Bob Ross
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Post by Bob Ross on Jun 10, 2013 12:17:15 GMT -5
If your spouse was cheating on you with another married person, would you contact their spouse? What would be the purpose? Misery loves company? I dunno. Is their spouse hot?
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 10, 2013 12:45:08 GMT -5
LOL Bob.
They say that with infidelity, the confession rarely helps the person who was told about their cheating spouse. I argue that if it is the thing that makes them leave an unhappy marriage, it probably helps. But, it usually makes the cheating spouse feel better, because the weight of the secret is now shifted. I wonder if that is true with the the jilted spouse, too. They feel so much pain, they go to another harmed person and at least some of their pain on that person. Maybe they feel better because their secret and their shame is now shared. They don't feel so alone.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2013 13:34:25 GMT -5
If your spouse was cheating on you with another married person, would you contact their spouse? What would be the purpose? Misery loves company? My wife cousin just got a visit this weekend from the husband of her ex-husband lover/girlfriend. He felt that she should know that her husband has been sleeping at his house with his wife, etc. When he found out (he is a cop and works night) he moved out . My wife cousin told him that while she was sorry for him, she was divorced and whom her husband is doing is no longer her business. Thank God for Haiti, you can go on Thursday Married and be back Saturday divorced; the land of quickie divorces! I know someone whose wife was having an affair. The cheated on wife contacted the cheater womans husband and they went out for lunch.....
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 10, 2013 13:37:12 GMT -5
No. It isn't my place to ruin someone else's life. The cheater would deserve to be punished but you would really be hurting his/her spouse and kids (if applicable). Like swamp, I think it would just be vindictive.
The exception being if my spouse have me a VD. For health reasons I would then tell the spouse...and kill my husband!
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 10, 2013 13:49:22 GMT -5
I'm not sure what I'd do if I were in that situation. It would probably depend on if I knew the person (or liked them) as others have stated. I do know somebody who had that happen to her. Her husband was getting his knob polished at the local store (like 7-11 but different name). Knob polisher's DH was bi-polar and off his meds and was following her antics until he busted them. He (the KP's husband) showed up drunk at his (the guy getting polished) wife's house and there was quite a ruckus that night with cops involved, etc. She is still with him last I heard. She was a bitch and he was strange so we quit hanging out with them before that happened but she did call me and tell me all about it. I felt bad for her. I would be so embarrassed that all the neighbors knew about it and I couldn't go to the local store any more. That would piss me off even more!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 10, 2013 13:49:49 GMT -5
If your spouse was cheating on you with another married person, would you contact their spouse? What would be the purpose? Misery loves company? My wife cousin just got a visit this weekend from the husband of her ex-husband lover/girlfriend. He felt that she should know that her husband has been sleeping at his house with his wife, etc. When he found out (he is a cop and works night) he moved out . My wife cousin told him that while she was sorry for him, she was divorced and whom her husband is doing is no longer her business. Thank God for Haiti, you can go on Thursday Married and be back Saturday divorced; the land of quickie divorces! Carl, this sounds like a plot for an afternoon soap opera or a country and western cheatin' song. Seriously. You and the Mrs. need to come down for that car show next year. I need to hear some of these stories in person. Aw, love among the soda pop bottles and Doritos. Unless it was TLoony's store. Then they're slip-sliding between the Amish chickens.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2013 13:50:52 GMT -5
If your spouse was cheating on you with another married person, would you contact their spouse?
No I would kill the guy & divorce the wife.
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Post by swasat on Jun 10, 2013 14:16:45 GMT -5
If your spouse was cheating on you with another married person, would you contact their spouse? What would be the purpose? Misery loves company? My wife cousin just got a visit this weekend from the husband of her ex-husband lover/girlfriend. He felt that she should know that her husband has been sleeping at his house with his wife, etc. When he found out (he is a cop and works night) he moved out . My wife cousin told him that while she was sorry for him, she was divorced and whom her husband is doing is no longer her business. Thank God for Haiti, you can go on Thursday Married and be back Saturday divorced; the land of quickie divorces! I know someone whose wife was having an affair. The cheated on wife contacted the cheater womans husband and they went out for lunch..... LOL.... Its like the singer Shania Twain's story. Her DH cheated on her with his secretary. Later they divorced. Shania Twain later got together with the other woman's (the secretary) husband and the two fell in love and got married. So the cheaters ended up together and teh cheater's spouses ended up together. Screwed up
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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2013 15:16:23 GMT -5
I know someone whose wife was having an affair. The cheated on wife contacted the cheater womans husband and they went out for lunch..... LOL.... Its like the singer Shania Twain's story. Her DH cheated on her with his secretary. Later they divorced. Shania Twain later got together with the other woman's (the secretary) husband and the two fell in love and got married. So the cheaters ended up together and teh cheater's spouses ended up together. Screwed up I know, isn't that crazy! Mutt ...what a dawg...
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formerroomate99
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Post by formerroomate99 on Jun 10, 2013 15:19:21 GMT -5
In the age of AIDS, not telling someone that their spouse is cheating could easily result in an innocent person dying and a bunch of kids loosing the only decent parent they have, so yes, I'd tell, but only if I was absolutely sure.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2013 15:32:11 GMT -5
I know someone whose wife was having an affair. The cheated on wife contacted the cheater womans husband and they went out for lunch..... LOL.... Its like the singer Shania Twain's story. Her DH cheated on her with his secretary. Later they divorced. Shania Twain later got together with the other woman's (the secretary) husband and the two fell in love and got married. So the cheaters ended up together and teh cheater's spouses ended up together. Screwed up Maybe I am the only one that feels like this but I thought it was a clever/brilliant move when it came down to custody of the kids. Instead the kids being divided into 3 homes, it is just 2 and they are always together. Pack them in a car and send them towards stepdad and mom, pack them back up and send them towards stepmom and dad etc. Makes it easier to plan family vacations, getaways, who gets the kids for what holidays etc. And it goes back to misery like company: they both found out around the same time, they knew each other already and reach out to each other to grieve. Easy to fall in love with someone in that situation. Case in point: one of our friends is now dating a woman; she would have never seen herself as a lesbian. But at the time she was low this common friend was there, when she had no shoulder to cry one that friend was there. In 3010 with the earthquake in Haiti she lost her whole family, orphan overnight... That friend help me get out of those dark times and she slowly but surely fell in love with that friend. The fact she was a woman wasn't important. 2 years later they are still going strong. Shit happens and you learn to deal/cope with them the best way you can.
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Post by justme on Jun 10, 2013 19:06:45 GMT -5
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Post by happyscooter on Jun 10, 2013 19:25:41 GMT -5
formerroomate99, maybe if one of the parents wasn't LOOSE, they wouldn't LOSE anything.
Sorry, I had to do it.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jun 10, 2013 21:00:03 GMT -5
Wasn't the deal that if you tell them, its kill the messenger; and if you don't tell them, you are horrible for keeping it a secret?
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