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Post by sheilaincali on Feb 21, 2013 14:04:29 GMT -5
DH is bi-polar and it can be genetic. Typically symptoms start to manifest during the teen years so we watch DS like a hawk for any mood/personality changes. When DH was finally diagnosed his psych. said that he was sorry DH hadn't meet him sooner. Said "I could have made your teen years and your 20's so much better for you". Later we found out that a doctor had diagnosed DH as bi polar and his mom told the doc he was full of shit and refused to fill the prescriptions or let him see DH again. DH is stll pissed about that.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 21, 2013 14:21:51 GMT -5
I had a bout with depression at around 16. I was on Zoloft for a while. It was seriously the greatest thing ever! Zoloft is a wonder drug. The difference in how I felt was night and day. The world was colorful and full of possibility again, where before I was borderline suicidal. I never attempted suicide, but I used to climb the cliffs near our house sit on top and contemplate jumping. I had my ledge all picked out, and my body would have landed close enough to a trail in the state park that somebody probably would have found me before my mom realized I was gone and went looking. It was important to me that she not have to be the one to find me. I got scarily close to do doing it before I got help. I can still vividly remember the day that I thought I was going to jump.
I had a few friends go through some mental health issues as teens too. One of which committed suicide at 18. In my experience, the parents usually underestimate just how bad their kid's are. Now that you're aware of a problem it's probably worse than you think it is, so I wouldn't be too quick to dismiss a doctor's suggestion to medicate.
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Post by sheilaincali on Feb 21, 2013 14:30:49 GMT -5
Dark- That's DH's fear and why we keep such a close eye on the Boy. DH's teen years were miserable and he contemplated suicide several times and his mom was too busy sleeping around and boozing it up to notice. DH told me the other night "I just hope we can get S through his teen years without going through any of the depression and crap I went through". We've explained to DS that because of DH's history that he needs to be aware enough to speak up and talk to us if he starts feeling depressed or suicidial or anything.
I seriously thank my lucky stars everyday that the kid is willing to talk to us about things and isn't some sullen kid hiding out in his bedroom
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Post by 973beachbum on Feb 21, 2013 17:50:16 GMT -5
My DD is 17 but my DS is only 9. so can I still post here or do I have to wait until they are both old enough? DS has ADHD. We didn't put him on meds until a year ago. Thruthfully it was DH that absolutely refused. He as very against meds for almost any reason. It was hard for me to argue very much because when you looked on paper it didn't seem that bad. He was above grade level and never got in any real trouble at school. He would get in trouble for things like not paying attention in class or interupting during class but not anything worse than that. He did things like make noises non stop, amongst other things. He figured out how to make it quieter in school but if the teacher was looking at him they could tell that he was still talking. At home it was enough to give me a headache just thinking about it. There was literally nothing we or he could do to make him stop either. I always think when people talk about "controlling their kids" so what would you do if they didn't listen? Short of covering his face with a pillow and holding it there for ten minutes nothing we did could make him stop? When we put him on meds it was like living with a totally different child. He has the same looks and personality, and he still doesn't shut the door when he goes to the bathroom , but we no longer want to kill him 15 times a day. He went from being a smart kid at school to being a very smart kid at school. Who knew that keeping part of your brain from giving the rest of it a wedgie all the time, would make you smarter and better to live with?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 21, 2013 22:41:23 GMT -5
Your DS is 9. That whole post should be over on the 5-9 year old kid thread. What part of kids must be in the double digits to post about them here was unclear
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Post by 973beachbum on Feb 21, 2013 22:43:34 GMT -5
Your DS is 9. That whole post should be over on the 5-9 year old kid thread. What part of kids must be in the double digits to post about them here was unclear Was I supposed to wait until he was ten to put him on meds?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 21, 2013 22:44:43 GMT -5
Hell no, all kids should be medicated basically from their terrible twos up to around 25. They're next to impossible to live with otherwise. You just can't talk about them on this thread until they're 10.
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Post by 973beachbum on Feb 21, 2013 22:49:55 GMT -5
I thought you were joking. there really is a thread for 5-9 year olds? Man this parenting stuff is getting fragmented! I just answered here because people asked/started talking about meds. I could have mentioned my teen but she isn't on any meds at least not that I know of. Besides he will be ten in a couple of months anyway. Your're just jealous that he looks better than you in his red skinny jeans aren't you?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 21, 2013 22:56:40 GMT -5
I'm jealous that he has the balls to wear red skinny jeans in public period. Even if they look horrible. I couldn't do it.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 21, 2013 22:59:16 GMT -5
Yeah. First there was the pregnancy and parenting thread. That turned into just the pregnancy and new baby thread pretty damn quick. Then there was the older kid thread. Older apparently means aged 18 months to roughly 3. Then there was the thread for 5-9 year old kids. I considered calling this one the ancient kid thread, but if an older kid is only a toddler I was worried an ancient kid would only be like 9 and I'd still have nowhere to talk about my preteens.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 22, 2013 10:24:32 GMT -5
Yeah. First there was the pregnancy and parenting thread. That turned into just the pregnancy and new baby thread pretty damn quick. Then there was the older kid thread. Older apparently means aged 18 months to roughly 3. Then there was the thread for 5-9 year old kids. I considered calling this one the ancient kid thread, but if an older kid is only a toddler I was worried an ancient kid would only be like 9 and I'd still have nowhere to talk about my preteens. Hey, it's not MY fault that the parents of kids over 5 didn't post much on the older kid thread! I only started it, everyone with older kids was supposed to jump on it too!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2013 10:36:48 GMT -5
I tried! But it's the same shyt/different day in my world so I don't have much to contribute.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 22, 2013 13:55:20 GMT -5
Eh.. older kids are boring. You've finally got them trained right. They help around the house. They behave. They still think thier parents are the coolest people in the world. I think that's why they get so defiant as teens. It's nature's way of making sure we pay attention to them when they need us. Cause like 5-10/11 are totally smooth sailing.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 22, 2013 13:57:14 GMT -5
Eh.. older kids are boring. You've finally got them trained right. They help around the house. They behave. They still think thier parents are the coolest people in the world. I think that's why they get so defiant as teens. It's nature's way of making sure we pay attention to them when they need us. Cause like 5-10/11 are totally smooth sailing. Boy, do I want the name of your distributor for booze and other stuff...
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Post by swamp on Feb 22, 2013 14:22:52 GMT -5
Shit, this is smooth sailing? <<orders truckloads of Jaegermeister>>
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Post by busymom on Feb 22, 2013 14:26:32 GMT -5
I don't remember any stage of my kids being easy, but in the teens when you throw in those hormones, hoo boy! I agree with the earlier post that if you want to know what's going on with your kids & their friends, "volunteer" to drive them. A lot. I figured out in a hurry who the innocent & not-so-innocent friends were. I think they get defiant or moody in their teens is so you don't feel so bad when you pack them off to college. When they're on campus 'tho, you tend to remember them at their best....
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2013 14:39:36 GMT -5
So, I took my team out for frozen yogurt after practice the other day. It was one of those by the ounce type places. The girls (12-14) all got the huge cups and filled them of course. My wife said something about them getting the big ones, or needing the big ones, I missed the exact comment. My daughter (who just turned 12 in December so she's one of the youngest girls on the team) fires back with "That's what she said." The girls all started cracking up. I'm not blind, I've noticed she's going through puberty. I guess I hadn't really thought about the fact that she's thinking about sex now. So.. uh.. any alcohol recommendations to get me through the next several years? Do I start monitoring her browser history or do I really want to know? Oh, I also found out one of my players who missed practice had just broken up with her boyfriend of 8 months. It was the talk of the outing, since they'd been together FOREVER and everyone at school thought they were going to get married someday. The drama level was seriously unreal. I fill a travel mug with port and sip on it. Bourbon would work as well.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2013 14:42:23 GMT -5
Oh...I have three teens so am I over qualified for this thread?.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 22, 2013 14:56:04 GMT -5
Keep in mind that I worked late hours and odd shifts during most of the 5-9 period. That meant Loop was the one making sure they did their homework, cleaned their rooms, and whatever. I came home in time for dinner, screwing around for a while after dinner, and the betime routine. Kids that age are wicked easy. I don't know what everyone complains about...
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2013 14:58:40 GMT -5
Keep in mind that I worked late hours and odd shifts during most of the 5-9 period. That meant Loop was the one making sure they did their homework, cleaned their rooms, and whatever. I came home in time for dinner, screwing around for a while after dinner, and the betime routine. Kids that age are wicked easy. I don't know what everyone complains about... lol! I found that age to be a lot of fun. I really enjoy my kids. Even now with the odd hormonal issue, they still make me smile and warm my heart regularly.
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Post by 973beachbum on Feb 22, 2013 18:23:11 GMT -5
I think the younger they are the easier they are and preversely the less expensive they are. When they are little everything is at least straight forward. Expenses are also pretty well defined. The older they get the more squiggly the line is between what they are annoying the shit out of me for and what the problem really is. And college seemed like so far in the future! I also never thought expenses for them would go up like they did. I wish college was just a thousand a month. Have you guys considered investing in a liquor store?
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Post by seriousthistime on Feb 23, 2013 20:30:41 GMT -5
I don't remember any stage of my kids being easy, but in the teens when you throw in those hormones, hoo boy! I agree with the earlier post that if you want to know what's going on with your kids & their friends, "volunteer" to drive them. A lot. I figured out in a hurry who the innocent & not-so-innocent friends were. I think they get defiant or moody in their teens is so you don't feel so bad when you pack them off to college. When they're on campus 'tho, you tend to remember them at their best.... Exactly, and you can't wait for that first Thanksgiving and then they want to stay out all night with their high school friends and you can't wait for them to go back to campus. Single malt scotch is good. It can be pricey though, so probably not YM approved.
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Post by NastyWoman on Feb 24, 2013 0:21:21 GMT -5
I think the easiest age is when they hit 30. Oh, and before you comment Dark ->30 has two digits and you did NOT set an upper limit, so I am qualified to post in this thread, so there
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 25, 2013 8:56:28 GMT -5
I think the easiest age is when they hit 30. Oh, and before you comment Dark ->30 has two digits and you did NOT set an upper limit, so I am qualified to post in this thread, so there She's got you there....
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Post by jeep108 on Mar 5, 2013 14:08:38 GMT -5
My daughter, is having trouble sleeping and can't shut her brain off. She asked me to put her on SSRI, we have an appointment with her therapist tomorrow morning. We talked a little today with her therapist on the phone and we will start off on a low dose of Zoloft. Hoping this gives her some relief.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 5, 2013 14:28:30 GMT -5
I hope the Zoloft helps. I know it was a huge difference for me.
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Post by sheilaincali on Mar 6, 2013 12:10:49 GMT -5
I second Dark- SSRIs made a huge difference for both myself and DH.
Damn Kid I expensive this month. He took an advance on his allowance (I'll advance him a month but I charge him a week's allowance as interst- so He got $80 but forfeits $100 in future allowances). I have to pay the deposit for his Germany Trip $250 ($2500 total), braces payment next week $144, plus he needs to take Driver's Ed so he can get his permit $375. So between now and the 15th of March that kid is going to cost me: $849!!!!
Like I always tell him- I have priority ranking over DH so if he can only afford one good nursing home I have dibs and DH gets the crappy Dateline one.
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Post by Queen of Interesting Nuts on Mar 6, 2013 13:14:15 GMT -5
Oh nooos Ds will be 21 in May I need to get all this out there before he is too old for this thread. How about an early adulthood thread.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2013 13:16:05 GMT -5
WHAAAAT??!? I thought they were "done" once they hit 18.
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Post by Queen of Interesting Nuts on Mar 6, 2013 13:19:23 GMT -5
If you are talking to me Beer then no it ain't so dear. Well I suppose it could be if you wanted but I thought better than to kick 'em out with a cold beer and a pack of cigs.
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