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Post by milee on Jun 26, 2012 19:42:04 GMT -5
The dang gluten saga continues. Since testing showed I had several food allergies, we had the kids tested. Results on the youngest son came back with several food allergies, including strong reaction to gluten. He may have Celiac disease.
When I was talking to DH about this, I mentioned that this commonly runs in families and asked about his family. He didn't know, but mentions that his Uncle "R" always carried all his food with him, wouldn't eat at anyone's house or restaurant, etc. This was the start of a very strange conversation between DH and I.
Me: So why did Uncle R always bring his own food? Did he have food allergies, too? DH: I don't know. Me: How did that work at family holidays? He brought tupperware and ate his own food at your family Christmas dinner? DH: Yes. Me: This is your dad's brother, right? Didn't anyone think this was a little weird? DH: Well, yes. It was odd. Me: But nobody asked "Hey, Uncle R, what's with the food?" DH: No. That would be rude.
Now, I had a really unusual family situation growing up, so I know my idea of normal ain't always so, but I would have thought that most families would be communicative enough and close enough to ask a person why they were bringing take out to family dinners.
How much do you and your family talk? Would you know if a relative had a food allergy? Would you perhaps bring it up in conversation if a family member brought his own food to your house for dinner? Spill.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 26, 2012 19:47:36 GMT -5
DF has huge issues with food. I'm the bad guy because he doesn't like anyone knowing or feeling uncomfortable about his food issues so I say I won't or don't eat certain things. I can't believe he would just eat it and suffer later. He is so used to just going along and making everyone else happy that he puts himself last. It won't kill him literally but it could take days of suffering for it to resolve itself.
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 19:50:47 GMT -5
Nobody in my family would have a problem with asking anyone what's up with the food.
We're also not know for being tactful.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 19:54:05 GMT -5
Nobody in my family would have a problem with asking anyone what's up with the food. We're also not know for being tactful. And once my mom or one of her sisters found out, they would be on the phone with the other 8 brothers and sisters, who would then call one of the 55 children (my generation), who would then call their children (I'm one of the youngest of my generation)...we aren't tactful and we gossip
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jun 26, 2012 19:55:37 GMT -5
Everyone pretty much knows what I'm allergic to. Then again I'm a special snowflake with a wheat allergy but not celiacs.
I honestly don't know where the food allergies came from. The environmentals like grass I can explain. I guess one possible could be my grandma on mom's side. She split when my mom and her brother were under five and has only been seen a handful of times since then and not since I was born.
I do think that's kind of weird that no one knows. I could understand not making a production of it but no one knowing why? Odd.
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Post by Malarky on Jun 26, 2012 19:55:41 GMT -5
My family wasn't open at all. It wasn't until shortly before my mother died that I was finally told that the cysts she had removed shortly after I left for college were full blown breast cancer and she had a double mastectomy. Would have been nice to have that information all along. Particularly since I've shown some markers.
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Post by saveinla on Jun 26, 2012 19:56:26 GMT -5
Nobody in my family would have a problem with asking anyone what's up with the food. We're also not know for being tactful. And once my mom or one of her sisters found out, they would be on the phone with the other 8 brothers and sisters, who would then call one of the 55 children (my generation), who would then call their children (I'm one of the youngest of my generation)...we aren't tactful and we gossip . That so describes all 5 of my aunts (dad's sisters). They will not rest until they get to the bottom of the situation. Then they would have so much to say on what he should be doing to fix the issue ;D . My dad on the other hand would not even notice if his brother was eating something different. I guess growing up with 5 girls, he learned to ignore the drama around him.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 19:56:44 GMT -5
We would discuss it openly and then tease the one with issues. I'm not kidding. That's funny to most of us. Except one uncle. He finds us to be a bit amusing in a way and loves to come visit us like one would visit the monkey cage at a zoo. Especially our youngest brother. He is totally out there and has no social skills and we love to see what he'll ask or say next.
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Post by Formerly SK on Jun 26, 2012 20:19:10 GMT -5
I wonder if it is a generational thing? People seem to be more open nowadays than they were say, 40 years ago.
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Post by milee on Jun 26, 2012 20:33:27 GMT -5
I wonder if it is a generational thing? People seem to be more open nowadays than they were say, 40 years ago. Maybe. I just took it as an uptight English thing.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 26, 2012 20:33:43 GMT -5
oh we definitely talk. My niece is allergic to soy and is 4, so we all look out for her and what she can eat. I have a second cousin with crohns disease and an uncle with diverticulitus. So, yeah obviously we talk about food and tummy issues. Of course my coworkers get a blow by blow of everytime I puke at work (morning sickness).
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 26, 2012 20:47:11 GMT -5
My mother was diagnosed with diverticulitis, but is in denial. She thinks it is like having the flu.
In the past two months, I've been getting tested for gastrointestinal problems. So far, doctors have ruled out cancer, diverticulitis and gall bladder. See doctor on Friday and am hoping for answers.
My mother is to a point where I hate calling her on the phone. She is 88 and she always gives you a blow by blow of all of her BMs since the last time you talked. My sister and I have promised each other that we will knock each other silly if we start doing this.
When my mothers' sisters were still living, they would have been on the phone, etc. gossiping until they got to the bottom of somebody being what they considered weird.
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Post by milee on Jun 26, 2012 21:12:03 GMT -5
Since soy is one of the few things I'm not allergic to, I may be stuck eating all the soy you guys start avoiding...
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 26, 2012 21:25:36 GMT -5
My family won't ask personal questions, but we're pretty open about most things and definitely dietary restrictions. Some family get togethers will have 3+ versions of each dish to make sure that everyone can eat something.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jun 26, 2012 21:27:53 GMT -5
Yeah soy makes me puke and just makes me sick in general. Cliff bars are the devil to me.
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Post by hockeygrl on Jun 26, 2012 21:41:08 GMT -5
I wish my DH family was more open. We have been dealing with awful tummy issues with him since he was 14 mo. He has an upper GI endoscopy on Friday. It would have been nice to know that hiatal hernias run in my DH family before last week. It sucks watching my little guy puke up everything he eats every meal every day
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2012 21:59:55 GMT -5
Health issues we share very openly. Other stuff is kept secret for the sake of privacy. And you can not tell one of the sisters (my mother and aunts) or EVERYONE will know, analyze and have an opinion of what you should do.
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Post by quince on Jun 26, 2012 22:07:04 GMT -5
We discuss health issues. Otherwise we respect other people's privacy.
SO's family...gossips. Less than hours of his mom finding out about me, he started getting calls from people asking questions about me. Good grief. And these people lived a couple of time zones over. I'd call that excessively open.
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Post by Apple on Jun 26, 2012 22:18:07 GMT -5
When I found out I had Grave's Disease, I didn't tell anyone until the pill they started me on to destroy the thyroid made me break out in hives--for days. It was too hard to hide then. So my parents became a PITA... I'm sure they meant well, but I didn't feel like talking about how I was feeling, etc, etc. So, they did not/do not know I had to get a hysterectomy when I was 29. My sister only found out because she just found out she may have to get one (and she shared with EVERYONE about it, and is upset by it because she may still want to have a kid). Anyway, at that point I finally had to tell her that if she did do it, she needed to make sure they took out enough the first round, because with me they had to go back in. I didn't want her to have to deal with that. I had to tell them about getting my tonsils out, because not being able to talk for days and being home sick, it would be obvious something was wrong. I've had at least four surgeries (two overnights) that they have no clue about. So, yeah, I guess we don't talk about stuff.
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 26, 2012 22:26:16 GMT -5
Nobody in my family would have a problem with asking anyone what's up with the food. We're also not know for being tactful. And once my mom or one of her sisters found out, they would be on the phone with the other 8 brothers and sisters, who would then call one of the 55 children (my generation), who would then call their children (I'm one of the youngest of my generation)...we aren't tactful and we gossip This is my family. I'm the youngest of 9 with 30 odd nieces and nephews. Then some 30 more great nieces and nephews. Don't ask how many first cousins I have cause the number is staggering. My 3 aunts had 44 or more kids between them. There's no hope of keeping a secret if I tell someone something, so I keep quiet
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Post by mmhmm on Jun 26, 2012 22:27:07 GMT -5
My family won't ask personal questions, but we're pretty open about most things and definitely dietary restrictions. Some family get togethers will have 3+ versions of each dish to make sure that everyone can eat something. My family is the same. We're all concerned that everybody have something they can enjoy despite differing tastes and tolerances. If there's a health issue, we share it. That way, we all know what we can do to help.
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Post by resolution on Jun 26, 2012 22:55:17 GMT -5
My family is very open with health issues. I am the only one with allergies though.
My BIL's new fiance has a gluten allergy but we aren't sure if it is real or just something for attention. When we have her over we have made everything gluten free, but she specifically requested a couple of items to be included that had gluten (for example her favorite salad dressing) when we had specifically shopped for a gluten free alternative.
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Post by Formerly SK on Jun 26, 2012 23:27:38 GMT -5
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 26, 2012 23:51:35 GMT -5
Yeah I know and there are so damn many with the exact same names.
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Post by susanb on Jun 27, 2012 0:44:28 GMT -5
My family is very, very open. Yes, it causes issues.
DH's family is very, very closed. Yes, it causes issues.
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Post by daisylu on Jun 27, 2012 6:15:20 GMT -5
My family is open about EVERYTHING. Sometimes it is embarrassing, other times (like when the sis brings home yet another new guy) it is comical.
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Post by skubikky on Jun 27, 2012 6:44:33 GMT -5
Yeah soy makes me puke and just makes me sick in general. Cliff bars are the devil to me. Cliff bars are disgusting anyway.
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Post by marvholly on Jun 27, 2012 7:05:35 GMT -5
My family is VERY open about food stuff & allergies.
DD1's family is lacto-ovo veggie. DD2's son has an allergy to ALL corn products (dio you have any idea how many things contain HFCS or cornstarch?)
We generally MUST cook everything from scratch at all family meals right down to grating the cheese.
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Post by happyhoix on Jun 27, 2012 7:09:53 GMT -5
My family is crazy dysfunctional in that we don't ask questions but always leap to the worst possible conclusions.
For instance, if my Mom had a relative show up at our house for Thanksgiving with his own food in his own Tupperware, she would pretend that she didn't notice him over there eating his own food. She would never say a word to him or ask him why he was doing that.
Afterwards, she would complain bitterly to every member of the family EXCEPT that uncle that "Uncle Buck hates my food and thinks I can't cook," or "Uncle Buck thinks I'm trying to poison him."
Then she would sulk for about 18 months, refuse to speak to Uncle Buck, get mad at any other family members who continued to speak to Uncle Buck because that would be disloyal to her, and she would continue to talk trash about him behind his back.
We don't ask. We just bitch behind their backs about them. (Well, some of my family members do - I try very hard not to follow their example).
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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2012 7:16:08 GMT -5
My family is very open about everything! If someone had a food allergy we would all know about it before Turkey Day and make something to accommodate them if they wished.
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