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Post by kdamron on Dec 6, 2012 16:39:05 GMT -5
Nobody knows better than me what you are going through. You are in my heart and prayers - it was a month yesterday for me, hard day, cry as much as you want it really is cathartic. Let your friends and loved ones comfort you and help you because however inadequate their 'I'm sorry's may sound they want to help. God bless. You can always PM me if you need to...
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chiver78
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Post by chiver78 on Dec 6, 2012 16:53:29 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss, ICN. I wish you and your family peace.
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 6, 2012 16:59:56 GMT -5
Sending my deepest condolences to you and yours. I'm so terribly sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2012 17:01:52 GMT -5
I am so, so sorry for your tragic loss ICN. I hope you get some answers soon. You are in my thoughts.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Dec 6, 2012 17:51:04 GMT -5
Sincerest Condolences to you and your family, ICN.
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Post by wyouser on Dec 6, 2012 17:56:33 GMT -5
Very sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughts and prayers will be with you.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Dec 6, 2012 18:12:54 GMT -5
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2012 18:46:24 GMT -5
I'm so, so sorry. We ARE your friends even if only via cyberspace. Please feel free to come and vent or cry or whatever you need. These cyberfriends were a treasure to me when TGH died and am sure kdamron feels the same way. Take good care of yourself and your kids. Don't forget to eat. And breathe.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2012 19:58:08 GMT -5
I am sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by NastyWoman on Dec 6, 2012 21:23:44 GMT -5
ICN my deepest condolences for your loss
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Post by Genuine GA Peach on Dec 6, 2012 21:29:23 GMT -5
praying for you & your family sometimes there are just no words
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Dec 6, 2012 22:04:01 GMT -5
InsertCoolName, I just read about your tragic loss. I'm so sorry for this .
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Post by Happy prose on Dec 6, 2012 22:09:54 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear. I'll put you in my prayers tonight.
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Post by Malarky on Dec 6, 2012 22:27:29 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something we could do. Know that we are thinking of you. We may be a cyber community, but that doesn't make our support less real. You'll be in my thoughts.
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Dec 6, 2012 22:32:15 GMT -5
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 7, 2012 2:30:22 GMT -5
My sincere condolences for your loss, ICN. There really are no words. You're in my thoughts.
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Post by Bluerobin on Dec 7, 2012 8:19:18 GMT -5
ICN, condolences.
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Post by lexxy703 on Dec 7, 2012 10:17:14 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure you are reeling with the shock right now. You are in my thoughts.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Dec 7, 2012 10:27:34 GMT -5
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Post by InsertCoolName on Dec 8, 2012 1:53:35 GMT -5
hey guys. Sigh. This week totally sucks. Hate this club I was added to this week.
As of now I know that he had 'severe' plaque build up in his arteries. And there is a name for that disease. But I can NOT recall what the doctor said. So chances are high that it was a heart attack.
Visitation is Sunday and Monday is funeral.
I haven't gotten to see him yet. It's killing me. I need to see for myself that he really is gone. But I can't, til Sunday at 2.
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. We had nothing set up for this. We knew we would have to bury our parents. I never ever thought I would have to bury him now.
Waking up is the hardest thing. It hits me all over again that it's real.
I don't know if I am as strong as I need to be for this.
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 8, 2012 2:28:31 GMT -5
Oh, ICN, you'll make it through, hon. It's okay not to be strong all the time. It's okay to cry, and be angry, and feel bereft. Be good to yourself.
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Post by Apple on Dec 8, 2012 2:56:29 GMT -5
This just broke my heart more. Is there a friend/family member you can have talk to them and see if they can let you see him privately for a while, before you're surrounded by everyone else? I'm clueless--maybe there is a reason for it, but I can't imagine why you would not be able to see him earlier!
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 8, 2012 3:29:59 GMT -5
ICN is there a way that you can see him in private for as long as you need to ? When my beloved sister died, the whole family allowed her husband and children to have what private time they wanted with her. I'm from a massive family so I do hope you and yours can see him on your own in private. Peace Be With You.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2012 3:31:59 GMT -5
I've been thinking of you ICN, just like I said I would. Just take things one day/hour/minute at a time. Like many posters have said, we do care.
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Post by suesinfl on Dec 8, 2012 5:03:55 GMT -5
Please feel free to talk/vent to us, we are here for you.
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Post by InsertCoolName on Dec 8, 2012 8:01:20 GMT -5
I haven't been able to see him because he hasn't been here. He was found in his truck in a town/city south of Toledo, OH.
When I was trying to contact him, I went to our bank website and found the address of the ATM he took money out on Tuesday night. He was 361 miles from us.
Sunday at 2 will be our alone time. The public will be there at 3.
It's waking up that is the hardest thing to do. It hits me all over again. It's real. I didn't dream it. He is really gone.
I've got to remember everything that I possibly can. Because our 18 month old won't. And my dad died when I was just under 3, and I don't remember him. And when I ask my mother things about him, she tells me it's been too long and she doesn't know..she can't recall. I NEVER want that for my baby.
Our DS, he turned 18 months old the day they found my husband. Why that day? Why this close to Christmas? We were going shopping today. Because we live in such a small town, and there is only a small Walmart here, we were going to head up to the mall.
I've been a SAHM, so I had nothing to wear. I had to go find something last night. There were too many people laughing and too happy. There was just too much holiday cheer for me.
And the paperwork I have been having to try to find. OMG. I should have paid more attention to where and what I was keeping and I can't find the mortgage papers!!! I don't know what happens, I don't know if they will just need his death cert. or if I need to just pack up because I wasn't on the loan. And there is NO way I can get a loan...I'm not employed. And I've got to figure out when I start looking.
I think that I am a YM failure. I thought I knew what we needed to do. What I would do if this ever happened. And I can't think, and I don't know anything. I want to just take the time to let us feel the pain and to stop spinning, but I feel like I just need to put on my big girl panties.
But I am a horrible mother too, because I am letting myself just fall apart in front of the kids. In waves. I'm ok. Then I am not ok.
Just random thoughts. I know it doesn't make sense. But I am thankful for being able to just get it out. Sigh.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2012 8:10:55 GMT -5
Did he have life insurance?
Its ok to break down and show your emotions. Is anyone there who can help you? It must be so overwhelming at this point. Do you have friends and family about?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2012 8:13:46 GMT -5
There should also be SS as well as insurance to look t as far as income until you can get a handle on things. Also, most companies will work with you through a loss if you are proactive. Not that you have to start calling them now, with so much else going on, but don't avoid them when the time comes, don't be afraid to talk to people and ask or help.
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Post by Colleenz on Dec 8, 2012 10:33:42 GMT -5
Do you have a support system? If not, please contact any local church. Your story is just heartbreaking. Is there anything we can do to help?
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Post by Great on Dec 8, 2012 10:55:56 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to read about the loss of your DH. I'll hold you close in thoughts and prayer that you find peace and strength in the days ahead.
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