Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 24, 2013 20:45:03 GMT -5
I don't know thyme, it seems to me you're harboring feelings of self doubt and self loathing over your mothering. I think that's your real issue, not minecraft. Maybe you don't feel like you "click" with your children, and you don't understand them or what they're going through.
The only advice I can give, based on experience with my own parents, is they don't want the perfect mother, they want you, with all your flaws and warts. So you need to cut yourself some slack and forgive yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2013 20:46:20 GMT -5
It's also perfectly ok for kids to have some things that are all theirs.
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Post by KaraBoo on Jun 24, 2013 22:41:27 GMT -5
I did ask him who lived in the houses and he answered "Me." I asked why he needed 3 houses and he said he just kept building them. Not a lot of great story telling. Maybe inside his head is better. He did laugh and laugh and laugh one day when he went around beating all the sheep until they were bloody and dead. I hope that doesn't mean he is going to start setting cats on fire in real life or anything. Late to the thread (as always!), but try not to fear too much about this. My son did something similar with Rollercoaster Tycoon several years ago. He discovered that he could pick individual people up and drop them in the lake and they'd "die". The rolling news feed would say something to the effect of, "John M tragically lost his life in a water accident today. The Park sends condolences to his family." (or something like that). Son thought it was hilarious! He then discovered, he could get all of the attendees of the park could get "trapped" on the paths if he made them deadends. He'd try to make as many people as possible mad before he'd let them leave the park. He had a lot of "fun" with that game that I never understood - but it was funny to see the things he'd come up with! Now, he's one of the sweetest kids you'll ever know.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 25, 2013 8:12:48 GMT -5
I don't know thyme, it seems to me you're harboring feelings of self doubt and self loathing over your mothering. I think that's your real issue, not minecraft. Maybe you don't feel like you "click" with your children, and you don't understand them or what they're going through.
The only advice I can give, based on experience with my own parents, is they don't want the perfect mother, they want you, with all your flaws and warts. So you need to cut yourself some slack and forgive yourself. Don't we all? I am just admitting it straight up. Most people just blame other things - video games, society, whatever.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2013 8:16:10 GMT -5
I find Minecraft so incredibly boring. I liked Plants vs. Zombies, and I love all the Kinect games. But Minecraft bores me. So, the sub-text here is that I feel guilty because I don't like what my kids are doing, and I'm not taking an active role in their past times. So, I send them to school (which I don't get involved with) and I drop them off at sports (which I don't get involved with) and then they come home and play video games (which I don't get involved with.) This has nothing to do with the video games, as much as my guilt. Always read in between the lines. I'm secretly very deep and troubled. I figure the less time I spend with my kids the less time I have to screw them up.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 25, 2013 8:20:40 GMT -5
Last night I played Kinect with my daughter for a while. I've picked my winner. I will put all my efforts into her. My son is on his own.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 25, 2013 8:28:57 GMT -5
My son did something similar with Rollercoaster Tycoon several years ago. He discovered that he could pick individual people up and drop them in the lake and they'd "die".
We used to kill people in The Sims back in high school. We'd build four walls around the person and watch how long it took them to die. Or start a fire and not give them tools to put it out. They'd get pretty pissed off and at least one character would try to put it out with his hands and then run around on fire.
I have not set a cat on fire in real life.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2013 8:31:03 GMT -5
I used to burn ants with a magnifying glass until they popped.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2013 8:44:00 GMT -5
Last night I played Kinect with my daughter for a while. I've picked my winner. I will put all my efforts into her. My son is on his own. I literally LOL'd at that one!
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 25, 2013 8:44:08 GMT -5
My kid spends a LOT of time as "screen" time. I'll admit it and honestly it doesn't really bother me one bit.
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The Boy and DH have a number of things in common and that they like doing together. One of them is playing video games. They will read reviews of new games together, wait in line for them to come out, compare notes, play against each other, play in teams, etc.
DS likes Minecraft. He and his friends will build large cities and neighborhoods. DS researches all the patches and mods available and tweaks them to better meet his groups needs. He hosts the server and does all the tech support and walks his friends through any changes they have to make. They Skype through the entire game. These are all the straight A overachiever kids that do Math League and Science Club. The building aspect is almost secondary to their conversations. They will spends hours discussing the events of World War 2, emerging religions, politics, and so forth. These kids are fascinating to talk to. I love it when DS has them over, we will light a bonfire and they will sit around discussing current events with more knowledge than most adults that I know. DS has written a few short stories about the villages they have built in Minecraft. Rather impressive ones if I do say so myself.
Xbox- DS has made friends with kids all over the world through his Xbox account. It's not unusual for me to ask him who he's playing and he'll be playing with two or three kids from different states or Canada or wherever.
DS has never ignored us for a video game when we've had something we wanted or needed to do. DS gets all of his chores done in a timely manner. DS has knows his limits and has never stayed up so late playing that he can't function the next morning. He also reads on average 3 to 5 books a week.
So I ask you- what is he supposed to do during the day in the summer? He is open enrolled so all of his friends live miles away from us (and across major highways). DH and I leave for work at 7 am which is a little too early to be dropping him off at someone's house. At 15 he has aged out of all of the camps around here but is too young to be able to drive himself to a job. So he spends the 9 hours we are at work reading, playing video and computer games, doing his chores and taking the dog for a walk.
In the next week or two once he is more comfortable driving (just got his permit on Friday) he will start driving my dad around to the different jobsites and shadowing him. So yeah, if my kid spends a full week this summer playing video games I'm not going to sweat it.
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