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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 17:11:57 GMT -5
What was his answer after the happy hookered hotel visit? And I bet he feels liek the fool for falling for that one!lol
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:14:40 GMT -5
And I bet he feels liek the fool for falling for that one!lol It wasn't her fault dammit!!!! Oh. Then I hope he did the right thing and apologized to her for his paranoia.
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:17:06 GMT -5
...:::"And, to be honest, out of RESPECT for her fiance.. this woman should not have met this person, alone in his hotel room once her fiance said he was not comfortable with it. Meet somewhere public for drinks or whatever.. the minute you take it somewhere private, you are just inviting trouble.":::... And this is where that "either you trust me or you don't" fight comes into play. She'll sit there and say "you have no reason to worry because you can trust me". He'll say "but I don't like it, this is how bad stuff happens". She'll repeat "either you trust me or you don't". Well then she sounds like a manipulative bitch to be honest! ETA: It also sounds to me like she wanted to be alone with this person and was using her fiance's trust as a weapon against him which is wrong on many different levels. She went to a guys hotel room. What the hell did she think he invited her up for? Cookies and tea?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 17:17:16 GMT -5
It wasn't her fault dammit!!!! Oh. Then I hope he did the right thing and apologized to her for his paranoia. Plus, I hope he took the time to comfort her...it must be scary to have a penis fall in you like that...poor dear
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 17:17:40 GMT -5
Well then she sounds like a manipulative bitch to be honest! ETA: It also sounds to me like she wanted to be alone with this person and was using her fiance's trust as a weapon against him which is wrong on many different levels. She went to a guys hotel room. What the hell did she think he invited her up for? Cookies and tea? Oh...he got a cookie alright
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:18:29 GMT -5
Oh. Then I hope he did the right thing and apologized to her for his paranoia. Plus, I hope he took the time to comfort her...it must be scary to have a penis fall in you like that...poor dear I can just hear her tell the story: "Honey! You should have seen the SIZE of that thing! Hold me..."
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:18:48 GMT -5
Oh. Then I hope he did the right thing and apologized to her for his paranoia. Hopefully he bought her flowers!!! Flowers?! Dang, you guys are easy. I'd expect jewelry for him not trusting me.
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:19:53 GMT -5
Plus, I hope he took the time to comfort her...it must be scary to have a penis fall in you like that...poor dear I can just hear her tell the story: "Honey! You should have seen the SIZE of that thing! Hold me..." And you'll never believe what he could do with it. Here, I took pictures to show you!!!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 17:20:14 GMT -5
Plus, I hope he took the time to comfort her...it must be scary to have a penis fall in you like that...poor dear I can just hear her tell the story: "Honey! You should have seen the SIZE of that thing! Hold me..." OMG, I seriously laughed out loud at that one!!!lol
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 17:20:57 GMT -5
I can just hear her tell the story: "Honey! You should have seen the SIZE of that thing! Hold me..." And you'll never believe what he could do with it. Here, I took pictures to show you!!! Honey, I'm so glad you are so small...I won't have to be afraid of yours
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:21:49 GMT -5
I can just hear her tell the story: "Honey! You should have seen the SIZE of that thing! Hold me..." And you'll never believe what he could do with it. Here, I took pictures to show you!!! LMAO!!! "Don't you EVER try to do that to me when we are together! It will make me think of HIM! Hold on. I'll be right back. I need to make a phone call..."
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:25:53 GMT -5
And you'll never believe what he could do with it. Here, I took pictures to show you!!! LMAO!!! "Don't you EVER try to do that to me when we are together! It will make me think of HIM! Hold on. I'll be right back. I need to make a phone call..." Hmmm, she just may never have to give another blowjob, ever.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 17:33:37 GMT -5
LMAO!!! "Don't you EVER try to do that to me when we are together! It will make me think of HIM! Hold on. I'll be right back. I need to make a phone call..." Hmmm, she just may never have to give another blowjob, ever. And she might just have her excuse for never wanting sex, either
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 26, 2012 17:34:18 GMT -5
On some level I can respect not doing something just because your spouse is uncomfortable with it. But we'd be in serious counseling if there was an issue that I couldn't be alone with a male (or female) friend because dh was jealous or had trust issues. Maybe that's the difference though. DH has slept with more men than he has women--should I ban him from being alone with anyone of either gender because one of our friends once betrayed their partner and cheated on them? That must mean dh will do it too, and I obviously can't trust men or women!
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:38:59 GMT -5
On some level I can respect not doing something just because your spouse is uncomfortable with it. But we'd be in serious counseling if there was an issue that I couldn't be alone with a male (or female) friend because dh was jealous or had trust issues. Maybe that's the difference though. DH has slept with more men than he has women--should I ban him from being alone with anyone of either gender because one of our friends once betrayed their partner and cheated on them? That must mean dh will do it too, and I obviously can't trust men or women! DH couldn't do his job if he couldn't be alone with a woman and I don't care if he spends time with women. He's gone out for drinks with female co workers and I could not care less. I'd care if one of them invited him to her hotel room because generally, you go to a hotel room to either sleep or screw.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:39:49 GMT -5
On some level I can respect not doing something just because your spouse is uncomfortable with it. But we'd be in serious counseling if there was an issue that I couldn't be alone with a male (or female) friend because dh was jealous or had trust issues. Maybe that's the difference though. DH has slept with more men than he has women-- should I ban him from being alone with anyone of either gender because one of our friends once betrayed their partner and cheated on them? That must mean dh will do it too, and I obviously can't trust men or women! Wait, what?! One of your friends betrayed their partner and cheated with somebody else or your DH? And if he's sleeping with men too I'm thinking that's not your biggest concern. Using protection would be when YOU are with him. Are you really ok with this? I thought I was pretty open minded but damn!
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Post by Firebird on Jun 26, 2012 17:39:52 GMT -5
And this is where that "either you trust me or you don't" fight comes into play. She'll sit there and say "you have no reason to worry because you can trust me". He'll say "but I don't like it, this is how bad stuff happens". She'll repeat "either you trust me or you don't".
Ugh, that smacks of manipulation and control. I'm with Miss Margarita. If DH asks me not to do something because he's uncomfortable with the idea, even though he trusts me and even though I might not care about him doing the exact same thing... I'm still not going to do it (as long as I can reasonably avoid it, i.e. he can't exactly tell me that he's not comfortable with me being alone with a male colleague in a work situation because it's totally unavoidable a lot of the time). Just because it makes him feel squicky.
Why would I want to make my husband feel bad or threatened just to prove some point about how he can toooooooootally trust me?
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 26, 2012 17:40:32 GMT -5
You read that right MM. And if I were going to cheat it sure as heck wouldn't be with a guy. Just another joke of the universe that he and I ended up happily together.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 26, 2012 17:42:58 GMT -5
On some level I can respect not doing something just because your spouse is uncomfortable with it. But we'd be in serious counseling if there was an issue that I couldn't be alone with a male (or female) friend because dh was jealous or had trust issues. Maybe that's the difference though. DH has slept with more men than he has women-- should I ban him from being alone with anyone of either gender because one of our friends once betrayed their partner and cheated on them? That must mean dh will do it too, and I obviously can't trust men or women! Wait, what?! One of your friends betrayed their partner and cheated with somebody else or your DH? And if he's sleeping with men too I'm thinking that's not your biggest concern. Using protection would be when YOU are with him. Are you really ok with this? I thought I was pretty open minded but damn! No--I'm using WWBG's example that because he knows a chick that cheated on her fiance its totally justifiable to be jealous and controlling. Some person somewhere did it, so I must not be able to trust my partner... Just doesn't compute for me.
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Post by Firebird on Jun 26, 2012 17:43:09 GMT -5
And if he's sleeping with men too I'm thinking that's not your biggest concern. Using protection would be when YOU are with him. Are you really ok with this? [image] I thought I was pretty open minded but damn! MM, I don't think she means her DH is CURRENTLY sleeping with men.
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Post by Firebird on Jun 26, 2012 17:43:39 GMT -5
I like the word "squicky" FB!
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:43:57 GMT -5
You read that right MM. And if I were going to cheat it sure as heck wouldn't be with a guy. Just another joke of the universe that he and I ended up happily together. How YOU doin'? Seriously - You guys didn't know this before you married? That's kind of cool in a weird way. See?! I was right - many times like attracts like... ;D
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:45:15 GMT -5
And if he's sleeping with men too I'm thinking that's not your biggest concern. Using protection would be when YOU are with him. Are you really ok with this? [image] I thought I was pretty open minded but damn! MM, I don't think she means her DH is CURRENTLY sleeping with men. LMAO!! That was me. But if it's a stupid thing for me to say - then it was MM.
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:47:20 GMT -5
But accidental, penis falling in sex is okay though... right? It happens all the time though. Everywhere I go, these darned penises just slip right into me. I can't help it.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:48:47 GMT -5
But accidental, penis falling in sex is okay though... right? It happens all the time though. Everywhere I go, these darned penises just slip right into me. I can't help it. Does bending over and backing up on the guy count?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:50:15 GMT -5
LMAO!! That was me. But if it's a stupid thing for me to say - then it was MM. Silly POM.. we all know that you say the stupid things.. I say the incredibly funny and witty things! LMAO!!! Hey... And you misspelled "drunk and slutty". ;D
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:53:34 GMT -5
It happens all the time though. Everywhere I go, these darned penises just slip right into me. I can't help it. Does bending over and backing up on the guy count? Only if I beep when I back up.
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Post by swamp on Jun 26, 2012 17:54:52 GMT -5
It happens all the time though. Everywhere I go, these darned penises just slip right into me. I can't help it. *jealous* It's not safe for me to go out unsupervised.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jun 26, 2012 17:55:51 GMT -5
You read that right MM. And if I were going to cheat it sure as heck wouldn't be with a guy. Just another joke of the universe that he and I ended up happily together. I'm so confused...can I be totally un-pc?? (let's be honest, I dont' think I'm ever PC!lol)...If not, dont' read any further because in true Tequila fashion, I'm asking anway!lol has your dh had the reassignment surgery? Based on your post I'm guessing you were a lesbian and then your girlfriend wanted to become a man (I'm not trying to be insulting so excuse any incorrect terms...I'm actually trying to learn here!)..is that correct? If so, and if she had a surgery to become a man, how do you go from liking women to men? I'm not sure if this is coming out right....for example, if my husband decided tomorrow he wanted to be a woman...well, I'm not into women so I would have a major issue with that...I'm guessing you were never into men so I'm wondering if you had the same feelings... And I REALLY hope I'm not over-stepping...I'm a nosy SOB and I've never really understood how all this works...
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 26, 2012 17:59:06 GMT -5
Does bending over and backing up on the guy count? Only if I beep when I back up. I don't ever beep. I'm afraid they'll leave if I do that first. Plus I don't like warning them.
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