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Post by gooddecisions on Jul 19, 2013 9:54:11 GMT -5
There was no emotional connection to food in my house growing up either. There were plenty of snacks like twinkies granola bars, soda and chips as well as fruit. Nobody in my house was even a little overweight. But, I spent all summer at the pool and spending whatever spare change I could find on airheads and nerds at the snack shack. After pool season, I would walk 2 miles round trip to the 7/11 to get candy. I think the activity level balanced the junk. Plus, I played sports for the school and community year round from 8-18. I went on to play rugby year round in college.
My stepmom did a great job cooking well-balanced dinners even working full time. So, I hope to be able to do the same. My husband and I still play sports, but my toddler is too little. We play outside a lot and go to the pool. As an adult, I don't have the junk food in my house, but time will tell how I approach that as my children get older. As retirees, my parents are even thinner and more in shape than ever. And, I'm still holding steady at about 145lbs (5'10"). For the most part, I feel like I have an okay body image and relationship with food.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2013 10:47:39 GMT -5
I was pretty active in HS though. Once after swim practice, I ate an entire bag of Doritos.... but I was HUNGRY! One of my coworkers was on her HS and college swim teams. She said that in HS they did some nutrition project for a class and she calculated that she ate 5,000-6,000 calories a day. The teacher thought she was making it up.
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Post by formerroomate99 on Jul 19, 2013 10:55:50 GMT -5
My mom was always dieting, and exercised like a fiend. We never had candy, soda or junk food in the house, but there was plenty of healthy food available and I could eat whenever I wanted as much as I wanted. She always told me how beautiful I was, but that didn't stop me from buying some diet pills when I was 9, mainly due to the TV ads and some comments by beyotch brigade at school.
She did start houding me about my weight when I gained 40 lbs my first 2 years of college and again when I put on 30 lbs when I got married and started having babies, but honestly, who wouldn't be alarmed if someone you loved put on that amount of weight in such a short time?
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Post by milee on Jul 19, 2013 10:59:21 GMT -5
If my kid is fat it is because I let them get fat. If I try and control what they eat or exersize, so they don't get fat or more fat I will be giving them horrible feelings about their body. There really is no fucking winning with being a parent. Just wanted to clarify, that on the other thread, I wasn't reacting to the idea that a parent shouldn't try to influence and guide what a child eats and exercises. I was reacting to the idea that shaming, insulting or belittling were appropriate methods to use. Parents should have many more effective tools than damaging a child to achieve a result. The methods some of the posters described in the other post were damaging to the children and that is what I was reacting to.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2013 11:06:40 GMT -5
Ahhh....booze. I'd probably be a size 0 if it wasn't for you!
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jul 19, 2013 11:14:43 GMT -5
God I hope if I can do one thing right it is to teach my daughter to have a healthy relationship with food and feel OK with her appearance, however that turns out to be. I'm so terrified of duplicating all the crap my mom did and said to me... my nickname was "big butt" even though I was 115 lbs in high school and played Division 1 soccer in college. I have an athletic build with strong thighs and a supportive derriere. But I am not fat by any means - size 6 now 15 years later. I have an athletic build. But still, to this day I hate my lower body. I would hate to do that to my child. What were our parents thinking??
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Post by milee on Jul 19, 2013 11:19:31 GMT -5
God I hope if I can do one thing right it is to teach my daughter to have a healthy relationship with food and feel OK with her appearance, however that turns out to be. I'm so terrified of duplicating all the crap my mom did and said to me... my nickname was "big butt" even though I was 115 lbs in high school and played Division 1 soccer in college. I have an athletic build with strong thighs and a supportive derriere. But I am not fat by any means - size 6 now 15 years later. I have an athletic build. But still, to this day I hate my lower body. I would hate to do that to my child. What were our parents thinking?? Sis, is that you?!? My sisters and I were convinced that we had enormous asses because of the names our mom called us. I was always under 100 pounds until I moved out of the house and didn't hit 115 until the year I had my first son (29), so I'm guessing my butt wasn't quite as offensively ginormous as we were lead to believe...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2013 11:28:58 GMT -5
I never really cared for J Lo or her music. But I have to give her props simply because men didn't appreciate us "callipygian women" until she came along.
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Post by gooddecisions on Jul 19, 2013 11:52:28 GMT -5
One of my friends has been calling her daughter "stinky-butt" since she was born. I don't actually see her much in real life, but it's all over facebook. I really hope she has enough sense to stop calling her that and labeling photos on facebook that way soon. I'm really not sure which is worse- stinky butt or big butt, but they are both awful!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2013 11:54:33 GMT -5
I call one daughter pumpkin and one muffin.. I wonder what future distress that will cause.
And the muffin does have a muffin top spilling over her diaper.
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Post by imawino on Jul 19, 2013 12:02:25 GMT -5
I call one daughter pumpkin and one muffin.. I wonder what future distress that will cause. And the muffin does have a muffin top spilling over her diaper. Awww, that's so cute! My dad called me Lollipop. I was never distressed, so hopefully you aren't doing everlasting harm.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2013 12:03:02 GMT -5
I have different nicknames for DD depending on if she's within earshot or not.
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Post by imawino on Jul 19, 2013 12:15:00 GMT -5
There was no emotional connection to food in my house growing up either. There were plenty of snacks like twinkies granola bars, soda and chips as well as fruit. Nobody in my house was even a little overweight. But, I spent all summer at the pool and spending whatever spare change I could find on airheads and nerds at the snack shack. After pool season, I would walk 2 miles round trip to the 7/11 to get candy. I think the activity level balanced the junk. There was no emotional connection to food in our house either. We ate tons of junk but everyone was thin - partially due to activity but really mostly just luck of the draw with regard to metalobism if we're being honest. I was always kind of shrimpy - usually one of the smallest (height and weight) in my class growing up. And yet, I STILL developed some unhealthy body image issues. I had a slight eating disorder in my late 20s and everyone described me as "painfully thin". I thought I looked great but really I looked skeletal and sickly. Now I'm a normal weight but consider myself fat anyway - body image stuff is really tough to conquer.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 19, 2013 14:12:20 GMT -5
I call one daughter pumpkin and one muffin.. I wonder what future distress that will cause. And the muffin does have a muffin top spilling over her diaper. I'll be 32 soon and my mom still calls me Meggie Eggie. No distress.
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Post by swamp on Jul 19, 2013 14:24:03 GMT -5
My mom mom was a binge eater and always was on some kind of diet. I am attempting to recover and try to set a good example for my kids. My mom also used to tell me I had a big butt and needed to lose weight, even when I was swimming competively.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 19, 2013 14:25:31 GMT -5
LOL!! And me too but with the wine! As kids most of us felt that eating food was a hindrance and kept us from doing what we wanted to do. We were very active as kids and getting us to sit down and eat was a chore to mom. Out playing with our friends was way better. She would gain 10-15 lbs. more than she wanted now and then but she never made it about real food that I remember. But she loved cake icing and sweets! She'd rather eat a cake than dinner. I never had a sweet tooth and could never relate to that. I'd scrape the icing off my cake and she'd eat it! Yuck! I want meat, veggies and potatoes or some kind of carb. And I'd rather have a glass of wine than dessert. I've never had to worry about weight until recently because I had Grave's disease. Mom thought I was anorexic because I could stuff the food down and never gain weight. I wasn't diagnosed until my early 30's but still had trouble gaining weight after my thyroid was taken out. Until now. I had gained 8 lbs. that I did not want but I've lost it by cutting my portions and not snacking on almonds, etc. If it wasn't in my belly or boobs I would have kept the weight as I could use it elsewhere. Muffins tops are not pretty on me!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2013 14:27:14 GMT -5
Muffin tops are not pretty on anyone!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 19, 2013 14:31:38 GMT -5
MIL is pretty obessesive about food/weight. She told me she used to be anorexic as a teenager. She got on my case when I was pregnant about making sure I didn't gain too much and how I needed to gain it. She does the same thing to DN's girlfriend. We're both wafer thin, I don't think we need to be concerned.
She's constantly commenting on DH's weight. She puts him down all the time and does it front of other people. Pisses me off every time she does it.
She's commented a couple times on how much Gwen eats. Gwen is in the 10th percentile for weight, she barely tips the scales. I told DH this shit ends now before Gwen is old enough to internalize it. I can't make him stand up for himself but I expect him to stand up for our kid. If he doesn't I will.
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Post by midjd on Jul 19, 2013 14:32:16 GMT -5
...except Archie's DD
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Post by imawino on Jul 19, 2013 14:43:26 GMT -5
...except Archie's DD Fat babies are pretty adorable. It's amazing how giant fat rolls on thighs go from "aaawwwwwww" to "YIKES!" as one ages. Darn it.
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Post by JustLurkin on Jul 19, 2013 16:57:33 GMT -5
My mom dieted when I was a kid, but never made a big deal of it. She never said anything to either me or my brother about our weight while growing up and it was never a real issue. I really never even gave it a thought until I had a supervisor who *obsessed* about the weight of her kids, I felt really bad for them. Anytime they asked her for anything weight was an issue--want a new video game/outfit/trip/pet/whatever? ok, lose 5 pounds. They got things like treadmills for Christmas/birthday.
I was miserable at a job for a very long time and recently left, the pounds just melted off--been gone 6 months, 25 pounds are gone and I'm still dropping, haven't done any exercise. My mom mentioned it a few weeks ago, and my dad walked in the room she said "Haven't you noticed her weight loss?" He said "No." Then he turned to me and said "You gained weight, when did that happen?" Awwww dad.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 19, 2013 20:34:28 GMT -5
My Mom always struggled with her weight. Despite going to the gym, and seemingly eating reasonably healthy, it was always an issue. She's in much better shape now.
I am obsessed with food, and am getting close to the point where it could become a serious issue.
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 20, 2013 7:23:02 GMT -5
I have two nieces from different sisters that were both heavy as kids. My one sister consistently and kindly worked with her daughter to stress good eating, good eating, good eating. She is now very healthy, and appropriately skinny. My other sister "felt bad" that her son could eat and eat and eat and she didn't want to mess with her daughter's head, so she let her eat whatever. Including very sugary breakfasts, nutella, cookies, etc. My sister does cook at home, healthy dinners, but has a sweet tooth and her pantry reflects that. That niece has been through it all - vegetarian, gluten free, dieting this way or that. She is currently awesome looking - but I suspect that once she gets a desk job she will yo-yo all over the place.
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