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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 8, 2019 13:59:07 GMT -5
Andi and Sam, is you’re ever looking for a fun group outing, my Wine Club went to Monarch Glass last night and made wine glasses. It was a blast! We brought our own food and drink in, and each got to do a wine glass. I think it was $350 for the evening for the entire group (we had 8 people, but you can have up to 12 or 14), + tax + tip for the two artists helping you. You can pick what you make (bowl, wine glass, vase, cup, etc, but everyone in the group has to pick the same thing), and then each person gets to customize it and create their own.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 8, 2019 13:56:12 GMT -5
I've lived in KC my whole life and I'm not trying to go to Ponaks. There are so much better and more authentic places to go. I hope you like it though. Report back as I'm interested in what you think about it. Truth on better places. Some of my coworkers are borderline obsessed with Ponaks. It’s alright. The food is mediocre. They go for the strong margaritas.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 7, 2019 8:49:30 GMT -5
That sucks, Carl. No idea on the legal side of it, but good luck.
Also, glad your wife found something else she may like that would be easier to get to. Fingers crossed that good things come into play for both of you.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2019 15:34:39 GMT -5
tcu2003 it makes me SO HAPPY to know that kids still like playing Chutes and Ladders, even in this electronic age LOL. It’s a little babyish for my oldest (or so he says), but he’ll play with his little sister still. And M loves it and Candyland - not that she can count or knows her colors, but she loves taking turns, and drawing cards or using the spinner, depending on the game. 😉
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2019 14:03:28 GMT -5
Proud mom moment - C made his theatrical debut last night. All of the first graders at his school were in a musical program. They could audition for speaking parts if they wanted to, which C did, so he had one line. There were a fair number of kids out sick yesterday (kids were performing at school in the afternoon for the rest of the school and then in the evening for parents/guests), so he ended up getting a couple of additional lines. He did so well! And he did a great job enunciating and speaking clearly at the microphone so everyone could understand what he said.
All of the kids and their music teacher did a great job. It was a super cute show!
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2019 14:00:22 GMT -5
I’m sorry you’re still waiting on the judge, debt. That stinks.
Good luck with the doctor’s appointment for your dad, tax.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2019 13:59:47 GMT -5
Decluttered a Chutes & Ladder game today. We had two, and someone in a local mom group posted looking for it as her son’s school would like 5 copies. I brought it to work and she picked it up from me here - yay!
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2019 9:46:46 GMT -5
So far this year I’ve read:
Becoming by Michelle Obama - excellent read!
How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber and Julie King - I got some good tips out of it, but it’s one I probably need to reference again to get more out of it.
The Crimes or Grindelwald by JK Rowling - now I’m ready to watch the movie!
Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy- one I’d recommend to anyone looking to up their self-confidence and presence game.
41: A Portrait of my Father by George W Bush - eh, it was alright.
Heartland: A Memoir or Working Hard and Being Broke in the Richest Country on Earth by Sarah Smarsh - it’s a little weirdly written (as in, written to the author’s never-conceived baby girl, the child she could/would have had if she’d made different choices), but still a good read, and one I can relate to as I’m from a small town in Kansas, though I’m not from a farming family.
Consent to Kill (Mitch Rapp #8) by Vince Flynn - liked it, but I like this series and it’s a nice break from heavier reading.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2019 9:38:18 GMT -5
What mpl said. We each maxed our 401k accounts last year, so just looking to do something extra since we had some extra cash on hand.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 5, 2019 9:26:26 GMT -5
Saw this on FB and could definitely relate. Partially, my babies were very mama-centric when they were younger, but I can remember restaurant meals just like the post describes. I guess that never bothered me, perhaps because my husband also took a turn at baby entertainment. I don't think it's reasonable to go to an essentially adult activity with a small child and expect other people to do the work. I never expected other people to do the work, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a lonely position, especially when activities chosen are decidedly not kid friendly but everyone wants the kid(s) there. My ILs have a history of starting events during naptime, so we’ve taken to just telling them we’ll be there late. It’s not fair to my kids or DH and I to take tired, cranky children places where they’ll be overstimulated and have problems dealing because they’re overtired. One Christmas with my ILs, they literally opened stockings (kids only) without me. And it was my daughter’s first Christmas. I was pumping for her and would have been out to watch if they had waited 5 more minutes. Five minutes! DH got an earful on the way home (and before we left) on that one. That same Christmas, my SIL was making more chili because they ran out before she or I got to eat, and they tried to start opening presents without us. I put a stop to that - they waited until she and I had both finished our food. I will never forget the kindness of a volunteer I know - we both volunteer in our professional society at the society level, and we were in NYC for a meeting. Our group was out to dinner. His wife was with him, and DH and C were with me - C was a baby and because I was nursing, I didn’t want to leave him overnight, so they tagged along to sightsee while I was in meetings. During this dinner, he took C and held him and walked around with him so I could have a hot meal. His kids were older, and he remembered what it was like for he and his wife to always have cold food. It’s been 6 years and this memory still warms my heart. So my point is, it can sometimes take little effort and will make a huge difference in someone’s hour/day/week that someone else offered assistance and made them feel noticed.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 5, 2019 9:16:05 GMT -5
Keep in mind if you already have money in a Traditional IRA it complicates things. Yep, that I did know. Thankfully, DH has been at the same company his entire working career, and has no investments outside his 401k, and I never converted my old 401k to an IRA when I left my previous employer. I have an existing Roth IRA, but no traditional IRA, so we’re each good on that front.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 5, 2019 0:33:53 GMT -5
Saw this on FB and could definitely relate. Partially, my babies were very mama-centric when they were younger, but I can remember restaurant meals just like the post describes.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 5, 2019 0:10:48 GMT -5
Anyone familiar with backdoor Roth IRAs? To do this, do I open a traditional IRA for both DH and I, contribute the funds, and then as soon as they are confirmed, transfer them to Roth IRA accounts? As a bonus, anyone have experience with Vanguard - is this easy to do on their website?
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 4, 2019 14:19:08 GMT -5
I decluttered some new/never used baby clothes to my sister for one of her friends who just had a baby, so yay. Other than that, it was keeping up with laundry and not much else this weekend.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 1, 2019 14:17:17 GMT -5
Oh no, debt, how awful.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 1, 2019 14:17:03 GMT -5
Okay, I have a new list and since this one is 26 items long (for the whole weekend) I invite you to choose a letter between A-Z to start. I did get the CDs from the audio book burned so that's going in the car to return to the library today. J!
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 1, 2019 14:09:53 GMT -5
Vent - I love my DH, and often he’s great, but seriously, sometimes he’s an idiot. I had a women’s networking event after work yesterday that I went to for work, so we drove separately/he was responsible for getting both kids. Because I didn’t specifically *tell* him he needed to feed the kids, he didn’t. I get home at 715, no one has eaten, C is yelling about something (at least partially due to being hangry), and M had worked her way through most of a bag of goldfish crackers. Seriously, H?!? Feed your children. There were several leftover options in the fridge, PB sandwiches, or chicken strips in the freezer. You’re a parent and a freaking adult. When it’s time for the kids to eat, freaking feed them. It probably doesn't make you feel better, but a co-workers husband will cook dinner for himself - like a full dinner with an entree and sides - but only for himself. Doesn't cross his mind to cook a bit more to feed their 7 yo son and heaven forbid he add a portion for his wife to reheat when she gets home from work late. And this has been happening since son was born. Oh heck no. That is unacceptable and that wouldn’t happen more than once in my house. DH knows he better not get himself some ice cream or dessert after the kids go to bed and not ask me if I want some or there will be hell to pay. I don’t make dinner every night and not make him some, so if he’s getting up to get something, common courtesy is to see if the other person wants something. And yes, it works both ways as I also offer if I’m getting something.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 1, 2019 12:14:23 GMT -5
Good luck MJ! Yay Steph!!! Ditto this!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 1, 2019 11:12:53 GMT -5
Vent - I love my DH, and often he’s great, but seriously, sometimes he’s an idiot. I had a women’s networking event after work yesterday that I went to for work, so we drove separately/he was responsible for getting both kids. Because I didn’t specifically *tell* him he needed to feed the kids, he didn’t. I get home at 715, no one has eaten, C is yelling about something (at least partially due to being hangry), and M had worked her way through most of a bag of goldfish crackers. Seriously, H?!? Feed your children. There were several leftover options in the fridge, PB sandwiches, or chicken strips in the freezer. You’re a parent and a freaking adult. When it’s time for the kids to eat, freaking feed them.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 26, 2019 17:10:24 GMT -5
Let's hope the whole Kansas House of Representatives has second thoughts about this legislation too though I am not counting on it. It’s only part of the Kansas House. The Dems and a few Repubs aren’t in favor of this. Unfortunately, the House Leader is cray cray conservative.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 25, 2019 10:29:01 GMT -5
Hugs, taz.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 25, 2019 9:51:46 GMT -5
I’m heading to NYC today for an overnight, and sad to be leaving my sweet girl, who I think I has croup. Or if not that, a serious cold with a big cough going on. And also, DH is crazy busy at work, so fingers crossed she doesn’t run a fever and have to stay home as it’s all him (normally, we split days so someone gets the morning and the other the afternoon, based on who has what going on).
Vent ahead - PDQ this part.
The flip side is if he does have to stay home with her, maybe it’ll be the impetus he needs to finally speak up at work. We work for the same company in similar roles, though I’m a team leader as well as a PM/engineer/QC person, and he doesn’t have the team leader component. He doesn’t have enough designers/junior engineers for his projects, and the ones he does have are slow and not always up-to-speed on what they should know. To the point that DH has gone in and worked past midnight after the kids are in bed (a couple of times until 2 or 4am) at least weekly since about the turn of the year because his designers aren’t getting their stuff done. He’s not going in to QC or PM - he’s actually designing for them, and none of them are putting in the extra time. DH has told his person who is at my level for his time, but that guy doesn’t care as long as it doesn’t impact him directly. And DH isn’t enough or a squeaky wheel to impact that guy. I’ve encouraged DH to reach out to the two owners on his team (shareholders are the level above me, and each team has at least one owner overseeing the team) and explain his concerns and frustrations, but DH is the type of person who thinks they should just notice that he’s overworked and understaffed. Not going to happen, honey - there are 50-ish people on your team, so speak up. His direct boss maybe has 10 people he is directly overseeing, but he’s a douche and self-centered, so that’s also not going to happen. Normally, I try not to interfere/offer much advice to DH unless asked, but it’s starting to carry over into home life with him being short and grumpy with the kids and me, especially after he’s worked a late night and not gotten enough sleep.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 24, 2019 14:06:58 GMT -5
Congrats!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 22, 2019 16:29:23 GMT -5
Do it! If I go anywhere it will be Charlotte. The position is in Harrisburg which is a 30 minutes drive to Charlotte. I was looking at home prices in Harrisburg and I can get double the house (4-5 bedrooms) for half the price 😱😱😱. I texted DW about it... You could live between Harrisburg and Charlotte and have great job options for your wife in Charlotte....
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 22, 2019 15:04:17 GMT -5
I have a phone interview on Monday, and I am seriously tempted to apply for a position in NC... cost of living is lower but not sure I want to do that all over again Go for it! I bet you would love NC!
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 20, 2019 11:41:31 GMT -5
Another snow day...blech. So thankful we can take C to M’s daycare, even if it means I have to hear him complain he doesn’t want to go.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 19, 2019 13:49:55 GMT -5
Sold the pack ‘n play to a coworker and tossed in a pack ‘n play sheet we had been given but never used (because my sweet children refused to ever sleep in that thing), so two more things gone.
Kids didn’t have school/daycare yesterday plus we kept my two nieces, so the house is a disaster. They picked up some stuff, but we need to go through with our two kiddos and get everything else picked up and put away.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 19, 2019 13:43:39 GMT -5
It wouldn’t bother DH or me if someone told our kids to pick up trash, toys, whatever. C times us out half the time, so maybe he’d hear someone else’s voice?!?! 🤷♀️
I’m sure there are a few people that it would bother me if they said something, but in general, if someone is hanging out at my house for whatever reason, we’re likely close enough for them to tell my kid to do something.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 19, 2019 13:41:24 GMT -5
Congrats, MJ!!
Good luck, Steph! I couldn’t work for a micromanager, so I’d likely be switching. But definitely try to negotiate some more!
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 17, 2019 15:48:24 GMT -5
I cleared out 165 articles of kid clothing and shoes to give to a friend whose kid is in the size that C has recently outgrown, so yay! Two full diaper boxes plus a big bag full of stuff.
We had soccer and then a birthday party and then went to my ILs for a bit, so yesterday didn’t see much progress other than dropping off the aforementioned kids clothes between the birthday party and my ILs house.
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