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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:49:21 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #14143 - 11/29/10 09:08 PMI'm in week 39... due date originally 12/7. We're almost there, Jenna! My due date is 12/12, so I was 38 weeks yesterday. I'm not that big.. I've just lost all flexibility and sense of balance. I'm the same - it's not that my belly is abnormally big (for being 9 months pregnant anyway), but I'm just not flexible. Every time I bend forward, I smoosh the top of my uterus and it's painful. GusitaRenkerMessage #14144 - 11/29/10 09:10 PMI figured after watching Discovery Health that my hoo ha was probably still a lot better than 99.9% of the ones they see on a regular basis. LOL Drama! I just remember this video we had to watch in sex ed and this woman had so much dark, curly hair going on down there, it just looked like an afro. I pretty much decided to get professional services involving anything below the waist. Up until I had Avery I used to get regular, professional bikini waxes. (I haven't had the time or money since. ) I had a bikini wax a week before I had her. Let me tell you that was painful!! You get a lot more sensitive the closer you get to delivery. I was hot and sweaty. My poor waxer thought she was going to send me into labor right then and there. My mom couldn't understand why I would do such a thing. My thought was that is one of the few times in my life that I'll have an audience down there, so I wanted to be well-groomed. I also got regular pedicures while I was pregnant. I couldn't reach my toes enough to do my own. I have thought about getting a wax, but I can't ever seem to wait long enough for it to grow and get long enough to wax. TMI, but it just gets so itchy if I go a few days without shaving it, so I always break down and do it. I plan on getting a pedicure sometime this week if this dang swelling goes down some. I had been having DH paint them (I can get to them enough to cut them, just not long enough to paint), but I think they are need of a full course of treatment. sbcaligirlMessage #14145 - 11/29/10 09:12 PMWell, DH did pick up a little bit on Saturday and Sunday and even vacuumed the living room last night. I think my losing it on Thursday may have made somewhat of an impact. I wish I could just make a list for him but that doesn't really work anymore. He has a chore list/schedule that he's supposed to follow (we both do) but he just stopped doing it at the end of Sept when school started. He's now giving me grief about the bedroom though and I really had to restrain myself from whacking him in the head . I realize the bedroom is a hazardous zone but when it is all I can do to keep it together with work and DD I don't think the bedroom is on the top of my list. I also kindly reminded him that I'm not the only one who has the skills to clean the bedroom - last time I checked picking up clothes and books etc was not my sole domain. I'm hoping the class I co-teach tonight will go smoothly so I can at least get started on the bedroom. I try to clean during naptime but I'm usually so tired myself I need to at least rest if I don't sleep too. Birth Balls: I didn't use one but I've heard they do wonders for a lot of women. I did bring my big Boppy preggo pillow to the hospital and that helped a lot with getting comfortable. I got an epidural pretty quickly though and had to stay mostly in bed at that point. I also agree that it is completely normal to be scared about the delivery itself. After my three false labors/no admits, I was so freaked out when I went in the 4th time that they had to give me some valium. I was convinced they were going to send me home again and I knew I was really going to have the baby that time so I panicked. It didn't help that I hadn't really gotten any sleep for days. After I relaxed a bit though, things went a lot smoother and I was able to really calm down. I would just say don't be ashamed if you are a little scared/panicky, let the nurses know and they'll help you in any way they can. They often know exactly what to do to help you or can give DH lots of great suggestions. Azure: How sad, I think flowers would be nice though I'm not sure what to say either. I think though just the support and acknowledgment of the loss is a great start. GusitaRenkerMessage #14146 - 11/29/10 09:19 PMI just got the sad news that my brother's wife miscarried. This was their first pregnancy, and he was just over the moon happy and excited. The day after he announced to the family at Thanksgiving, she started cramping and bleeding. I know I'm not the first to ask this, but does anyone have any words of wisdom or insight as to how I can be helpful to them now? I live far, far away from them, so unfortunately I cannot do anything in person. I was planning to send flowers... Aw Azure, I am so sorry to hear this.That's so sad. I think flowers would definitely be a sweet thing. It's always to hard to know what to say in these situations. I'm not that big.. I've just lost all flexibility and sense of balance I still have most of my flexibility (well within my legs and such), but I feel so awkward and off center, I can't really put it to good use. Also, when I have the Braxton Hicks contractions, they just make it impossible to bend at all at the stomach. It feels like I have a board in there. ElfQ1015Message #14147 - 11/29/10 09:24 PMI was convinced they were going to send me home again and I knew I was really going to have the baby that time so I panicked I drug it out till 5 am before I agreed to go to the hospital. I was the opposite and paranoid that I was going to be kept there for 6 hours again only to be sent home. I ended up puking up large amounts of water because I had to have drank at least 3 litres because I was trying to convince myself it was more BHs and I was told to drink water to make them go away because I had been dehydrated that day. I was so relieved to actually be in labor when we got there! I didn't panic till they started doing "just in case" things like the oxygen mask and internal monitor because then I realized I was losing control of the situation and that this was going to go down how it wanted to go down. ladykiMessage #14148 - 11/29/10 09:24 PMMy husband paints my toenails since I can't reach...don't tell him I told you that.
LOL, my Dh did that for me too, my toenails looked even worse afater that, lol.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:49:45 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #14149 - 11/29/10 09:57 PMLOL, my Dh did that for me too, my toenails looked even worse afater that, lol. hehe, luckily my DH is really good at it. He even painted them for me occasionally before I got pregnant. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14150 - 11/29/10 11:06 PMazure - I am so sorry to hear this! Having been there, I can say that acknowledging the loss is about the best thing you can do. Sympathy card, flowers with a "sorry for your loss" message, or just a phone call expressing your feelings and asking if there is anything they need from you would all be appreciated I'm sure. I will be thinking of them. kjshMessage #14151 - 11/29/10 11:32 PMAzure - I'm so sorry to hear about your brother and sister-in-law. I think flowers are okay, and I'd send a card letting them know that you're sorry for their loss and that you're willing to be a shoulder to lean on if they need one. Shaving/grooming - For quite a while now I've been sporting the 70's natural look. I can barely maneuver around to get my legs, there's no way I'm even getting close to my bikini area. I have my GBS test tomorrow and will eventually start internals so I did have DH take some scissors and trim things so there would be less for the nurse/dr to dig through. Birth - I'm just in denial about it most days. I definitely get freaked/scared when I actually start to think about it. Especially since it was uncomfortable the last time we had s.ex and DH's member is nowhere near the size of a baby's head (thank god). That reminds me though, I need to look up perineum massage. Our birth class instructor was a big fan and I figure it can't hurt and maybe it will help so it's time for us to start doing that. Oh, and add my hospital to the list of those that don't provide you with a birth ball - I have an exercise ball I use at home and we'll look at bringing it. It's a pain to pump up though so I don't know if I want to deflate it for traveling. Ah Jenna, you're so close. I'm both jealous of your 39 weeks and also so glad that I'm not quite there yet. Doctor's visit tomorrow - let's hope the baby's not transverse or breech again. GusitaRenkerMessage #14152 - 11/30/10 01:20 AMI totally worry about getting the baby out of there. I have read all of these horror stories online about how women tore so badly and wound up needing like over 100 stitches or had permanent damage to the clitoris. I know these are all worst case scenarios and I should really stay away from Google, but I can't help myself. I know in reality that tearing is extremely common and that most women heal up just fine with time, but the irrational side of me is worried to death about it. I have read a little about the perineal massaging online. One site said the best time to start was 34 weeks, so I guess if I am going to try it, I need to start this week. lizwidMessage #14153 - 11/30/10 01:26 AMperineal massage is great to do on your own. I was also lucky and had my nurse and doctor both doing that on me while I was pushing (still ended up in a c-section but not due to the massaging or lack thereof!) I'm 4 weeks pp c-section. Been walking quite a bit, did a little bit of prenantal yoga (very simple moves). I'm not lifting weights or anything yet, I know I shouldn't do anything too strenuous due to the surgery. I was extremely active throughout pregnancy even though I gained an outrageous amount of weight due to pre-eclampsia, borderlinne gest. diabetes that sorta thing. Part of me wants to move around more, do more exercise, but I know I should be letting myself heal still... it's a double edged sword. I'm still up about 15-20 lbs from my starting weight, which is higher than I've ever been in my life anyways... ugh. Breastfeeding is going great but I wonder if I will be one of those women who hangs onto extra fat stores the whole time I BF? jenna30-Message #14154 - 11/30/10 01:32 AMAh Jenna, you're so close. I'm both jealous of your 39 weeks and also so glad that I'm not quite there yet. I am nervous. Trying not to actually think about giving birth. I'm also hoping I have enough things for the baby w/o having to go out too often. I also worry about whether he'll have allergies or be able to fit into his clothes. I'm a worrier and a planner. So, all these unknowns are killing me.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:49:59 GMT -5
taz157 - 10 wksMessage #14155 - 11/30/10 03:12 AMazure - I'm sorry to hear about the miscarriage for your brother and sister-in-law. As with what Econ said, I would send a sorry-for-your-loss card and I would also let them know if there anything that you can do for them. jenna - I'm a worrier and a planner too. Right now, I'm just going to take it 1 day at a time and see what happens in 3 weeks at my 1st appt. IMO, I think my DH is a little too scared to get excited because he's afraid that something will happen. I hope not, but anything is possible. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14156 - 11/30/10 03:27 AMTaz - my DH is like that too. I want to tell my family after my Dr appointment next week, but he wants to wait. He keeps saying "what if something happens?". Makes me so sad every time . But today when I was leaving for work he kissed me goodbye, then leaned down & kissed my tummy too I think this back & forth between excited & nervous is going to continue for....oh....about 34 more weeks taz157 - 10 wksMessage #14157 - 11/30/10 03:38 AMSam - So far, we've only told my parents, my brother, his parents, his best friend and wife, and where I volunteer at (can't clean their cat poop anymore ). I thought he would have told his brother (his closest sibling), but he said he hadn't. I had even asked him if he wanted to tell anyone before I mentioned it to anyone. He said, okay. I think this back & forth between excited & nervous is going to continue for....oh....about 34 more weeks I think you are right. After reading many of the stories here and other message boards, I do understand. Granted, I'm getting the worrying as I haven't had morning sickness yet but I'm sure it's a matter of time. I took a "Are you pregnant?" test a few minutes ago thru babycenter.com and it said that it was a possibility based on my symptoms. I'm not having the morning sickness, tender/sore b00bs (not sure if I will due to a breast reduction 5 years ago), and some others that I can't think of. Of them all, I just don't want the "morning sickness" to happen when I am at work. It can happen before I leave for work and when I get home. Otherwise, it can't happen! The least it could do is cooperate! (Keep in mind, I know that isn't going to happen. I just like to think it will. ) Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14158 - 11/30/10 04:03 AMWho knows, I have been getting sick around 3pm & it lasts until about 10 when I go to bed. If this keeps up, I might be able to keep it quiet at work longer since most people start going home around 3:30. Unless I actually get sick there, then everyone would know (word spreads pretty danged fast around work). EconStudent07Message #14159 - 11/30/10 04:22 AMTaz, don't worry about the lack of symptoms. I had absolutely no symptoms until about 6 weeks, and even then I was just really tired. I never threw up, had sore boobs, etc. I remember wishing I had some symptoms so that I didn't have to worry so much. I have definitley been the worrier all along. My DH wanted to tell everyone right away, but I only let him tell people that I didn't have to interact with in case anything happened. taz157 - 10 wksMessage #14160 - 11/30/10 11:57 AMTaz, don't worry about the lack of symptoms. I had absolutely no symptoms until about 6 weeks, and even then I was just really tired. I never threw up, had sore boobs, etc. I remember wishing I had some symptoms so that I didn't have to worry so much. I have definitley been the worrier all along. My DH wanted to tell everyone right away, but I only let him tell people that I didn't have to interact with in case anything happened. Thanks! When I asked DH if he wanted to tell anyone, I thought he was going to say No and I would have gone along with it, but he didn't. I think he keeps going back and forth and is just worried something will happen. Yesterday, I had my mom call me at work to ask if it was the July 30th yet (or my EDD). I said No. That still along time away. She did say that she wouldn't ask me everyday. I said that's great or else you have driven me crazy! Needless to say, my mom is super excited on being a grandma! She wanted to tell her brothers, but I said No to that in case something does happen. It's less people we've gotta talk to. The joy of the nerve-racking 9 months, then the 18 years while they are living with us, then the years while they are there own...
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:50:24 GMT -5
jenna30-Message #14161 - 11/30/10 12:17 PMAs soon as I got the results of my genetic screenings - I told extended family and co-workers. I'm 37, and wanted to wait til after the 12 week mark to share the news. We only told the grandmas and my bosses (since I would end up taking long lunches to make Dr appts) before that point. -- I didn't start to get sick until about 1/2 way into my first tri -the nausea ended around 19 weeks. I had sore boobs earlier in the 1st tri, however. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14162 - 11/30/10 01:04 PMsymptoms - My symptoms came and went a lot in the first tri. I didn't get ANY morning sickness until after 8 weeks but I was really sick until the end of week 17. The tender boobs started after 6 weeks but one day they would be sore and the next not. My first real symptom was really dark veins in my wrists/boobs, but they also came and went. DH and I have had 2 losses, one in 2009 and another this spring. In both cases we didn't tell the family until after the loss had either happened or was inevitable. As much as you think you won't want to tell people, I found that people knew something was wrong the first time and I just wanted the family/friend support. The second time I was having to go to surgery, so I wanted to call immediate family in case something happened. So, this time, we only waited until we had an u/s to prove the baby was growing and we saw the h/b and then we planned a trip to tell everyone. We told 2 sets of really good friends as soon as we got a + test just because I needed someone I could call to talk to about what was going on...it was a very high stress time since my surgery had been so recent. I was just so burned out on telling people only after it was bad news. I wanted to make sure telling the family I was expecting was a GOOD occassion this time....no matter how it turned out. PalmettoLadyMessage #14163 - 11/30/10 02:21 PM I think this back & forth between excited & nervous is going to continue for....oh....about 34 more weeks Sam & Taz, with my DH once I had been to the 1st appointment and had a picture of the little bean he was way more excited and less nervous. We told our parents and we each only have on sibling so told them to after the 1st appointment at 9 weeks. Then told everyone else after my appointment at 13 weeks. ElfQ1015Message #14164 - 11/30/10 02:23 PMGranted, I'm getting the worrying as I haven't had morning sickness yet but I'm sure it's a matter of time. Some lucky women never get morning sickness. All pregnancies are different and you can waste a lot of time panicking because you have a symptom someone else did not mention or you don't have one that someone else did. Plus you are REALLY early. The most I had at that stage was some boob tenderness but I also have that during my period so I had no clue I was pregnant. I never had stereotypical morning sickness, I had mind numbing nausea and that started at around 8 weeks thru 12 weeks and then I puked off and on till about 22 weeks. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14165 - 11/30/10 02:28 PM DH and I had our first "discussion" about the baby today. Lovely..... We know 100% that unless he lands some mega case, I will have to return to work after the baby is born. So daycare is a necessity. We really want MIL to do it, but she seems hesitant to agree to full time. My mom is not an option. So I asked one of my good friends if she knew any good HDCPs around here (she's the preschool director at our church). I also asked about center options. DH flipped. He is insisting we get a nanny to come to our house (yep - seriously). He is convinced that even as a tiny infant, our child will learn bad habits from the "horrible little brats at daycare". Are you freaking kidding me? Let alone the fact that a nanny is twice the cost of a center (and almost 4 times the cost of a HDCP). Sure, hun. Go triple your income in the next year & we can think about it (but then again, I would just stay home or drop to PT in that case). He also informed me that we will NOT be doing cloth diapers (I have been looking at them for awhile & wanted to give it a try), and that I will be breastfeeding (since I have to go back to work, I just wanted to start with FF right off the bat). Its really a good thing that I just had to leave for work & didn't have time to say anything. ElfQ1015Message #14166 - 11/30/10 02:47 PMSam, having been there and done that with my DH, my advice is to drop the subjects for now, you are only six weeks along. I understand wanting to get the ball rolling, but you have PLENTY of time to discuss these things. I would not do what the books recommend and start LOOKING for daycare at 37 weeks, but you don't need to get it all done today. Pregnancy for some reason throws certain men into turbo control freak mode. My hypothesis was that since DH could not help me with the actual pregnancy he decided to try to seize control of everything outside the pregnancy in order to feel like he was helping. We went thru the daycare argument, the "you will breastfeed her because of blah blah" "no cloth diapers" and every other argument that you can think of when it comes to raising children. As the pregnancy progressed DH became much more level headed and reasonable. We were able to better talk about certain subjects and it also helped that I didn't have my head in the toilet 90% of the time and being so exhausted I was cross eyed. It took him clear until Gwen went to daycare to get over it. His mother was a SAHM and he's never once had to research daycares, known anyone who went to daycare and of course you get a bazillion horror stories about daycare just like you do pregnancy and labor. So he had nothing to go on when it came to daycare. He had to see the daycare for himself and meet the ladies for himself before he was really comfortable leaving her there. 20/20 hindsight I should have taken him with me when I filled out the paperwork. Don't do cloth diapers but that's because we have to use disposable for daycare anyhow, I really didn't want to futz around with two different types of diapering. The environment can kiss my butt. I'd already decided to breastfeed without him ordering me to, but we did have a serious discussion about how it wasn't his right to demand I do it because it is MY body and the person it affects, especially job wise is ME. I told him his opinion was important to me, but in the end the final decision rested with me since I am the one who would feel the consequences the most either way. Tell your DH that you understand his concerns (even if that is a complete lie) and that you will certainly take his opinion into consideration, but FOR NOW, the topic is shelved. Wait until the end of the first trimester when you are feeling better and he's had more of a chance to adjust to you being pregnant. That's plenty of time to research daycares. You don't need to make a decision on how you are going to feed the baby till practically the end if you don't want to, same with cloth diapering. Take him with you to doctor's appointments to talk about breastfeeding vs formula feeding, take him with you when you start touring daycares. The more you involve him, the more likely it is that he will start to become more open and receptive if he knows his concerns are being heard and addressed.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:50:37 GMT -5
jenna30-Message #14167 - 11/30/10 02:50 PMSam - Yikes. Sorry to hear he's not being very compromising. I told hubby that I hope to breast feed, but it may not be possible (due to baby being unable to latch or any other issue.) Good luck. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14168 - 11/30/10 02:58 PMI know we have a long time to decide anything. I wasn't even the one that brought it up today - I guess he had been thinking about it the past couple of days & just told me how it was going to be . I know how he processes things though, so he will change his mind several times before we ever come to a decision on something. But we also grew up in VERY different families. His family was very affluent. His mom stayed home with the kids, but they also had a cook, housekeeper, and person to do the yard. So he thinks a nanny is just "normal". I grew up lower-middle class, with thrift store clothes & shopping at Aldi for all our food. You should have seen his face the first time I took him in there - he refuses to go back & says that I can't shop there anymore, I have to shop at a "real" store. So its going to be fun to see how we handle this based on our different experiences. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14169 - 11/30/10 03:03 PMSam, I wouldn't start fights about it yet. Let things cool down for awhile and then bring it up again. Maybe you could ask your DH to investigate nannies and their cost while you look at daycare options. Then you can both sit down and compare and contrast while taking into consideration your budget. Maybe seeing the numbers will change his mind. As far as the cloth diapers, we don't use them. But I really think this is something both parents have to be on board with. If your DH is really against it, I'm not sure it's a hill worth dying on, KWIM? And, if you're thinking daycare, you'll need disposables anyways. I told hubby that I hope to breast feed, but it may not be possible (due to baby being unable to latch or any other issue.) That's the best attitude to take in regards to BFing. I've posted about this on here before. I planned on it, and then Avery wouldn't even attempt to latch. She literally screamed and turned away from me as soon as she got near my breast. We worked with the lactation consultant to no avail. And I wasn't producing. I tried pumping and even 5 days after the birth I was only getting about 1/4 of an ounce. It just wouldn't work for us. My advice is plan for both options. DH was running out to buy formula the day we brought Avery home. I didn't buy a can because I hadn't planned on needing it. Fortunately we had room in our budget, so it wasn't a financial disaster for us. But oh was it a happy day when she switched to milk a couple of months ago! ElfQ1015Message #14170 - 11/30/10 03:04 PMBut we also grew up in VERY different families. Yep. The daycare argument will probably be the worst. I went to daycare, so I have a totally different perspective than DH who never set foot in a daycare until Gwen did. Then everyone and their mother will have an opinion on the daycare you choose. I've had people tell me they love my daycare, then I've had people tell me "I know someone who knows someone who knows someone" horror stories about it. That doesn't help your case AT ALL when it comes to someone who has never been inside a daycare because that's all they will have to form their opinion on. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14171 - 11/30/10 04:31 PMI am so going to get busted if someone walks into my cube, but I can't seem to stay off of BabyCenter & the pics of the baby developing! Its so cool!!! regina24601Message #14172 - 11/30/10 04:53 PMI had my 34 week checkup today. It went fine, but I gained 4 pounds since my last appointment....which was last Tuesday!! Of course Thanksgiving fell during that week, and my belly really popped out in the course of a day or two, so I'm gonna chalk it up to a baby growth spurt, but holy cow!! My doctor is totally not concerned, but I was! I'm up 29 pounds overall - and there are still 6 weeks left! But my belly is measuring big (I'm measuring between 36-37 weeks right now) and we have ginormous babies in our families (I was 9 lb 11 oz and 24 inches long), so I'm hoping it's all baby. I'm really all belly (no swelling in the legs or anything), so that's a real possibility! Also he did the strep B culture, and while I was pantless, he went ahead and checked my cervix. OWOWOWOWOWOW!! I hadn't had a pelvic exam since 14 weeks, and DH and I haven't really been "active" lately, so I didn't even realize how sensitive I am down there now. It hurt soooo bad!! But he said my cervix felt right, and the baby is head down, so I guess that's good news. Econ and jenna - You're both sooo close! I can't wait to read a post that includes baby information soon! kjsh - Your "natural 70s look" comment made me laugh out loud. I'm still doing my own grooming, but I can kind of crane my head to the side and push my belly over enough to see what I'm doing. No blind shaving for me! Sam - I agree with Drama. Try not to push big discussions with DH at this point - sooo much is going to change in the next few months (mostly his and your feelings). No reason to get in a fight now when it may be a moot point in a couple of months anyway. It's amazing the range of strong feelings and emotions that DH and I have been through. Things that seemed so important to me a few months ago are kind of off my radar now, and vice versa. So just take it one day at a time. Good luck to you!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:51:02 GMT -5
EconStudent07Message #14173 - 11/30/10 05:06 PMI am so going to get busted if someone walks into my cube, but I can't seem to stay off of BabyCenter & the pics of the baby developing! Its so cool!!! aww. had my 34 week checkup today. It went fine, but I gained 4 pounds since my last appointment....which was last Tuesday!! For 4 weeks in a row (I think it was weeks 30-34), I gained 3 pounds a week...yep, 12 pounds in a month. I was thinking that I was going to be enormous if I kept that up! Since then, though, I haven't gained any more - actually I lost one pound. I have an appointment today, so I'll get to see if I've maintained my weight. gardenergirl0804Message #14174 - 11/30/10 05:11 PMHi everyone! It's my first day back to work since last Monday. We made it back from OH last night. Made it home by 8:00. Olivia did so well on the trip home. We stopped for a big breakfast and dinner so total it took us 13 1/2 hours to get from Cleveland to Atlanta. Not too bad with all the stops we made. Olivia slept a lot on the way so she did not want to go to bed last night. She stayed up until 10 and she never even stayed up that late the entire trip. That and she refused to sleep in her crib last night. I don't know why. She screamed her head off when I laid her down and we tried CIO for a while but I gave up and brought her to bed with me. DH came to bed at 1:30 and I told her to move her to her crib. It woke her up and she started screaming again. Back to bed with us til she woke up at 3:00. I nursed her and decided to try her in her crib again. She slept in there until 5:30. I hope tonight is better and she'll go back to her bed. I even tried putting something that smells like me in her crib but it only seemed to work for a couple of hours. We had a lot of fun in OH, especially hanging out with her little cousins. She was fascinated watching my niece who's about 5. They had a lot of fun together. She got so spoiled by her grand-parents, uncles, aunts. Everyone loved on her so much. It was so hard to leave them all again. I missed a lot. There were some intense discussions happening on the 23rd!! All I can say is that I love DH, so extremely much but when Olivia came along she opened up a whole new world to me about how much I could love someone. Maybe it's because she's my blood and grew inside of me. But like kgb said, it's a different kind of love. I love her so incredibly much and feel this strong need to protect her and I don't think that will ever go away. I never knew I could feel this way about someone. This much intensity to love/protect, etc. taz - congrats!!! I was reading all your posts but I could also see how you added the number of weeks to your sign-in name so I was reading about how you hoped to be pregnant and I knew you were, it was just so cute. I'm so happy for you! jenna - Almost there!!!! You are so close. Wow, could be any time now! sb - sorry you were having such a difficult time with DH. Glad he decided to pitch in and help out some around the house. Azure - sorry to hear about your SIL's m/c. I think flowers are a good idea and just letting them know you are there for them/thinking of them I'm sure means a lot to them. Reflector - sorry you had such a bad thanksgiving. Giving a 5 mo pop. Wow. kjsh - you look so cute in your pictures!! azure skyMessage #14175 - 11/30/10 05:14 PMSam -- I'll triple Drama. But I do want to let you know that we have a child in DC, yet cloth diaper. It is totally doable, if that is what you want. My DH was against it at first, but now loves it, and DS is 6 months old. Just wanted to put out an alternative perspective azure skyMessage #14176 - 11/30/10 05:18 PMWelcome back, Gardener! Glad the trip went well! REgina, not to scare you, but I was hoping I was "all baby" and ended up with...oh...about 40 lbs to lose. If I could do it again, I'd eat differently. Anyone seen Mutt? I wonder what happened to her? gardenergirl0804Message #14177 - 11/30/10 05:23 PMHere's a couple pics of Olivia at some of our stops on the way up to Ohio. First one was at a rest stop. The other is at a Bob Evans. First time she sat in a high chair at a restaurant. She loved it!! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14178 - 11/30/10 05:24 PMAnyone seen Mutt? I wonder what happened to her?
I remember her posting this summer that things with her schedule at work had changed and she didn't think she was going to be able to post much. She's only been around a few times since then. I miss her.
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Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14179 - 11/30/10 06:30 PMShe's still on FB - seems to be pretty busy lately though. GusitaRenkrMessage #14180 - 11/30/10 06:33 PMSam-I would have probably punched him in the head (hehe, but I'm kind of a meanie lately!) It’s one thing to discuss, but not to order! You aren’t a child! I agree, you have time to duke it out over these things If your DH really doesn't want to cloth diaper, I would use disposables with the stipulation that YOU decide exclusively how to feed the baby, no questions asked. Um, they're your boobs, so I think you definitely get more pull in that area. I think the daycare versus nanny thing might be something that he just has to see on paper and take some time to comprehend that you can't afford it. Regina-My doctor said she sees some women lose weight in the last 4 weeks of pregnancy. Something about that baby pushing on you and making your stomach smaller, so you eat less food. Plus, it was Thanksgiving last week! I bet some of that was just water weight from rich, yummy food. emerald04Message #14181 - 11/30/10 06:37 PMI think this back & forth between excited & nervous is going to continue for....oh....about 34 more weeks
ah, that is just the beginning of it. At the end of the 40 weeks you have a baby to be excited and nervous over, followed by a toddler, followed by a child, followed by a tween, then a teen... In addition to time for the child to develop of course, the 9 months of the pregnancy gives the parents time to prepare - there are lots of decisions to be made, and 9 months is enough time to check into everything and make decisions as you go. When a DH says this is how its going to be very early on, just go, okay, we'll look into that. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14182 - 11/30/10 06:38 PMLosing weight - So, I finally put back on 4 of the 17 lbs I lost in the first tri. My doctor was pretty happy at my last appt with my new higher weight....well, since my appt last Monday I've lost 1.5 lbs of that. What the heck?? Thursday was Thanksgiving!! I feel so confused with what my body is doing. Let me tell you guys, I have NOT been watching my calories. So I really don't understand it. Weird question. The week by week pregnancy emails that I get say that this week DH may be able to put his ear to my tummy and hear the baby's heart beat. I've never heard of people doing that. Can/did any of your DH's hear the heart beat through your tummy? Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14183 - 11/30/10 06:38 PMHehe, Gusita - you would have thought after Sunday's grocery store debacle that he would have learned to not make me angry right now!! Oh well, we have lots of time. I could care less what kind of diapers we use, just makes me want to fight against him when he just blankly states its going to be his way only. regina24601Message #14184 - 11/30/10 07:03 PMWeird question. The week by week pregnancy emails that I get say that this week DH may be able to put his ear to my tummy and hear the baby's heart beat. eternal - I remember reading that, in the weekly email, too. For me, it was total bull. DH can certainly feel the baby move around at that point, but he was never able to hear the heartbeat. Don't freak out if he's not able to hear it. I don't know of anyone who would be able to hear a tiny heartbeat with a naked ear through layers of fluid, muscle, and fat.
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jmrs318Message #14185 - 11/30/10 07:07 PMSam - Like others have said, both of your opinions may change in the coming months. I think babies make husbands crazy. DH had it in his mind how things were going to go when I first got pregnant, and I have to admit, so did I. Once you have your baby, everything changes and it was really easy for us to come together and make the best choices for Abbie no matter how we thought things were going to happen before she was born. Gardener - Olivia is so adorable! I'm glad she had a good trip, that is quite the drive. We were going to go to Atlanta this weekend for the SEC championship, but I didn't even want to risk a 4hr drive to Atlanta. The furthest we've made it is Nashville (2 hrs) and she was getting fussy near the end of that trip. jmrs318Message #14186 - 11/30/10 07:09 PMeternal - We never tried, but I doubt DH would've been able to hear it. He couldn't even feel her move until I was 34 weeks. gardenergirl0804Message #14187 - 11/30/10 07:13 PMeternal - I have never heard of that before! We even bought one of those cheap heart monitor detector things from BRU and we were only able to find the HB once on it and it was very very difficult to do. I had to lay very still and then it was for only about a minute we could hear it because Olivia moved. I don't know how you could hear it by putting your ear to your tummy. ElfQ1015Message #14188 - 11/30/10 07:15 PMThe week by week pregnancy emails that I get say that this week DH may be able to put his ear to my tummy and hear the baby's heart beat. My doctor said it is bull when I asked about it, even they cannot always hear the heartbeat with a stethescope and training. That's why they now use the doplar and even that isn't perfect (several times Gwen was hiding behind my heartbeat and we couldn't hear it despite it showing up on the monitor). She's said that if it is going to cause you anxiety should you not hear it, then don't attempt it, she also doesn't recommend those home doplars for the same reason. If you just want to try for poops and giggles go right ahead. DH swears he heard it once, but admits it may have also been my heartbeat. We'll never know. boos_momMessage #14189 - 11/30/10 07:20 PMgardener - such cute pics of Olivia! Glad the trip went well. Hope she will get back on schedule soon. azure - I think the flowers are a nice gesture and a card letting them know that you're here for support or anything they need. sam - maybe your ILs will be paying for the nanny! Of course, then they may as well pay you to stay home. My friend's mother said she would actually help out financially if her children had kids so that the mother could SAH, rather than she watch the grandchild. I thought that was really generous! Of course, none of her children seem to be close to having kids yet. regina - I gained about 1.5-2 lbs per week for the last 6 weeks. That's the time that baby is putting on the most weight, but some of it was fluids for me. eternal - So long as your doctor isn't concerned, I wouldn't worry about the lack of weight gain. Just keep eating how you are; Cole will get the nutrients he needs from you. I heard that the mom actually only needs about 300 calories due to some hormone you produce while pregnant, and the baby uses the rest. Kind of amazing. ladyki - great deal you got on your TV! I got a chunk of shopping done last weekend too. I'm pretty close to being done with gift shopping. gardenergirl0804Message #14190 - 11/30/10 08:09 PMThis girl that is pregnant for the first time here at my work just came up to me and said "I have gestational diabetes!" I was like, what??? So you had to do the 3-hour test? She said no, she just went for the 1-hour test today but this nurse practitioner administered the test to her and told her before she even drew the blood that she would fail it! She pricked her finger and said things to her like "I can't believe how high your sugar level is, you are going to fail the test for sure. You are going to need a c-section. You have a sumo wrestler inside of you." OMG! It sent my co-worker into tears! I told her the nurse should not have been saying that to her and just ignore her. No way of knowing if she has GD yet, she just took the 1-hour test. This nurse had such a big mouth on her. I think I would have slapped her in my hormonal state and demanded another nurse perform the test.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:51:54 GMT -5
regina24601Message #14191 - 11/30/10 08:12 PMthis nurse practitioner administered the test to her and told her before she even drew the blood that she would fail it! gardenergirl - Is this nurse practitioner taking new patients? Because I think I would like to have a healthcare provider that had the power to see into the future. I really think that would come in handy for someone like me. and for that nurse practitioner to say that. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14192 - 11/30/10 08:12 PM That girl should file a complaint against that nurse. What a bunch of crap! ElfQ1015Message #14193 - 11/30/10 08:13 PM I think I would have slapped her in my hormonal state and demanded another nurse perform the test. Gardener does your co-worker have the name of the nurse who said these things to her? If she does contact the hospital's complaint department and file a complaint about this nurse. Your co-worker is probably not the only one she has treated this way and she should be punished for it. I'd also go so far as to make the complaint against the entire clinic/office for allowing that kind of behavior in their office/clinic. She pricked her finger and said things to her like "I can't believe how high your sugar level is, you are going to fail the test for sure. You are going to need a c-section. You have a sumo wrestler inside of you." Okay, maybe something is different between hospitals or the story tellling is off but my one hour was a BLOOD TEST, not a finger ****. Finger Pricks really aren't that accurate when it comes to determing diabetes, they are for monitoring your diabetes. If they did a finger **** I'd be raising holy hell and demanding the re-do the test and actually draw my blood this time and run it. gardenergirl0804Message #14194 - 11/30/10 08:26 PMShe first pricked her finger before she did the 1-hour blood test my co-worker said. I don't know why. Maybe they do things differently at her doc's office. I was sent to a LabCorp to do the 1-hour test. If the nurse did say all those things to her though, I agree she should file a complaint. Very unprofessional and uncalled for to worry her like that. ElfQ1015Message #14195 - 11/30/10 08:31 PMShe first pricked her finger before she did the 1-hour blood test my co-worker said. I don't know why Maybe to get a baseline? Was your co-worker told not to eat or drink anything besides water and did she follow thru? That can affect your levels. Then a friend of mine had a sugar aversion thru most of her pregnancy so when she had to drink what amounts to pure glucose her level skyrocketed due to her body not having processed sugar in a long time. Her OB told her to eat ice cream every night before the three hour test to get her body back into the habit of processing sugar (my kind of doctor! lol) and she passed the 3 hour with flying colors. There are A LOT of reasons why you can fail that stupid one hour glucose test that have nothing to do with the awful things that nurse said. That's why they then make you do the 3 hour to MAKE SURE the findings from the first test weren't a fluke. I would have seen red and not been responsible for any actions thereafter. gardenergirl0804Message #14196 - 11/30/10 08:50 PM"Her OB told her to eat ice cream every night before the three hour test to get her body back into the habit of processing sugar" She was told to do this for the 3-hour test if she does not pass the 1-hour test! I had never heard of that before. Good to know someone else had a doc who told them to do that. I thought her doc practice was nuts for telling her to do that. She just took the 1-hour test this morning so she'll get the results probably in a couple of days. Just crazy the nurse was "predicting" that she wasn't going to pass. Got her so upset.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:52:19 GMT -5
eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14197 - 11/30/10 08:52 PMhearing the h/b - good to know! I thought it sounded like major BUNK. I'm a big girl anyway so, at almost 25 weeks you can finally start to look at me and say "hmm...that could be a preggo bump" I look preggo to the people who know I am, but I am just now getting to that point where I think strangers could look and say "maybe/ maybe not". I just wanted to see if you guys had been able to do it so I knew if it was even likely for a thin girl. DH has been able to feel Cole kick 2 times...both times I had to lay down and roll over and wait til he kicked toward my side so that my extra flab was not right over him. So, I didn't want DH to think it was really likely and then be disappointed. The whole reason that I didn't buy one of the at home listening things is purely because I know I would be really anxious if I couldn't find it. Knowing how hit and miss they are, it didn't seem worth the extra high blood pressure if I couldn't get it to work. ElfQ1015Message #14198 - 11/30/10 08:59 PMI am skinny and DH didn't really feel Gwen till she was big enough that you could see my stomach move when she moved. I started feeling it at 16 weeks, but it was pretty intermitent for him clear till about 28 weeks when she was getting big enough that she couldn't hide. Baby has to be really close to the surface for dad to feel it. My doctor said that there are so many stars that would have to align for you to be able to hear the heartbeat on your own with your ear/stethescope and the be able to successfully determine that it was indeed the BABY you heard that it isn't worth trying. We did it out of boredom and curiousity, but never did hear anything. Mainly we heard my digestive system. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14199 - 11/30/10 09:41 PMThanks Drama! I didn't want to single you out, but you are the one girl on the board who I know is skinny...so if it didn't work for you then I'm not going to sweat it. (Not that the other girls on the board aren't skinny, but we don't talk about our sizes a lot. I just happen to remember from discussions that Drama is small) I'll let DH give it a try if he wants, but I'll tell him that it is very unlikely. ElfQ1015Message #14200 - 11/30/10 09:50 PMNo problem. DH insists he heard her heartbeat but we cannot be 100% sure, it only happened once and for a very brief second. GusitaRenkrMessage #14201 - 11/30/10 10:35 PMEternal, my hubby has had difficulty feeling Brett kick because he seems to either kick up into my ribs or down into my pubic area. He barely kicks my actual stomach. Now that he's bigger, I feel him in the left side of my stomach, so DH has been able to catch him a few times. I don't see how on Earth someone could hear the baby's heartbeat through the tummy, considering how long it takes the nurse to finally find it with the doppler thing. ladykiMessage #14202 - 11/30/10 11:04 PMGardengilr- Olivia is so cute, glad to know your trip went well.
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ladykiMessage #14203 - 11/30/10 11:08 PMThe whole reason that I didn't buy one of the at home listening things is purely because I know I would be really anxious if I couldn't find it. Knowing how hit and miss they are, it didn't seem worth the extra high blood pressure if I couldn't get it to work. I wanted to buy one, but DH would not let me, he said that knowing me I would probably even sleep with it and would go bananas if I could not hear the HB. EconStudent07Message #14204 - 11/30/10 11:24 PMWell I managed to avoid the cervical check for this week! My midwife was perfectly fine with me not wanting to get it done, she said she doesn't do it routinely unless there is a reason to. I gained one more pound so I am up to 35 pounds total! This was right what I have been aiming for - I was hoping to gain between 35 and 40 pounds total. (I had not-so-healthy eating habits prior to getting pregnant, and so I've been trying to make sure I eat enough so as to not starve the baby...the opposite of other pregnant women, I know.) on hearing the baby - My hubby has tried before, and sometimes he thinks he can hear her moving around, but we're never sure if it's just my blood moving around or if it is actually her moving. I can feel my pulse in my abdomen sometimes, but I don't really think we can hear the baby's heartbeat! "Her OB told her to eat ice cream every night before the three hour test to get her body back into the habit of processing sugar"
She was told to do this for the 3-hour test if she does not pass the 1-hour test! I had never heard of that before. Good to know someone else had a doc who told them to do that. I had a friend of a friend who was told this also. She never ate sugar, so her doctor told her to eat a blizzard every day before she retested. ElfQ1015Message #14205 - 12/01/10 02:15 PMI thought her doc practice was nuts for telling her to do that I thought so at first too but when we went over how insulin works it makes sense. When you eat "regular" amounts of sugar your body processes it accordingly, you have a certain amount of insulin going in your body at any given time. You drink a cup full of sugar water after having not eaten any sugar for 27 weeks, your insulin level is going to spike because it now has to deal with A LOT of sugar in a very short period of time. Which produces a false positive. Just crazy the nurse was "predicting" that she wasn't going to pass. Got her so upset. I'd still file a complaint because that is absoultely horrid bedside manner, to put it mildly. I have other things I'd call it but I would get banned for it. Poor DH!! Last night he cut Gwen's finger nails for the first time. He got her right hand done and then moved onto her left. He went to cut her thumb nail and caught her actual thumb instead. I caught it since I was holding her and told him to stop. Course it was too late by then and she woke up and cried because he had cut her finger. He was a wreck!! About two minutes after it happened she was totally fine and back asleep in my arms, he was flipping out. Now I have to cut her fingernails. Poor guy, he felt awful. I kept trying to assure him it was just an accident and it isn't like he cut her thumb off or anything, but the moment she wailed, he lost it. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14206 - 12/01/10 02:30 PMCutting Avery's nails is by far the single scariest thing I've had to do as a parent. I rarely cut them for the first 5 or 6 months. I filed them. And we kept her hands covered for the first couple of months as much as possible. Even now her little nails grow like weeds. I have to trim them a couple of times a week, and she still manages to occasionally scratch herself. They're a lot easier to cut now, and she's better about being still for me. I still have a hard time with her toe nails. She must be ticklish like her mommy because she pulls her feet back a lot. Accidentally hurting your child is the worst feeling. I was buckling Avery into her car seat over the summer and caught her skin in the clip. I cried because I felt so bad. gardenergirl0804Message #14207 - 12/01/10 02:36 PMI'm always nervous about clipping Olivia's nails too. It's hard to hold her still. I usually try to clip them after I've fed her and she's relaxed in my arms. Olivia is going to see her new pediatrician today. I finally switched. A friend here at work recommended her office to me and it's 10 minutes from my house, right down the street from her daycare. Beats the 40 minute drive I was making before. I hope she likes her new doc. Daycare called me and said her eye is really red. Not just around the outside but her eyeball is too. So they asked if we got her in to see the doc. I said no, but I would try to call. No problem getting an appt today. She's in good spirits so who knows if it's pink eye or another ear infection. She's been coughing like crazy. Got better before the trip but started getting worse again. She's not rubbing at her eye or tugging at her ear so who knows what it could be this time. Poor thing has been such a sick little baby! We had a pretty good night last night too. We did CIO for a while and it worked pretty well. I put her in her crib at 7:00 and she cried for a little while, not too bad, and fell asleep. 8:00 woke up and cried and screamed again. DH went to console her but he said she was looking around for me so I went up and held her in her room for a bit and put her back in her crib. She got up on her knees and was tugging at my arm. I said goodnight and left the room, she cried again for a bit but passed out. I was reading about separation anxiety in What to Expect the First Year and I think she might be having some of this. She was very clingy to me on our trip. But she only woke up once last night at 3:00 and fell back to sleep again until 7:00. ElfQ1015Message #14208 - 12/01/10 02:38 PMWe clipped them after Gwen was asleep and she was in my arms. It's just so hard to get that tiny fingernail without getting the actual fingertip too. He did really well with the first hand. Her thumb was kinda shadowed by my arm so I think that's why he misjudged. He just felt so awful, especially when it started to bleed. I think he was more traumatized by it than she was! About ten minutes later she was up and smiling up a storm.
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KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14209 - 12/01/10 02:45 PMgardenergirl, I'm sorry Olivia isn't feeling well again. Poor baby! I hope things go better with the new pediatrician. I think it's so important to have a doctor that both you and your baby are comfortable with. I feel really fortunate that we have a great pediatrician. And Avery loves him. She puts up her arms for him to hold her when he comes into the room. I was reading about separation anxiety in What to Expect the First Year and I think she might be having some of this. She was very clingy to me on our trip. This is probably going to sound bad, but I wish Avery were more clingy. She is just such a fiercely independent little thing. She is always excited to see me when I get home, but she is never too upset when I leave (which is really a good thing because I would feel bad if she cried when I left), but sometimes I wish she would let me cuddle with her more. ElfQ1015Message #14210 - 12/01/10 02:49 PMDon't feel bad Kgb, I feel the same way. I have more separation anxiety than Gwen does. When I place her into the daycare lady's arms I am totally forgotten. It irritates me sometimes and I wish that she'd be more upset that I am leaving. However at the same time I am really glad that she does like the daycare workers so much, it means I picked a good daycare. gardenergirl0804Message #14211 - 12/01/10 02:54 PMYeah, I was worried about how she'd been when I left her at the daycare today, if she would cry or not, but she was fine! No separation anxiety when it comes to leaving her at the daycare which is good and makes me feel happy because I know she loves it. surf-n-sandMessage #14212 - 12/01/10 03:50 PMI'm trying to catch up ladies. Hope you all had a nice Thanksgiving! Taz- Congrats! I have not had many of the tell-tale signs of pregnancy. I am 14 wks. So far my only symptoms have been sore b00bs off and on and heartburn twice when I ate spicy food late at night. I do get dizzy if I don't eat small meals often enough, but that can happen even when I'm not pregnant. Here's to smooth, happy, healthy pregnancies for all! eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14213 - 12/01/10 04:35 PMSo, I had my last therapy appointment today. It has been getting more and more difficult to juggle all my doctor's appointments, therapy appointments, plus fitting in a full work week (I'm not salary so I still have to get in all my hours). It nice talking with her especially after our loss and my surgery in May. I may try to go back after Cole is born when I would only have her appointments monthly rather than her plus all the prenatal care appointments. Now that I'm going up to every 2 week OB appointments I just don't have the energy or the patience to try to arrange my work schedule to keep all these appointments. Feels strange since I've been going for almost 6 months. Oh, DH did try to hear the heartbeat last night. He swears he heard it, but I bet it was just my heartbeat. LOL Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14214 - 12/01/10 06:42 PMEternal - that's so cute he was trying to hear the HB Gardnergirl - Olivia is so beautiful!! Sorry to hear she's sick again though. Poor baby Drama - Oh no!! I bet DH just feels horrible. At least she was not upset for long. Ughgh, I think MS has found me. I am sitting here at work trying not to be sick, but my co-workers all have a habit of eating lunch at their desks. We all do it, and its never bothered me before, but today I just can't handle it.
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ElfQ1015Message #14215 - 12/01/10 07:05 PMI am sitting here at work trying not to be sick, but my co-workers all have a habit of eating lunch at their desks. We all do it, and its never bothered me before, but today I just can't handle it.
I ended up after awhile not being able to eat downstairs because I work with a lot of people that bring ethnic foods from their home countries. Normally it doesn't bother me but while pregnant gardenergirl0804Message #14216 - 12/01/10 07:26 PMDH took Olivia to the new doc. Nothing is wrong with her. No ear infection, her ears are clear. No pink eye. This doc said too that she thinks Olivia has block tear ducts. If we wanted to we could take her to a specialist to have them checked but they would have to put her under. No way. I can't imagine doing that to her. Some other moms have told me their babies have outgrown it so I think I'll wait and see what happens. Does anyone have an experience with a baby with a block tear duct? For now the doc prescribed some more eye drops that should help. ElfQ1015Message #14217 - 12/01/10 07:34 PMGwen had blocked tear ducts because she was plugged up with a cold. All we could do was wait for it to go away. In the meantime we just washed her eye gently with a warm wash cloth to loosen the crud and encourage her eye to drain. regina24601Message #14218 - 12/01/10 07:38 PMUghgh, I think MS has found me. Yuck, sorry to hear that, Sam. I only threw up a handful of times, but I did have issues with nausea, although they didn't last too long. The absolute, hands-down, worst week for me was at 7 weeks. Bad timing, too, because that was the week that DH and I were vacationing in Spain. You'll get through it, I promise! Hey, has anyone seen insurance lately? Seems like she hasn't been around in a while. yogiiiMessage #14219 - 12/01/10 07:49 PMgardener - DS had a blocked tear duct and I used to massage it for a minute every diaper change. He was really young I think <1 month and it (the massaging) didn't bother him at all. It cleared up pretty quick, within a few days, after doing that but I think that it can come back. So far it hasn't. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14220 - 12/01/10 07:49 PMregina - I think insurance has been really busy with work if I remember correctly. I have been thinking of her too since we are so close in our pregnancies. Sam - That is what happens when you start with them "hmmm I don't feel sick...shouldn't I feel sick?" lol mother nature says "you want it? You got it!!" I said something similar around 8 weeks and BAM I was throwing up AT LEAST 3 times every morning before leaving the house and then so nauseous all day that I couldn't see straight until the end of 17 weeks. The worst was the week that I threw up on the floor of my garage every morning before work. I had to call DH to ask him to please pour a glass of water on it before he went to work. Good thing that was the week I could hardly eat anything so everytime I ralphed it was just water.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:53:36 GMT -5
gardenergirl0804Message #14221 - 12/01/10 08:52 PMSam - sorry you are having such bad M/S. Are you trying to eat small meals throughout the day? That's supposed to help and keep some crackers by your bed so in the morning before you even raise your head up you can eat a cracker. I've heard that supposed to help. Bland foods are a must. I never threw up 1st tri but every day around 11 I was super nauseous. I started eating lunch earlier and didn't get nauseous anymore. I know you don't want to eat because you are afraid of throwing up but eating a little bit should actually help to keep you from throwing up. You'll find smells/tastes that you used to like you won't anymore. Like for me the taste of coffee completely changed after getting pregnant. So weird all the things your body goes through. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14222 - 12/01/10 09:16 PMMornings seem to be ok, but its like something just flips a switch at lunch time. I just want to go home & crawl into bed Honestly, I just wish I could throw up & get it over with. Its like that feeling when you know you have had too much to drink & that its going to happen sometime, but you keep trying to fight it. Worst feeling ever I seem to have texture issues with food all of a sudden too. Can't figure out what will be ok to eat I guess on the positive side hopefully it means this lil bean is making a nice comfy home & wants to stick around for awhile. ElfQ1015Message #14223 - 12/01/10 09:20 PMPeppermint tea helps with nauesa. I should have bought stock in Twinnings (100% peppermint, works the best) considering how much of it I drank between week 8 and week 12. Can't figure out what will be ok to eat Been there, done that. My OB told me it is fine to get down what you can get down, even if it is just a few ****. As long as you are overall healthy and taking your vitamins you aren't going to do any developmental harm to the little one if you don't eat a lot or a varied diet during the first trimester. Pediasure shakes helped me some. I was supposed to be using them as a supplement because my OB was afraid I would not gain any weight (proved that wrong!), but they also came in really handy when I just could not stomach the idea of food. I drank the chocolate ones cold. Couldn't do other protein shakes, they made me really sick, there was something in them I just could not digest. I think it was someone on here that turned me onto Pediasure. They aren't super cheap, but my food budget had flown out the window anyhow. GusitaRenkrMessage #14224 - 12/01/10 09:27 PMSam-Eating till I was completely full and keeping a full stomach seemed to help me. I also ate what sounded good, no matter how weird or unhealthy it sounded. Sucking on sour candy helped me too, but only while the candy was actually in my mouth. As soon as the candy was gone, blech, morning sickness right back in! I only threw up twice I think-once around 11 weeks and once around 14 weeks. Mine started at 7.5 weeks or so and lasted till 15 weeks I think? I hope you feel better soon! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14225 - 12/01/10 09:30 PMSam, I had night sickness. I didn't feel great in the mornings. I definitely felt nauseous, but I never threw up. But I would throw up at like 10 p.m. The good thing about that was that at least I could throw up and then go to bed. In the morning I used to sip water or ginger ale and nibble on something bland, like Vanilla Wafers, to keep my stomach settled. ElfQ1015Message #14226 - 12/01/10 09:30 PMI had god awful cotton mouth, helping me especially towards the end was swilling a bit of water before I ate anything or making sure to take sips between ****. Otherwise everything was too dry and I'd gag. .. which lead to vomiting.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:53:50 GMT -5
eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14227 - 12/01/10 09:36 PMYes, i second vanilla wafers...I had several days where all I ate were vanilla wafers and dry multigrain cheerios from a baggie. A pregnant friend gave me some of the "Preggie Pop Drops" as a gift when I told her I was expecting. She swore by them. They didn't help me, but I gave them to my good friend who is 10 weeks behind me and she LIVES on them. You can google them and I think some drug stores carry them. jenna30-Message #14228 - 12/01/10 10:43 PMPreggie pop drops did nothing for me. Only time took away the nausea. -- Had my weekly Dr appt. She said I'm 3 cm, and his head is low. I guess it could be anytime now. When I first learned I was preggo, I couldn't believe how sharp my sense of smell became. I don't know how preggo women can stand to be around smokers. yuck GusitaRenkrMessage #14229 - 12/01/10 11:43 PMYay Jenna! Keeping my fingers crossed that you aren't one of those women who walk around at three centimeters for a few weeks; since you're 39 weeks, I am guessing that won't happen! EconStudent07Message #14230 - 12/02/10 01:19 AMYay Jenna! Keeping my fingers crossed that you aren't one of those women who walk around at three centimeters for a few weeks; since you're 39 weeks, I am guessing that won't happen! Yeah, hopefully being 3 cm means a lot more at 39 weeks! Hope you have good news soon Jenna! As for me, my baby can wait a couple more weeks if she wants to. I'm due on the 12th, and I would be happy to go at least that long. I am getting soooo stressed about finishing school before she comes. (But at the same time, I am so unmotivated to do schoolwork. ugh.) jenna30-Message #14231 - 12/02/10 02:39 AMI can't imagine trying to do school work while preggo. At least my job was fairly easy... and I had to go to PT the last 2-3 weeks (couldn't be on my feet 8 hours a day, anymore.) EconStudent07Message #14232 - 12/02/10 02:46 AMI don't think it's too bad because my schedule is really flexible. Other than attending my classes 3 nights a week, I can sleep, study, and work on whatever schedule I felt up to at the time. I work as a research assistant, so I can do my work basically any time and even from home. I don't think I could have managed to work a "real job" these last couple months. I would have been so worn out.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:54:15 GMT -5
ladykiMessage #14233 - 12/02/10 05:26 AMI'm always nervous about clipping Olivia's nails too. It's hard to hold her still. I usually try to clip them after I've fed her and she's relaxed in my arms. We had Kiani on mittens for the first few weeks of her life, lol. DH then clipped her nails after that. Then I started doing it, I just do it when she is asleep. insurancemoneymavenMessage #14234 - 12/02/10 05:27 AMregina and eternal - I am here! I have been popping my head in as time has allowed. I have been super busy with work and school. Less than 3 weeks until I am done with my degree! I will be 28 weeks on Friday. Time is just flying right by me. DH and I ordered the baby furniture, which should be here in the next week or so. I am so excited to start getting DS's room ready. DH has the last couple weeks of December off of work, so he's planning to prepare the room, build the furniture before the new year. DS is growing quickly, and continues to measure a week ahead of my due date, so the doctor is certain he'll be arriving early. I also had my glucose test last week which came back negative. Doctor said my level was really healthy. I have gained 3 pounds to date, but that's just fine. I am sure I'll make up for it in this 3rd trimester. I had a nasty cold for about 10 days during which time, I couldn't take any medication to alleviate my symptoms, which were awful. In that same time, DH's grandfather had a massive heart attack and then several mini strokes. He's still in the hospital, but has been moved out of critical care, which is very hopeful. Congrats to all the newly pregnant gals on the board! Wishing you all uneventful pregnancies and deliveries. I am always thinking of you girls and checking in when I can, even if I do it silently. ladykiMessage #14235 - 12/02/10 05:45 AMGardengirl- I hope Olivia feels better. Kiani has this new thing. I am home with her all day, so basically it is just me and her for about 9 hours. Well she has this new thing where if she is awake, she has to see me. If I am not anywhere where she can see me she will start screaming, not crying just screaming. Then I come back and she just smiles at me, lol. yogiiiMessage #14236 - 12/02/10 01:46 PMI hope everyone is doing well I think DS is down to 1 MOTN feeding. eh - they're twins again, unless Henry is STTN now Food is going pretty good so far, he eats half an avocado with something else mixed in (oatmeal, peas, whatever) or the equivalent amount of another food. So far we've introduced 6 foods, I'm doing 3 days in between new stuff. I'm going to try doing 2 meals with him tomorrow. I can't believe it is already December, so crazy, I'm not ready for the holidays at all. Good luck to all the girls about to become moms gardenergirl0804Message #14237 - 12/02/10 02:34 PMladyk - that's how Olivia is sometimes too! She will be crying if another person is holding her. I will take her. She will turn and look at the person that was holding her but crying with and start smiling!!! Had a really hard night last night. Olivia woke up so many times crying. I can't even remember how many times. I think she might have been too warm. Or maybe she's teething. Or maybe her eyes were bothering her. Oh I wish she could talk and tell me!! ElfQ1015Message #14238 - 12/02/10 02:48 PMMust be something in the air, Gwen was pitching a fit from 5 pm to 8:30 pm, we have no idea what was going on or if she just did not want to go to sleep. I finally had to turn all the lights off in the living room and rock her in the glider before she finally passed out and stayed asleep.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:54:28 GMT -5
jenna30-Message #14239 - 12/02/10 03:04 PMSpeaking of gliders... anyone have a recommendation? The Reflector - WIRMessage #14240 - 12/02/10 03:32 PMGliders - I went to BRU and sat in every glider they had until I found a comfy one. I did not get the ottoman but got a nursing stool instead. It took some trial and error to see what would work for me. Morning sickness - With DD1 peppermint lifesavers worked well. With DD2 I could not have anything be tight on my stomach. With DS decaf coffee was a lifesaver and if I had anything with any form of sugar in it I would barf. My suggestion is eat what sounds good to you at the moment. Meal planning goes out the window, but fortunately this phase is usually over in a month if not sooner. Our whole family is sick. DH is actually home for the second day in a row! DD1 is still going to school, she's the only one on antibiotics (for strep) so she's relatively fine, the rest of us have a nasty virus so no help there. Even though we're all miserable it has been really nice having DH home. He watched the younger 2 kids so I could walk DD1 to school this morning, I haven't had alone time with her in a while and I miss it. ElfQ1015Message #14241 - 12/02/10 03:35 PMWe got our glider from Nebraska Furniture Mart, like Reflector I just sat in every one till I found one I liked. Ours is a recliner as well so it is the main chair in our living room. regina24601Message #14242 - 12/02/10 03:35 PMinsurance - Good to see you again! I'm glad things are going well, although I'm sorry to hear about your DH's grandfather. I'm sure everyone is hoping for a recovery - we'll be thinking about you. Also, there are some medications you can take for a cold. I have a friend who was very adamant that she would NEVER take any medications while pregnant, so she didn't - for all 3 of her pregnancies. Well, bully for her, but I guess I'm a little more selfish. When I got knocked down with a cold a few months ago, I weighed my options and decided I couldn't be miserable, so I took some medication that was on an "okay to take" list - I think maybe Robitussin or something? Anyway, just make sure you take care of yourself! So the bagel guy I work with is still inappropriate (by bagel guy I mean my coworker who makes comments about whatever it is I'm eating). We were over by the copy machine yesterday, and he said, "Whoa, regina, there's barely room for me over here anymore! You're taking up a lot more space these days!!" It never ceases to amaze me. ElfQ1015Message #14243 - 12/02/10 03:38 PMWhoa, regina, there's barely room for me over here anymore! You're taking up a lot more space these days!!" It never ceases to amaze me. Sit on him. I think maybe Robitussin or something I'd call the OB to double check, but I remember that Robitussin was on my okay list. Nyquil was not. I had to really make sure DH understood that it had to be ROBITUSSIN (or similar generic brand) or nothing when he went to get it for me. I developed a horrid cough my first trimester because it was so cold and dry that year. I'd cough so severely that I'd gag and then I'd throw up whatever it was I just ate. The robitussin was nasty going down, but it worked. I could also use Cepicol (sp?) throat spray if I had a sore throat. GusitaRenkrMessage #14244 - 12/02/10 05:04 PMSo the bagel guy I work with is still inappropriate (by bagel guy I mean my coworker who makes comments about whatever it is I'm eating). We were over by the copy machine yesterday, and he said, "Whoa, regina, there's barely room for me over here anymore! You're taking up a lot more space these days!!" It never ceases to amaze me. I would be sooo tempted to say,'Well, I'm giving birth in a little over month. What's your excuse?' Stupid man! I just checked my list of meds I can take from the doc-Robitussin is on there, as well as Tylenol Sinus, Tylenol Cold, Dayquil and Nyquil capsules, Dimetap Elixir, Bendryl, and Chloroseptic spray. I'm like you Reginia, if the doctor says it's okay to take it, I'm not going to suffer. Dayquil capsules helped so much with the cold/bug I had going on a couple weeks ago, and Bendryl has been a lifesaver with this stupid itch I have going on (even though it makes me so sleepy!) Glider-We have a huge, comfy gliding recliner in our living room, so that's what we'll be using. I love it; I can sit it it for hours and it doesn't hurt my back. Insurance-It's good to hear from you! Wow, I can't believe you are 28 weeks-of course, I can barely believe that I am 34 weeks! I feel like an old person constantly wondering where the time has gone. I hope DH's grandpa continues to recover.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:54:53 GMT -5
jmrs318Message #14245 - 12/02/10 05:05 PMJenna - I went to BRU and sat in them all until I found the one most comfortable. The one my friend swore by was really uncomfortable to me and didn't have enough back support. The one I ended up with, she hated. Good luck finding one! They aren't cheap, but it was completely worth the money to us. We read to Abbie every night in it. I just started Abbie on Rice cereal and having a hard time feeding it to her. No matter how thin I make it, it clogs the cereal nipple on her bottle. If I spoon feed it, the spoon is so small that she starts screaming because she wants more and I can't shovel it into her mouth fast enough. Did anyone of you find a better method? gardenergirl0804Message #14246 - 12/02/10 05:24 PMjmrs - I had the same problem as you with it clogging up the nipple no matter what I did. I need to try a different brand out there that a friend recommended called Sassy. She is even able to get baby food to go thru the nipples. Haven't tried that brand yet, but she claims it works. ETA: Here's a link to the bottles. I found them online www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0012QWYTQ/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_3?pf_rd_p=1278548962&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=B000C4Y1A4&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=1JVDY4P3A2QC508JCHEF jenna - I chose to go with a very small La-Z-Boy instead of a recliner. I have one in Olivia's room that I rock her at night with and one in our living room that I got off Craigslist. regina - Wow. I'm just floored by this guy. What an ignorant idiot. Olivia is crawling!! It's official. DH called and said he was eating a sandwich on the couch and Olivia saw it, wanted it, and crawled over to him! Then she did it again. He took a video of it but I can't see it because I don't have the right software on my work computer. I can't wait to get home and see her crawl, but this means now it's going to be even harder to contain her! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14247 - 12/02/10 05:38 PM Yea Olivia!! That's a big milestone. ElfQ1015Message #14248 - 12/02/10 05:43 PMI still say sit on the coworker and then either touch your eyeball to gross him out or do the dangling spuit move till he cries uncle. Can you tell I have a sibling? eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14249 - 12/02/10 06:00 PMinsurance - So glad to see you!! I can hardly believe how far we both are! WOAH!! I am sorry to hear about DH's granddad's health problems. Hopefully he will have a full recovery. My own grandmother just got out of the hospital, she is in later stages of heart failure. I'm hoping she makes it until Cole is born. She is always always asking about 'Baby Blue' and how he is doing. But, I can tell she doesn't think it will be long. She told my sister she doesn't think she will see 2011. regina24601Message #14250 - 12/02/10 06:14 PMI still say sit on the coworker and then either touch your eyeball to gross him out or do the dangling spuit move till he cries uncle. lol, I like it, Drama. The problem is this guy is probably in his late 60s and looks like the grandpa from "Family Circus." I think I'd have a hard time giving him a wet willy - not that he doesn't deserve one.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:55:07 GMT -5
gardenergirl0804Message #14251 - 12/02/10 06:23 PMMy co-worker that I was talking about the other day that had the nurse yell at her, telling her she would not pass her 1-hour gestational diabetes test - well she passed!!! I told her she should report that nurse! She agreed but says she's afraid to because she still has to deal with the practice and is afraid she will run into her again. I'm so glad she passed and I hope she rubs it in that nurse's face! ElfQ1015Message #14252 - 12/02/10 06:44 PM! She agreed but says she's afraid to because she still has to deal with the practice and is afraid she will run into her again What can the woman do? She does something, you report her again. She pulls enough stunts the hospital could fire her and she has no one to blame but herself. That's just me though, I really would not give a fig about if I saw her again after I made the complaint. In fact I'd be glad to see her and wait to see what the little brat has to say to me next. The only person who can make me uncomfortable is myself, I did nothing wrong in this scenario and there is nothing for me to feel guilty about. I have aggression issues. The Reflector - WIRMessage #14253 - 12/02/10 06:58 PMMy co-worker that I was talking about the other day that had the nurse yell at her, telling her she would not pass her 1-hour gestational diabetes test I wish I had reported the nurse who told me while pregnant with DD2 that I would miscarry if I kept carrying around DD1. DD1 was 2 years old at the time, what was I supposed to do, let her run in the street? It still makes me mad. I did report the lab tech that tried to take DD2's blood for tests after not washing her hands. DD2 was at the time an immuno-compromised preemie baby and we all scrubbed our hands raw every day so she wouldn't get sick and this woman had been handling kids with strep and then blew her nose, did not wash her hands, then was going to get near my kid? No way! She also proceeded to mix up DD2's bloodwork with another baby's and because I reported that as well she was let go. That is how kids can get the wrong meds and die. I'm rambling a bit because I'm sick. I guess my point is that some things are irritating and uncomfortable because people are insensitive, others are more serious and are worth doing something about. touch your eyeball to gross him out That's what I do to freak DH out! LOL! ElfQ1015Message #14254 - 12/02/10 07:04 PM She also proceeded to mix up DD2's bloodwork with another baby's Only reason I did not report the lab is because my OB and the perinatologist had already lodged complaints. If I had been brushed off you bet I would have raised holy heck. It took all DH had to keep me from going down there to murder someone. sbcaligirlMessage #14255 - 12/02/10 08:09 PMOMG!! Last night was SOOO rough. I had horrible, horrible back pain all evening and then DD decided at 3:30 to start waking up every 30 minutes or so and scream. I tried just about everything I could think of and could not figure out what was wrong with her. After several hours of this, she finally fell asleep for a few hours but at that point I was about to collapse. DH had to proctor a final this morning at 7 am so decided I was solely responsible for her each time . At 6:20 I basically threatened to strangle him if he didn't get up and take a turn. She's looking tired again so I'm hoping we can sneak in a nap before I have to leave for work at 2:15. Must have been something in the air since it sounds like a lot of the little ones had hard nights. Reflector: Hope everyone starts feeling better quickly! Gardner: Hope Olivia's eye gets better fast! insurancemoneymavenMessage #14256 - 12/02/10 08:51 PMMy doctor had me a bit nervous about the glucose test. She said that because DS is measuring consistently a week ahead, it's possible that I developed GD. When we finally got the results, the nurse said they get concerned at a level of 135, and my level was 79. I wasn't even close. What a huge relief that was. But the doctor definitely didn't try to use scare tactics. She just wanted me to be aware it was a possibility. Nurses can be so rude sometimes, and I would definitely report them! About the medication, I should rephrase my post by saying I couldn't take any medication that actually helped. I did Robutussin and Tylenol cold, but neither helped. I am sure it didn't help that we were spending so much time at the hospital for grandpa and being around so many other sick people. The temperature in the state was also below freezing for about 6 of those 10 days. It finally just broke through and cleared up about a week ago. eternal - I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. Grandpa keeps telling us he won't make it until Spring, but we're hopeful that he will. regina - I would totally employ Drama's suggested tactics! What a rude person. I am starting to get voice messages from colleagues that start with "hey preggo"... really?! I work in the fitness industry, so I love to call them back and asking for "fatty". that gets the point across pretty well. gliders - my sister really wanted to get me a gift instead of something for the baby, so she let me pick a glider. I got this piece because I wanted something that could be used in the house after kiddos. www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4237325 It was pricey, but I also had a 20% off coupon for BRU that she was able to use. It will be delivered tomorrow, so I am excited to test it out! Sleep has been really tough the last few weeks. I just can't get comfortable, and my body just wants to sleep on my tummy so much. I finally got 6 hours of sleep last night, thank goodness!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:55:32 GMT -5
jmrs318Message #14257 - 12/02/10 09:43 PMThanks gardener! I ordered the bottles and hopefully they work! Congrats on Olivia crawling, that is so exciting. Abbie is 4 months and I think she'll crawl before she rolls over. She has ZERO desire to roll or rock but she kicks her little legs when she is on her tummy. Regina - I work in a male dominated field and dealt with really rude comments. It is hard to bite your tongue when you are hormonal I had a coworker ask where I had been when I got back from maternity leave so I explained I had my baby and his response was "Oh, you were pregnant? I wondered why you got so fat." I almost threw down right there. Instead I calmly replied that I was pregnant, what is your excuse? He hasn't spoken to me since Good luck! jenna30-Message #14258 - 12/02/10 10:42 PMThanks for the input re: gliders. I'm on the fence. I don't really want to spend lot of money, but if I bought one, I'd want to buy one we'd keep... even if it ended up in the basement rec room area. So many gliders get mixed reviews online. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14259 - 12/03/10 12:28 AMjenna 30 - I didn't end up getting a glider because the room is pretty small. I got a Poang rocker from Ikea with a matching ottoman. It wasn't a bad price either. jenna30-Message #14260 - 12/03/10 01:39 AMI wish we had an Ikea close by... I like a lot of their house hold accessories. eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14261 - 12/03/10 03:03 AMjenna - ours is about 2 hours away. We made it a day trip. I hope I can get up the nerve to go back again. My visit was not much fun because I had wicked morning sickness and I was having pretty frequent dizzy/faint spells. The weather was HORRID and it looked like every nursery school in the closest 5 counties was on a field trip there LOL. There is no way to cut through it, you just have to start at the beginning and walk through to the end. I got all faint/dizzy and we had to skip half of the store to go to the cafe which was so loud and crazy it was more like Chuck-E-Cheese. The line there was over 45 min long just so I could try to get a drink, so we had to go all the way to the front and DH had to go out to the car in the pouring rain to scavenge a half a bottle of water....then we had to start ALL OVER LOL. I was one cranky preggo when I left. jenna30-Message #14262 - 12/03/10 04:02 AMI think our closest Ikea is about 4 hours away. I used to get dizzy spells and hot flashes once in awhile in my 1st tri. No fun at all.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:55:45 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #14263 - 12/03/10 02:23 PMThanks for the input re: gliders. I'm on the fence. I don't really want to spend lot of money, but if I bought one, I'd want to buy one we'd keep Don't think that you HAVE to get one, that is just brilliant marketing on the part of furniture makers. We got one because we really needed to replace our recliner. It was not easy for me to get in and out of and would not have been comfortable for nursing sessions. Neither is our couch. It was cheaper to replace the chair than the couch, so we got a glider/recliner. Then we had the double benefits of being able to rock Gwen and DH having his recliner. I wouldn't go on reviews since furniture preferences are so different for everyone. Unless all the reviews say the thing is a POS and will fall apart five minutes after you get it home, take them with a grain of salt. You really need to sit in it and try it out yourself because what is one person's back pain nightmare might just be your heaven. jmrs318Message #14264 - 12/03/10 02:43 PMThanks for the input re: gliders. I'm on the fence. I don't really want to spend lot of money, but if I bought one, I'd want to buy one we'd keep. I swore I was not going to get one because I thought they were overpriced and not worth it. I ate my words on that one, lol. I was at my baby shower and sitting in the over sized chair that we were going to move into the nursery and I had the hardest time getting out of it. I thought about how it would be if I was trying to get out of it holding a sleeping baby and that convinced me I needed something else. I have no butt so a wooden rocker was out (even with the pad, my bum goes numb after a while). I did not get a very expensive glider when you see some of the prices of them, plus I used the 20% off coupon from BRU and also got the discount from finishing off my registry so it ended up being MUCH cheaper than the full price. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14265 - 12/03/10 02:57 PMI did not get a glider. I have a rocking chair that my grandpa made for me, but it needed a new cushion. A family member was supposed to make one, but never did, so I ended up having nothing. For baby #2, I'm definitely going to get either a glider or a proper cushion for my rocking chair. It would have been nice to have when Avery was really small. Now she won't let me hold her for more than 20 seconds, so it doesn't really matter! ElfQ1015Message #14266 - 12/03/10 03:05 PMIf we had a better couch I would have skipped the glider. There is no room in the nursery for one so it was going to be a living room piece so I could nurse there rather than having to do it in the bed all the time propped on pillows. I'd kinda like to see the TV once and awhile! Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14267 - 12/03/10 03:22 PMI am so excited!! We got some of the big furniture moved out of what will be the baby's room (DH and my bro cleaned it out yesterday). Even though we won't get the crib set up for quite some time, its just nice to get the clutter out of there surf-n-sandMessage #14268 - 12/03/10 05:39 PMHi ladies. I'm having one of those days that I could use a little reassurance that everything's going well in there. I have doctor's appointment in just over a week and cannot wait to hear the heartbeat again! I think finally telling people that we are pregnant is making me nervous. I've now entered the second tri and have no reason to think anything is wrong. I think I'm just feeling protective of little one already and sooo want everything to be best for him/her! Did you all ever feel this way between appointments?
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:56:10 GMT -5
KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14269 - 12/03/10 05:43 PMAlways surf. I was always worried if everything was going to be ok. It's normal. I think that I especially worried after we told people, even though we waited 3 months to tell most people and every indication showed that everything was just fine. Avery got awake before 6 this morning. It turned out she soaked through her nighttime diaper. I knew something was wrong when I picked her up and she felt really hot against me. She was less than pleased that she had to get totally stripped down. ElfQ1015Message #14270 - 12/03/10 06:06 PMDid you all ever feel this way between appointments?
I did till she got big enough to beat the tar out of me on a regular basis. Before that I had to take the doctor's word that everything was okey dokey in there. When I was provided with a tangible piece of evidence that she was doing well, I worried less. Kg, Gwen has had a poo blow out the last three mornings at 5:30. I've had to get up and clean sheets and pajamas. I think it is because she is lying on her back and her poo isn't totally solid so it slides out the back of the diaper via gravity. She thought it was hysterical this morning when I had to clean her up. I swear she was thinking "Yay! Now I get to be in the big bed with mommy! Mission accomplished!" EconStudent07Message #14271 - 12/03/10 06:12 PMsurf, I felt that way in between every appointment. Now that the baby moves all the time, I don't worry quite as much, but I still get a little anxious waiting to hear the heartbeat. I think it's totally normal. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14272 - 12/03/10 07:19 PMGwen has had a poo blow out the last three mornings at 5:30. Ugh. We have been so lucky that we've only had a couple of poo blow outs and they weren't too awful. For the night time diapers, we put her in a size bigger than she wears during the day. She's in a 4 now, but if we put her in a 4 at night we would have leakage every night. She's outgrown the absorbency more than the size itself, if that makes any sense. ElfQ1015Message #14273 - 12/03/10 07:30 PMHmm. .. maybe I should up her to size 2's at night. gardenergirl0804Message #14274 - 12/03/10 07:40 PMOlivia had a HUGE blowout this morning too!!! I swear it was her biggest yet. I used about 10 wipes or more to clean her up and told DH she needed a bath! It was all up her back all the way up to her neck. I couldn't believe it. It was so gross. She was not happy either to be stripped down this morning. It was so exciting seeing her crawl last night! She's zipping all over the place. That AND she's pulling up!!! Two big things in one day. She was SO proud of herself. And did not want to sleep last night. I think she was so excited by all she did and just wanted to keep doing them. It was cute because she crawled over to our german shepherd, Roxy who was laying down on the floor. Olivia would sit by her, then use Roxy to push herself up with! I had DH sit on the floor with Roxy but Roxy didn't seem to mind! It was so cute. surf - I was always nervous before doc appts too. I think it's normal. jmrs - happy to help out! Hope the bottles work out for you!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:56:24 GMT -5
KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14275 - 12/03/10 07:56 PMI swear it was her biggest yet. I used about 10 wipes or more to clean her up and told DH she needed a bath! It was all up her back all the way up to her neck. I couldn't believe it. It was so gross. Ack!! That's really bad. That is definitely a blowout that calls for running the bathwater immediately, if not sooner. What's with the babies and blowouts today? Drama, you might want to try going up a size at night. We had lots of night time leakage until I upped her diapers a size. It's worth a shot. I screwed up and bought size 4 night time diapers over the weekend. Those are now being used for the daytime so we don't waste them. gardenergirl, how are Olivia's eyes today? insurancemoneymavenMessage #14276 - 12/03/10 08:05 PMsurf - I second Drama's comments. Now that this little stinker beats me up all day long, I am at ease, but I would always worry if things were ok between appointments. I think it's totally normal, and will get easier when you feel movements on a regular basis. PalmettoLadyMessage #14277 - 12/03/10 08:26 PMSurf: Yep, I feel the same way. I'm 20 weeks yesterday (Yay!) and we go Tuesday for the BIG ultrasound and it will be the 1st time DH has come with me or heard the heartbeat or anything. I just keep having this horrific image of being on the table, with DH so happy, and they can't find heart beat on baby. BC so many people are SO excited to know, us and family its this big hyped up event and I just keep thinking that it would be so much worse to walk in for that ultrasound and hear nothing/something be wrong. I mean I have No reason to think anything's wrong I just have these terrible images. Ugh. I will be glad for a lot of reason's when Tuesday rolls around. gardenergirl0804Message #14278 - 12/03/10 08:35 PMOlivia's eyes look better. I think the drops are helping a lot. When DH remembers to use them. I got home yesterday and asked him if he put them in and he said no, he didn't put any in! Supposed to do one drop three times per day. But they still looked better this morning. No more goop coming out of them and the redness is going away some. jmrs318Message #14279 - 12/03/10 08:52 PMSurf - I third Drama's comments. Blow Outs - Abbie had a HUGE one yesterday. She hadn't pooped since Tuesday morning so I knew it was going to be a big one. Lucky for us it happened at daycare, but it was all over her pants and up to her neck. Abbie must have just hit a growth spurt, I had to go buy all new clothes for her today. She is now in 9-12 months and moved up to size 3 diapers. She was only in 6-9 months for 2.5 weeks! surf-n-sandMessage #14280 - 12/03/10 08:54 PMAww, Palmetto, Hugs to you! I hate the uneasy worried feeling. I'm sure everything is going great and DH is in for quite the treat! Thank you all for your reassuring comments. I know I will feel much better when I can feel steady movements. I'm already questioning whether I feel something now and again. I'll get this sudden pang in one spot. I have no idea if the baby is even capable of that at this point, but it certainly doesn't feel like any gas that I've felt before. When we listened to the heartbeat at the last appointment, the doctor found it in literally one second and commented how close to surface the baby is. So, who knows I suppose. I'm somewhere between 14 and 15 wks.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:56:49 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #14281 - 12/03/10 09:14 PMDepends on where the baby is at and you. In general, though this wasn't my case, the closer to the surface the uterus is (I am pretty scrawny, so there was pretty much just a layer of muscle and some skin between me and my uterus)and by proxy, baby is, the earlier you feel it. I found out watching a National Geographic documentary on development that babies are already bopping away as early as 8 weeks! They are just far too small for us to be able to feel it. In general they tell you anywhere from 16 weeks to 20 weeks is when you start feeling regular movement but it is different for every woman so don't panic if you can't tell for sure that it is the baby moving in that time frame. I didn't feel Gwen move on a regular basis where I could say that was definetly her and not gas until around 22 weeks. That was the first time she kicked me. Then she didn't stop and has not stopped kicking since. I felt movement at 12 weeks, that was the only time I ever felt those bubbles everyone talks about on here. I thought it was really weird gas till I watched the NG documentary. surf-n-sandMessage #14282 - 12/03/10 09:32 PMDrama/Elf- I think we're built fairly similarly. And yup, I think it was around 12 wks that I felt a flippy feeling in the shower. Only happened on two mornings, but it was like nothing I've ever felt before. Pretty sure that was the babe. We had our ultrasound a couple of days later, and the baby was bopping away in there. ElfQ1015Message #14283 - 12/03/10 09:37 PMIt probably is movement then. I know a few people on here have posted like on The Bump how other women tear them to shreds saying that "you can't feel movement that early!" but my OB said that you most certainly can, we just usually write it off to gas or muscle spasms in the early stages. ladykiMessage #14284 - 12/03/10 11:27 PMI can't imagine trying to do school work while preggo. At least my job was fairly easy... and I had to go to PT the last 2-3 weeks (couldn't be on my feet 8 hours a day, anymore.)
I was doing classes while pregnant, I decided to take a two month break after Kiani was born and then resummed them again. The good thing with me is that I do online classes. ladykiMessage #14285 - 12/03/10 11:37 PMI just started Abbie on Rice cereal and having a hard time feeding it to her. No matter how thin I make it, it clogs the cereal nipple on her bottle. If I spoon feed it, the spoon is so small that she starts screaming because she wants more and I can't shovel it into her mouth fast enough. Did anyone of you find a better method?
I just started Kiani too. I give it to her with a baby spoon. Sometimes she will be playing with the cereal that is her mouth ( making bubbles with it) sometimes she is screaming cause she wants more. I give her a few spoons of cereal and then a few sips of formula. ladykiMessage #14286 - 12/03/10 11:40 PMDid you all ever feel this way between appointments?
Surf- I felt like that every single time that I was going to have an appoitment. It was not until I actually started feeling the baby move that I actually relaxed a little bit. Even after that you can't help but worry, I know I did.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:57:02 GMT -5
GusitaRenkerMessage #14287 - 12/04/10 12:34 AMI think there is always something to be scared of when pregnant. First it's the fear of miscarriage, then abnormalities on the anatomy ultrasound/genetic testing, and now that I am actually close to having the baby, I am terrified of a still birth (even though I feel the baby just thumping away as I type!). I'm sure the internet doesn't help, since we can now read about all the different possible worse case scenarios. insurancemoneymavenMessage #14288 - 12/04/10 12:44 AMsurf - I felt the baby move around 14 weeks, and I am a curvy, full figured gal. It progressively got stronger and stronger, and now at 28 weeks, the little **** loves to kick at my bladder and ribs. Everyone is different. Try laying down in a quiet room and just focusing on being still. You may be surprised how much you can feel when you slow down. I can't imagine trying to do school work while preggo. At least my job was fairly easy... and I had to go to PT the last 2-3 weeks (couldn't be on my feet 8 hours a day, anymore.)
It's been tough, but I always promised myself that I'd finish my Bachelors before I had kids, so here I am, 28 weeks in, and 2 weeks until I finish my degree. It's been tough, but will be so worth it. Plus, I'll have about 2 months of "free time" before DS arrives, and that will be a welcome reprieve. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14289 - 12/06/10 03:50 AMHey mommas!!!! There is a KILLER deal on diapers this week at Walgreens (for their Walgreens brand diapers - they get great reviews on the coupon sites). The diapers are on BOGO sale!! And it gets even better - when you buy $25, you get $5 RR back (or 10/50, 15/75, or 20/100). Here's how my deal worked out tonight: 6 packages of diapers = 50.94 -BOGO sale = 25.47 (plus tax) Got back $10 RR for hitting the $50 (my store counted pre-bogo, some dont). Plus a $1 coupon for Walgreen's wipes I will keep rolling the RR into other deals, so that's basically $15.47 + tax for 6 packages of diapers. AMAZING deal Even if I just used it to buy more diapers, it still comes out less than $4/package. DH won't let me stock up yet (yeah, its way too early), but SIL needs them more than I do anyway with the quads on the way. I have a whole stack ready to take over to her house eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14290 - 12/06/10 12:42 PMSam - sounds like a great deal but until your last sentence I thought you were INSANE!!!! I'm 25 weeks and I bought my first 6 cloth diapers this past week and I still feel a little silly since I don't need them yet. LOL surf-n-sandMessage #14291 - 12/06/10 02:11 PMGood morning ladies. Did anyone else sail through the first trimester and then get hit with morning/night sickness at the start of the second? I'm wondering if it's something I ate or pregnancy related nausea. Whatever it is, I'd like it to go away. I felt ill last night and have a headache on top of the nausea this morning. No throwing up yet, but I have a feeling it is coming. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14292 - 12/06/10 02:17 PMGood morning ladies! We got our Christmas tree this weekend. I'll have to post a picture as soon as I get them downloaded off of my camera. Avery loved the tree before we even decorated it. She kept walking up to it, petting the branches and then laughing. It was so cute. Avery was being very independent yesterday. She only wanted to eat things she could feed herself, which I realized at lunch after I heated up mac 'n cheese with chicken and vegetables. She tried the fork a few times, which was a good start, but then she decided it was easier just to grab fistfuls of it and shove it in her mouth. I wish I hadn't given her a bath before lunch. She was such a mess. And I'm not sure how much food actually got in her mouth, but she was happy.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:57:27 GMT -5
ElfQ1015Message #14293 - 12/06/10 02:29 PMDid anyone else sail through the first trimester and then get hit with morning/night sickness at the start of the second? I started developing food aversions, serious heartburn and I threw up for the first two weeks of the second trimester. I was done with teh mind numbing nauesa, but I would gag without warning while eating and then vomit. I became very familiar with public restrooms. Sam be careful with huge stock piles of diapers, make sure to keep reciepts. We found out Gwen gets horrid diaper rash with Pampers. She's fine with other brands, but there is just something in pampers that makes her break out. I finally confirmed it this week because we bought Pampers with a $3.00 off coupon and she developed an awful butt rash. I've switched to Luvs and it is has disappeared. So far she can use Walgreens, Huggies and Luvs without any ill affects. So just keep that in mind because what your baby can wear and what fits you won't know for sure till he/she is here. Got her picture taken at Sears yesterday, she did so well! Had some family pictures taken as well. A little more than I wanted to spend, but at the same time I knocked out about 95% of my gift giving for this year because I am going to frame pictures for certain family members. Money is tight and they are also insanely hard to shop for, so I figured no one dislikes pictures of the great grand kid! eh230Message #14294 - 12/06/10 03:13 PMDid anyone else sail through the first trimester and then get hit with morning/night sickness at the start of the second? This was me. It only lasted about two weeks, though. Feel better! ElfQ1015Message #14295 - 12/06/10 03:27 PMQuestion, did any of you ladies on here serve jury duty while breastfeeding? I got called and I am really concerned about this because I don't want my supply to reduce or be out of whack all because after six years I finally got called to my 'civil duty'. I plan on asking when I get there tomorrow, but I was wondering if anyone else did it and has some tips? KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14296 - 12/06/10 03:51 PMI served on jury duty while I was pregnant. It wasn't so bad. The tip staff were all really nice and made sure I was okay throughout. Actually Avery and I just ran into the judge that presided over the trial at the grocery store. He was excited to see her. He's such a nice man. But Drama, you may be able to use your BFing as a medical excuse not to serve. They should ask you if there's any reason you can't serve. Someone told me I could have used pregnancy as an excuse, but I actually preferred the jury duty to my job! surf-n-sandMessage #14297 - 12/06/10 03:53 PMPictures make the best presents! Everyone will love them! ElfQ1015Message #14298 - 12/06/10 03:59 PMBut Drama, you may be able to use your BFing as a medical excuse not to serve Doubt it because I couldn't use pregnancy as a medical excuse not to serve. I put it down anyhow,got it deferred to now. I don't see them excusing me because I breastfeed. I figure I show up and I make a pain out of pointing out I need to pump. Then we'll see what happens. I doubt they will want someone who is going to disrupt the trial by spraying milk three feet across the room since she wasn't allowed to pump. I'll have to figure it out, maybe I will get lucky and not get called for anything more than a day or two.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:57:41 GMT -5
eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14299 - 12/06/10 04:11 PMI'm so weird! I was THRILLED to get called for jury duty. The trial I worked took a week and I was fascinated. But, I did major in Criminal Justice in college so....I'm a dork about the justice system. I'm sure if you made it clear how often you would need breaks to pump then they would probably exclude you just because of how much time it would take. ElfQ1015Message #14300 - 12/06/10 04:31 PMI wouldn't mind being called if they had not called when I was pregnant and at my worst and now called when I am breastfeeding. It's like they KNEW it would be at the most inopportune moment, so that is when my number was pulled for the first time in eight years. If you get a lunch break I can do one session then, but I'd need at least one more during hte work week to make sure my supply stays on track. eh230Message #14301 - 12/06/10 04:34 PMDrama, I know that you are in Nebraska/Iowa, but here in MN you can be excused from jury duty if you are breastfeeding. Anyone else just exhausted about thinking about/doing everything that comes along with celebrating the holidays? I am so not into it this year. I thought that I would be since Henry is here, but it takes all of my time/effort just to work and take care of him. Having to shop, pick out a tree, decorate, wrap and ship presents, bake, etc is even more overwhelming. Am I just being a grinch? ElfQ1015Message #14302 - 12/06/10 04:40 PMAm I just being a grinch? Nah. I like putting up all my Christmas stuff, but I found it quite a chore this year. Halloween went REALLY bad, but Thanksgiving went well with the baby so I am hoping Christmas does. We have to do my grandparents on Christmas Eve, his parents during Christmas day and mine during hte afternoon. Found out during Thanksgiving it helps to be firm that she needs a nap. Then yesterday before pictures I found it helps to keep when she is not with family as quiet and calm as possible so she isn't wired by the time we get there. I have to take Christmas Eve off since the daycare is closed. My plan is to keep it as quiet around the house as possible so she can sleep and be relaxed for when we head over to Grandma's. Same with Christmas day I am going to let her sleep and stay in her jammies till as long as possible. We'll change her into her Christmas outfit MIL bought her when we get there. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14303 - 12/06/10 04:46 PMI'm so weird! I was THRILLED to get called for jury duty. The trial I worked took a week and I was fascinated. Then I'm weird too. I was excited about it. Of course when I was a reporter my beat was cops and courts, so I spent most of my time at the courthouse. It was exciting for me to sit in on a trial and be allowed to have an opinion. Actually, I didn't think there was any way I would get picked because DH is a cop and I knew so many people at the courthouse. But I got called for a civil trial, and I didn't know the attorneys involved. Am I just being a grinch? No. You're just a new mom. I love, love, love Christmas. I thought last year that I would go really nuts at Christmas since it was our first with Avery, and I was on maternity leave, so I thought I would have all of this time. Ha, ha, ha. It turned out I was so tired that we did less decorating than usual. I wasn't as into Christmas as usual. This year we're back on track. I've got most of the decorating done, and it's more exciting because Avery can actually get excited about the lights and everything this year. yogiiiMessage #14304 - 12/06/10 05:22 PMeh - I know what you mean. Both of our families are local so we usually go to 3 or 4 places Christmas Eve and again on Christmas day. All I keep thinking is, when will DS nap? I never thought that would be my priority, LOL. Also, there is no way I am messing with his bedtime. He just started to do one MOTN wakeup and I'm not messing around with that, so sorry everyone we need to be home by 6 or 630. How is Henry doing?
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insurancemoneymavenMessage #14305 - 12/06/10 05:25 PMI'm so weird! I was THRILLED to get called for jury duty. The trial I worked took a week and I was fascinated. That's not weird to me. I had jury duty earlier this year, and I was so happy to get picked. Not only did I get 2 days paid off of work, but I loved learning about the legal process and seeing it in action. My case was public indecency and indecent exposure. It was wild, but I felt like I did my civic duty. Question for all of you already moms - how soon did you travel with your little ones? My parents want to take a family cruise shortly after DS will be born (about 8 weeks). They plan to pay for me, DH and DS as my graduation gift. I really want to go because I doubt we'll be taking such a trip in the next few years, but I also don't want to risk DS's health. I have a call out to my OB and pediatrician, but thought I'd check in with you ladies. gardenergirl0804Message #14306 - 12/06/10 05:35 PMkgb - I have such a cute picture in my head of Avery shoving fistfuls of mac n cheese in her mouth. So cute. That just made me smile. Sam - that is a great price but I agree that you should be careful if you decide to stock up for yourself on diapers. Don't get too many of one kind. I had bought 2 big boxes of Pampers Baby Dry before Olivia was born and she had a horrible reaction to them. I was able to return the one box that I didn't open yet but was stuck with a lot of unused diapers from box one. surf - that stinks you're getting hit with m/s now in tri 2. Some people are just like that though. I think I recall you felt pretty good all thru tri 1. That's usually the bad tri and tri 2 is the good one, but looks like you might be the opposite. Hope it passes for you quickly! DH is working today and tomorrow so Olivia is in daycare. I really hope it helps her sleep tonight!!! Good grief. With our trip and coming home and being with DH all day she is way off schedule. She didn't go to sleep until 9 last night and still woke up at 1. She is just sleeping in way too late and taking too many naps during the day with us I think. yogiiiMessage #14307 - 12/06/10 05:36 PMinsurance - I wouldn't be worried too much about the cruise. You can control who holds your son and people can wash their hands etc. but .... You will not know your son's temperment until he arrives and I can say taking my DS on a cruise at that age would have been miserable for me, him and possibly the whole ship. He had severe colic until he was 5 months old and there was no way to predict that. gardenergirl0804Message #14308 - 12/06/10 05:43 PMOlivia's daycare is offering a "Gift of Time" Parents Night Out on Dec 17. The DC will stay open until 10pm. I really want to take advantage of it since DH and I never get a date night. There is no extra cost for this but I feel guilty for leaving her there this late. I'm sure she will be fine. Says they will have some extra activities to keep them busy. Why do I feel so guilty about it? I should take advantage of this, right? gardenergirl0804Message #14309 - 12/06/10 05:46 PMinsurance - we took our first trip with Olivia when she was about 8 weeks old. We drove from Atlanta to Cleveland Oh. She actually had her first set of shots that day so she slept the entire ride there. That and we drove at night. But she was ok. I was mostly worried about the shots. First day after she got them she had a bit of a fever and threw up, but other than that she was fine. Not sure how a baby would be on a rocking boat though. Good idea to consult the doc. ElfQ1015Message #14310 - 12/06/10 05:50 PMWhy do I feel so guilty about it? I should take advantage of this, right? Would you feel guilty about a friend or family member babysitting? If not I am betting it is because it is the DAYCARE and so you have all those negative feelings we are indoctrinated to endure whenever the words "leaving her at daycare" are uttered. Then if you have not been out without her in a long time it can feel weird and guilt inducing like you aren't being good parents when you want to get away from her. DH and I have this problem and we have to remind ourselves that our marriage still needs to come first because with a happy marriage we will hvae a happy baby. There is nothing wrong with wanting couple time and nothing wrong with utilizing the daycare as a babysitter if they are offering it.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:58:19 GMT -5
eternal sunshine - 29wksMessage #14311 - 12/06/10 05:58 PMgardener - I agree with everything Drama said!! gardenergirl0804Message #14312 - 12/06/10 06:49 PMI guess I feel bad about leaving her at DC for that long of a period of time. Like she will wonder if we abandoned her or something! I know. It's stupid. I guess I would just feel different if she were at daycare during the day, then we brought her home, had a sitter at home and went out. At least she'd be at home. But since we really have no sitter, I wanted to take advantage of this. ElfQ1015Message #14313 - 12/06/10 06:59 PMBut since we really have no sitter, I wanted to take advantage of this. Then do so. There is nothing wrong with it. It isn't like you are leaving her in the car with the windows rolled down a crack. Like she will wonder if we abandoned her or something! Odds are I would assume that Olivia doesn't have quite the same grasp of time as adults do at her age. She's not going to be aware that it is 10:00 pm and go "Hmm. .. mommy usually picks me up at 3:00 pm I"ve been left here another seven hours!" You picking her up is going to be the same for her as any day" mommy drops me off, mommy picks me up. She's not going to be aware she was there any longer than normal. KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14314 - 12/06/10 07:05 PMThere is no extra cost for this but I feel guilty for leaving her there this late. I had a chance to go to go to a hockey game in the spring, but it meant leaving Avery with DH's family. I felt all bad that I worked all week and then I was going to leave her on a Saturday too. My mother assured me she would not be emotionally scarred because I left her on a Saturday night. Go out and have fun. It's important for you to get some grown up time, especially since you don't have family nearby to babysit. The best thing for our babies is for them to have happy parents. Sam814 - 11wksMessage #14315 - 12/06/10 07:09 PMOk ladies, I need a bit of advice on how to handle something. DH and I have a close set of friends. DH went to college with the wife, the couple was in our wedding & us in theirs. For the last 2 years we have hung out several times per week, and spend almost every weekend together. They started TTC at the beginning of this year. They got pregnant in July, and told us in August when she was about 6 weeks just because they were so excited. My reaction was horrendous . I could hardly even look at her all through dinner. I tried to fake smile & say congrats, but it didn't work. I just felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach. I really have wanted to have a kid since my mc 2.5 years ago, and every time someone announced they were pregnant (even if I hardly knew them), it would make me cry. I apologized to her later for the way I reacted, but it seems like the damage was done. She has hardly talked to me since . She went for a u/s at 10 weeks & found out she had lost the baby. She had to have a DNC right about the time they had planned on telling everyone. Since we were one of the only people that knew, she retreated even further. I have probably seen her only 4 times since the end of Aug, which sucks because we used to hang out 2-3 times per week! Now that we are pregnant, DH wants to tell them privately before we announce to everyone (which is still awhile away). I am fine with him telling the husband because they are still really close friends. I am just dreading having to tell her though . I am pretty sure that will be the final nail in the coffin for us. Even if DH told her husband, and her husband was the one to tell her, I still just don't want her to find out. Its dumb, but I don't want her to feel hurt at all, and I know she will. She's still my friend & I still care about not hurting her feelings as much as I can avoid it. emerald04Message #14316 - 12/06/10 07:12 PMInsurance - talk with the doctor and get their opinion. Definitely buy trip insurance if you do decide to go. Check on the cruise line - how good are their medical facilities on board? Could someone ID an ear infection and get you a prescription if needed - things along those lines. 8 weeks seems a little young, but you will obviously have family along to help, which will be great. How many days, and what are the ports where the cruise would stop (so what medical facilities would be available there if need be)? Traveling with kids only gets harder with time. Once they are up and moving, it is a whole different set of circumstances. We took a 5 hour driving trip with DD when she was 4 months, I guess that was the earliest for her. I would be a little hesitant to commit the $$ (even someone else's) for a trip at this point - you haven't had the baby, you don't know how you will be feeling or what her/his temperament is yet. Would it be possible for them to delay the booking until after you have the baby? Also, if you are late with the delivery, the baby might only be 7 weeks or so. I always felt like 3 months was a good amount of time to stay low-key and close to home, for mom and baby, to get routine established and energy back up and hopefully more sleep. It is hard to travel after kids, so traveling with family is very nice, but maybe they can wait a little longer for you and the baby to be ready. Gardner - I would take advantage of it. You can have dinner with your DH and get some Christmas shopping done, and the next night spend some one on one time with the baby. If DC is offering it, they probably are all set with extra staffing and activities, so I'm sure she'll be fine.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Jan 6, 2011 20:58:44 GMT -5
emerald04Message #14317 - 12/06/10 07:19 PMSam - I would have your DH tell the husband first, and have him pass along the news, so she has time to herself for initial reactions. As you know, obviously, these are very personal matters, and a gut reaction is impossible to hide. Then try and talk to her in person. You both have been through a lot, and while your timing is different, your experiences are similar and your pregnancy now is probably both a kick in the face to her and something that offers her hope for her own future. She should understand your initial reaction better now. Past that, I would just try and be available to her and supportive, and let time heal wounds. ElfQ1015Message #14318 - 12/06/10 07:19 PMDH wants to tell them privately before we announce to everyone (which is still awhile away). I am fine with him telling the husband because they are still really close friends I think this would be the best way and then the DH can decide if he wants to tell his wife or not. Since you do not have any contact with her anymore it isn't like you will walk in with your baby bump and surprise her with it any time soon. You can't control how other people feel and you should not be ashamed of your own happiness right now. You apologized for your bad behavior but she chose not to accept it, that is not upon you, that is upon her you cannot do anymore than apologize for it. I wouldn't hide it personally because that is just going to make your DH uncomfortable at work and turns your pregnancy into a big giant pink elephant in the room. Don't put yoru DH in an awkward position of having to keep it all secret just in case the other DH might find out and by proxy, his wife. He doesn't need to crow about it, give him copies of ultrasound pictures etc, but to me hiding it would be insulting because they are adults and eventually someone around them will get pregnant, they have to learn how to handle the news someday. I hope that does not sound callous or cold, I am just saying you can't live your life in fear of how other people are going to react to your happy news. There are ways to be sensitive without having to feel like you must hide things. DH's plan is sensitive without going overboard and without turning your pregnancy into a giant pink elephant. gardenergirl0804Message #14319 - 12/06/10 07:49 PMSam - that's a hard one. But I have to say that was pretty crappy of her to not accept your apologize after she knew what you went through and how you felt about wanting a baby so badly. Maybe back then she didn't fully understand how you felt but now she knows so maybe she will be more open to being friends with you and being happy for you. Although expect anything for her initial reaction. It could be happy, but it could sadness, anger (not at you but at her own situation), bitterness, who knows. It could take a while for it to sink in and then maybe later she will be happy for you. If you are good friends with her, or want to be again, you might want to be the one to tell her. It will be hard, and don't apologize because you should not apologize for your own happiness but just tell her you've missed her, want her to be your friend and you would like it if she is a part of you and your baby's life. Then leave the ball in her court. gardenergirl0804Message #14320 - 12/06/10 07:51 PMThanks ladies for all the support about taking DC up on their offer for Parents Night Out. We'll definitely go and I'll try not to feel guilty. I know she's in good hands and loves it there and I'm sure they'll have plenty of fun activities for them. She'll probably have so much fun that night. Now, what to do with our time! KrisKringleGingleBellsMessage #14321 - 12/06/10 07:53 PMSam, that's a tough situation. I agree with letting your DH tell her husband. If you really want to continue to be friends with this couple, maybe you could send her a letter and just be open and honest about how you're feeling (even though you did apologize once, if you really want to remain friends a second attempt can't hurt). After that the ball is in her court. If she chooses not to forgive you and can't move on then it's not your fault and you've done all you can. gardenergirl, I took a pic of Avery with the mac n' cheese face. I'm going to download them off my camera tonight. I'll send one to you. boos_momMessage #14322 - 12/06/10 08:07 PMdrama - I got called for jury duty 3 times in the past 5 years. It was really weird timing. 1st time was for a case that expected to last a month (big federal trial), but since I was in my last two months of the pregnancy and I was not comfortable with sitting for 8 hrs a day or if concerns came up, the OB wrote a note and I got postponed. 2nd time (my postponement) I was BFing #1, so I talked with the judge's clerk before the jury selection and she suggested I ask to speak with judge & attorneys (not just announce it to the whole courtroom) when they asked if there were any other reasons a person needed to be excused (after all of the medical/employment hardship people went first). I also brought my pumping equipment with me. The judge and attorneys all agreed I could be excused. 3rd time was when I was BFing with #2. I did the same thing, and everyone was fine with excusing me. Any other time, I'd be perfectly okay with serving. But the jury breaks between lunch aren't long enough and I needed to do 2 sessions per day. eh - I am not big into decorating in general, so I do a tiny fake tree, and we just go driving around to look at other people's lights and visit the city lights displays. Wrapping gifts is the biggest chore since we buy a lot of children's gifts. I will make DH wrap gifts when I am getting tired. And I start my gift shopping earlier now, September/October to lessen the stress. insurance - I wouldn't go on a cruise with a 2 month old. It's not like you're on a visit at someone's house, there's more of the expectation of being on the go and doing excursions and sight-seeing. When the kids were 2 months old, I was still working on getting into a groove and trying to get sleep. Are they getting you a suite? The regular rooms are pretty cramped! And I'd still be concerned about the ventilation system in a cruise ship and baby's health. yogiii - Christmas Eve is really hard for us because one side of DH's family gets together @ 6:30 pm and they expect us to stay until after midnight. DH's sibling and their kids stay, so why can't we? We usually leave around 10:30 which is really really late for the kids. Then we go to two places on Christmas day. It's really hard to get in the nap that day but I force the issue b/c the kids will be so cranky if they don't. sam - Does the wife know about your m/c? If not, after your DH tells the husband, perhaps you can send her a card expressing some of your thoughts. Things may work out if you give her a chance to process things on her own and maybe just let her know that you are thinking of her. I was shocked when you wrote that it's been 2.5 years. Somehow time has done a weird warp, and I didn't realize it was that long ago. I am happy for you and DH! gardener - glad you will use the free night. Don't feel so guilty! Olivia will be fine.
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