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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 8, 2019 16:24:08 GMT -5
He had a good day today! He only cried for 1/4 of class then he participated and had fun. I'm so delighted. I'm sure there will be some more bumps along the way, but I'm pretty sure he will be fine now. That's good! My C was the kid that cried at drop off every day the entire year so we held him back a year. So much of it really came down to emotional maturity and I think he's only catching up now at 10.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 8, 2019 16:56:12 GMT -5
My kids had a pretty strict sleep schedule when they were babies, and even then, it would go to hell on vacation--despite our best efforts. They're older now, and we just had our first real vacation. (They usually go to bed at 8, and they were going to bed at 10-11, not that we wanted them to. It's just how it worked out.) 6 yo wanted to leave Disney 10 minutes after we got inside! I would have wanted to cut our vacation short, too, but it involved flights and all sort of sunk costs. Now that we're home, I'm glad we went, as are the kids. I think you have to learn how to vacation, so there are some starting pains.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 9, 2019 10:35:25 GMT -5
K had orientation yesterday afternoon. She got her school photo and ID taken, walked the school, we paid fees, got into her locker and found all her classrooms. She's feeling much better about starting middle school on Monday now.
We've got a playdate set up for her and her bff on Sunday. Her bff is also going to this school and they have 3 classes together. We've also set up the carpool, with a different family. And another Mom offered to get K to school too. So DH and I are feeling good about it.
I screwed up my back at the land last weekend. Sledgehammers and unstable ground are not a good mix, for the record. I saw my doctor on Wed. and got some meds. I'm doing better but lots of walking is not fun. DH has been picking up some of the slack, since I come home, take meds and collapse on the couch.
C doeesn't go back to school until after Labor Day. It's going to be interesting hearing how he's doing without her the next few weeks.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2019 13:15:05 GMT -5
Do you all toss or donate old underwear? Just asking that question sounds ridiculous, but I've never dealt with it! Carrot has a a ton of boxer briefs that he's outgrown and they're mostly all in good shape, but I feel weird throwing them in the Salvation Army box.
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Post by Pants on Aug 11, 2019 13:18:14 GMT -5
Do you all toss or donate old underwear? Just asking that question sounds ridiculous, but I've never dealt with it! Carrot has a a ton of boxer briefs that he's outgrown and they're mostly all in good shape, but I feel weird throwing them in the Salvation Army box. Orgs just throw them away - they can't use them. Make them into rags or toss them.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 11, 2019 13:19:20 GMT -5
I donate my boys old underwear. (Obviously, I toss any that get stained.) They're free to toss them if nobody wants used underwear.
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Post by Pants on Aug 11, 2019 13:22:58 GMT -5
I donate my boys old underwear. (Obviously, I toss any that get stained.) They're free to toss them if nobody wants used underwear. I mean, you're just passing the work down the chain, but sure.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 11, 2019 13:25:08 GMT -5
I donate my boys old underwear. (Obviously, I toss any that get stained.) They're free to toss them if nobody wants used underwear. I mean, you're just passing the work down the chain, but sure. I donate them to my church's free clothing pantry for babies/young children. They've never posted anything about not wanting them.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2019 13:26:41 GMT -5
Do you all toss or donate old underwear? Just asking that question sounds ridiculous, but I've never dealt with it! Carrot has a a ton of boxer briefs that he's outgrown and they're mostly all in good shape, but I feel weird throwing them in the Salvation Army box. Orgs just throw them away - they can't use them. Make them into rags or toss them. Bummer. I hate tossing clothing that still has a lot of life in it. I must have accidentally overbought for him in that size. I guess I'll just put them in a box in the garage for checking oil in the vehicles.
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Post by oped on Aug 11, 2019 13:40:31 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure ours sells boxers and bras...
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 11, 2019 13:48:14 GMT -5
I mean, you're just passing the work down the chain, but sure. I donate them to my church's free clothing pantry for babies/young children. They've never posted anything about not wanting them. MPL, this church program I mentioned is run by the local Catholic high school. Maybe your son's school has a similar program? I just wonder if they might not have more relaxed rules since they are simply giving everything away.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Aug 11, 2019 14:52:01 GMT -5
When mom died, we donated underwear and bras that had not been opened.
I would not feel right about donating used underwear for an organization to toss. I can do that.
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Post by simser on Aug 11, 2019 15:45:43 GMT -5
When mom died, we donated underwear and bras that had not been opened. I would not feel right about donating used underwear for an organization to toss. I can do that. Apparently some charities get money for selling as rags, and some don't, so they suggest to call and ask if they want them or not.
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Post by tcu2003 on Aug 11, 2019 15:57:38 GMT -5
Do you all toss or donate old underwear? Just asking that question sounds ridiculous, but I've never dealt with it! Carrot has a a ton of boxer briefs that he's outgrown and they're mostly all in good shape, but I feel weird throwing them in the Salvation Army box. What size are they? I’m happy to cover shipping if they’ll work for my C and you don’t have a local place to donate that will accept them.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2019 20:53:21 GMT -5
Do you all toss or donate old underwear? Just asking that question sounds ridiculous, but I've never dealt with it! Carrot has a a ton of boxer briefs that he's outgrown and they're mostly all in good shape, but I feel weird throwing them in the Salvation Army box. What size are they? I’m happy to cover shipping if they’ll work for my C and you don’t have a local place to donate that will accept them. I actually managed to get rid of them this afternoon. I mentioned them at my neighbors and she said she'd take them for her grandson. Keep a few at her house for spares and send the rest home with him. Glad I found someone who could use them. I couldn't bring myself to throw them out.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2019 21:02:54 GMT -5
I brought home a cranky kid this evening. I like my kid free weekends, but I pay for it big time on Sunday night. For some reason, letting him stay up until 1am playing video games and then pumping him full of coffee in the mornings throws him all out of whack. Who would think? It pisses me off that he just seems to have a rule free, no schedule time over there. Sit in the front seat of the car, no life jackets on the boat, stay up late, play video games all day... I think back to when Ex 2.0 told me how his Dad used to bring him cigarettes home from the store when he was 14. I swear to God if that happens, I'll lose it.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Aug 11, 2019 21:30:08 GMT -5
How old is C? I know a lot of kids benefit from night lights, "monster spray", etc. it is really hard. K sleeps like a rock, I'm not sure she's ever had a bad dream. But B has had them a lot. We try to judge whether they are real or a manipulation, because she also uses them as a handy way to avoid bedtime. If there's a chance they're real we always, always go to her. It stinks sometimes but in our mind it's better to provide comfort and guidance that wasn't really needed than not provide it when it is. It does break my heart sometimes. He's almost 2.5. He is very anti night light for some reason. I don't know if he's old enough to get the concept of monster spray. He still doesn't even really understand dreaming yet. I agree with you, if there's any chance at all that he's scared I'm not going to risk it. One of us goes to him and comforts him right away. It's usually pretty easy to tell because he wakes up screaming bloody murder. It's so sad. Tell me if this is stupid. DH and I were talking earlier in the year about potentially trying for a 2nd. C's sleep habits, or lack thereof, have me 90% sure I just can't handle it. I am always exhausted. I just don't think I can emotionally and physically handle a newborn on top of this. Is that super short sighted? I don't want to look back in a few years when it's too late and regret my decision, but I also don't want to be pressured into having another because I 'should'. I refused to have another till Gwen was weaned and on her way to using the potty. The idea of having to do that with a newborn gave me panic attacks. I had people poo poo me and insist I should proceed and get it all done at once. Glad that worked for you. I'm not you. It's not shortsighted to wait till you are ready. It's smart. You may change your mind you may not. But if your brain is saying right now it wants to wait then listen. Mine are four years and 18 days apart because I didn't want two in diapers at the same time.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Aug 11, 2019 21:35:31 GMT -5
Do you all toss or donate old underwear? Just asking that question sounds ridiculous, but I've never dealt with it! Carrot has a a ton of boxer briefs that he's outgrown and they're mostly all in good shape, but I feel weird throwing them in the Salvation Army box. I toss it.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Aug 11, 2019 21:37:07 GMT -5
For the love. DD#2 (age 17) met a boy this summer. He was here about two months, and then went back to Utah a week or two ago. He sent her balloons, a teddy bear, bag of Hershey's, and flowers today. He's nine days younger than she is, so it's not a weird older guy creepy thing.
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Post by CCL on Aug 11, 2019 21:42:35 GMT -5
I brought home a cranky kid this evening. I like my kid free weekends, but I pay for it big time on Sunday night. For some reason, letting him stay up until 1am playing video games and then pumping him full of coffee in the mornings throws him all out of whack. Who would think? It pisses me off that he just seems to have a rule free, no schedule time over there. Sit in the front seat of the car, no life jackets on the boat, stay up late, play video games all day... I think back to when Ex 2.0 told me how his Dad used to bring him cigarettes home from the store when he was 14. I swear to God if that happens, I'll lose it. If anyone did either of these with my kid I'd be soooo pissed...
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Post by Works4me on Aug 12, 2019 0:44:41 GMT -5
For the love. DD#2 (age 17) met a boy this summer. He was here about two months, and then went back to Utah a week or two ago. He sent her balloons, a teddy bear, bag of Hershey's, and flowers today. He's nine days younger than she is, so it's not a weird older guy creepy thing. Interesting - sounds like a package deal from the florist. Hand in there, mama - this is the last one.
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Post by taz157 on Aug 12, 2019 6:01:20 GMT -5
I brought home a cranky kid this evening. I like my kid free weekends, but I pay for it big time on Sunday night. For some reason, letting him stay up until 1am playing video games and then pumping him full of coffee in the mornings throws him all out of whack. Who would think? It pisses me off that he just seems to have a rule free, no schedule time over there. Sit in the front seat of the car, no life jackets on the boat, stay up late, play video games all day... I think back to when Ex 2.0 told me how his Dad used to bring him cigarettes home from the store when he was 14. I swear to God if that happens, I'll lose it. If anyone did either of these with my kid I'd be soooo pissed... Yeah that!!!!!!!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 12, 2019 8:46:11 GMT -5
I believe the no life jackets thing is illegal (and obviously the cigarettes).
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Post by gs11rmb on Aug 12, 2019 8:50:37 GMT -5
My youngest girl had a total meltdown about going to school this morning. When we got there she was sobbing and I had to peel her off me and she was walked into the school by a teacher still crying her heart out.
I have no idea what's wrong. She wouldn't/couldn't explain why she was so distressed. It's week two and as this is a Montessori program she has the same teacher as last year and really likes her a lot.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2019 9:05:26 GMT -5
My youngest girl had a total meltdown about going to school this morning. When we got there she was sobbing and I had to peel her off me and she was walked into the school by a teacher still crying her heart out. I have no idea what's wrong. She wouldn't/couldn't explain why she was so distressed. It's week two and as this is a Montessori program she has the same teacher as last year and really likes her a lot. Well, to be fair, this is year 25 for me at this company and I was that way this morning as well. Sometimes it's like F*** this. I just want to turn around and go home. Hopefully, it passed quickly and she has a good day. I always hated leaving a crying kid.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2019 9:10:20 GMT -5
I believe the no life jackets thing is illegal (and obviously the cigarettes). A quick glance at his court record will show he's not real big on caring about the legality of things...or real smart on not getting caught. When you do things like pull up to a cop and ask for directions with a beer in your hand, you're kind of asking for it.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 12, 2019 9:14:46 GMT -5
I brought home a cranky kid this evening. I like my kid free weekends, but I pay for it big time on Sunday night. For some reason, letting him stay up until 1am playing video games and then pumping him full of coffee in the mornings throws him all out of whack. Who would think? It pisses me off that he just seems to have a rule free, no schedule time over there. Sit in the front seat of the car, no life jackets on the boat, stay up late, play video games all day... I think back to when Ex 2.0 told me how his Dad used to bring him cigarettes home from the store when he was 14. I swear to God if that happens, I'll lose it. The whole thing pisses me off. The safety issues are the worst of course, but everything else is just such terrible parenting I'd want to kill him. And he never has to feel the consequences. Not that I think that would make him fix anything because he'll always pick whatever is easiest for him.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 12, 2019 9:16:41 GMT -5
My youngest girl had a total meltdown about going to school this morning. When we got there she was sobbing and I had to peel her off me and she was walked into the school by a teacher still crying her heart out. I have no idea what's wrong. She wouldn't/couldn't explain why she was so distressed. It's week two and as this is a Montessori program she has the same teacher as last year and really likes her a lot. I hate those mornings. I hope she can talk about it this afternoon and it's something easy/fixable.
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Post by taz157 on Aug 12, 2019 9:27:34 GMT -5
I believe the no life jackets thing is illegal (and obviously the cigarettes). If the coast guard or police boat pulled them over to check everything, they would be in trouble.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 12, 2019 9:33:36 GMT -5
The 4 of us were camping last week and it was a great trip. So much better than last year. Dh and C are going on a 1 day backpacking trip today. Just a mile and a half to the site, but dh just finished packing the bags today. C's pack is maxed at 25 pounds. I was surprised, dh is only carrying 60 pounds, but his pack is huge so it will be tough for him to take on extra stuff of C's if he can't do it. He really needed to get those bags packed 2 weeks ago, or at least to get the bags out with some weight in them so that C could practice some. We definitely did more than 3 miles a day last week, but the kids never had more than a day-pack on.
C put it on this morning and felt good, and then dh asked him if he was ready for dh to let go...not realizing that dh was still carrying a decent amount of the weight. It took him 10 minutes to learn how to stand up straight with it on. There are water falls a half mile in and I'm half expecting that they'll get there, eat lunch and decide to bail. I think C could really like backpacking, and dh would love that, but you have to plan and condition, or hiking just sucks. I'm not sure how dh doesn't remember that.
Hoping they don't butt heads too much and have fun regardless of how far they get. And trying not to let myself start on any of the "worst case scenarios". Last week it seemed ridiculous to spend $500 for a satellite walkie talkie for what is essentially a short hike. Today...kinda wishing we had bought it.
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