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Post by busymom on Dec 19, 2013 23:10:11 GMT -5
Aw Sarah! <HUGS> and prayers to you both!
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Post by Bonny on Dec 19, 2013 23:14:15 GMT -5
We will. And don't forget to take care of yourself.
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Post by taz157 on Dec 19, 2013 23:36:40 GMT -5
We will. And don't forget to take care of yourself. Works4me:
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Post by jeep108 on Dec 20, 2013 0:01:34 GMT -5
Hugs.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Dec 20, 2013 0:27:55 GMT -5
Oh hon, what a roller coaster you are on. I am so sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2013 13:13:16 GMT -5
Hugs Sarah. I hope tomorrow is better.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 20, 2013 13:25:49 GMT -5
Sarajesse, the ups and downs are the hardest. If and when it is time for him to go, you will know, because he will let you know, even if he cannot speak. Don't be afraid, because he will not be in fear or pain at the time. His caretakers are doing what they do best, and you cannot afford to be severely stressed, due to your own condition. You cannot handle your life and your dad's if you get sick. Be with him as much as you are able and know that at whatever point he is, your dad knows his loved ones are there with him.
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Post by dannylion on Dec 20, 2013 18:03:08 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, sarahjese. I went through something very similar with my Dad last year. I understand how hard it is to deal with this on your own as I don't have any family, either. The hospice nurses and the nursing home staff were very kind, and I was grateful for their support. I hope there is someone around you to offer support. Sending good thoughts for you and your Dad.
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Post by Works4me on Dec 21, 2013 11:31:19 GMT -5
My father is being transferred from French Hospital to Mission View Health Center on Hospice - they will be pulling his IV before transfer and as he is still unable to swallow or eat, it will jus tbe a matter of time. In addition to pneumonia and heart problems, his left leg has clotted off and it is doubtful he would even survive surgery. Given his discomfort with tubes and monitors, he would definitely pull a NG feeding tube and sadly, we are out of options.
Time to put on my big girl pants and be there for him when all I want to do is hide under the covers and pretend nothing is happening.
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Post by milee on Dec 21, 2013 11:44:40 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you.
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 21, 2013 11:49:42 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, sarah. Having been there and done that, I feel your pain.
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Post by Bonny on Dec 21, 2013 11:50:21 GMT -5
My father is being transferred from French Hospital to Mission View Health Center on Hospice - they will be pulling his IV before transfer and as he is still unable to swallow or eat, it will jus tbe a matter of time. In addition to pneumonia and heart problems, his left leg has clotted off and it is doubtful he would even survive surgery. Given his discomfort with tubes and monitors, he would definitely pull a NG feeding tube and sadly, we are out of options.
Time to put on my big girl pants and be there for him when all I want to do is hide under the covers and pretend nothing is happening. Oh Sarah, I'm so sorry. Go ahead and let yourself have a big cry before you go over there.
I wish him a gentle passing.
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Post by NastyWoman on Dec 21, 2013 12:10:10 GMT -5
I am so, so sorry Sarah.
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Post by resolution on Dec 21, 2013 12:12:10 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 12:28:04 GMT -5
My father is being transferred from French Hospital to Mission View Health Center on Hospice - they will be pulling his IV before transfer and as he is still unable to swallow or eat, it will jus tbe a matter of time. In addition to pneumonia and heart problems, his left leg has clotted off and it is doubtful he would even survive surgery. Given his discomfort with tubes and monitors, he would definitely pull a NG feeding tube and sadly, we are out of options.
Time to put on my big girl pants and be there for him when all I want to do is hide under the covers and pretend nothing is happening. I'm so sorry. Please know that we're thinking of you guys and sending all the good vibes we've got.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Dec 21, 2013 12:33:38 GMT -5
I'm so sorry......this is really rough, I know. My thoughts are with you.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Dec 21, 2013 13:00:07 GMT -5
Sarahjesse, you are a great blessing to your father, and I know that your tender care has helped in so many ways. He knows that you have been there for him through all of this, and that means so much.
I am thinking of you both and hope that everything will take place in the best possible way. I was there for my mother at that time of her life, and although it was very sad, we were also all glad that we could be part of her passing on.
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Post by giramomma on Dec 21, 2013 13:06:42 GMT -5
I'm so, so sorry for you. You are in my thoughts.
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Post by taz157 on Dec 21, 2013 13:32:07 GMT -5
I'm so, so sorry for you. You are in my thoughts. Yeah that.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Dec 21, 2013 14:12:14 GMT -5
I am so sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 14:46:19 GMT -5
Oh SarahJ my heart is bleeding for you, this is such a rough time. We are here for you. I hope your RL friends are supporting you.
It's never the right time, as you know. We always want to keep them a little bit longer.
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Post by JustLurkin on Dec 21, 2013 14:58:23 GMT -5
I'm so, so sorry for you. You are in my thoughts. Yeah that. Yeah that
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Post by dannylion on Dec 21, 2013 15:35:42 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, sarahjese. I was hoping he would rally once again. Wishing you peace and holding you and your Dad in my thoughts.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 21, 2013 15:36:24 GMT -5
Go and be by his side, Sarahjese. He will know you are there, I promise you. When the gates of Heaven open for him, and those he has loved and have gone before him are there to greet him, he will be able to say to them, "I spent my last few moments on earth with my beloved child, my dearest Sarahjese. I could not tell her it was OK for me to leave, but I know she will find it out when the first shock of grief is over."
He will let you know, when his body has left this earth, that all is well. You will see signs that his spirit is still with you, because the fact is that the ones we love never really leave us. We find reminders and see things that let us know they are still around.
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Post by busymom on Dec 21, 2013 15:47:39 GMT -5
Nothing but <HUGS> Sarah. And more prayers.
It may be he's chosen to spend Christmas in Heaven. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this right now.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 16:32:51 GMT -5
So sorry Sarah. Thinking of you.
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Post by Timberwolf on Dec 21, 2013 18:03:40 GMT -5
Oh shoot, I'm so sorry. As others have said, hopefully he will just slip away peacefully.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Dec 21, 2013 18:06:47 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. Prayers and thoughts for both of you.
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 21, 2013 18:06:58 GMT -5
Sarah I'm so sorry to hear this, know that your in my thoughts. Hon we are all here for you.
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Post by bean29 on Dec 21, 2013 19:20:10 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I am at the Hospital with my own Dad. He does not look good. He is on a pureed diet. He has lost an awful lot of weight.
I have been praying for your Dad right along with mine.
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