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Post by swamp on Aug 23, 2013 20:35:27 GMT -5
Your daughter has a queen size bed. Well shoot that is big enough just put her on one side, and if she pees tell her to roll over to the other side. By the next night all should be dry for another go. But seriously good luck. I gave her our bed when we upgraded to a king.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Aug 23, 2013 21:08:31 GMT -5
Swamp - my niece wet the bed until she was about 12. My sister (step-mom) finally took her to the ped after her mom refused to. They were able to give her some medication that helped a lot, and they got a special bed pad that would alert the kids to wake up if they started to pee. After just a few weeks of those two she was able to stop. I would say talk to the ped if it does not stop in a couple weeks.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 23, 2013 21:20:32 GMT -5
DF says someone set the alarm and take her potty in the middle of the night.
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Post by clexie on Aug 23, 2013 21:34:13 GMT -5
I also use to wet the bed when I was a kid. I would sleep so hard that I would not awaken until morning. My parents finally bought a bed wetting alarm. It scared the crap out of me awake whenever I wet the bed because it was so loud. It basically just taught me to wake on time to go. It only took a few times for that very loud alarm to come on to get my body used to waking me up in time instead.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 23, 2013 22:28:31 GMT -5
Good luck! Ds wears a pullup when he sleeps in our bed and is almost always wet. But when he sleeps in his bed with no pullup he's dry... Eventually I'll get brave enough to try it in our bed too.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 23, 2013 23:15:28 GMT -5
Here is controversy for you. My niece was a bed-wetter, and my sister did all this research and found the one she liked, which was that kids knew deep down inside they were doing it. So, she told her daughter that if she wet the bed she would be spanked. And she wet the bed, and my sister spanked her, and she never wet the bed again. I remember a friend once telling me that one of her sons (she had 6 kids) that was a bed-wetter and they eliminated all dairy from his diet and he stopped, or maybe it was just milk, or something. I thought that was really weird - which of course, I said out loud. She said "I thought it was weird, too. But, meh, what did we have to lose - a week without milk isn't the worst thing." Maybe you could google that and see if there is some connection, or if she just followed some old wives tale and by some coincidence it worked. LOL
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 23, 2013 23:22:00 GMT -5
One thing that has stopped some kids who should have aged out of bed-wetting and haven't is finding out someone is having a sleep-over party to which they're invited. I've known two moms (one was my DIL) who found that was a game-changer. The kid really wanted to go to the party but was very worried about what would happen if everybody found out he/she wet the bed. For both kids, that solved the problem. Don't know if it would work for your little one, though. I know my DIL plotted and planned with another mother to get her boy's "party" arranged in hopes it would give him the initiative to work at controlling his bladder at night. For him, it worked.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 23, 2013 23:50:09 GMT -5
Good luck! Is there a night light in the bathroom/hall way? In case she is scared to go at night. Just a thought. My step son wet the bed until about 12. I got him right before he turned 10 (when I married his dad). My biggest struggle was to keep him from hiding his soaked sheets in the closet and lying about how they got there. I explained to him he didn't need to be embarrassed as my step brother wet the bed until he was 14. It happens. He finally told me when it happened and I thanked him and I took care of it. I explained to him that the urine would get into the carpet and his room would smell and we didn't want his friends to know. It stopped shortly after that but I had also added a night light to his bathroom and his bedroom. I realized he was probably scared of the dark and he didn't want to say so.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 23, 2013 23:53:37 GMT -5
I still have a nightlight because I'm scared of the dark. Or, I have to get up and pee. It's one of those two things. Or, some other reason. But, yes, we have a nightlight in our bathroom. The kids don't have one in theirs - they are young and spry, and they need to toughen up. I am weak and tender. I need coddling.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 23, 2013 23:55:27 GMT -5
I still have a nightlight because I'm scared of the dark. Or, I have to get up and pee. It's one of those two things. Or, some other reason. But, yes, we have a nightlight in our bathroom. The kids don't have one in theirs - they are young and spry, and they need to toughen up. I am weak and tender. I need coddling. LOL!! Are you sure it's not so you don't step on your cat or break a toe like my DH?
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 23, 2013 23:58:41 GMT -5
You are right POM, it is probably that.
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 24, 2013 0:07:02 GMT -5
I still have a nightlight because I'm scared of the dark. Or, I have to get up and pee. It's one of those two things. Or, some other reason. But, yes, we have a nightlight in our bathroom. The kids don't have one in theirs - they are young and spry, and they need to toughen up. I am weak and tender. I need coddling. LOL!! Are you sure it's not so you don't step on your cat or break a toe like my DH?
This is why I keep my bathroom light on all the time. I busted more toes up than you can shake a stick at.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 24, 2013 0:08:21 GMT -5
My husband broke his toe by missing the doorway. Even worse, he woke me up.
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 24, 2013 0:15:03 GMT -5
My husband broke his toe by missing the doorway. Even worse, he woke me up. I ran my toe into one of the columns that separate my living room from the sunroom (which is where the half-bath is). Nailed that sucker good! I haven't let the night light burn out and not be replaced again.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2013 7:12:19 GMT -5
I thought that in most cases you just had to wait for the child to be mature enough to know to get up at night to go the bathroom....that you couldn't 'teach' them to not wet the bed. I don't agree with punishing her. If you put her in underwear and she still has accidents, I would think she's just not ready. Mine never had nighttime accidents so it just seems they were ready.
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Post by swamp on Aug 24, 2013 7:17:35 GMT -5
I though so to, but when she told me she knows she's peeing and just didn't want to get up, I think she might be ready.
She did wet the bed last night. She woke me up at 5. She changed hherself, stripped tje bed, and helped me remake the bed. No sheets though, I just used an extra blanket
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2013 7:22:18 GMT -5
I though so to, but when she told me she knows she's peeing and just didn't want to get up, I think she might be ready. She did wet the bed last night. She woke me up at 5. She changed hherself, stripped tje bed, and helped me remake the bed. No sheets though, I just used an extra blanket if she's willing to do that, then I guess go with that method....I would buy lots of waterproof mattress protectors (or shower curtain liners, much cheaper). I would try to get her to not wake you up when it happens though....I would be tempted to put her in a pull up just so I could get my sleep. :-)
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Post by phartmoore1 on Aug 24, 2013 9:24:16 GMT -5
I just go outside and pee on a tree. Don't need a nightlight, just the light of the moon.
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 24, 2013 16:12:18 GMT -5
swamp
Your little one is trying so that's a plus. Did your new washing machine show up today ?
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Post by swamp on Aug 24, 2013 17:26:07 GMT -5
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Your little one is trying so that's a plus. Did your new washing machine show up today ?
Yes. It fits 2 queen sized sheet sets and a mattress cover with room to spare.
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 24, 2013 19:04:28 GMT -5
swamp
Your little one is trying so that's a plus. Did your new washing machine show up today ?
Yes. It fits 2 queen sized sheet sets and a mattress cover with room to spare.
That's awesome news hon.
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Post by swasat on Aug 24, 2013 22:56:14 GMT -5
OMG Swamp , i think we have the same daughter !!!!
DD will be 6 in late Sep and we were facing the exact same issue. We finally solved it this summer.
Here is what worked for us.
First, I bought a giant plastic sheet from Home Depot and duck taped it to her mattress. Then, we quit night time pull ups cold turkey.
DD goes to bed at 8:30 pm. We made her use the restroom right before she went to bed. I go to bed at 10:30, i take her to the restroom right before that. And then DH ( God bless him! He is a sweetheart) got up at around 2:30 am and took her to the restroom one more time.
The first week we started this we had 2 accidents. That plastic sheet and lots of laundry saved us. The second week we had a few accidents too but it started tapering down the third week. No accidents fourth week onwards! Yes it was hard to do but I am glad its solved. She has been absolutely dry for 1.5 months. My guess is her body clock just got re- tuned.
Just throwing it out there as the approach totally worked for us. YMMV.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2013 16:27:10 GMT -5
This morning, she tells me that she knows she is peeing at night, but it's OK because she's wearing a diaper.
Swamp to me this doesn't mean she's being "lazy" ... my guess is that she may not be ABLE to get up from her deep sleep. Like Rukh, I don't see that comment as meaning "I don't need to wake up to pee because I'm wearing a diaper and it's OK." Her sleep hasn't enabled her to make the transition, IMO.
We had this issue with DS1. We didn't even KNOW DS1 should have been dry at night until DS2, his younger brother, did it. To say DS1 slept like a rock would be a MAJOR understatement.
Once DS2 was dry at night my ex and I realized there was an issue with DS1 (they are 20 months apart). We (obviously) cut off liquids and made DS1 pee IMMEDIATELY before bed. But for the next few weeks (maybe a month?) my ex or I would take him to pee before WE went to bed, so at least once a night, but sometimes twice, depending on when we went to bed. It took a few weeks but then DS1 finally stopped wetting the bed.
Frankly I don't know exactly why it stopped. My theory was that DS1 slept EXTREMELY deeply, and that waking him up once or twice a night for a few weeks helped "lighten" his sleep and "train" him to heed his body telling him that he needed to pee. I have NO idea whether that theory is scientifically viable or not.
This said, I wouldn't make it TOO comfortable for your DD. It's great that she woke up and helped you with the sheets. I'd probably do that for another few days or another week. Then I'd tell her (nicely) so now you know where the sheets are, and you know how to make the bed. So from now on, you are big enough to either not wet the bed, roll over to the other side, or change the sheets on your own. Either way, as of tonight, I don't want you to wake me up anymore. Also, make sure DD knows where to put the wet sheets (I'm sure you don't want her changing the sheets all on her own and then waking you up for that LOL.)
Good luck Swamp! My late Dad used to say, nobody ever walks down the aisle wearing diapers, sucking a pacifier, holding a blankie, or clutching a teddy. LOL.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Aug 25, 2013 16:57:21 GMT -5
My DD is a very determined person, and it started when she was an infant. She was not particularly interested in staying dry day or night, and we read books, got her a musical potty, admired her, talked with her, whatever. ( We didn't spank her or shame her forr accidents or anything, but we tried all positive methods recommended by anyone and everyone ).
Do you know what did it in one fell swoop for us ? I had a plastic fish bowl. I went to the Kmart-type store by our house, and got boxes of colored pencils, plastic jewelry, crayons, little model cars, some small pieces of candy, mini horsie models, toothbrushes and other, assorted, colorful junk. It cost a good $ 20 back then to fill it 2/3 full.
I took everything out the boxes and mixed it all up quite well, so that the fishbowl was filled with all sorts of partially hidden treasures. Then I showed it to her. It almost glowed it was so wonderful-looking. She was enthralled. She reached for it. But, I held it up higher than she could reach and said, " These are WONDERFUL PRIZES that you can earn for each time you are dry and go to the potty ! " She said, " OOOOOOH !!! "
At first, she was " staying dry " and " going potty " almost every hour, on the hour. I was patient, because I wanted the reward pattern to be established. Then, as the days went by, I would stretch out the rewards to one in the morning, one in the afternoon, and one before bed.
Then, after two or three weeks, I told her that she was doing " SO WELL " that she would only get prizes if she stayed dry at night, or got up to go to the bathroom at night. This produced some pouting, but I told her that if her bed was dry in the morning, and if her panties were dry in the morning, she would get THREE prizes ! ALL AT ONCE !!
Wowee. ( By this time, I had had to replenish the bowl with more glittering junk. ) I raised my voice emphatically when I was telling her about the THREE PRIZES ! ALL AT ONCE !
She was mostly dry within 4- 5 days, and she got partial rewards for getting up and going potty by herself, or calling us if she was really sleepy. She finally got to the point where she would get the THREE PRIZES ! She was so proud of herself, and we were all relieved and happy.
Maybe something like this will work for your DD. No guilt, no books, no musical potty chairs ( ours was a little younger, but the idea applies. Just keep the reward system in place and be very, very cheery. You could work in a little reward every day that the sheets are dry, one for not having to change the bed, and one for dry pajamas. She will probably like the system.
Good luck. It was the best $ 40 I spent in that decade !
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 25, 2013 18:40:24 GMT -5
All I know is that my friend's 6 YO was wetting the bed every night, and she didn't want him to feel bad about himself, so they never talked about it, and she got up every morning, searched his room for the wet jammies, washed all the sheets and his wet clothes, worked a full time job, went home and remade the bed - and kept that up for a year. I suggested pull ups and she said that would hurt his feelings. I refrained from saying "So?"
But, what can I say, at that time my 3 year old had already been done with pull-ups and was dry through the night - just by his sheer willpower. So, my experience was inadequate in that situation.
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 25, 2013 22:51:52 GMT -5
So what happened Swamp, did your daughter make it through the weekend ?
BTW I love NazgulGirl story, little girls would love that.
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Post by swamp on Aug 26, 2013 9:24:42 GMT -5
She peed the bed both nights and was very upset about it. Last night she wanted to wear a pullup. We'll try again later.
BTW, she was promised Polly Pockets when she stopped wetting the bed.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 26, 2013 9:26:08 GMT -5
I remember that my son hated to wear pull-ups, so that was the punishment for wetting the bed. He would be so upset when he wet the bed because he knew he would have to wear pull-ups.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2013 9:26:29 GMT -5
No Pull ups!!! Don't cave!!!!
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Post by Jaguar on Aug 26, 2013 10:20:00 GMT -5
She peed the bed both nights and was very upset about it. Last night she wanted to wear a pullup. We'll try again later. BTW, she was promised Polly Pockets when she stopped wetting the bed.
So sorry that she didn't have any success, maybe soon though. Good that she has a goal as well.
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