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Post by thyme4change on Mar 25, 2013 14:30:06 GMT -5
I didn't have any new problems with my husband either. In fact, because we both felt committed to being home all the time, I think we actually got closer. Our baby was easy, so we just got to hang out a lot.
Another thing that was pretty surprising...birth. I mean - it seems like you will know what is going to happen, and that is horrific. But, it wasn't really what I thought. Especially that second birth.
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Post by swamp on Mar 25, 2013 14:31:59 GMT -5
I also wanted to kill my husband when the kids were little. Maybe it's because I had PPD, maybe because he was being a lazy douche, maybe a little of both.
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 25, 2013 14:32:57 GMT -5
My biggest surprise came when DS1 and DS2 were 9 and 5 respectively. It was when my mom passed away and at her internment and I saw my grandmother looking at her son (my dad) who ws in his mid 60s at the time. The look an grandma's face finally brought home to me that worrying about your kids is F.O.R.E.V.E.R!!! Not until they finished highshool or college, not until they moved into their own place, not until they would find a partner but F.O.R.E.V.E.R. Let me tell you that was a shock to the system, but it prepared me for the here and now ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2013 14:33:21 GMT -5
That I don't mind giving so much. I pretty much plan my life around the girls and that's okay with me. I still get to do stuff for myself, after stuff for them is taken care of. I always thought that would bother me but it doesn't.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 25, 2013 14:33:33 GMT -5
I'm a little creeped out to be agreeing with thyme4change so much... ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2013 14:34:18 GMT -5
I had no idea what to expect so sofar I am not surprised at the outcome.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 25, 2013 14:34:35 GMT -5
The feeling is mutual.
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Post by roxanne on Mar 25, 2013 14:38:25 GMT -5
I am shocked at how much I like being needed.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 25, 2013 14:38:31 GMT -5
Another surprise is how hard it is to feel like I never get any time on my own. When I'm home, Babybird pretty much always needs me (or at least I'm always on call).
It's a difficult adjustment... even though you "know" about it in advance, living it is different. Hopefully this gets better as they get older...
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 25, 2013 14:41:36 GMT -5
(Maybe Babybird isn't a real baby at all... maybe she's a gerbil or something.) Well, you DO have an alien pretending to be a pet already.... ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
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Post by Firebird on Mar 25, 2013 14:43:56 GMT -5
This is true. Life-creation is all wonky in our house. She LOOKS like a human baby... but... who knows?? Maybe Tessercat is her real mother ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wte.png)
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Post by muttleynfelix on Mar 25, 2013 14:47:31 GMT -5
I was surprised at how whiny a 3 year old can be. I don't know how many times a day I hear "OOOOOKKKKKKKKKAAAAAAAAYYYY" and then crying afterwards when he doesn't get his way. Like WTF. Where do you hear whining in our house? Stop whining and just do it. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2013 14:48:22 GMT -5
As far as the 'feel like a mom' thing, lots of times it's faking it to make it.... Did you ever see the Oreo commercial where the dad is saying, "My job is to say, don't eat that, while in my mind I'm like, 5 second rule... That cookie just hit the ground...." There are moments when you look around and are like, how in the hell did I get here? ( remember my thread years ago about the moment when I became just the hand to hold my son's cough drop while he tried to throw up?) ... Even now, just yesterday I was brushing my hair and surprised when daughter brushed by me, like, who are these tall people in my house? I am not old enough to have children this age....
as for surprise... Well, it's pretty much one after another...
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 25, 2013 14:49:13 GMT -5
I remind mine that they're using the whiny voice and all it does it annoy Mommy and Daddy. I once mispoke and said "I don't like whine" and I thought DH was going to bust a gut trying not to laugh out loud.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2013 14:53:36 GMT -5
That I don't mind giving so much. I pretty much plan my life around the girls and that's okay with me. I still get to do stuff for myself, after stuff for them is taken care of. I always thought that would bother me but it doesn't. Me too, its amazing how that just happened. Now I struggle to put myself first once in a while and get some me time. Totally my fault though as I've always been there for my kids and put them first.
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Post by swamp on Mar 25, 2013 15:09:49 GMT -5
I remind mine that they're using the whiny voice and all it does it annoy Mommy and Daddy. I once mispoke and said "I don't like whine" and I thought DH was going to bust a gut trying not to laugh out loud. It's "I don't speak Whinese."
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Post by telephus44 on Mar 25, 2013 15:10:45 GMT -5
Oh - and how quickly you become an expert or have an opinion on everything. You may not have cared before about which baby sling is best or what school a child should go to, but you will now.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Mar 25, 2013 15:11:14 GMT -5
I thought I would fall in love with her immediately. It took awhile. I mean, I deeply cared about her, but I didn't feel a real connection to her as a person until probably 9 months or so when she started interacting with us more. Now I am surprised by her funny little personality. She's definitely her own little person with her own wishes & desires!!
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Post by Firebird on Mar 25, 2013 15:16:12 GMT -5
I thought I would fall in love with her immediately. It took awhile. I mean, I deeply cared about her, but I didn't feel a real connection to her as a person until probably 9 months or so when she started interacting with us more. Now I am surprised by her funny little personality. She's definitely her own little person with her own wishes & desires!! ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahthat.gif) Why can't more moms be honest about these feelings?? Part of me thought there was something wrong with me at first because you're "supposed" to feel all squishy and gooey over your firstborn the minute it pops out of you and if you don't you're a terrible mother/human being forever and ever amen.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 25, 2013 15:16:32 GMT -5
I was surprised at how many conversations I had that involved poop as a subject. I swore up and down I wouldn't do that, yet somehow every conversation lead back to poop. Vomit was a close second. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 25, 2013 15:18:20 GMT -5
Why can't more moms be honest about these feelings??
Because then what would we have to compare each other to and feel superior over?
I spent a lot of time staring at her thinking "Okay, now what do I do with it?"
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 25, 2013 15:26:55 GMT -5
I was surprised at how many conversations I had that involved poop as a subject. I swore up and down I wouldn't do that, yet somehow every conversation lead back to poop. Vomit was a close second. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) That's because your kid produced an amazing amount of poop the first year. I'm pretty sure you've got the undisputed title of "Mom who dealt with most poop blowouts/explosions"
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2013 15:30:36 GMT -5
Ah, the most prestigious of awards.... ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 25, 2013 15:30:48 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure you've got the undisputed title of "Mom who dealt with most poop blowouts/explosions"
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 25, 2013 15:33:54 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure you've got the undisputed title of "Mom who dealt with most poop blowouts/explosions"
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 25, 2013 15:36:40 GMT -5
I'm the one that cleaned them all up! That should get me an award dammit! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2013 15:38:19 GMT -5
"bunnysmom, I think your particular partner would have actively made your life HARDER,..."
I couldn't agree more. He would have made it a lot harder. But being a mom, especially a single mom are easier than i thought. It definitely helps that i have a nice income. But i wish my family was closer (distance). The hardest part is not having a 2nd person to fall back but that is true of being single, not necessarily a mom. Of course, i have so many worries about my child.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 25, 2013 15:42:54 GMT -5
I hate poop talk... that didn't change ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) Beth and Drama, it looks like you guys are talking to yourselves... such similar avatars... I'm easy to confuse, you know.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2013 15:44:27 GMT -5
"I thought I would fall in love with her immediately. It took awhile. I mean, I deeply cared about her, but I didn't feel a real connection to her as a person"
I felt the same and i think it was because i didnt get to hold him right away. But the feeling came when i first held him about 24 hours later. Of course he was TINY and had a lot of wires hanging from him but that did it for me.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 25, 2013 15:44:52 GMT -5
I only talk to myself in real life. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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