Why is NCG torturing me?

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Try spending almost 8 hours alone trapped in a mouse room with a cute guy. I've never been so uncomfortable in my life. Yeah we had a job to do but that room didn't exactly experience heavy traffic and the walls were sound proof.

#shucks2#

[Wisconsin Beth]

Drama, the only way that could get worse is if you were watching the mice have sex or something along those lines...

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

That would have been hysterical. I have seen mice do it and let's just say that mouse sex isn't as sexy as it sounds. Definetly not Discovery Channel material.

[Deleted]

LOL Drama! Yeah... I would have had to bring a book or something for the down time if I were you.

[Deleted]

You need to bring a cold shower for your down time, Jen.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I would have had to bring a book or something for the down time if I were you

We couldn't bring anything with us that could not be sterilized. Stupid mouse viruses.

And of course when you are trying to think about anything BUT your hot co-worker that's all you end up thinking about.

[NancysSummerSip]

mouse sex

That's all I got out of the last few posts.

[Deleted]

shit.... so the conversation finally happened. My thoughts were confirmed and I feel really really bad now.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Details, woman! You can't post something like that and not explain!

[Miss Tequila]

What conversation??? Damn it, I hate cryptic posts!lol

[Deleted]

we both apparently feel the same way about each other but know that nothing can come of it. But we still want to be friends. Or at least I do, and he seems agreeable to that. Sort of.

I think getting it out there made me get over him some.

[Deleted]

NCG: I want to take you on this copy machine!
Jen: Sorry, I am a married woman! We'll always have the breakroom....

[Deleted]

Aug 7, 2012 12:58:44 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

But we still want to be friends.

Bad idea. Why do you need more friends anyway?

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Aug 7, 2012 13:00:44 GMT -5 @beerwench said:

NCG: I want to take you on this copy machine!
Jen: Sorry, I am a married woman! We'll always have the breakroom....

ok, that made me smile...

[Miss Tequila]

"NCG: I want to take you on this copy machine!
Jen: Sorry, I am a married woman! We'll always have the breakroom...."

WHAT??? That's not what the memo I had said I was supposed to say...I'm still picking broken glass out of my ass

[reader79]

How comfortable would you be if the situation were reversed, and some skank at your husband's job was making eyes at him, and they agreed to stay friends. Would you be okay with that, or would you want him to keep his distance? I just think you are setting yourself up for an incident that could be disastrous to your marriage.

I'm sure Kristen Stewart thought that just a few kisses were okay, now she's alone, and his wife has apparently cut off all contact. And she has a catchy new nickname - Trampire.

[Miss Tequila]

oh yay, I haven't seen a Kristen Stewart bash in a few days

[Deleted]

I think fantasy is sometimes better than reality and you can do anything you want to there. Enjoy!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I just think you are setting yourself up for an incident that could be disastrous to your marriage.



Now he knows you like like him too. "Staying friends" translates into that there may still be hope someday. It's really better to agree to stick to a professional working relationship only.

It's play with fire now that you both know and have confirmed exactly how you feel.

[tloonya]

Jenny!
I am somehow not surprised that we are HERE discussing your sex life...
Don't you have real people friends?
And does this 'kid' even interested you? Or you just horny and THINK he is?

[Deleted]

true, true... I don't think we can ever go back to "how it was" now. I feel awful. One, if I had said nothing, I'd at least still have a friend. And two, I'm just mad at myself for all of it.

[Deleted]

Loony, don't you have some checks to bounce?

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I wouldn't be mad at yourself, you're human. It's natural to be attracted to other people. We don't go blind the moment we get married.

I'm not mad at myself for being attracted to my co-worker. He was freaking hot and a future cardiologist, I'd have to have been dead to NOT be attracted to him. I am also not ashamed of flirting with someone either.

When I realized it was starting to cross the line into giving out signals that there was more to this than oogling some hot biceps and the feeling was mutual, I pulled it in big time.

We were still able to have a perfectly functional work relationship with each other and we still got along great but being friends was off the table.

You guys weren't really "friends", you guys were attracted to each other and like I said that is playing with fire. I am honestly very VERY glad we no longer work together because that was getting to be a very awkward situation and while I can SAY I would never cheat on DH, I am glad I was never put to the test.

Better to get it all out on the table now and reign it in now before things start ballooning out of your control. Don't feel bad, it's part of being a mature adult that you recognize this isn't a good situation so we need to pull the plug.

And think about it this way too: He isn't the one that pulled the plug so who is to say that he REALLY was accepting of "it cannot be"?

Just because he said that he accepts you can't be together doesn't mean he accepts it. You did the right thing recognizing that this was inappropriate and handled it the right way.

[Deleted]

weeeeelllllllll.... I didn't REALLY bring it up. It was more of an off-hand comment I made bringing it all out into the open. I feel so yucky right now.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

You'll get over it. Even if it was an offhand comment it's all out in the open now and you can put the breaks on.

I figured it out when I made an offhand comment and later realized I had just given the green light. I spent all night thinking "Oh shit, oh shit". Next day at work I pretended nothing had happened and pulled things back to where we were lab tech/student.

Which was for the best regardless of how it came about. It's looking back I realize I how much I was toeing the line with my co-worker. Even though it came out in the open in a totally stupid ass embarassing way it's far better I recognized it for what it was when I did.

Like I said I say I would never cheat on DH, but I realize now I was putting myself in a situation where that would have more than likely been the outcome if that stupid off hand comment hadn't been made.

[Deleted]

You will feel better tomorrow when you have a clearer head. Get a little loving tonight, too. That should help.

[Deleted]

FROM YOUR HUSBAND. Just to clarify...

[Miss Tequila]

"FROM YOUR HUSBAND. Just to clarify... "

Man, you're a buzzkill

[Deleted]

LMAO! ;D

[Bob Ross]

So did you sleep with the guy yet?

On a related note, two of my coworkers are totally having an affair with each other. I don't really know either of them, although he seems like a GQ goombah and while she's relatively good looking, she has a real ho-bag personality that always gave me the heebie jeebies. I guess they are both leaving their current spouses for each other. It's like a trainwreack on top of a trainwreck and I can't look away!

Anyways, you should be like them.