisonboard on Jun 13, 2014 18:36:22 GMT -5
Our high school quarterback, ... I don't know what the high school QB of my school is doing now, ... I don't have any idea who was the quarterback at my high school.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2014 19:10:09 GMT -5
What I learned from reunions & even FB friending HS folks is that none of them really had the great lives that I thought they did as teens. (Snip) It really made me see some of them completely differently than I had before. Our class valedictorian, who was pretty and popular, committed suicide. At the reunion her friends told me that it was awkward to visit her house because her mother slept a lot and never cleaned. I pointed out that it could have been a symptom of depression and that our classmate might have inherited it. You never know . I found at my 40th reunion that it was pretty random. Some of the popular kids grew up into friendly , gregarious adults with successful careers ( one as a salesman!). Some of us on the outside ended up with good lives and happy marriages. A woman who had been one of the few blacks in our class and spent her 4 years grumbling that she wished she were in the public school came with her husband and positively glowed as she talked about her job as a triage nurse. I never thought at the time how hard HS must have been for her just because she felt alien. As I said in the other thread, I 'll gladly go to the next reunion .
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2014 20:23:22 GMT -5
I don't know what the high school QB of my school is doing now, ... I don't have any idea who was the quarterback at my high school. That's because you probably didn't have a crush on him.
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Post by Bonny on Jun 14, 2014 8:56:45 GMT -5
Looks like today would be my the 35th anniversary of my H.S. graduation.
How does this stuff just slip by you?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2014 10:03:37 GMT -5
I will agree with that part but looking old SUCKS!! I'm fighting it every step of the way but hopefully in a realistic way. No Alien face or fish lips for me! I'd rather have wrinkles. I'm still trying to figure out how to age into this
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 14, 2014 13:06:32 GMT -5
I don't know what the high school QB of my school is doing now, ... I don't have any idea who was the quarterback at my high school. I honestly for the life of me can't remember who it might have been. I hate sports and only went to the big games to hang with my friends (Homecoming, cross town rivalry, etc)
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 14, 2014 13:36:58 GMT -5
I will agree with that part but looking old SUCKS!! I'm fighting it every step of the way but hopefully in a realistic way. No Alien face or fish lips for me! I'd rather have wrinkles. I'm still trying to figure out how to age into this Activia
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2014 16:44:42 GMT -5
What do you mean Rukh? She is aging mostly naturally & gracefully and is in great shape. That's what I meant I would like to achieve.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2014 16:48:59 GMT -5
I'm still trying to figure out how to age into this That's Jamie Lee Curtis, right? Doesn't she have some kind of male gene or summat?
She does still look FAB though!
Rumor that originally started based on the way her parents named her so probably false. Much like everything else the Star and their ilk publish I think her only issue was pain killer or alcohol addiction, so she's got some mileage on her but manages to look great in spite of it.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2014 16:49:48 GMT -5
I just can't believe that every "cool kid" some of you went to school with sling hamburgers and got obese/bald, etc. it seems some of you are still bitter over not sitting at the cool kids table. I'm successful, not obese or bald and I was a "cool kid". At my last high school reunion there were some dorks that really blossomed after high school, nerds that were still nerdy (some successful some not), jocks that were still athletic and jocks that became round. There is no one group of people that singlehandedly let their bodies go to hell not any single group of people that became successful or losers. There were a few that shocked me (both good and bad) but I can't say that needs became successful while the rest of us never got over our glory days Welllll, I was slim in high school and the boys mostly preferred girls with curves. I remember some of the curvy girls that the boys drooled over. The ones I've seen since high school don't realize they have passed curvy and are overweight. A couple were seriously overweight, but they still dressed in skimpy clothes that they were too old/too big/too dimpled/too flabby for. EEK! When I first started seeing these ladies after we'd graduated, I started referring to it as the skinny girl's revenge. Not nice, I know.
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