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Post by schildi on Jan 27, 2011 1:09:30 GMT -5
I was just wondering. How much time do you spend on facebook? I am not using it, it does not seem like a good idea to me. If I want to socialize, I prefer calling or a visit.
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Post by cronewitch on Jan 27, 2011 2:17:29 GMT -5
I like it to see what people are up to that I seldom talk to in person. I never call anyone, don't like phones. Tomorrow is my brother's birthday I will send him a greeting on Facebook, we aren't close, I don't really respect him and he is a bit antisocial. This is a nice way to keep a friendly but not close relationship.
I have nieces who never call or write, and I don't too this way I can see pictures of the kids and hear the cute things they do when they are thousands of miles away. One niece has married and had six kids since I have seen her or talk to her on the phone. I have only seen her maybe 5-6 times in her life since she grew up an Air Force brat. She is the reason I joined Facebook, I heard her mother died in a traffic accident. She was my brother's ex and he adopted her kids. I didn't have an phone number or address for her so found her on Facebook and send her and her brother's wife notes of condolence. They both friended me, the nephew isn't on Facebook only his wife I have never met.
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Post by Small Biz Owner on Jan 27, 2011 7:11:53 GMT -5
Not me.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2011 8:44:55 GMT -5
I'm on... but i never do games, etc. i hide all that stuff... i do like to keep in touch with people but not really have to talk to them... but i have to be careful. I'm quite opinionated, and have to remember its not like i'm on here or anything... and can't just 'say' anything... Also some of the older kids from homeschool group are on my FB, and i have to moderate for that as well...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2011 8:50:04 GMT -5
I've only been on for a few months and I am a convert. I don't do any of the games. But I keep in touch with family that is all over the country. And even the friends that are close, we remind each other of special events coming up, make plans together, solicit quick help with something...I think it's great. The birthday reminder is AWESOME! I can wish happy birthday to folks that wouldn't normally hear from me and it reminds me to call those I would.
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Post by justwhoever on Jan 27, 2011 8:54:06 GMT -5
I'm facebook and love it. I've found friends from grade school. Get to see and "talk" to my niece that isn't around here. I play 1 game. Never could get into MySpace though. Not sure why.
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Post by schildi on Jan 27, 2011 9:03:32 GMT -5
It seems to me that the younger generation loses its ability to really socially interact because of things like facebook. Maybe I am wrong ....
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 27, 2011 9:23:09 GMT -5
I use Facebook. I also talk to people on the phone and hang out with friends in person. One doesn't replace the other.
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Post by kimber45 on Jan 27, 2011 9:26:56 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2011 9:29:03 GMT -5
I think its just another form. I think it can actually ease/help those whose personality is not to be very social... i'd be content to live in a cave, basically, not that i don't like people, but they can be so exhausting... facebook and email and meetup let me maintain relationships, routine kind of talk wihtout having to 'interact' (if that makes sense) and entice me out and about, more often than i normally would without them.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 27, 2011 9:29:21 GMT -5
I don't believe it is true. I think cyberspace interaction is more personal than writting letters was in 1804 (or whatever.) I think people who believe this are sort-of fuddy-duddy stereotyping. I know plenty of young people that use facebook often AND are very adept socially IRL. In fact, I have found if you suck at relating to people face to face, you probably aren't that great at relating to them on facebook either. Social awkwardness did not get invented by technology.
I am a facebook user - I check it twice a day - three times if something good was going on. I use it to send message, tell jokes, post pictures, tell people about great things to do in Phoenix. I actually reconnected with college friends on facebook, and was so intrigued and drawn in by their postings that we reconnected IRL, and now spend quite a bit of time together. The facebook posting usually give us a place to start a conversation when we do get together. "So, you guys went to Vegas, last week - how was it?" Or more simply "You are wrong, Hot Rod was the greatest movie of all time."
Yes, I'm not creating any deep and lasting friendships on facebook, but I feel more connected to people than I would if I didn't have facebook. I might have picked up the phone and call them once or twice a year - but now I actually call them more. I called my neice when her status went from "In relationship" to "Single." If it weren't for Facebook, I wouldn't have found out for months.
But mostly, I just make sure that my statuses are hilarious so people think I'm a hoot.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2011 9:29:36 GMT -5
I'm on FB with a mix of friends from way back, a few co-workers, many relatives scattered all over, and a few Episcopal priests. I enjoy keeping in touch with them but am annoyed at how often FB changes its setup, with the default always "sharing" more info than I want, and I have to keep going back and changing privacy settings.
Given the mix of people, I'm pretty careful about spouting off on religion and politics- I respectfully disagree with what many of my friends post and I know some would wholeheartedly disagree with each other. I've got devout Catholics and gay people in decades-long relationships, flaming liberals and Tea Party sympathizers among my friends.
I don't play the games- it's a time sump. FB is block by my office network, which is sort of OK- checking it at home is enough.
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Post by Waffle on Jan 27, 2011 9:40:29 GMT -5
That's one of the reasons, I keep resisting joining facebook - I don't wish to be found by grade school, high school or college "friends" If I haven't talked to them in the last 30+ years, I probably don't have any burning desire to talk to them. The things that tempt me to join is that I'd like to keep up with some (especially the younger) family members that live far away. I got an invitation to join a week or so ago from an old coworker. His wife and I already email occasionally and we see each other a few times a year, so he's the kind of person I probably would friend if I were on facebook. I guess I'm just too private a person. Don't hold me to that if I breakdown and join it some day
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Post by Poppet on Jan 27, 2011 9:40:47 GMT -5
I am just not that into FB. I'd rather blog and socialize on message boards.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 27, 2011 9:42:34 GMT -5
I'm not on FB. Dh has an account but rarely updates it.
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Post by Urban Chicago on Jan 27, 2011 9:43:17 GMT -5
I'm on it. I mostly use it to see pictures, since no one, myself included, prints them out anymore.
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Post by olderburgher on Jan 27, 2011 9:46:14 GMT -5
I will look and rarely post but I tend to like face to face or at least phone calls for social interaction.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2011 9:46:34 GMT -5
t is a good way to share pictures... and if we had an activity, and i forgot my camera or something, there is always someone who took some and i can snag a few of theirs...
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Post by The J on Jan 27, 2011 9:54:54 GMT -5
I use facebook. It's a nice way to keep in contact with some people -- there are friends that I don't call (I'm not a big phone person anyway), so instead of writing letters, we can have a much faster running conversation on facebook. It's also nice because there are people I went to law school with who visit NY, and this is a good way for me to see they're coming so we can make arrangements to meet. In fact, one of my friends from high school, who I haven't seen in about 10 years, came back to NY from Seattle last month. We were able to arrange a get-together, which was really fun. It was nice to see them again. It's also useful for arranging events
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 27, 2011 9:57:04 GMT -5
I'm on there, a lot. I've got family all over North America and concert friends scattered around the world. this is a nice way to keep in touch with all of them, and it honestly feels like they are all in my life as much as the friends in the same town.
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Post by cronewitch on Jan 27, 2011 10:02:31 GMT -5
It was cool last year when my niece did her wedding invitations on Facebook, I could see those that posted they were coming or not and feel the joy she was having. She is a procrastinator who never calls anyone and I never call anyone, she lives minutes away yet I only see her once ever few years. He son is 18 and skipped the last few family occasions so hadn't seen him in a very long time until the wedding then he came to mom's birthday with a girl he has a facebook status of engaged now. I wouldn't know they consider themselves engaged if not for facebook or that he is working instead of MLM where making his fortune didn't happen.
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Post by schildi on Jan 27, 2011 10:10:27 GMT -5
So most people actively use it. Hmmm. It seems to me that this entire new generation shows some signs of autism: the inability to look somebody in the face while talking or addressing a problem. It always seems easier to bully somebody online (incl. FB), right? I don't know, some of this seems just so odd, this feeling of importance, like the whole world cares what somebody had for lunch, or did in the afternoon. I can even see see that trend here on YM: people used to actually read threads and then reply to what others have said. Lately it seems that most just reply to the OP with their opinion and don't bother to read any of the replies.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jan 27, 2011 10:15:14 GMT -5
DH, DS and I all FB. We have the password for DS' account so we check it from time to time just because he is only 12.
Between DH and I we have lived in MN, TN, TX, AK, MS, CA and MN again. We spent 4 years in the Air Force and have friends from that all over the world. It's nice to be able to keep up with their lives. I don't play any of the stupid games. I have friends from elementary school, high school, college, Air Force, WIR, relatives, real life friends, etc. I ignore the friend requests from people I don't want to be friends with- especially my MIL.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 27, 2011 10:18:16 GMT -5
I will say that I got found by a person that I wasn't that close to, and I ignored her once or twice, but she kept sending the request. I accepted, and found she is the most annoying facebook poster. Every morning her status is something like "Good Morning everyone, happy Thursday." And every night she posts a bible verse. In high school she was very petite, tiny, cute, skinny, fashionable - now she is a contender for biggest loser. She keeps posting family portraits that have more chins than I can handle. I unfriended her during unfriend day, but she noticed I was missing and refriended me. So, I was smart enough to hide her posts.
Also, you can make groups and just choose to have them see your posts, instead of everyone. That will help if you have a wide cross section of people and maybe you want to limit some of their exposure to some of your stuff. I do that for when I want to post funny, but potentially offensive, stuff.
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Post by Mrs. Dinero on Jan 27, 2011 10:18:53 GMT -5
FB fan here. I love that I can catch up with old friends that live far away. I post pictures of what is going on in our lives and I don't friend people unless I would talk with them in real life. DH is not on there (although he logs on under my name to read what others are up to) along with 10 or less friends. When something happens, FB allows you to know about it first. I enjoy it but I enjoy hanging out physically with my friends more.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 27, 2011 10:19:29 GMT -5
That is a common problem with teenagers - not this generation of teenagers.
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Post by Mrs. Dinero on Jan 27, 2011 10:24:22 GMT -5
"I ignored her once or twice, but she kept sending the request." Don't ignore them just leave them pending. That way they don't have a choice to request again. I do this to all the people I don't know or wish not to know.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 27, 2011 10:26:14 GMT -5
You have a choice to "Accept" or "Ignore" - but if you do nothing (which actually is ignoring), yes, it will leave them pending. I clicked on "Ignore" so she was able to resend.
If you are ignored, you don't get any notification or anything.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jan 27, 2011 10:39:46 GMT -5
thyme4change- you can always block them That's what both my friend and I both did with our MIL's. That works too until they create a new fb user profile and try to friend you again. I also block my updates so my DBro can't read them. Because he tries to start drama with FB so if he doesn't see my updates then he can't comment on them. But he hasn't realized yet that I did that so he can't tattle to his mommy that I am being mean to him.
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Post by Mrs. Dinero on Jan 27, 2011 10:41:01 GMT -5
You don't get any notification for leaving them pending either and they can't ask to friend you again. That's the best part about leaving them pending - they can't request you because they already have.
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