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Post by quince on Nov 15, 2013 22:04:06 GMT -5
Got out of debt in a year. In a relationship that makes me so happy I'm waiting to find out his awful secret or something along those lines. Financially secure. I also actually finished a wearable adult sweater last year, so yay!
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cronewitch
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Post by cronewitch on Nov 16, 2013 3:16:20 GMT -5
I didn't get fired. I have been a half hour late to work everyday for a couple years and am now stretching to an hour late yet they don't fire me. I told them I will give notice in January so they are all doing my work while I do nothing but they still don't fire me.
I have been fired from most jobs I ever had because I am not a quitter but if they don't get a move on the firing I might just have to quit. Since 1986 I have quit two jobs and been let go or fired 5 times so not getting fired is a success if you set the bar low enough.
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Post by constanz22 on Nov 16, 2013 8:36:20 GMT -5
Well, since it was so easy to point out my failures...lol...let's try for some successes! I graduated college in 4 years (even then, early 90's most people were taking close to 5.) I bought a house when I was 31, as a single woman with a low income. It could've, and probably should've, been a disaster but I worked my butt off, sometimes working 3 jobs to make it all work out. I am fiercely independent. I don't want or need anyone to take care of me. I am one of the most loyal and giving people you'll meet (sometimes to a fault, but these are supposed to be strengths) Even though I went into a very low paying career (social work), I have made a decent career and life for myself. It was not easy early on, but I have been employed by the county government for almost 14 years. The pay is good (for my field and the area), benefits and retirement are great (since I did not contribute to any retirement prior to this job). I have paid off a ton of debt in the last 6 years or so. Still have a long way to go, but have accomplished way more than I thought possible by dealing with it head on and doing whatever needed to be done instead of burying my head in the sand.
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Post by jeep108 on Nov 16, 2013 14:03:15 GMT -5
At the age of 25 we took in my husband's niece and helped her get through her 4 years of high school. While her mom and dad were in jail. 13 years later she now has a teaching job. Teaching special needs kids. She just got married herself last weekend. I like to think the stability that we offered helped her to get where she's at.
My own 17 old is still alive and we have her anxiety and depression under control after a year of counseling and meds. Everyday that she is stable I feel like we succeeded.
My husband and I have been together for 23 years. It's had it's up and downs. We still love each other and don't want to kill each other, today. Is a success. Ask me tomorrow and you could get a different answer.
Waking up and having choices is a success.
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Post by flamingo on Nov 16, 2013 19:36:53 GMT -5
My husband and I have been married for 3 years (as of 2 weeks from now) and he still thinks I'm cool and wants to keep me around. I'm financially where I want to be in terms of retirement savings and mostly don't carry a cc balance. Oh, and after I made a fairly big career change 5 months ago,that was lateral/almost a step backward, I found out yesterday I got a promotion! So I'll count November a win.
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Post by kilroy on Nov 17, 2013 10:19:37 GMT -5
Sad how much shorter this thread is than the failure one Having vented my many failures, I should say that I succeeded in getting what I thought was my dream job 15 years ago, and I did it from the other side of the country. Online application, phone interview, and a week later I had a job that made people go "ooh, cool!" when I told them about it. And it was cool, until the company decided they didn't need my whole department anymore. Oh, and despite that little setback I'm in pretty good shape saving for retirement, which is important to me. Congrats, flamingo! Sounds like November was definitely a win
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Post by Waffle on Nov 18, 2013 13:30:50 GMT -5
I agree with you Kilroy - it is sad that this thread is so much shorter than the failure thread. (Says someone, who up to now hasn't listed anything on the success thread).
I bought my first house when I was 25 - I thought that was a successful financial move.
Also, when I first started working "here" the plant employed close to 1000 people - it's been sold 3 times since then and at one point we were down to about 100 people - I managed to remain employed each time. I'd call that a success. (They've been hiring again and the count is closer to 200 people, now).
So come on people - list some successes - let's make this thread at least as long as the failure thread.
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Post by tskeeter on Nov 18, 2013 13:39:06 GMT -5
At the age of 25 we took in my husband's niece and helped her get through her 4 years of high school. While her mom and dad were in jail. 13 years later she now has a teaching job. Teaching special needs kids. She just got married herself last weekend. I like to think the stability that we offered helped her to get where she's at. My own 17 old is still alive and we have her anxiety and depression under control after a year of counseling and meds. Everyday that she is stable I feel like we succeeded. My husband and I have been together for 23 years. It's had it's up and downs. We still love each other and don't want to kill each other, today. Is a success. Ask me tomorrow and you could get a different answer. Waking up and having choices is a success.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 18, 2013 13:42:21 GMT -5
My house isn't so bad that we've been invited to be on Hoarders. Does that count as an accomplisment? I exclusively breastfed for a year, pumping 3x a day at work. I can't take all the credit though I have wonderfully supportive bosses that let me be out of the lab that many times a day and an employer that views BF-ing as important. AND during that year I managed to stay on top of my work and recieved a rave employee review. I sent DH's resume in to the company he currently works for. They wanted him BAD. He makes $2/hr more than he did previously, the hours are much better, the company culture is much better, he gets bonuses/profit sharing and the attendence policy is much more flexible/family friendly so I no longer have to shoulder sick kid/snow day duty alone. He nailed the interview and got the job but he said he never would have considered applying for it. He was happy coasting. At first he was mad at me but now he's glad I lit a fire under his butt.
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Post by sheilaincali on Nov 18, 2013 14:48:31 GMT -5
I have been following the decluttering thread on WIR. My goal was to declutter 2013 items out of my house in 2013. So far I am at 1889 (124 more to go). That's been impressive- added bonus our house takes about an hour to clean and that's doing all the bathrooms and vacuuming even.
I broke out of my shell and made some great friends in the past year or so. I've gone to two weekend retreats with my girlfriends (and have a third planned for March). DH has gone on two weekend trips with his friends. (in a few cases the wife went on my trip on the husband went on DH's trip) DH and I are attending a trivia night fundraiser for the local children's museum this coming weekend with a group of friends. The first weekend in December we are having a big group over for a Christmas party at our house. We went to Family Board Game night with like 35 other people this past weekend and hung out all night Saturday meeting people and playing games.
The social life thing is something I am really proud of. DH and I are both pretty serious introverts so it can be a struggle to make plans and follow through with people but we've done it quite successfully for over a year now. It has been life changing. Sounds weird but it really has been.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 19, 2013 9:08:27 GMT -5
I actually realized yesterday when talking to girlfriend I mentioned that two people that I thought were friends really were rather rude and snobby to me at our reunion. She suggested I contact them and ask them why. I realized and then told her, that they may have other shit going on in their lives, that my life might LOOK golden compared to theirs, and that may actually be true, and that, finally, I honestly don't care whether they are pissed at me or not. That I'm okay with them not being my friends for some reason. I have good friends and don't need two with an attitude. She was shocked that I could be so callous because that isn't like me because having no siblings, my girlfriends were the be all and end all in my life. That isn't my way anymore. Sorry for them and whatever their issues are but it isn't got to affect me and I'm not going to grovel over some perceived hurt on their part for their friendship. Plus, they may have just been bitches that night. It happens.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 19, 2013 9:11:16 GMT -5
On the plus side, I really felt I failed with DD but she is really coming around. She's still moody and a bit hateful but I can live with that, since I don't! She's going to have a good future and that's what's important to me.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 19, 2013 9:13:51 GMT -5
Damn, Shelia, that is freakin awesome!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2013 10:21:04 GMT -5
I helped to make a super cute kid I work out at least 4 times a week (most weeks) and don't eat like crap as much (most times) that's all I got.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Nov 19, 2013 10:26:01 GMT -5
I helped to make a super cute kid I work out at least 4 times a week (most weeks) and don't eat like crap as much (most times) that's all I got. Your kid is abso-freakin'-lutely gorgeous!!!!
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 21, 2013 19:24:58 GMT -5
Okay, we need to bump this thread. It just sucks that there are more failures than successes. In SPITE of my bad choice for a sperm donor, my kids did not end up pregnant, criminals, or on drugs. They made it through college. One has a great job for COKE and the other is re-inventing herself as a PA wanna be. So far she has a 4.0 in some pretty darn hard classes. I am so done with my Christmas shopping! Even wrapped most of it. Just need some tools for DF and he has to pick them out so it's all good there. All I have to do is ship stuff to Florida after I pick up the watch and purse I bought at Macy's friends and family sale. im getting ready to go somewhere I've never been and get a stamp of sorts in my passport. Then I get another in December! Also, in December I get to see my kids and friends. I'm grateful DD is still in this country and still can celebrate Christmas as a family. C'mon, you guys, we are more than failures here.
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Post by swamp on Nov 21, 2013 19:37:07 GMT -5
I have been exercising and watching what I eat for about 2 months now and the jeans that were previously very snug, I can take them off without unbuttoning them.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Nov 21, 2013 19:37:19 GMT -5
I'm at the hospital visiting my FIL and watching hubs with his father has made me see him in a new light. I married a great guy! He certainly wasn't YM material when we met and he has made a lot of great financial strides, but I hit the jackpot with such a caring man. I've just been in awe of hubs this week.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2013 19:46:32 GMT -5
I'm happy with what and who I'm. Yup, that pretty much sums it up
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Nov 21, 2013 19:51:12 GMT -5
I'm a success right now. Happy, healthy kids. My kids have a better life than I did. And it's not money wise. They have two mentally/emotionally healthy parents raising them. They know their dad well. Good marriage. I make a difference in other people's lives. Other people (not related to me) genuinely care about my family because they want to, not because they have to. IOW, we have a huge support network. Yes you do
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2013 20:23:21 GMT -5
I have been sober for 19 years.
I have been smoke free for about 5 years.
I have a college diploma in advertising and a BA in psychology, both achieved as a working adult.
I provide a safe home and emotional support to two wonderful young women that don't have much else in the way of support.
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Post by Jaguar on Nov 21, 2013 20:55:46 GMT -5
I have been smoke free for 16 years.
I have been debt free since Aug. 2012.
I have lived on my own since Dec. 2000.
Next I'll get my thyroid back in working order and I'll get back to exercising.
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Post by taz157 on Nov 21, 2013 21:11:05 GMT -5
I'm not a criminal or an addict. I have my CPA license in 2 states. I have a good job with a good firm and I'll be able to learn alot more than in my previous job. I have a DH that I haven't killed yet. I have a beautiful DD that I haven't wanted to give anyway yet.
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