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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 30, 2021 8:41:00 GMT -5
By the time my dad died, he had the stroke that caused him to go blind. We had one day's notice that he was going to the nursing home for the rest of his life.
He was in the independent living apartment and there was no lease. We got that notice on the 29th and the month ended on the 30th. We got him out by the end of the month.
ETA: Had I known my sister was going to act the way she has with the photos, I would have taken them when I took totes and boxes over. It was hanging on the wall in the bedroom. I missed my chance.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 30, 2021 9:50:19 GMT -5
By the time my dad died, he had the stroke that caused him to go blind. We had one day's notice that he was going to the nursing home for the rest of his life. He was in the independent living apartment and there was no lease. We got that notice on the 29th and the month ended on the 30th. We got him out by the end of the month. ETA: Had I known my sister was going to act the way she has with the photos, I would have taken them when I took totes and boxes over. It was hanging on the wall in the bedroom. I missed my chance. Yeah it's hard when it's sudden. You don't want to look like a looter yourself by requesting things when they are still alive. But then here comes the relatives after you patiently waited. . . Not sure what the answer is. I know at the end of the day my grandfather's things were just things but that's not the point. It's the complete lack of respect and level of entitlement that is so infuriating. Especially like in your sister's case where they spent all that time sitting on their hands denying the situation or in our relatives cases haven't even acknowledged the dead person in decades. What makes you think you have the right?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 30, 2021 11:47:00 GMT -5
I did offer the photos of my half-sister who hadn't seen our dad in over 30 years to my half-sister. I did it by mail because the phone number I had is no longer in service and I can't find a new one. I never heard back from her.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 3, 2021 13:18:05 GMT -5
Dear baby brother, Sorry I am such a shitty human for not texting your grown-up child on her birthday. Two surgeries in 13 days, plus recovery, full time work and dealing with DH's issues and keeping up the house...yes, that leaves me time. You're coming down in September, but I cannot say I am so much looking forward to it at the moment.
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Post by sesfw on Jul 3, 2021 16:16:42 GMT -5
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 3, 2021 18:11:52 GMT -5
Dear baby brother, Sorry I am such a shitty human for not texting your grown-up child on her birthday. Two surgeries in 13 days, plus recovery, full time work and dealing with DH's issues and keeping up the house...yes, that leaves me time. You're coming down in September, but I cannot say I am so much looking forward to it at the moment.
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Post by Opti on Jul 3, 2021 20:40:11 GMT -5
Dear baby brother, Sorry I am such a shitty human for not texting your grown-up child on her birthday. Two surgeries in 13 days, plus recovery, full time work and dealing with DH's issues and keeping up the house...yes, that leaves me time. You're coming down in September, but I cannot say I am so much looking forward to it at the moment. I hope he chills out, but if he's like #2 sib, it won't happen. Some people are really attached to people celebrating that specific day, even if you aren't nearby, and I myself am more meh because I've been through similar. My Dad and I tend not to be on time, because of life and often seeing the life/death things in our RL more important than hitting a date. If its your child or SO, that's different, but I wish he hadn't given you grief and spent some time asking how you were doing.
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Post by Opti on Jul 3, 2021 20:44:50 GMT -5
Sigh, the rain stopped and someone has decided now is a great time to set off a few noisy fireworks. On some radio station today, the announcer was noting that some NJ towns were delaying fireworks, concerned how large turn out might be this year. I thought fireworks might be tonight because its Saturday, but the weather is not that great. Tomorrow however will be better and I have to go to work and work in the morning on Monday.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 4, 2021 11:19:24 GMT -5
Dear baby brother, Sorry I am such a shitty human for not texting your grown-up child on her birthday. Two surgeries in 13 days, plus recovery, full time work and dealing with DH's issues and keeping up the house...yes, that leaves me time. You're coming down in September, but I cannot say I am so much looking forward to it at the moment. I hope he chills out, but if he's like #2 sib, it won't happen. Some people are really attached to people celebrating that specific day, even if you aren't nearby, and I myself am more meh because I've been through similar. My Dad and I tend not to be on time, because of life and often seeing the life/death things in our RL more important than hitting a date. If its your child or SO, that's different, but I wish he hadn't given you grief and spent some time asking how you were doing. Nah, his life is too perfect for that. His daughter had the class to text back and say thank you and ask how I was doing. He told her about one surgery I had (I had two).
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 4, 2021 11:42:22 GMT -5
Dear other brother, So you finally came to your senses about sending your grown up spoiled brat child to NYU law school. You found out how much it costs a semester. Like, I could buy three of my cars new for one semester there, with money left for insurance and gas for awhile.
So now what? Have her go to a local, but very expensive private law school? Let her sit and mope in your house, whining and blaming you for her "horrible, unfair" life? She's of age. Offer her a choice: employment and education (she can do one full time and one part time and pay her way), or lose 75 or so pounds and enlist. Sorry to say you reap what you sow on this one.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 7, 2021 15:45:26 GMT -5
Dear Maintenance Supervisors,
Please keep your pissing contests between yourselves. I do not have the time or the proper equipment to be involved in your BS.
Thank you
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jul 8, 2021 17:37:09 GMT -5
WTH. I had to resign in to YMAM proboard. Of course my sign in info was just a guess since it's not on my super secret password list. I know we are having our cable in the yard replaced.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 18, 2021 16:36:59 GMT -5
Dear unwelcome SIL, So your company is re-instituting the annual holiday cruise, eh? That's nice. And....what's that, you say? You are not welcome without proof of a COVID vaccination? (Note: my brother already has his) Well, golly gosh gee whiz shucks, too bad for you. Your choice, though. Vaccinate or stay home. Yes, they can require it. Private company, private function. The last thing they need is for your sorry ass to get sick and have to Medi-vac you out of the Pacific Northwest, you special little snowflake you. Looks like you'll have to swallow your pride and your politics and get the shot. Or sit in your house and stew while your husband goes and has a good time.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 18, 2021 17:29:57 GMT -5
Isn't your heart broken for her, Nancy?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 24, 2021 10:19:54 GMT -5
Isn't your heart broken for her, Nancy? Nah. She blames everyone else for everything that went wrong (well, now I know where her eldest learned that lesson!) in life. Sorry, but once you hit the adult years, the life you make is the life you live. It's not always pretty or perfect, but it rolls along a lot better when you accept what is in the past and move forward.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jul 24, 2021 10:53:48 GMT -5
Colin Cowherd was talking about NFL players yesterday not wanting to get the vaccine. He said in capitalism those with the biggest checkbooks make the rules. She can not be vaccinated and stay at home. She has a choice.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jul 24, 2021 11:59:10 GMT -5
Isn't your heart broken for her, Nancy? Nah. She blames everyone else for everything that went wrong (well, now I know where her eldest learned that lesson!) in life. Sorry, but once you hit the adult years, the life you make is the life you live. It's not always pretty or perfect, but it rolls along a lot better when you accept what is in the past and move forward. Is she my youngest child?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 24, 2021 12:22:13 GMT -5
Colin Cowherd was talking about NFL players yesterday not wanting to get the vaccine. He said in capitalism those with the biggest checkbooks make the rules. She can not be vaccinated and stay at home. She has a choice. Sure she does. Family rumor has it she will take the shot to get on the cruise. I will believe it when I see it.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 24, 2021 12:32:22 GMT -5
Just saw a post on FB that SIL's account was hacked. Nope, wasn't me. I have her blocked anyway.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 24, 2021 14:00:35 GMT -5
Your SIL sounds like my sister. All that is wrong in her life is because of me.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 28, 2021 7:44:22 GMT -5
Dear employee who can't seem to make it to work,
Having once been a single mom myself, I have worked with you as much as possible while you had issues with homeschooling your kids (8YO & (16YO) during the craziness of Covid. Even when you ended up taking Covid leave due to possible, though avoidable IMO (traveling and inviting people into your home), exposure. And now when you have an unrelated medical issue and need vitamin infusions every Monday (our busiest day). And now a "sick" child since Friday, who has yet to see a doctor. Your lateness today, at least so far as I expect the lateness to become an full absence, puts you at the maximum amount of attendance points before termination with 5 months to go in the year. The majority of these points could have been avoided if you simply made the hours up, but since joining Facebook dating in May you have chosen to work the least amount of hours you can while in pursuit of other things. You have known for months that HR has been keeping an eye on you, and still you put yourself in this situation. You are an excellent worker WHEN you come to work, know how to do some things that others do not, and we get along very well which I think make you believe you are safe. You have been warned multiple times and you know that I am the type the type of person who will cut ties without a second thought - as you have seen in the past. Besides, your behavior has likely taken your dismissal out of my hands, or will soon.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 28, 2021 8:16:00 GMT -5
daisylu - I bet your co-worker will still be surprised when she’s let go. One of my co-workers was laid off 2 years ago and was surprised. She was even spoken to about her performance but her behavior still didn’t change. None of us was surprised when she let go. Some of us already wondered what she did during the day based on the personal business she did during the day and not arriving until late. I guess she thought that she had been there so long so was safe. 🤷♀️
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Post by seriousthistime on Jul 28, 2021 10:56:39 GMT -5
Dear Attentive Waitress,
My friend and I are fully vaccinated, but we wear masks when inside public places. I made a lunch reservation for a table outdoors on the later side of your lunch service to minimize our exposure to others. You provided good service; thank you for that. But we did not appreciate you coming to us half an hour before the kitchen closed to ask us to cash out our check so that you could go to your appointment to get your second COVID jab. Really? You weren't wearing a mask, which indicates you were fully vaxxed. We might have been outside but you were in and out of the restaurant, back and forth.
Not cool.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jul 28, 2021 13:49:58 GMT -5
A big gripe. Frequently when one of my relatives comes to my house to visit, something goes missing or is ruined. I quit having friends in for the very same reason.
Missing, 2016 tennis tournament crystal trophy - to replace it $30.
Hole in one ball from 2007 removed from it's stand.
Liquid spilled on a $1000 tanned area rug in the basement.
A white hat that I brought to my H. from a special golf course. Coffee spilled on it on top of the hutch??
Thank you for not trying to spend the night with us. Yes, we know all houses make different noises than what you are used to. And they do keep you awake. Very rude.
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Post by taz157 on Sept 17, 2021 14:18:16 GMT -5
Dear SIL,
What part of "I will let you know when we are headed your way" do you not understand? I know you want to see your new niece; however, I'm more concerned with her other set of grandparents seeing their new granddaughter than you are of seeing your new niece. Do you not realize that you live an hour away from us; however, you are asking when we are headed 3.5 hours away from us? If you really wanted to see her, you would try to coordinate when we are an hour away from each other? Do you not realize that your niece is a month old? Who do you think has an easier time travelling (our family or your family)? Dumbass...
Sincerely, Not sorry that I haven't seen you in about 4 months and MUCH more concerned with the other set of grandparents seeing their new granddaughter
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Post by mollyanna58 on Sept 17, 2021 19:26:01 GMT -5
Dear SIL, What part of "I will let you know when we are headed your way" do you not understand? I know you want to see your new niece; however, I'm more concerned with her other set of grandparents seeing their new granddaughter than you are of seeing your new niece. Do you not realize that you live an hour away from us; however, you are asking when we are headed 3.5 hours away from us? If you really wanted to see her, you would try to coordinate when we are an hour away from each other? Do you not realize that your niece is a month old? Who do you think has an easier time travelling (our family or your family)? Dumbass... Sincerely, Not sorry that I haven't seen you in about 4 months and MUCH more concerned with the other set of grandparents seeing their new granddaughter So she expects you to drive an hour with a newborn to see her; shouldn't she be coming to see you?
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Post by mollyanna58 on Sept 17, 2021 19:29:16 GMT -5
Dear fellow volunteer, You are able and competent. However, you are not the only able and competent volunteer and you do not know how to do everything better than anyone else in the history of the organization. I used to listen to you earnestly explain why others were doing things wrong, before I realized that you have similar comments about everyone. I wonder what you say about me behind my back. Signed,
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Post by taz157 on Sept 17, 2021 20:52:44 GMT -5
Dear SIL, What part of "I will let you know when we are headed your way" do you not understand? I know you want to see your new niece; however, I'm more concerned with her other set of grandparents seeing their new granddaughter than you are of seeing your new niece. Do you not realize that you live an hour away from us; however, you are asking when we are headed 3.5 hours away from us? If you really wanted to see her, you would try to coordinate when we are an hour away from each other? Do you not realize that your niece is a month old? Who do you think has an easier time travelling (our family or your family)? Dumbass... Sincerely, Not sorry that I haven't seen you in about 4 months and MUCH more concerned with the other set of grandparents seeing their new granddaughter So she expects you to drive an hour with a newborn to see her; shouldn't she be coming to see you? No. When we visit my ILs/other set of grandparents for the weekend, my BIL and SIL have a weekend home in the same area and go there many weekends. To get to my ILs, it takes 3.5 to 4 hours (could be longer depending on traffic) from our house. Meanwhile my BIL and SIL live (regularly) an hour away from where we live. Basically, my SIL wants to know when we are visiting the other set of grandparents for the weekend and if BIL/SIL are there for the weekend too, we’ll catch up. FWIW, my DH sees his brother (my BIL) every week for golf league since DD2 has been born and DH hasn’t said anything about BIL wondering when we are meeting up. As an FYI, my SIL doesn’t have boundaries or common sense (it seems at times.) This is also the same SIL who saw me during my pregnancy and said that I had reached the fat stage of my pregnancy (about 6-7 months pregnant) (I definitely looked pregnant then, not fat. - I was dumb founded, stunned and had DD1 with me that I didn’t say anything.) After I saw her that time, me and DD1 hadn’t seen her or BIL since even though we had been in the area visiting my ILs since then.
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Post by seriousthistime on Sept 18, 2021 12:42:51 GMT -5
I'm thinking we all need to write brief factual info about our relatives, toss them all into a giant bag, shake it up, and draw replacement relatives from the bag. Just temporary, like for a 6 month trial. I'm afraid most relatives can behave for 3 months.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 18, 2021 16:26:15 GMT -5
I'm not sure my relatives can behave for 3 months. I'm not sure my sister can behave for two days in the car to get to Toronto, let alone the 5 days we will be alone with the toddler.
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