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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 10, 2013 10:30:24 GMT -5
I would love to hear stories, opinions, any experiences. Pretty much ANYTHING you are willing to say on the subject.
Thank you!!!!!!!
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Post by Colleenz on Dec 10, 2013 10:47:23 GMT -5
We contracted with a Gestational Surrogate to carry our remaining IVF embryo's after I had a very scary and dangerous pregnancy. What would you like to know?
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 10, 2013 10:59:28 GMT -5
We contracted with a Gestational Surrogate to carry our remaining IVF embryo's after I had a very scary and dangerous pregnancy. What would you like to know? If I say "everything", would that be crazy rude of me??
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 10, 2013 17:57:49 GMT -5
I've told dh that if sil has trouble getting pregnant that I would offer to surrogate for her. I want her to have babies almost as much as I wanted my own babies.
But that's all I've got (and I certainly hope it won't be an issue, I'm just surprised we haven't had a little one from her yet).
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 10, 2013 18:10:24 GMT -5
OMG Rae, why didn't I think of the situations like yours THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ok, just thinking out loud here.......never mind...........but thank you!!!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 10, 2013 18:47:31 GMT -5
DFs step DIL has a surrogate right now. Baby number two is due in February. Unfortunately, it's another boy which distresses her to no end. I'd be more concerned about getting a healthy baby with her old eggs and old surrogate.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Dec 10, 2013 19:04:34 GMT -5
Why are you so eager to learn about surrogecy? Are you thinking about doing it?
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 10, 2013 19:34:19 GMT -5
No, I can't do it. i am too old. I would have loved to, though, I LOVED being pregnant and had awesome pregnancies (I hope Swamp doesn't read this)
I am writing a paper for my class and I am completely out of ideas. I've looked at it from every angle I could think of and I am still 4 pages short.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2013 19:35:35 GMT -5
Send it to me, I'm good at stretching content
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 10, 2013 19:52:11 GMT -5
Send it to me, I'm good at stretching content I love you and I just did
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 10, 2013 20:07:39 GMT -5
It's a huge money maker for those who can handle being pregnant and just want to stay home with their kids. Think 30-50k for carrying. I know a lady who did it for ten different people. Good for her and for them.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2013 20:49:45 GMT -5
My son was born premature. I was thinking i would be too scared to have another child because i am a lot more likely to have another preemie. I had never thought about a surrogate. That could be a great option for me if i ever decide to have more (and ever get married again ) That could be another angle?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2013 21:31:38 GMT -5
The TV personality Joan Lunden had twins via a surrogate; I think Joan was 50.
I could also see it as an option for male same-sex couples.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 11, 2013 7:07:48 GMT -5
Doogie houser and his male partner did it. So did that wedding planner guy. Both had twins. Wedding planner guy and his partner split up and they each took a child. Wow, huh? All about them and not their kids it seems. Just like some hetero couples that split up.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2013 7:57:32 GMT -5
Did you read the Baby M case? I was living in NJ when that blew up. Surrogate mother decided she wanted to keep the baby and the wealthy married couple who hired her took her to court. (I think they all ended up with joint custody.) Baby M is now an adult and has done research into surrogate parenthood herself.
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Post by 973beachbum on Dec 11, 2013 8:05:47 GMT -5
Did you read the Baby M case? I was living in NJ when that blew up. Surrogate mother decided she wanted to keep the baby and the wealthy married couple who hired her took her to court. (I think they all ended up with joint custody.) Baby M is now an adult and has done research into surrogate parenthood herself. One thing to look into is the difference between a person carrying a child not related to them like a human incubator vs being the child's bio mother. In the Baby M case the surrogate was actually the childs bio mother who had been inseminated with the sperm of the man. To me it almost makes this more of an adoption written up before the child is born which is a whole 'nother can of worms! I don't know if they even do that type of surrogacy anymore. Everything I have read talks about using a donor egg instead of the surrogate's.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 11, 2013 8:13:39 GMT -5
yes and yes to both, Rukh and Athena. thank you
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2013 8:17:35 GMT -5
I gotta say, I love pictures of Neil Patrick Harris' family at Halloween... So cute.
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Post by skubikky on Dec 11, 2013 8:45:08 GMT -5
The TV personality Joan Lunden had twins via a surrogate; I think Joan was 50. I could also see it as an option for male same-sex couples. Yeah, Joan's 3 girls from her first marriage were grown. Her 2nd husband was a bit younger and didn't have children. At 50, I'm guessing that Joan used donor eggs as well though in stating that donor eggs were used for both sets of twins, she didn't indicate if they were hers. Unfortunately, that piece of information is probably, for other women that age trying to have a baby, the most telling and critical. It is very rare for a woman in her late 40's and older to have viable eggs.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 11, 2013 8:51:43 GMT -5
DFs DIL is using her own eggs which aren't that great due to her age. So it is biologically their child. After several attempts to get viable eggs from her, not a fun process I might add, they got 6. Planted the 3 most viable and only 1 took even then. They were hoping for more than one baby. She still has 3 more, not that great, but I have told her there is no guarantee she will get a girl out of any of those even if she can find another surrogate. She needs to accept that she will be queen of the house!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 11, 2013 9:19:03 GMT -5
I read somewhere that somebody did a study that indicates women are NOT born with the number of eggs we'll have for our whole lives, that we can produce new ones as we age and develop. It might have been on the Washington Post site or Slate's site.
I was 38 when C was conceived, so we did all the recommended testing. They told me I had the eggs of a late 20s woman. And they thanked me for doing the testing as it made their results easier/clearer.
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Post by giramomma on Dec 11, 2013 10:25:12 GMT -5
Another thing to do might be to call up law firms that specialize in family law. You might be able to get a lawyer to talk nuances of the law.
The law firm we used to have our wills and other assorted documents drawn up specialized in adoption issues for same sex couples. I know the law firm dealt with surrogacy issues as well.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 11, 2013 11:47:55 GMT -5
We used to have a surrogate mom on here. I wonder if she never made the transition over. She had 4-5 kids of her own and was carrying surrogate pregnancies for a couple overseas.
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Post by Pants on Dec 11, 2013 13:26:07 GMT -5
DFs DIL is using her own eggs which aren't that great due to her age. So it is biologically their child. After several attempts to get viable eggs from her, not a fun process I might add, they got 6. Planted the 3 most viable and only 1 took even then. They were hoping for more than one baby. She still has 3 more, not that great, but I have told her there is no guarantee she will get a girl out of any of those even if she can find another surrogate. She needs to accept that she will be queen of the house! If she's already paying all this money, why didn't she get the embryos tested for gender? It's like $5k.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 11, 2013 13:38:48 GMT -5
Not sure. Not going to ask, either. Only one egg made it out of the three implanted so I'm thinking you get what you get.
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Post by The Captain on Dec 11, 2013 13:55:10 GMT -5
No, I can't do it. i am too old. I would have loved to, though, I LOVED being pregnant and had awesome pregnancies (I hope Swamp doesn't read this) I am writing a paper for my class and I am completely out of ideas. I've looked at it from every angle I could think of and I am still 4 pages short. You can explore the ethics angle of oursourcing surrogacy to poor countries, like India for example - it's a huge business over there and the fees can set the surrogate's family up well for many years. The cultural view has apparently shifted to being somewhat shameful to considering these women heroes. That alone could easily fill 4 pages.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2013 14:05:33 GMT -5
You know what else can fill four pages? Realizing you have line spacing on 1.15 instead of 2... lol... You know I love you, but I couldn't resist... Easiest stretching I've ever done...
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Post by The Captain on Dec 11, 2013 14:18:38 GMT -5
You can explore the ethics angle of oursourcing surrogacy to poor countries, like India for example - it's a huge business over there and the fees can set the surrogate's family up well for many years. The cultural view has apparently shifted to being somewhat shameful to considering these women heroes. That alone could easily fill 4 pages. I would be very concerned at the level of/if any pre-natal care. And how do you get the child here? Sounds wildly complicated and incredibly risky. I think there was a 60 minutes special on it. The women actually are temporarily housed in a facility before, during, and while giving birth. They get the gold standard of medical care (for any country). There is almost no risk of the women deciding to keep the baby. It's apparently a growing business. www.cnn.com/2013/11/03/world/asia/india-surrogate-mother-industry/www.cbsnews.com/news/outsourced-wombs-for-rent-in-india/
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Post by justme on Dec 11, 2013 14:20:06 GMT -5
You know what else can fill four pages? Realizing you have line spacing on 1.15 instead of 2... lol... You know I love you, but I couldn't resist... Easiest stretching I've ever done... Or, if you're printing it and sending it in you could also make the margins just a tiny bit smaller and make the font 12.5 instead of 12. There's also going back and making every space after a period two spaces old school style.
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Post by swamp on Dec 11, 2013 14:20:51 GMT -5
No, I can't do it. i am too old. I would have loved to, though, I LOVED being pregnant and had awesome pregnancies (I hope Swamp doesn't read this)
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