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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 24, 2014 15:05:56 GMT -5
A while back, I recall a poster here (I think it may have been Swamp, but don't quote me on it), said something along the lines of she didn't feel comfortable going to restaraunts or otherswise "going out" and doing stuff alone. I've heard a few other people in RL and otherwise express the same sentiment.
I was just curious if you felt that way, that you don't like "going out" and doing fun stuff on your own. That means no frienst, no family, just you.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 24, 2014 15:09:14 GMT -5
Not at all. I'm great company! I like being by myself. I'm not a huge talker. It's difficult for me to engage in meaningless chit-chit just for the sake of chatting. I wouldn't go to a bar or something like that by myself, but since I don't go to those much anyway, it's no big deal. I even like golfing by myself.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 24, 2014 15:09:17 GMT -5
Nope, I love being alone. Oh man the idea of being able to sit in a resturant without anyone to interrupt my meal would be HEAVEN right about now.
I'm an introvert so I am very much all right with and enjoy my own company. I NEED time by myself, I'll go stir crazy without it.
It's not something I want to do all the time, I need human interaction like everyone else. But man I love it when MIL takes Gwen for a day and DH works. I happily take myself out to lunch and enjoy being able to eat hot food in peace.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2014 15:13:45 GMT -5
I like my own company too... I can read, think... don't have to listen to people rift the movie... good stuff.
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Post by justme on Mar 24, 2014 15:16:01 GMT -5
I'm fine with being alone, but I figured out a while ago that if I waited around for things to do with people I might never do them! So I often go out when I'd prefer not to be alone. Though I've also stayed home because I didn't want to do ____ alone.
I've gone out alone to eat, concerts, and movies plus some other more random stuff. I've gone to theme parks alone a lot.
I don't get those that won't go out alone. Well, those that refuse to go out alone but then complain about not doing something because no one would go with them.
My only thing is I wish I was more outgoing when I was out alone so I could meet more people that way. I tend to be more outgoing when I'm with at least one other person.
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Post by lexxy703 on Mar 24, 2014 15:22:42 GMT -5
I can eat lunch alone in a restaurant but I would never go to a concert or theme park alone. It wouldn't even occur to me.
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Post by sheilaincali on Mar 24, 2014 15:23:56 GMT -5
I like the solitude of being alone sometimes. I'm an introvert and can get overwhelmed in groups of people.
I frequently go shopping, to the movies, etc. alone. In fact I'll likely go to the movies alone this weekend. DH and DS are only really fans of the big blockbuster, superhero, type movies. Anything even remotely "chick flick" or not guaranteed to have at least 3 car chases in it are movies they'll refuse to go see with me.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 24, 2014 15:24:09 GMT -5
If I didn't do "stuff" alone, I'de never do it. So I go out to eat, to movies, to the park, go on hikes ect all alone. I don't mind it, either because I'm an introvert or I'm just used it. Besides, it not like I have much choice in the matter. But no, it doesn't bother me to do that stuff alone.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 24, 2014 15:24:45 GMT -5
I've been to lots of plays/musicals/ballets alone. More than I have been with another person now that I think about it. I like going with DH but at the same time it's nice to not have someone commenting in your ear during the performance.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 24, 2014 15:25:00 GMT -5
I've gone to concerts on my own. I've gone to movies on my own. I've eaten at restaurants on my own too. And since right now, the only time I can pee in peace is at work, I would absolutely REVEL in being on my own for a weekend.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2014 15:25:01 GMT -5
I wouldn't go hiking or any remote area alone. I haven't really traveled alone. I'm sure i would at some point, but those are more safety issues than can't be alone issues.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 24, 2014 15:25:40 GMT -5
I like my own company too... I can read, think... don't have to listen to people rift the movie... good stuff. Oped, you're back!
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Post by Bonny on Mar 24, 2014 15:28:44 GMT -5
I'm fine going to lunch alone but I don't like going out to dinner alone unless it's one of the local places where the owner knows me. As goofy as it sounds there's always some guy that wants to chat me up...and I'm not that good looking and I wear my wedding ring.
I love hiking alone where I'm with my own thoughts. But I won't do big remote hikes by myself in AZ. Had to learn that lesson the hard way and am grateful I'm still here to tell the story!
ETA: LOL oped; I've done a Grand Canyon Rim to Rim hike including a day camping by myself and two days down at Phantom Ranch. I think I had 30 minutes while I was on the trail where I was completely alone. DH pitched a fit when I told him I was going to do it by myself. But it's darn near a freeway during regular hiking season.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Mar 24, 2014 15:32:42 GMT -5
I don't mind going to lunch alone - it's usually a fairly casual setting and I can take a book along to keep me occupied while waiting for my food.
I don't really care to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant in the evening alone.
The setting seems to need conversation - and food at a nice restaurant usually takes longer to prepare - I think I'd feel self-conscious sitting there alone staring at the walls - and even more-so if I buried my nose into a book.
I've often gone by myself to the Zoo, the Planetarium, Art Galleries, the Museum, and occasionally even a movie alone.
I visit parks & botanical gardens in the summer.
Sometimes I'll drive to a nearby town where I don't know anybody - and just explore/window-shop on my own and then find some little restaurant to try out for lunch or dinner.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 24, 2014 15:33:41 GMT -5
I wouldn't go hiking or any remote area alone. I haven't really traveled alone. I'm sure i would at some point, but those are more safety issues than can't be alone issues. I looked into going to Turkey by myself about 20 years back. I was too broke to go anyway but I and my Mom had qualms about my safety.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 24, 2014 15:34:32 GMT -5
Nowadays alone time also means no having to watch Team Umizoomi/Peppa Pig/Bubble Guppies. If DH is gone I get to control the remote.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 24, 2014 15:34:29 GMT -5
Before retiring, I traveled alone a lot for work. Mostly I enjoyed it. I wasn't crazy about eating dinner alone and often used room service. I'm fine eating lunch alone and still do that sometimes.
I've gone to movies alone. I prefer shopping alone. Like oped there are things I would not do alone (hiking in a remote area, for example).
If the time came when I had to choose between traveling alone or staying home, I'll travel alone - or perhaps join a tour, but pay a single supplement. I much prefer to have a room to myself.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Mar 24, 2014 15:35:21 GMT -5
I don't ever really go to eat alone (except maybe grab lunch here or there. never out for a dinner or anything alone), or movies or anything like that. There is always a friend or DH who wants me to go somewhere and do something. But I do things like shop, run, etc.
I have zero problems exploring places alone, when traveling. If I join DH on a work trip, I have no problem spending my day out and about exploring the city while he works away. Or if I am visiting a friend and they have to work for a day, I can take off my foot and I am fine. I don't need a guide.
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Post by Bonny on Mar 24, 2014 15:40:36 GMT -5
I wouldn't go hiking or any remote area alone. I haven't really traveled alone. I'm sure i would at some point, but those are more safety issues than can't be alone issues. I looked into going to Turkey by myself about 20 years back. I was too broke to go anyway but I and my Mom had qualms about my safety. It depends on where you are in Turkey. Istanbul is like every other large city with good and bad parts. A lot of the coastal cities are fine too and ditto Cappadocia. That said I wouldn't be wandering the streets at night. Eastern Turkey is a lot more conservative and I would have some concerns. I've wanted to go but DH has no interest. I'd probably hire a guide or go with a very small tour group.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 24, 2014 15:40:53 GMT -5
I can eat lunch alone in a restaurant but I would never go to a concert or theme park alone. It wouldn't even occur to me. Well, I don't go to concerts so that's not a big deal, and I find theme parks pretty boring even with other people. But I have gone to the zoo, the aquariam, and musems alone on several occasions.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2014 15:42:35 GMT -5
I love alone time. I would not go out too much alone, though. but I will go to the bar for a drink alone if no one is up for going.
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Post by justme on Mar 24, 2014 15:43:58 GMT -5
Traveling alone isn't as bad if you have a smartphone with you. My first time in DC my parents were a bit worried and I just added them to an app where I checked in and had a location feature (that I turned off once home) so they knew where I was and if I checked into the hotel at night.
I've since done DC alone a few more times without going to the location thing again (though posting on FB and text still keeps decent tabs on me). I've done New Orleans kind of alone (was with work people sometimes but the weekend I was alone). Am going to San Francisco mostly alone in 9 days (friend will be working during the day so I'm alone). Oh, I also did Toronto alone for a day.
I probably would have done Europe alone this year but was only getting short extensions on work contracts so couldn't make it happen. Next year I plan to go to Europe or Australia for sure though, and alone if I can't find someone to go.
Oh, as for dinner alone - I often bring my Kindle, though sometimes opt to eat at the bar (usually results in talking to the bar tenders or who is seated next to you) or out on the patio to people watch.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2014 15:44:56 GMT -5
I don't mind doing things alone at all. I'm also an introvert that likes the solitude. However, I wouldn't go to a theme park or concert alone because the only way I'd go at all is if some crazy extrovert that likes all those people around drug me there.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 24, 2014 15:45:48 GMT -5
I looked into going to Turkey by myself about 20 years back. I was too broke to go anyway but I and my Mom had qualms about my safety. It depends on where you are in Turkey. Istanbul is like every other large city with good and bad parts. A lot of the coastal cities are fine too and ditto Cappadocia. That said I wouldn't be wandering the streets at night. Eastern Turkey is a lot more conservative and I would have some concerns. I've wanted to go but DH has no interest. I'd probably hire a guide or go with a very small tour group. I think at the time, there was some kind of anti-Western/anti-female thing going on. As I said, I really couldn't afford to go then. But it's on my list of places to go, probably in the top 10-15, if I had to guess at priority. I have no idea why I want to go there, I just do. Someday I'll get there.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 24, 2014 15:45:55 GMT -5
I've been to lots of plays/musicals/ballets alone. More than I have been with another person now that I think about it. I like going with DH but at the same time it's nice to not have someone commenting in your ear during the performance. Can't you just whisper back "shhhh, no talking during the performance!"
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Post by Bonny on Mar 24, 2014 15:47:09 GMT -5
I have zero problems exploring places alone, when traveling. If I join DH on a work trip, I have no problem spending my day out and about exploring the city while he works away. Or if I am visiting a friend and they have to work for a day, I can take off my foot and I am fine. I don't need a guide. I did quite a bit of this myself. I did wind up in a tougher part of Mexico City but everyone was super nice.
The most uncomfortable I've ever felt was when we were in Egypt in 2009. Egypt had grown increasingly conservative and even in Cairo you don't want to be wandering the streets as a western woman alone.
Luxor had a reputation as being a place that older European women would go for sex rendez-vous...just adding to the perception that Western women were "easy".
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 24, 2014 15:48:31 GMT -5
Can't you just whisper back "shhhh, no talking during the performance!"
Sure, but it gets tiring during a 2 hour performance. He drove me nuts during The Nutcracker. First of all how do you not know the plot? Second it's a ballet, that's why nobody is talking and dancing all the time. Argh. I don't hate going with him just certain things I want to see I might consider going alone. He'd thank me for never dragging him to the ballet again.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 24, 2014 15:51:09 GMT -5
I wouldn't go hiking or any remote area alone. I haven't really traveled alone. I'm sure i would at some point, but those are more safety issues than can't be alone issues. I can understand not wanting to go into deep wilderness alone, and especially doing stuff that could be dangerous, like mountain climbing or spelunking alone. But traveling alone is generally pretty safe. Most of the time, traveling for me involves either flying on a plane or being in an airport, both are safe enough. Traveling by car is generally not that dangerous either, unless you decide to pull over in a rough part of town.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 24, 2014 15:51:21 GMT -5
I wouldn't want to go camping alone. Bears and snakes scare me. I'd engage in idle chit chat if it means having added protection from bears and snakes.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2014 15:52:00 GMT -5
I wouldn't go hiking or any remote area alone. I haven't really traveled alone. I'm sure i would at some point, but those are more safety issues than can't be alone issues. I love hiking alone. Seriously love it. But, these days you can hike and on your breaks tell everyone on Facebook what you're up to. When I was young I used to ride horse alone all the time. We're talking starting at about age 12, long before there were cell phones. My one friend back then lived about 8 miles away and we'd meet up on trails and spend the whole day just exploring field roads and logging trails, but it took an hour or two to find each other.
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