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Post by Deleted on Nov 28, 2013 12:03:20 GMT -5
It's that wonderful time of the year when friends and family gather for the holidays. Today I am thinking about some of the people in my life and the different personalities. I have been thinking about how much I prefer to converse with stable people. To put it bluntly, these are people that have their shit together. Their mood is even keel with no emotional outbursts. They can support themselves and live responsibly.
Someone people I will be seeing today have severe mood swings. You never know what to expect. Do you know anyone like that? How do you deal with it?
How would you define a stable person?
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Post by The Captain on Nov 28, 2013 12:18:43 GMT -5
I think you did it pretty well - folks who have their shit together...
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Post by geenamercile on Nov 28, 2013 12:19:08 GMT -5
 Oh I could count the ways. Oh Yea. I normally deal with it by not being where they are at. But this year we are making an exception because it will be the first holiday that my grandmother won't be there, and I am expecting that will be hard on my aunt. My normal definition of stable, most likely still fall in the range of unstable for most and I am working on readjusting that. But I will start with, not shooting people over dinner choices.
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Post by The Captain on Nov 28, 2013 12:33:52 GMT -5
 Wow, really? As far as how to deal with someone who has severe mood swings, yea we had that. In our family we did whatever we could to keep the peace. It goes very contrary to my nature. I am getting better with age though.
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Post by Shooby on Nov 28, 2013 12:39:16 GMT -5
What fun would family gatherings be without drama?
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Post by Shooby on Nov 28, 2013 12:40:26 GMT -5
When I think of stable I think of low drama ppeople who aren't always in a perpetual crisis.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 28, 2013 12:49:25 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Nov 28, 2013 13:04:24 GMT -5
That's a pretty good place to start  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 28, 2013 13:10:04 GMT -5
don't stable people work with horses?
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 28, 2013 15:08:16 GMT -5
I wondered if this thread was about cleaning stalls.
To answer the actual question, I avoid them.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 28, 2013 19:43:17 GMT -5
Actually, one of our last family gatherings before my grandma died and my grandfather lost his mind, one of our family started some shit and the rest of the family threw her bodily out of the house and told her she could come back in when she stopped her shit. I loved it-it was my mom!
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Post by Jaguar on Nov 28, 2013 20:17:46 GMT -5
Yeah I kicked my wacko non responsible sister out of mom's apartment too. In my books if you didn't help pay the rent you had no say how the household got run. She was nagging on mom over every non issue thing she could find. I sent mom to bingo and kicked shithead out.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2013 0:01:03 GMT -5
Okay, I thought and thought about it and couldn't come up with any family members, who attended our dinner, who are unstable.
Does being overweight count?
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 29, 2013 8:06:33 GMT -5
Only if it causes chair or table stability.  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2013 8:08:20 GMT -5
Oh I could count the ways. Oh Yea. I normally deal with it by not being where they are at. But this year we are making an exception because it will be the first holiday that my grandmother won't be there, and I am expecting that will be hard on my aunt. My normal definition of stable, most likely still fall in the range of unstable for most and I am working on readjusting that. But I will start with, not shooting people over dinner choices. Oh geena, I am sorry to hear about you Grandmother.  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2013 8:09:06 GMT -5
Okay, I thought and thought about it and couldn't come up with any family members, who attended our dinner, who are unstable. Me either! I guess we should thank our lucky stars... |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2013 9:52:58 GMT -5
Okay, I thought and thought about it and couldn't come up with any family members, who attended our dinner, who are unstable. Me either! I guess we should thank our lucky stars... Every family has them so if it isn't anyone else... |
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Post by sesfw on Nov 29, 2013 11:23:57 GMT -5
We had a quiet day yesterday, no drama at all unless you call a very pregnant g-dtr with a squirming baby girl inside, drama. Actually I spent a lot of time laughing and remembering how I felt when I was carrying her mom.
I kept telling her DH that he was going to have a very bad case of labor along with his BW. He kept telling me he was cool, calm, collected. Y,S,R. He is a police officer but this is also his first child.
It's going to be interesting.
The only person in our family that was dramatic long before it was a popular term was my mom. She stirred the pot because she liked to. Took me a very long time (50 years) to learn how to deal with it. I just agreed with everything she said and ignored it. She is gone now and I don't miss the antics.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Nov 29, 2013 11:40:57 GMT -5
I'm allergic to drama.
I seriously don't know why or how people subject themselves purposefully to drama. It's exhausting. I know sometimes you have to for the sake of family, etc. But honestly, it's just insane to me how much time and energy people will spend on things that are just ridiculous. My H's ex-wife and daughter are honestly some of the worst people I know at it... they seem to live to stir up and create drama and then spend their time being in a tizzy about it, waiting frantically for someone to solve their problems.
I am low key and for the most part, my family is, too, which is pretty good for a bunch of type A people.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2013 12:03:09 GMT -5
Me either! I guess we should thank our lucky stars... Every family has them so if it isn't anyone else... LOL!!! Good one, Later. |
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 29, 2013 12:09:34 GMT -5
Someone people I will be seeing today have severe mood swings. You never know what to expect. Do you know anyone like that? How do you deal with it? You mean...besides myself? |
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 29, 2013 12:53:22 GMT -5
Me either! I guess we should thank our lucky stars... Every family has them so if it isn't anyone else... Ok...that seriously just made me LOL |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2013 12:59:17 GMT -5
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Post by Jaguar on Nov 29, 2013 14:42:56 GMT -5
How to deal with unstable people, become really calm; drives them freaking nuts. See what meditation does for a person.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Nov 29, 2013 15:59:34 GMT -5
Okay, I thought and thought about it and couldn't come up with any family members, who attended our dinner, who are unstable. That's because, like me, you didn't invite them! I avoid unstable people as much as possible. Plus I prefer being the only one in our group so that everybody invites me for entertainment purposes.  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2013 16:38:45 GMT -5
Unstable people help make the holidays more memorable for you.  |
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Post by Happy prose on Nov 29, 2013 17:57:23 GMT -5
This Thanksgiving was the first holiday i didn't spend with the unstable one. I loved it! I don't see me spending any holidays with the nut in the future.
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