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Post by resolution on Feb 27, 2014 14:30:41 GMT -5
It is not much of a consolation, but consider that your in-laws may be using the shower as a way to help financially because they think the SIL is less capable than you. Most likely it is not a measure of their love but rather a measure of what they view as competence and independence.
I have a very needy and incompetent SIL who is pregnant, and we are all planning huge shower gifts as a way to help out without creating an expectation of ongoing assistance.
My other SIL is in a bind because she is a teacher and is getting hit up for free daycare over the summer, but so far DH and I are planning to drop down a huge gift of practical stuff like diapers and desitin and then get away unscathed.
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Post by swamp on Feb 27, 2014 14:32:34 GMT -5
I got notice that lax signups are march 13, 14, and 15 and practice starts April 4. Dammit, we just got done basketball, and figure skating gets done on March 8.
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Post by resolution on Feb 27, 2014 14:34:02 GMT -5
I read a fb post about someone throwing their own baby shower and my head almost exploded. related whine- I didn't have a bridal shower. It seems so petty, but it made me a little sad. There are a lot of good reasons for not having one, but I hear about others having them and it sounds so nice. I've never been to one though, so maybe they're terrible? I have gone to one baby shower (coed) and it was awful, so I console myself with that I really don't like showers, but I guess it depends how much you like to socialize and how well you know the people attending. Most of the time I would much rather drop off my gift and escape, but I always end up sitting there playing stupid games and being pleasant to everyone.
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Post by pinkbow832 on Feb 27, 2014 14:42:55 GMT -5
I read a fb post about someone throwing their own baby shower and my head almost exploded. related whine- I didn't have a bridal shower. It seems so petty, but it made me a little sad. There are a lot of good reasons for not having one, but I hear about others having them and it sounds so nice. I've never been to one though, so maybe they're terrible? I have gone to one baby shower (coed) and it was awful, so I console myself with that I really don't like showers, but I guess it depends how much you like to socialize and how well you know the people attending. Most of the time I would much rather drop off my gift and escape, but I always end up sitting there playing stupid games and being pleasant to everyone. I only had 2 girlfriends in the same city at the time, all the rest were spread across the country/world. I think I've just romanticized the idea of spending time with all of them at once, because in reality I am definitely not someone that would enjoy the stupid games and forced fun!
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Post by hurley1980 on Feb 27, 2014 16:59:23 GMT -5
Ummm, lets see.... Its been in the 60's and 70's all winter, with no rain, and now we are in a drought. My dogs don't like the backseat in my new crossover, and insist on messing up the front passenger seat. My hubby refuses to go on cruises with me, so I have to go to Mexico in two weeks with my mom instead. Our anniversary week in Lake Tahoe is still 5 months away. My new tempurpedic bed is so comfortable I have trouble waking up in the morning. Just kidding....my life is awesome!
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Post by Formerly SK on Feb 27, 2014 18:32:40 GMT -5
Spandex in jeans. They always look fabulous when I put them on in the morning - by the end of the day they look 2 sizes too big.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Feb 27, 2014 18:51:23 GMT -5
Not to mentioned, how fucking gauche it is to have your mother throw your own baby shower. Can we say gift grab? I read a fb post about someone throwing their own baby shower and my head almost exploded. related whine- I didn't have a bridal shower. It seems so petty, but it made me a little sad. There are a lot of good reasons for not having one, but I hear about others having them and it sounds so nice. I've never been to one though, so maybe they're terrible? I have gone to one baby shower (coed) and it was awful, so I console myself with that Showers are just really awkward, especially baby showers when everyone has kids and talk about said kids the whole time, and I'm sitting there thinking "I had a lot of wine and sex last night! Beat that." My bridal shower wasn't too bad. It was at a restaurant and there were no games, just chit cat, food, and drinks. But when it came time to open gifts I just wanted to go back to my friends' table and keep drinking with them!
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Post by les63 on Feb 27, 2014 19:01:46 GMT -5
My hot flashes are back and that sucks. Some good news, I haven't had my monthly friend visit since November. Oh and I think the ghost is back in the basement. My eyes opened at 2:59 this morning and the ceiling fan light above me was on. Well, the voice did say "I'll be back", so maybe a message that indeed he is.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 19:25:50 GMT -5
Just found out a colleague left this morning for a vacation in Miami and it's well below freezing here. She goes on at least 2 nice vacations a year. My first thought: "well yeah I could afford to go on all these vacations if I was childless, lived at home, and was still spoiled by my parents." With the mortgage, PMI, and 3 days of daycare a week (around $900/month) - not to mention all these expenses that have been popping up (car repairs, etc.) - there is basically no wiggle room in our budget. No vacation money.... hell, no weekend away money really. I'm just rethinking a lot of the decisions we've made over the last several years (and especially the ones that I'VE made). Also: work is extremely busy and I feel like I'm always behind It's f&%$king FREEZING!!!! I messed up my attempt to omit added sugar from my diet and am on day 3 of Sugar Bender 2014 anyone else want to whine about (relatively) unimportant things? Hi, This is coming from a future home owner in HCOLA like you so sorry in advance and ok if you don't want to answer: - how recently did you purchase the home? - why are you regretting the decision now or it seems like you are? - I understand the part of taking a big chunk out of your paycheck but besides that? - what would you change if you had to do it all over again?
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Post by milee on Feb 27, 2014 19:39:34 GMT -5
More of just a general whine, but my fricken' foot hurts.
Last summer, we were swimming in the dark. I was floating on my back minding my own business and think one of my friends who was splashing around scared a sleeping stingray who swam up to escape, bumping into my leg and then stinging me on the bottom of my foot. Although it hurt like fire and bled a lot, we could tell what it was, so I wasn't too worried. Went home, poked around to make sure none of the stinger was left, took a bunch of Benadryl (I was having an allergic reaction), soaked it in hot water and packed it with antibacterial cream. No worries. By the next day, it just looked like a deep cut. I kept it clean and packed with antibacterial cream for the next week and was kinda blasé since it had healed without a problem. Then about 8 days later, the whole foot swelled and a red line started moving up the foot, so I saw the doc. Doc took x-rays to see if any of the stinger was left, couldn't tell from the x-rays and ended up having to open it up and dig around to make sure. (BTW, I do not recommend ever getting local anesthesia injections in the ball of your foot; the skin is tough there so the doc has to really stab the needle to get it in.) Not fun, but again, not a huge deal; no stinger found. After a few days of strong antibiotics, it got better. So I thought it was all over a long time ago.
But the past few months, it's been growing some major scar tissue. Unfortunately, since it's right on the bottom of my foot on the ball of the foot, I can feel it with every step. The first few months, it felt weird but not too painful, like stepping on a rubber ball. But the last two months or so, it's growing more painful and feels like walking on a thumb tack. It especially sucks when I run. My friend the rehab therapist recommended I massage it to break up the scar tissue so although that hurts like the dickens, I've been doing that at night. It's not getting better, it's getting worse.
I know I should go back to the doc, but I also know he's going to want to cut all that scar tissue out. Not only does that sound really owie but again, since it's on the ball of my foot, it also sounds like I'd have to stay off it and also out of the water for a while, which I really don't want to do. So I'm just delaying the inevitable and whining about it.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 19:45:04 GMT -5
Just found out a colleague left this morning for a vacation in Miami and it's well below freezing here. She goes on at least 2 nice vacations a year. My first thought: "well yeah I could afford to go on all these vacations if I was childless, lived at home, and was still spoiled by my parents." With the mortgage, PMI, and 3 days of daycare a week (around $900/month) - not to mention all these expenses that have been popping up (car repairs, etc.) - there is basically no wiggle room in our budget. No vacation money.... hell, no weekend away money really. I'm just rethinking a lot of the decisions we've made over the last several years (and especially the ones that I'VE made). Also: work is extremely busy and I feel like I'm always behind It's f&%$king FREEZING!!!! I messed up my attempt to omit added sugar from my diet and am on day 3 of Sugar Bender 2014 anyone else want to whine about (relatively) unimportant things? Hi, This is coming from a future home owner in HCOLA like you so sorry in advance and ok if you don't want to answer: - how recently did you purchase the home? - why are you regretting the decision now or it seems like you are? - I understand the part of taking a big chunk out of your paycheck but besides that? - what would you change if you had to do it all over again? May 2012 I didn't realize how expensive it would be, especially considering the neighborhood and property taxes. DS was 100% in family care and we thought it would stay that way. When it became obvious that he needed to go to daycare, we had already bought the house and we had to find some way to afford both. Daycare was never in our budget. Our house was built in 1960, so it needs a LOT of updating, which we were okay with... And then we needed a new driveway, and then we needed to redo the electrical system, and then Sandy happened. That wiped our improvement fund out. It just feels like something always breaks and we are not handy enough to fix everything. And we STILL hear the neighbors slamming their car doors or riding around on their motorcycles and whatnot, so what did we really escape? I would do a LOT over (I mean if I could still have DS), but for the house question I would have much preferred an end unit townhouse - someone else mows and shovels, and it would have been cheaper.
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Post by grits on Feb 27, 2014 20:14:38 GMT -5
When I was younger, like maybe 30's, I used to ski when it was -20 F. Now, forget it. I want to be in a warm bed with lots of covers on me.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 22:44:55 GMT -5
Hi, This is coming from a future home owner in HCOLA like you so sorry in advance and ok if you don't want to answer: - how recently did you purchase the home? - why are you regretting the decision now or it seems like you are? - I understand the part of taking a big chunk out of your paycheck but besides that? - what would you change if you had to do it all over again? May 2012 I didn't realize how expensive it would be, especially considering the neighborhood and property taxes. DS was 100% in family care and we thought it would stay that way. When it became obvious that he needed to go to daycare, we had already bought the house and we had to find some way to afford both. Daycare was never in our budget. Our house was built in 1960, so it needs a LOT of updating, which we were okay with... And then we needed a new driveway, and then we needed to redo the electrical system, and then Sandy happened. That wiped our improvement fund out. It just feels like something always breaks and we are not handy enough to fix everything. And we STILL hear the neighbors slamming their car doors or riding around on their motorcycles and whatnot, so what did we really escape? I would do a LOT over (I mean if I could still have DS), but for the house question I would have much preferred an end unit townhouse - someone else mows and shovels, and it would have been cheaper. Ok I understand about the daycare; $900/month would rock our boat also budget wise. Couldn't you get your insurance to cover the Sandy damages? How is your husband quest towards a promotion/pay grade change going?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 22:56:52 GMT -5
There was a tree dangling over the garage. Since it didn't fall on the house, insuramce wouldn't cover it. So we had to pay out of pocket to remove the tree (something like $2500), plus all the hotel stays, replacing our lost food, etc. DH's interviews went very well... And then they decided the position was graded wrong and they are now starting from scratch.
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Post by Apple on Feb 27, 2014 23:20:38 GMT -5
Hmmm, first world problems, huh?
I will probably have some extra money in the budget later in the year, and I'm having trouble deciding how to spend it -- getting lasik, buying a new tablet, and paying off a little house-related debt that's at a fairly low interest rate.
I discovered that the new mileage card I got actually has a lousy redemption program. So I'll be torn between closing it after I use the ridiculous amount of promotional miles, and keeping it open for kicks and giggles.
My iPod Touch is now officially obsolete, so I can't download new apps any more, and there are some I really want. Gimme a minute and I'm sure I can come up with some more. Uh-oh. Which one did you get?
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Post by shelby on Feb 27, 2014 23:47:24 GMT -5
Not a whine more of a rant because people are effing crazy. So I was parking at the grocery store and as I was opening my door it hit the van next to me (like not very hard at all). Then all of a sudden the horn was going off I think well I sure didn't hit it hard enough to set the alarm off. So I look up and the lady in the drivers seat is laying on her horn yelling and cussing at me. She gets out of the car still yelling and cussing. I immediately go into defensive mode my kids are in the car and I tell her she is crazy I do not appreciate her cussing at me in front of my children, yes they were seeing this whole crazy episode. So I gather the kids and walk away ignoring her and go meet my father and his girlfriend who are watching this whole thing. So she yells across the parking lot calling me "you f-ing B" I could not believe it. Oh and then she drives by flipping me off. It was a big white 10 passenger van so I am pretty sure she had just stolen it from the mental ward she just escaped from. So I calmed the kids and myself down and bought some donuts holes and thought how glad I am that I do not cuss people out in parking lots since she is lucky I did not punch her in the face. And yes I know I should not have hit her car with my door yadayadayada it was an accident not a personal attack jeeezzz.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 28, 2014 8:01:41 GMT -5
Whine- had to get up at 4am for a 6:30 flight. Going through security, I get a call saying one of our flights was canceled. Good news was we were rebooked and now only have one connection instead of two... First flight out is at 7:50am which means I totally could have slept later!!! And the flight is super full so I checked my carry on... A super cute blue DVF bag, which I am afraid is going to come out all dirty. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2014 8:30:26 GMT -5
Have a great flight! And I hope your bag comes out as clean as it went in.
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Post by cael on Feb 28, 2014 8:41:20 GMT -5
Sarcastic, enjoy the trip and think of us as you lay on the beach in the sun with a little umbrella drink! After work today I have to work my second job, then go to the dentist to finally get the last stage of my implant done (!!!), then go to a dress rehearsal tonight. I'm exhausted and all I want to do is knit on the couch. I would like some cheese with my whine!!!!
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 28, 2014 8:41:24 GMT -5
Thanks... I really love that bag! Grease stains might make me cry.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2014 8:47:01 GMT -5
Sarcastic, enjoy the trip and think of us as you lay on the beach in the sun with a little umbrella drink! After work today I have to work my second job, then go to the dentist to finally get the last stage of my implant done (!!!), then go to a dress rehearsal tonight. I'm exhausted and all I want to do is knit on the couch. I would like some cheese with my whine!!!! JEALOUS! I just had the post put in on Monday and it still hurts! I hope to have my "tooth" by Memorial Day.
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Post by cael on Feb 28, 2014 8:50:27 GMT -5
Oh Beer, you're going through this too?! I had no idea! I had my post put in in November and you'll feel better soon - I was surprised at how quickly it felt ok! I think I took longer to feel better after the extraction last April. Where's yours? Mine's right front and center. Without my flipper I look like a 6yo without a tooth in front, it's so weird. I'm almost going to miss dropping it down and surprising people
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2014 8:55:50 GMT -5
LOL! Mine's the eye tooth next to the front and I do it too! I've got all the kids in the family "BFFing:: "Brush, Floss, Fluoride kids or this could happen to you! BWAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!!" Actually, mine was a freak accident. I made caramel and stuck my mouth together when I licked the spoon. Instead of waiting for it to melt, I forced my mouth open and loosened my crown. The whole thing came out, post and all.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Feb 28, 2014 9:01:09 GMT -5
Sarcastic, enjoy the trip and think of us as you lay on the beach in the sun with a little umbrella drink! After work today I have to work my second job, then go to the dentist to finally get the last stage of my implant done (!!!), then go to a dress rehearsal tonight. I'm exhausted and all I want to do is knit on the couch. I would like some cheese with my whine!!!! Is that a typo or do you really knit Just curious!!
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Post by cael on Feb 28, 2014 9:21:35 GMT -5
Oh I absolutely knit!! knitting a sweater right now!
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 28, 2014 9:24:57 GMT -5
Well, we may have found our place in the sun! I HATE condos with a passion but DF says they are practical if you aren't going to live full time in the place. I'd be so happy to live full time here it ain't funny but.... But it meets all the criteria so my whine is that it's a condo and not a SFH.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2014 9:30:01 GMT -5
CONGRATULATIONS! Peeps be buying houses left and right around here....maybe doxie will be next!
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Post by resolution on Feb 28, 2014 9:33:52 GMT -5
Sometimes while I am out working in the yard I fantasize about owning a condo.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 28, 2014 9:38:16 GMT -5
Not a whine more of a rant because people are effing crazy. So I was parking at the grocery store and as I was opening my door it hit the van next to me (like not very hard at all). Then all of a sudden the horn was going off I think well I sure didn't hit it hard enough to set the alarm off. So I look up and the lady in the drivers seat is laying on her horn yelling and cussing at me. She gets out of the car still yelling and cussing. I immediately go into defensive mode my kids are in the car and I tell her she is crazy I do not appreciate her cussing at me in front of my children, yes they were seeing this whole crazy episode. So I gather the kids and walk away ignoring her and go meet my father and his girlfriend who are watching this whole thing. So she yells across the parking lot calling me "you f-ing B" I could not believe it. Oh and then she drives by flipping me off. It was a big white 10 passenger van so I am pretty sure she had just stolen it from the mental ward she just escaped from. So I calmed the kids and myself down and bought some donuts holes and thought how glad I am that I do not cuss people out in parking lots since she is lucky I did not punch her in the face. And yes I know I should not have hit her car with my door yadayadayada it was an accident not a personal attack jeeezzz. Did you apologize for hitting her car? Did you look to see if you had damaged it? Your father just stood there? I'm confused.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 28, 2014 9:41:53 GMT -5
It is not much of a consolation, but consider that your in-laws may be using the shower as a way to help financially because they think the SIL is less capable than you. Most likely it is not a measure of their love but rather a measure of what they view as competence and independence. I have a very needy and incompetent SIL who is pregnant, and we are all planning huge shower gifts as a way to help out without creating an expectation of ongoing assistance. My other SIL is in a bind because she is a teacher and is getting hit up for free daycare over the summer, but so far DH and I are planning to drop down a huge gift of practical stuff like diapers and desitin and then get away unscathed. I was also a teacher and would get people asking this occasionally. If their kids were school age and it was a one off, I did it if my kids liked their kids. Otherwise I had no problem saying I was spending time with my kids and we were doing something that day. No one can use you without your permission.
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