Jake 48
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Post by Jake 48 on Oct 11, 2013 14:58:18 GMT -5
Prayers and hugs
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Post by kent on Oct 11, 2013 15:01:46 GMT -5
From our house to yours
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jeep108
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Post by jeep108 on Oct 11, 2013 15:08:58 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss.
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Post by cronewitch on Oct 11, 2013 15:53:53 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss. I lost both parents dad over 20 years ago and mom this year and miss them both. I hope your dad was a wonderful dad you can remember fondly.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 11, 2013 19:09:39 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 11, 2013 20:07:08 GMT -5
TMR so sorry for your loss. May time heal the hurt and allow you to enjoy the memories of your dad
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Post by sapphire12 on Oct 11, 2013 21:30:00 GMT -5
Condolences to you and yours on the loss of your dad. I've witnessed too often the devastation of cancer. Peace be with you. Your dad's suffering is over.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 12, 2013 5:31:29 GMT -5
Thanks everyone.Saying thank you seems so inadequate, for the way I feel about you all and the support you've shown. Unfortunately, that's all I've got. A glowing thank you comes you way to say you brightened up my day!
Why do some family members have to be such a$$es at a time like this? It doesn't take talent, or show skill. And they certainly don't need any more practice! I'm so sorry. Too bad it doesn't get easier. Huh? I know. Huh? I had just lost several people that I was really close to, when I originally created my screen name. Ain't it the truth. It's not like this was unexpected. Still, it's so painful and hard, Thanks for pointing that out. I was very nice of you, Although I am sad for my loss, I am so grateful my father is no longer suffering. That was incredibly hard to watch. I lost my uncle, my sister, and now my dad to cancer. My brother currently has it. UGH. I too, am sorry for your loss. I too have lost both parents now. My mom passed away 13 years ago. I'm so glad I have such good memories of/with my father. And so many of them. I know some people aren't so lucky. In time I will be able to celebrate his life, rather than mourn his death. I look forward to that day. Death seems to be one of those things that doesn't get easier, no matter how much you practice. (I've had plenty!) I hope the days ahead are brighter, for us all. GROUP HUG!-Thanks again!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 12, 2013 13:50:43 GMT -5
Because they can be. Because they have no manners. Because they have nothing better to do. Because the simple things, like showing understanding and concern, are beyond their comprehension.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 12, 2013 14:32:37 GMT -5
Because they can be. Because they have no manners. Because they have nothing better to do. Because the simple things, like showing understanding and concern, are beyond their comprehension. So true. Heaven forbid they think of anyone but themselves. The thing that surprises me is, that they think it's okay to behave poorly. They must feel like it's working for them, cuz they keep doing it. And until they get called on it (enough), or in the right way, I guess they will continue to do it. Personally, I think rather than coming off as strong and in control, they are rude and look foolish / pathetic. I'm so glad I've never been a screamer. I would be so embarrassed. Besides, when it comes right down to it, it's just 'stuff'. There may be some very nice stuff. But it's still just stuff. It won't bring my father back. I'm not willing to fight over stuff.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 12, 2013 14:35:54 GMT -5
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 12, 2013 14:36:47 GMT -5
Oh, been there, seen that. People can have all the stuff they want, pretty much. I have stuff. I can buy stuff. I would trade all my stuff to bring back the people I love and miss, though.
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Post by mrsdutt on Oct 12, 2013 15:44:14 GMT -5
Please accept my most sincere condolences. Hugs to you.
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Post by Jaguar on Oct 12, 2013 16:04:19 GMT -5
So very sorry for your loss of your dad,
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 13, 2013 18:35:35 GMT -5
Oh, been there, seen that. People can have all the stuff they want, pretty much. I have stuff. I can buy stuff. I would trade all my stuff to bring back the people I love and miss, though. Every time I see it, I'm kinda shocked. Never surprised, but always a little shocked and disappointed. I was especially disappointed, but not shocked, when it was my own brother. Agreed. They can have the stuff. I want the person.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 13, 2013 19:46:40 GMT -5
Oh, dear. I see you and I have the same brother. Crap. I am really sorry about that. You gotta wonder how many stupid cells are out there, that there could be two people like this.
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Post by mmhmm on Oct 13, 2013 19:55:54 GMT -5
Oh, dear. I see you and I have the same brother. Crap. I am really sorry about that. You gotta wonder how many stupid cells are out there, that there could be two people like this. I have one of those brothers, too. Lovely creatures. NOT! They need a foot plant to the face!
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Post by Jaguar on Oct 13, 2013 19:59:47 GMT -5
Oh, dear. I see you and I have the same brother. Crap. I am really sorry about that. You gotta wonder how many stupid cells are out there, that there could be two people like this. I have one of those brothers, too. Lovely creatures. NOT! They need a foot plant to the face!
I can trump that with both a brother and a sister straight from the bowels of all nastiness.
Rise above the crap. That's all I can say.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 13, 2013 21:58:20 GMT -5
Oh, dear. I see you and I have the same brother. Crap. I am really sorry about that. You gotta wonder how many stupid cells are out there, that there could be two people like this. Well, if you and I are going to be related, I certainly wish it were for a different reason! Apparently we aren't the only ones.
My brother always seems to find a way to make it seem like it's the other person, doing something wrong. Like he's the innocent victim , looking out for everyone. And he seems to get away with it. It makes me CRAZY! I have to wonder if other people are really that stupid. Why don't they see it? I know, it's easier not to. But come on. Does anyone else's do that? Who knew I was related to so many of you?! (Sorry 'bout that!)
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Post by Opti on Oct 14, 2013 1:57:36 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss TMR. I think dying of cancer can be very challenging for the person who passes and the loved ones who are around for the process. My XH's Mom died from cancer as well as my Mom's beloved second husband who all her kids approved of. And really sorry about the stuff fighting and bad behavior. Some people care more about the stuff and their personal advantage compared to the loss of the deceased.
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Post by cronewitch on Oct 14, 2013 2:22:44 GMT -5
We are lucky that we don't ever fight over stuff. When mom was sick she gave stuff to people but nobody asked for anything unless she asked what they wanted. There was an antique piggy bank that had been my grandfathers. We grew up getting our milk money from it as children so it was special to all of us. Mom told me years ago she told my oldest brother he could have it. So I said you want him to have this right, you said you did. She said she didn't remember saying that, so I asked my brother did mom say you could have this and he said he she didn't but he would like it. Why would I fight over something like that even if I might have liked it and if he didn't take it I would have? My other brother is executor of her estate so after she passed he gave us the stuff we were offered then asked us if we wanted other things. I got back a few things I gave her but many other things I told him who I thought should get it, like my nephew should get the computer since he bought it for her. What nobody wanted went to charity or the . I am happy nobody wanted to fight for her stuff and easily gave it up if anyone else wanted it. Even her ashes, I got them but didn't want them so gave them to a niece because she wanted to see them. She will put them on her mantle with her late cat, mom would like that.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Oct 14, 2013 5:52:07 GMT -5
tmr, I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 15, 2013 2:50:01 GMT -5
We are lucky that we don't ever fight over stuff. When mom was sick she gave stuff to people but nobody asked for anything unless she asked what they wanted. There was an antique piggy bank that had been my grandfathers. We grew up getting our milk money from it as children so it was special to all of us. Mom told me years ago she told my oldest brother he could have it. So I said you want him to have this right, you said you did. She said she didn't remember saying that, so I asked my brother did mom say you could have this and he said he she didn't but he would like it. Why would I fight over something like that even if I might have liked it and if he didn't take it I would have? My other brother is executor of her estate so after she passed he gave us the stuff we were offered then asked us if we wanted other things. I got back a few things I gave her but many other things I told him who I thought should get it, like my nephew should get the computer since he bought it for her. What nobody wanted went to charity or the . I am happy nobody wanted to fight for her stuff and easily gave it up if anyone else wanted it. Even her ashes, I got them but didn't want them so gave them to a niece because she wanted to see them. She will put them on her mantle with her late cat, mom would like that. This is the way I think it should be. Maybe when we actually do it, I'll get pleasantly surprised, and it will be. But it hasn't been so far. Thanks again, everyone....bye dad
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