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Bob Ross
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Post by Bob Ross on Aug 20, 2013 12:59:31 GMT -5
Dumbass lawyer, proposing something that would cut off his massive income stream from handling divorce cases.
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Post by kittensaver on Aug 20, 2013 13:00:46 GMT -5
Yah - we already have this. It's call cohabitation.
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Post by justme on Aug 20, 2013 13:08:10 GMT -5
If you're not sure whether you still want with the person in a year why in the world would you go through signing all the contracts and stuff. An easy out after 10 years? Yeah, ok, maybe? But why bother with one year?
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Post by imawino on Aug 20, 2013 13:19:02 GMT -5
Doesn't the fact that divorce exists pretty much male ALL marriages a "wedlease"?
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Post by swamp on Aug 20, 2013 13:21:18 GMT -5
I promise to love, honor, and cherish you for term of 10 years, and renewable as mutually agreeable.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 20, 2013 13:25:30 GMT -5
I'm assuming after 5-10 years there are going to be co-mingled assets and possibly kids. So HOW exactly would it be less messy than a divorce?
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Post by swamp on Aug 20, 2013 13:26:05 GMT -5
I'm assuming after 5-10 years there are going to be co-mingled assets and possibly kids. So HOW exactly would it be less messy than a divorce? because the lawyer said so.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 13:26:47 GMT -5
Maybe we should ask zib. She's fluent in leagalese...
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 20, 2013 13:27:12 GMT -5
because the lawyer said so.
When you put it that way it makes total sense.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 20, 2013 13:48:31 GMT -5
How would it solve divorces? At the end of the "agreement" there's still the issue of what to do with the kids, the house, the furniture, the 401k's, the investments ect. I don't see how that would make the task of unwinding a marriage any easier.
In practice, I fail to see how this is any different than getting a divorce. You can get a divorce anytime, and wheather you have a "wedlease" or a divorce, you'll still have to hammer out the details typical to a divorce.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 13:51:08 GMT -5
They can get it amended every time something life changing happens.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 20, 2013 13:54:57 GMT -5
Maybe the "wedlease" would have terms and conditions associated with it? But that's like a prenump, which we have now. And from what I understand, judges don't always accept the prenump anyway. It just doesn't make sense, why sign a "wedlease" when you already have legal options in place that are effectively the same thing?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Aug 20, 2013 15:54:04 GMT -5
Have anyone heard/read about this new concept proposed by a lawyer?
What a way to drum up business! Every 1,2,5,10 years you need to contact your friendly neighborhood lawyer to draw up contracts for your next lease.
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Post by Tiny on Aug 20, 2013 16:18:14 GMT -5
I can see were something like the 'wedlease' might be a way to get around 'unfavorable divorce laws' - like how back in the olden days (ie the 1960's and 1970's) you had to prove to a judge there was a REASON for the divorce above and beyond "we nolonger wish to be married". Does that still happen? Does one spouse have to be the bad guy (or gal) so the marriage can end? I don't think so... does some official have a say in wether or not the marriage ends? Or is divorce just a matter of filing paperwork? (yeah, there may be contention over the paper work which might lead to a judge getting involved....)
What happens in a divorce when only one person wants out? Is that what currently makes for a kind of 'messy' divorce? Do both spouse have to agree to the divorce or can one of them keep it from happening?
Don't know enough about modern day divorce - it seems that the divorced couples in my real life were BOTH ok with ending the marriage - the quicker and less messy the better.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 16:42:04 GMT -5
Thinking about it, with the divorce rate in this country added together with what my divorce cost me (about 75% of everything that I had accrued over the years & all of the money that I had at the time)......Really I kind of LIKE the idea.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 16:43:28 GMT -5
God I would have LOVED to tell my ex.......................YOU AREN'T RENEWED, get out!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Aug 20, 2013 16:48:06 GMT -5
You could extend it to all kinds of things.
A kidlease, for example.
Who wouldn't want to try out a cute little tyke for a 6 month term, complete with warrantee and no-hassle return policy?
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 20, 2013 16:48:12 GMT -5
Dumbass lawyer, proposing something that would cut off his massive income stream from handling divorce cases. Actually quite the opposite I would think. You'd have to go through the messy divorce process as we do now because things would still be co mingled from the marriage, but in addition to that if you want to renew your marriage, you'd have to contact your friendly neighborhood attorney. Furthermore, if anything I think it'd increase the numbers of "divorces" aka "non renewals." Because the fact that the renewal is coming up would force the couple to talk about their marriage, rather than just not say anything.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 17:46:00 GMT -5
Some spouses actually like each other. (or so I've heard... )
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 17:51:19 GMT -5
When does our Friendlease expire, BTW?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 17:56:30 GMT -5
I must have been drunk when I signed that thing!!!!
<--- secretly squeezing with delight
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2013 17:59:51 GMT -5
Same times you're not! Which is what makes us such good friends!!!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 20, 2013 19:11:36 GMT -5
I'm assuming after 5-10 years there are going to be co-mingled assets and possibly kids. So HOW exactly would it be less messy than a divorce? 19 years of marriage and no co-mingled assets...there would be a fight over the kids with both of us yelling "not it"!
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Post by Works4me on Aug 20, 2013 19:15:01 GMT -5
If an attorney came up with it, it's got to make more money for the attorney!
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Post by NastyWoman on Aug 20, 2013 19:16:11 GMT -5
We need to get this guy (Paul Rampell) to join us on YM!!! Just think, in the current setup lawyers only get to us if we are divorcing or going. In this new situation they could squeeze us coming, staying, and going! Once they get this concept accepted they can then lobby Congress to make renewing the Wedlease a mandatory event every two years or so. A continuous stream of income. And then Uncle Sam can also get into the deal by charging bi-annual renewal fees to help the IRS offset the cost of the of keeping track of who gets to claim wedlease status . The opportunities are endless here... PURE GENIUS
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Aug 20, 2013 19:28:39 GMT -5
People who want to stay single could have a Wed-Less contract .
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Post by milee on Aug 20, 2013 19:37:04 GMT -5
Not sure how helpful it would be legally, but I can see some advantages to such an arrangement.
1) It would encourage couples to talk about equitable division of assets and children in advance of when they're so angry they can't be rational or fair. Not that everybody would necessarily want to abide by what was agreed to in advance, but it would provide a road map and maybe keep some splits reasonable.
2) Although it sounds similar to a pre-nup, I think it would have less stigma and allow each person a reasonable bargaining position so would be more equitable feeling than a pre-nup. Although they don't have to be this way, in the vast majority of cases a pre-nup is only brought out when there's a vast inequity in position and one party is trying to prevent the other from scamming them; one party is definitely dealing from a position of strength. Plus, no matter how fair it is and how the subject is broached, bringing up a pre-nup is often perceived as "I don't trust you and don't want to share my money, so let's get married, but you have so sign this thing to protect me." On the other hand, a lease that was arranged in advance would be more of a discussion of equals talking about the future and how they were going to handle the future. So they might accomplish similar things but the terminology and bargaining position would be different and, IMHO, a lease would be more positive.
3) Divorce carries stigma. It implies (to many) failure. Non-renewal of a lease wouldn't have the same connotations.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Aug 20, 2013 20:07:11 GMT -5
Exactly. You can just fail preemptively by telling them about your 'wedlease'. "Everyone, meet John. My rent-a-hubby for the next five years."
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Post by milee on Aug 20, 2013 20:17:52 GMT -5
I think the most valuable result of the whole wedlease idea would be to get people to talk about important details before they're married. So many couples never talk about the nitty gritty details that a wedlease would entail, that at least it would be a way for couples to determine if they are on the same page.
It's a little like signing a Buy/Sell agreement when you form a partnership in a business. Forces the partners to think while times are good about how things will be handled when times are bad or they are no longer speaking.
For the record, I've been married 23 years now. No prenup. So it's not like I don't believe marriage is important or good. But when DH and I formed our business, we formed it as equal partners with a buy/sell agreement in place. Had I known more about buy/sell agreements or wedleases, I think I would have done a better job of communicating with my DH prior to our marriage about some sticky topics and that might have saved us some heartache.
If/when DH dies, I have zero interest in being married again, but would consider an arrangement similar to a wedlease and not consider that a failure.
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