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Post by andi9899 on Jun 15, 2019 11:52:51 GMT -5
Something Thing 2 did yesterday that isn't funny, but is funny to us because we're so many years out that it's just comical at this point. She was helping me around the house yesterday and spontaneously broke out in the running man. I asked her if that's the only dance she could do. She said pretty much. Then she goes "here's my impression of my dad." Then she turned around and ran out of the room. I really tried not to laugh, but I couldn't. It was hilarious.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2019 13:03:45 GMT -5
Screw him. I know it sucks for your kid,but all you can really do is make it as special as you can for him and yourself. And yes, you will cry. I consider myself a pretty tough broad, but I cried at all the girls senior stuff. That's going to be me. Somebody did a Facebook live video of the band from the parade going on now and I cried over that being the last time he'd be playing...in that town. LOL.
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Post by debthaven on Jun 15, 2019 13:46:25 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady I think you are close enough that you could point that out to him. He has always seemed quite attentive to your DS1 but I know he has 2 little kids and a demanding wife now. So I'd mention it, and tell him he should make an effort. If he still doesn't bite, like andi9899 says, screw him. His loss. DS1 will always know who was there for him, and he won't forget it.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2019 15:47:56 GMT -5
He is 56 and trying to do everything he used to do when he was 26, but he's put on a lot of weight and is having other health issues. I wish he would just slow down and hire some things out. He has a dozen home improvement projects going on and yeah..his wife is useless so he does all the cooking and cleaning as well. He does realize it's happening. When he was trying to get DS to help with something during speech season he commented something to the effect of "Jesus, it's like I'm living the Cat's in the Cradle song". I know DS is busy, but that's kind of why I go to all this stuff, to spend time with him while I still can.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 15, 2019 17:20:14 GMT -5
Has he not told his wife that she needs to contribute, or has he not grown a pair yet?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2019 18:25:38 GMT -5
I don't know if he has said anything to her or not, but he doesn't seem to mind, at least he doesn't complain about her in front of anyone. The guy is a very hard worker, he'll be doing stuff around the house all day from dusk to dawn...and she's like the total opposite. The last party I was at at their house she didn't even change out of her pajamas. So weird.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 15, 2019 19:05:39 GMT -5
That's crazy. Has she just completely let herself go? My cousin has after she got married and had a baby, but at least she still dresses herself.
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Post by azucena on Jun 18, 2019 8:32:31 GMT -5
DD10 seems to have mellowed out a bit. Now, I fear that we've hit the next disequilibrium stage for DD6 who is growing by leaps and bounds.
I just want one day when someone isn't angry, moody, or whiny. Is that too much to ask?!
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Post by Pants on Jun 18, 2019 8:52:41 GMT -5
DD10 seems to have mellowed out a bit. Now, I fear that we've hit the next disequilibrium stage for DD6 who is growing by leaps and bounds. I just want one day when someone isn't angry, moody, or whiny. Is that too much to ask?! Both girls and I were crying this morning. I feel you.
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Post by azucena on Jun 18, 2019 8:55:46 GMT -5
DD10 seems to have mellowed out a bit. Now, I fear that we've hit the next disequilibrium stage for DD6 who is growing by leaps and bounds. I just want one day when someone isn't angry, moody, or whiny. Is that too much to ask?! Both girls and I were crying this morning. I feel you. Those are definitely the worst days.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 18, 2019 8:57:59 GMT -5
I don't cry - I yell. Which just raises the stakes for everyone.
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Post by Pants on Jun 18, 2019 12:49:42 GMT -5
I don't cry - I yell. Which just raises the stakes for everyone. I yelled, then I cried.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 18, 2019 12:56:17 GMT -5
Hugs Pants.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 18, 2019 14:41:00 GMT -5
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Post by cktc on Jun 18, 2019 17:48:51 GMT -5
I just registered DS for preschool. Had to pay $320 non-refundable upfront. Let's hope I can potty train him by August 1st.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 19, 2019 0:22:19 GMT -5
I just registered DS for preschool. Had to pay $320 non-refundable upfront. Let's hope I can potty train him by August 1st. I would talk to folks to see if semi-potty trained is OK. When the peanut started 3 yo preschool, she also did one day a week of wrap-around care. She had to be potty trained for the afternoon care, but not preschool. Of course, she started getting serious about potting training right before we were leaving for a 2.5 week driving trip. And of course, there was like a week and a half in between when we got back home from vacation and when she started preschool.
We put 3K miles on the car for that trip. There was no way I was going to make her stay in undies for that. We would have been stopping every 4 miles for looking for a bathroom for her. I know we could have gotten a car potty, but, that was also a hard no.
So. In a span of 6 weeks she went from pull ups to undies, back to pull ups, and back to undies.
I called up the folks at her preschool and explained our situation and shared where she was with progress, as she still wasn't 100% trained. They were very accommodating and said she'll finish training pretty quickly once she was in preschool. And she did.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 19, 2019 6:01:59 GMT -5
Back from a 5-day vacation with the girls and my parents to visit my brother/SIL/niece in Colorado. We had a nice time, and the kids had so much fun together. I'm running on fumes though, as I went to bed at midnight (10pm Colorado time) and got up with the puppy at 5:30.
I'm swamped this week - work, two t-ball games, and Harper's 5th (!!!!!) birthday party on Sunday.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 19, 2019 7:15:02 GMT -5
We love our neighborhood with all of the kids on it because of the impromptu play dates that spring up. But there's always gotta be something. 1 family with a much younger child -- probably late 3 at this point has a huge great dane that they don't keep on leash. The child is playing more with the group of kids now that she's older and when the kids are playing in her yard (front yard--we don't know them well enough to allow house or backyard), the dog approaches and growls at any adult that comes up to the house. The kids say he only gives his "love growls" to them, which and . We've hopefully explained that there is no such thing as love growls, but with the kids he is well behaved in that he doesn't bark, jump, or run them over. Neither dh or I are comfortable with his free reign, and I've seen him have issues with dogs walking by, but we also hate to say no play dates if the dog is out. Another neighbor got a puppy a couple months ago. Super sweet of course, but she is off leash now too and E came in crying last night the the puppy bit her. No marks or broken skin, but it hurt and she was scared. We weren't outside, but I think the puppy ran up to E, started jumping up and whether she was trying to bite or not, she got her several times. She's decently sized at this point and just going to get bigger. The owner got the puppy and put her inside. But now we're at that point of deciding do we call an end to play dates when the dogs are out? We don't sit outside and supervise everything, but even if we did I'd have to be right on top of them to be close enough to stop something like that from happening which would mean a lot fewer play dates and probably a lot less fun when an adult is following you around. I know I've lost the battle that dogs aren't children, but it doesn't make me any less frustrated every time I run into it. I've taught my kids proper manners around dogs, but its so rare to find dogs (and owners) who can return that courtesy to kids.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jun 19, 2019 7:22:47 GMT -5
raeoflyte have you spoken to the dogs' owners? Sometimes people who have dogs are just oblivious to their behaviour. Not in a mean way but just in an "oh he won't bite or hurt you" way. I really like dogs but when there's 75 lbs of muscle and teeth running or jumping at me then I get scared.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 19, 2019 8:12:16 GMT -5
I haven't. The great danes owners are oblivious in that way, but I don't see us changing their mind. They're the type that is proud he's so protective, but sure he'd never hurt someone. I've watched their dog charge out of their front door to run up to a dog walking on leash in front of their house -- with E and I only a few feet behind the dog and owner on leash and it doesn't change their behavior. He is a calm dog who otherwise has good behavior with the kids. I really love that dog. I just don't want my kids around him off leash.
The puppy's owners we'll kind of see how it plays out. They were the ones who got the dog inside after last night. Until last night it seemed like they were always out with the dog so when she ran off, they were chasing right after her. So hopefully they'll keep her more contained going forward.
I guess I don't feel like I can tell them you have to keep your dog inside or on a leash in your own yard because my kids want to play over there (with permission and with the owners kids). It's pretty rare that the dogs are roaming other yards for me to say that is the problem -- although it could happen more especially as the great dane follows his child. I can stop my kids from playing at those houses. From a worst case scenario stand point I feel like I should, but I also feel like they are gaining a lot of maturity and independence from the quasi-free roam interactions that they're getting now.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 19, 2019 8:26:35 GMT -5
I just bluntly tell people that my C is afraid of bigger dogs because he's gotten bit several times. And he's leery of smaller dogs. One of his bites came from a dog he'd known since he was 3 months old. I've found that most dog owners respect that and make sure to keep their dogs away from him or keep a closer eye on both C and the dog. Recently, the owners have been making sure to tell C something nice about the dog and/or the training, which I appreciate.
At 9, he's capable, usually, of getting kids to play with him where the dogs aren't.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 19, 2019 9:25:45 GMT -5
As an adult who bears a scar between my eyes from a love growl that turned in to a bite when I was about 6 or 7, my fear of big dogs has never left me.
It's probably the reason I've never owned a dog--only cats.
Good luck and keep your child safe.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 19, 2019 10:37:40 GMT -5
As an adult who bears a scar between my eyes from a love growl that turned in to a bite when I was about 6 or 7, my fear of big dogs has never left me. It's probably the reason I've never owned a dog--only cats. Good luck and keep your child safe. I got bit on the check and still love my big dogs. We're all different in how we respond/internalize dog bites. And no one's response is wrong.
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Post by swamp on Jun 19, 2019 10:38:32 GMT -5
I just registered DS for preschool. Had to pay $320 non-refundable upfront. Let's hope I can potty train him by August 1st. DS very hard to potty train. But, he was very excited to go "to school" but they wouldn't take him if he wasn't potty trained. I signed him up and told him that he is not allowed to pee or poop his pants "in school" otherwise his friends would laugh at him. A little carefully placed public shaming can work.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 19, 2019 10:46:24 GMT -5
As an adult who bears a scar between my eyes from a love growl that turned in to a bite when I was about 6 or 7, my fear of big dogs has never left me. It's probably the reason I've never owned a dog--only cats. Good luck and keep your child safe. I got bit on the check and still love my big dogs. We're all different in how we respond/internalize dog bites. And no one's response is wrong. I don't think my mom's reaction helped as she didn't like big dogs.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 19, 2019 10:56:59 GMT -5
I got bit on the check and still love my big dogs. We're all different in how we respond/internalize dog bites. And no one's response is wrong. I don't think my mom's reaction helped as she didn't like big dogs. I have to admit, I didn't realize how scared he was until fairly recently. We aren't around dogs of any size much until a few months ago. I think he's going to be a cat person. And that's fine.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 19, 2019 12:07:11 GMT -5
My kids aren't scared of dogs, but they expect them to stay in their lane. C can't stand dogs that jump or lick, and they're both wary of dogs that pay much attention to them.
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Post by cktc on Jun 19, 2019 14:16:50 GMT -5
I just registered DS for preschool. Had to pay $320 non-refundable upfront. Let's hope I can potty train him by August 1st. I would talk to folks to see if semi-potty trained is OK. When the peanut started 3 yo preschool, she also did one day a week of wrap-around care. She had to be potty trained for the afternoon care, but not preschool. Of course, she started getting serious about potting training right before we were leaving for a 2.5 week driving trip. And of course, there was like a week and a half in between when we got back home from vacation and when she started preschool.
We put 3K miles on the car for that trip. There was no way I was going to make her stay in undies for that. We would have been stopping every 4 miles for looking for a bathroom for her. I know we could have gotten a car potty, but, that was also a hard no.
So. In a span of 6 weeks she went from pull ups to undies, back to pull ups, and back to undies.
I called up the folks at her preschool and explained our situation and shared where she was with progress, as she still wasn't 100% trained. They were very accommodating and said she'll finish training pretty quickly once she was in preschool. And she did. They were pretty clear "fully" potty trained was expected. I had to tick a little box saying I understood. It's 2 1/2 hours. I honestly don't understand why he can't go in a pull-up if he's already pooped for the day. I'm going to be a jerk parent who sends him anyway. Maybe with padded training underwear if it's still and issue. Accidents happen and if he has too many I won't keep sending him. Potty training is going ok so far. He's still a little scared, but two weeks ago he wouldn't even sit on a potty and now he is on it 2/3 of every hour. He asked to use the potty while we were having lunch so that is exciting progress. He knows what's happening, and wants to go to school, but also just wants to be a baby a little longer I keep telling him he'll always be my baby and potty training won't change that. We'll see. I really do think he will love preschool. swampGood to know that works, because I'm kind of hoping for that. 2 1/2 hours. He goes that without pooping or peeing ALL the time.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 19, 2019 14:54:08 GMT -5
cktc My recently retired pre-K teacher sister would tell you accidents happened and she's cleaned up more than one student a school year. They even have the kids bring an extra set of clothes to school. Yes, it's full day and they are 4-5 years old.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 19, 2019 18:56:55 GMT -5
We love our neighborhood with all of the kids on it because of the impromptu play dates that spring up. But there's always gotta be something. 1 family with a much younger child -- probably late 3 at this point has a huge great dane that they don't keep on leash. The child is playing more with the group of kids now that she's older and when the kids are playing in her yard (front yard--we don't know them well enough to allow house or backyard), the dog approaches and growls at any adult that comes up to the house. The kids say he only gives his "love growls" to them, which and . We've hopefully explained that there is no such thing as love growls, but with the kids he is well behaved in that he doesn't bark, jump, or run them over. Neither dh or I are comfortable with his free reign, and I've seen him have issues with dogs walking by, but we also hate to say no play dates if the dog is out. Another neighbor got a puppy a couple months ago. Super sweet of course, but she is off leash now too and E came in crying last night the the puppy bit her. No marks or broken skin, but it hurt and she was scared. We weren't outside, but I think the puppy ran up to E, started jumping up and whether she was trying to bite or not, she got her several times. She's decently sized at this point and just going to get bigger. The owner got the puppy and put her inside. But now we're at that point of deciding do we call an end to play dates when the dogs are out? We don't sit outside and supervise everything, but even if we did I'd have to be right on top of them to be close enough to stop something like that from happening which would mean a lot fewer play dates and probably a lot less fun when an adult is following you around. I know I've lost the battle that dogs aren't children, but it doesn't make me any less frustrated every time I run into it. I've taught my kids proper manners around dogs, but its so rare to find dogs (and owners) who can return that courtesy to kids. I'm curious. During these play dates where this dog is present, is there an adult present? I mean present as in right there in the yard with them, not in the house. If so, why not?
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