Iggy aka IG
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Post by Iggy aka IG on May 28, 2021 12:17:16 GMT -5
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Iggy aka IG
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jun 11, 2021 13:53:20 GMT -5
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Iggy aka IG
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jun 24, 2021 17:07:35 GMT -5
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Jake 48
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Post by Jake 48 on Jul 5, 2021 17:22:38 GMT -5
Hello slackers,
Hope everyone had a safe and happy holiday with family and friends
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Icelandic Woman
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Post by Icelandic Woman on Sept 24, 2021 13:42:52 GMT -5
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Jake 48
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Post by Jake 48 on Nov 19, 2021 20:27:27 GMT -5
Hello slackers,
Life gets complicated, hope everyone is well
Jake
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Icelandic Woman
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Post by Icelandic Woman on Dec 21, 2021 11:46:13 GMT -5
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spartyparty
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Post by spartyparty on Mar 9, 2023 14:48:02 GMT -5
Pretty dead here...time to liven it up! Guess who's getting divorced?
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Pink Cashmere
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Mar 9, 2023 15:14:26 GMT -5
Pretty dead here...time to liven it up! Guess who's getting divorced? Uh oh. Would that be you? |
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spartyparty
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Post by spartyparty on Mar 9, 2023 15:27:13 GMT -5
Pretty dead here...time to liven it up! Guess who's getting divorced? Uh oh. Would that be you? Yep Long story...and maybe I'll get into more of it at a later date. But her spending never stopped...I held a lot of resentment. Just days before she told me that she was filing for divorce, my 16 year old told me that he thought mother had borderline personality disorder. The more I read about it, the more everything makes sense now. Unfortunately, it is too late to fix it. In my readings, I came across this passage that really hit home: "It is like you are a Coast Guard cutter and she is a drowning woman. But she drowns in a peculiar way. Every time you pull her out of the turbulent sea, feed her warm tea and biscuits, wrap her in a comfy blanket and tell her everything is okay, she suddenly jumps overboard and starts pleading for help again. And, no matter how many times you rush to the emotional – rescue, she still keeps jumping back into trouble. It is this repeating, endlessly frustrating pattern which should confirm to you that you are involved with a Borderline Personality Disorder. No matter how effective you are at helping her, nothing is ever enough. No physical, financial or emotional assistance ever seems to make any lasting difference. It’s like pouring the best of yourself into a galactic-sized Psychological Black Hole of bottomless emotional hunger. And if you keep pouring it in long enough, one-day you’ll fall right down that hole yourself. There will be nothing left of you but your own shadow, just as it falls through her predatory “event horizon.” But before that happens, other signs will reveal her true colours." |
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Mar 9, 2023 16:25:01 GMT -5
Uh oh. Would that be you? Yep Long story...and maybe I'll get into more of it at a later date. But her spending never stopped...I held a lot of resentment. Just days before she told me that she was filing for divorce, my 16 year old told me that he thought mother had borderline personality disorder. The more I read about it, the more everything makes sense now. Unfortunately, it is too late to fix it. In my readings, I came across this passage that really hit home: "It is like you are a Coast Guard cutter and she is a drowning woman. But she drowns in a peculiar way. Every time you pull her out of the turbulent sea, feed her warm tea and biscuits, wrap her in a comfy blanket and tell her everything is okay, she suddenly jumps overboard and starts pleading for help again. And, no matter how many times you rush to the emotional – rescue, she still keeps jumping back into trouble. It is this repeating, endlessly frustrating pattern which should confirm to you that you are involved with a Borderline Personality Disorder. No matter how effective you are at helping her, nothing is ever enough. No physical, financial or emotional assistance ever seems to make any lasting difference. It’s like pouring the best of yourself into a galactic-sized Psychological Black Hole of bottomless emotional hunger. And if you keep pouring it in long enough, one-day you’ll fall right down that hole yourself. There will be nothing left of you but your own shadow, just as it falls through her predatory “event horizon.” But before that happens, other signs will reveal her true colours." I’m sorry to hear that. As much as I prefer spouses to try to work things out (as if what I think and prefer matters lol), I also understand that it takes both spouses putting in the work, and I understand that sometimes a person just has to do what’s best for themselves and their own well being if their spouse can’t or won’t be a good partner in a healthy marriage. I wish you peace as you move into a new chapter of your life. We are here if you want to talk more about it, or just need to vent.  |
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spartyparty
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Post by spartyparty on Mar 9, 2023 16:58:33 GMT -5
Yep Long story...and maybe I'll get into more of it at a later date. But her spending never stopped...I held a lot of resentment. Just days before she told me that she was filing for divorce, my 16 year old told me that he thought mother had borderline personality disorder. The more I read about it, the more everything makes sense now. Unfortunately, it is too late to fix it. In my readings, I came across this passage that really hit home: "It is like you are a Coast Guard cutter and she is a drowning woman. But she drowns in a peculiar way. Every time you pull her out of the turbulent sea, feed her warm tea and biscuits, wrap her in a comfy blanket and tell her everything is okay, she suddenly jumps overboard and starts pleading for help again. And, no matter how many times you rush to the emotional – rescue, she still keeps jumping back into trouble. It is this repeating, endlessly frustrating pattern which should confirm to you that you are involved with a Borderline Personality Disorder. No matter how effective you are at helping her, nothing is ever enough. No physical, financial or emotional assistance ever seems to make any lasting difference. It’s like pouring the best of yourself into a galactic-sized Psychological Black Hole of bottomless emotional hunger. And if you keep pouring it in long enough, one-day you’ll fall right down that hole yourself. There will be nothing left of you but your own shadow, just as it falls through her predatory “event horizon.” But before that happens, other signs will reveal her true colours." I’m sorry to hear that. As much as I prefer spouses to try to work things out (as if what I think and prefer matters lol), I also understand that it takes both spouses putting in the work, and I understand that sometimes a person just has to do what’s best for themselves and their own well being if their spouse can’t or won’t be a good partner in a healthy marriage. I wish you peace as you move into a new chapter of your life. We are here if you want to talk more about it, or just need to vent. Thank you! I appreciate it greatly!  |
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wvugurl26
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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 9, 2023 18:54:45 GMT -5
Sorry sparty. It's always a rough thing.
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toomuchreality
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Post by toomuchreality on Mar 9, 2023 19:05:55 GMT -5
Yep Long story...and maybe I'll get into more of it at a later date. But her spending never stopped...I held a lot of resentment. Just days before she told me that she was filing for divorce, my 16 year old told me that he thought mother had borderline personality disorder. The more I read about it, the more everything makes sense now. Unfortunately, it is too late to fix it. In my readings, I came across this passage that really hit home: "It is like you are a Coast Guard cutter and she is a drowning woman. But she drowns in a peculiar way. Every time you pull her out of the turbulent sea, feed her warm tea and biscuits, wrap her in a comfy blanket and tell her everything is okay, she suddenly jumps overboard and starts pleading for help again. And, no matter how many times you rush to the emotional – rescue, she still keeps jumping back into trouble. It is this repeating, endlessly frustrating pattern which should confirm to you that you are involved with a Borderline Personality Disorder. No matter how effective you are at helping her, nothing is ever enough. No physical, financial or emotional assistance ever seems to make any lasting difference. It’s like pouring the best of yourself into a galactic-sized Psychological Black Hole of bottomless emotional hunger. And if you keep pouring it in long enough, one-day you’ll fall right down that hole yourself. There will be nothing left of you but your own shadow, just as it falls through her predatory “event horizon.” But before that happens, other signs will reveal her true colours." I’m sorry to hear that. As much as I prefer spouses to try to work things out (as if what I think and prefer matters lol), I also understand that it takes both spouses putting in the work, and I understand that sometimes a person just has to do what’s best for themselves and their own well being if their spouse can’t or won’t be a good partner in a healthy marriage. I wish you peace as you move into a new chapter of your life. We are here if you want to talk more about it, or just need to vent. Yeah that. ^^^ |
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