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Post by muttleynfelix on Apr 19, 2019 21:37:14 GMT -5
Another crazy week in the books. I really didn't want to work this weekend, but I have memos to write and a presentation for our new chief legal counsel that needs to be drafted by Monday afternoon. I think tomorrow, I might take the kids to the park and work on my stuff there it is going to be too nice to sit at home and work. I would like not to work one day this weekend. I was planning on leaving early today but had a 3pm meeting with my market leader and others that lasted until 4:30. Our new management is not going to want to take on the next amendment to the project I am working on because of liability concerns. But...we would already be liable because of previous work we have done. So my bosses and I have to sell it to our leadership team that walking away is a worse choice than finishing and doing the work ourselves. We have brand new legal counsel that knows nothing of the project. It just added a ton of work on my end to sell $2m worth of work to my own company! Thankfully, this is the last design year for it or I would be screwed.
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Post by Pants on Apr 19, 2019 21:46:00 GMT -5
Q: How much would be reasonable to give a kid for summer clothes allowance? I have to take B shopping for summer clothes, and I'd like to start teaching her about how to manage a budget and make choices. So we are going to sit down, decide approx what she needs and then go shop on a budget. What do you think is a reasonable sum for a whole summer wardrobe including (prob 2 pair) shoes? $300? We are likely going to Target, if that helps. $300 seems high, but I shop second-hand for the kids. But doing math, 2 pairs of shoes are going to run about $60 at Target. That leaves $240. Assuming a wardrobe is 7 shirts and 7 shorts - that averages $17 an item. May be a little high, but if you can afford it, I don't think it is excessive. Does she want a nice dress or additional accessories? If you are trying to get her to learn to budget and make choices $250 might be a better starting point. At $300, I'm not sure how much saying no you have to do. She'll want dresses and skirts as well as shorts. And I'm sure there will be cases made for bows and sunglasses. If we come in under budget I can always tell her we will save it for anything we need to replace - because something will surely need replacing before summers end. Second hand is a good idea - maybe stop at goodwill before going to target and talk about how if we get some things cheaper we can afford other things.
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Post by lund on Apr 20, 2019 6:14:28 GMT -5
If you go swimming or to the beach, do you need to include bathing suit/bikini/sun protective clothing?
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Post by Pants on Apr 20, 2019 8:37:22 GMT -5
If you go swimming or to the beach, do you need to include bathing suit/bikini/sun protective clothing? We have that covered. ETA: Siiiiigh. Spoke too soon as it turns out she left her swimsuit in a plastic bag after swim class a week ago. So new one of those on the list.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 20, 2019 10:07:27 GMT -5
I like that idea. Try a kids consignment store in your area too. Better quality and you know you'll find something in all categories at essentially the same prices as goodwill.
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Post by Pants on Apr 20, 2019 11:31:47 GMT -5
I like that idea. Try a kids consignment store in your area too. Better quality and you know you'll find something in all categories at essentially the same prices as goodwill. Unfortunately the closest kids consignment is like 30 min from us. I’m jut not willing to make that trade off.
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Post by azucena on Apr 20, 2019 11:38:53 GMT -5
Can anyone recommend period panties? DD10 doesn't like the way pads feel so I finally figured out that she just isn't wearing one at night - smh. Looking for brand and how do you clean them?
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Post by Pants on Apr 20, 2019 12:01:10 GMT -5
Can anyone recommend period panties? DD10 doesn't like the way pads feel so I finally figured out that she just isn't wearing one at night - smh. Looking for brand and how do you clean them? I use thinx - they have a line for teens as well (smaller sizes, I believe, a little fresher design.) I wash them with our regular laundry, nothing special. Cold water, dryer. They have special washing instructions but TBH I never bothered.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Apr 20, 2019 19:28:16 GMT -5
Q: How much would be reasonable to give a kid for summer clothes allowance? I have to take B shopping for summer clothes, and I'd like to start teaching her about how to manage a budget and make choices. So we are going to sit down, decide approx what she needs and then go shop on a budget. What do you think is a reasonable sum for a whole summer wardrobe including (prob 2 pair) shoes? $300? We are likely going to Target, if that helps. I've approached this in a few different ways. If I'm going with the season (summer, back-to-school) then I go with $200 - $300 per kid. If I'm not including shoes in that, it's the lower end of the range.
I've also gone the route of just giving each kid $50 per month. They're not responsible for necessities--underwear, socks, bras, needed shoes.
Both plans have their flaws. For example, last month, DD found her prom dress. I'd planned on about $100 for it (outside of her $50/month). It was $240 + $65 shoes. Now, I didn't veto the dress. Does that mean she loses six months of clothing money? Probably not. Part of it is I can cash flow that and part of it is I didn't want to be an ogre. There have been a lot of times I would have had to hold firm to the amount I'd planned for an expenditure.
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Post by TheHaitian on Apr 20, 2019 20:12:16 GMT -5
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Post by Pants on Apr 20, 2019 20:21:40 GMT -5
Q: How much would be reasonable to give a kid for summer clothes allowance? I have to take B shopping for summer clothes, and I'd like to start teaching her about how to manage a budget and make choices. So we are going to sit down, decide approx what she needs and then go shop on a budget. What do you think is a reasonable sum for a whole summer wardrobe including (prob 2 pair) shoes? $300? We are likely going to Target, if that helps. I've approached this in a few different ways. If I'm going with the season (summer, back-to-school) then I go with $200 - $300 per kid. If I'm not including shoes in that, it's the lower end of the range.
I've also gone the route of just giving each kid $50 per month. They're not responsible for necessities--underwear, socks, bras, needed shoes.
Both plans have their flaws. For example, last month, DD found her prom dress. I'd planned on about $100 for it (outside of her $50/month). It was $240 + $65 shoes. Now, I didn't veto the dress. Does that mean she loses six months of clothing money? Probably not. Part of it is I can cash flow that and part of it is I didn't want to be an ogre. There have been a lot of times I would have had to hold firm to the amount I'd planned for an expenditure. She’s going to be 7, so I feel like lump sum + shopping trip makes more sense than a monthly stipend.
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Post by TheHaitian on Apr 20, 2019 20:25:29 GMT -5
We had our first visit with the Fertility Dr.... here goes nothing! Was it just kind of a checkup to see if everything is a go to get started? We want (possibly, I'm second guessing the decision) to get started later this year. I need to figure out when to call them and get in. I have a few specific concerns I want checked out before we get started. It was more like a planning/introduction meeting to decide the step we need to take if we decide to move forward... since we have been through the process already. 1) DW needs to meet with a nutritionist and lose 15 lbs 2) they also want her to start seeing a high risk pregnancy obgyn before we even get pregnant so they can monitor her from the get go: —-> my wife high blood pressure, being anemic, having had gestational diabetes, almost having the baby at 19 weeks and the early delivery at 35 are all reasons why. 3) some tests to make sure everything is still fine in there 4) some more tests to decide if IUI is even worth it or go straight to IVF 5) counseling for both of us (sperm donor). 6) test for me (diseases and what not 7) and lots of other tests (genetic testing, and forgot the rest) for my wife. She was supposed to go this Monday and get an ultrasound by Day 12 after her period and she told me she just canceled because she has some deadlines coming up and she can not afford to take all that time off. So next menstrual cycle we will start with all the testing and what not. Good luck if you decide to go forward. Actually my wife need to call and see if they still have the same sperm donor available because that was my line in the sand: not using a different donor; not happening. She also wanted to know if I wanted to try again to have my own; I have maturation arrest and I believe the past 2 urologists have done everything possible. I may not be able to have a kid but my equipment still works just fine; so let’s stop fooling around with it before someone fucks up and brake it. So I passed on that opportunity, I have accepted I will never have biological Kids and one day DD and any other kid will find out that I am not their biological father and eventually at 18 will have the option of finding out who. I did the work, it was a sad but necessary journey but I am good! Just hope they do not need a life of therapy sessions to come to terms with it and able to adjust and know regardless of how they were conceived they were wanted, prayed for and loved from Day 1.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 21, 2019 7:34:03 GMT -5
We bought more sperm from the same donor through a private party. The speciman had never left the original sperm bank, we just paid the individuals and both did paper work with the bank to transfer it to our name.
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Post by giramomma on Apr 21, 2019 8:30:02 GMT -5
My BIL and SIL had to use donor eggs to conceive. They ended up using SIL's half-sister's eggs.
Anyway, they have been up front from Day 1 that their kids were not all biologically theirs..from getting/reading their kiddos little kid books that explain their situation to having their kids wear a onsie that said something like "Science and love made me." (and of course taking pictures of their kiddos in the onsie.)
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Post by gracendignity on Apr 21, 2019 9:09:15 GMT -5
My BIL and SIL had to use donor eggs to conceive. They ended up using SIL's half-sister's eggs.
Anyway, they have been up front from Day 1 that their kids were not all biologically theirs..from getting/reading their kiddos little kid books that explain their situation to having their kids wear a onsie that said something like "Science and love made me." (and of course taking pictures of their kiddos in the onsie.)
When my youngest granddaughter was born 2 years ago her birth was announced on FB with the caption "Best science project ever!" Lol! The circumstances of her conception are somewhat different from what is being discussed here but did require a little extra outside help. That little "science experiment" is such a wonderful addition to our family that her parents are getting ready to do another "experiment" and see if they get the same results.
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Post by geenamercile on Apr 21, 2019 12:49:50 GMT -5
Carl good luck to you. And I don't think you have anything to worry about tour children not feeling yours.
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Post by steph08 on Apr 21, 2019 13:06:08 GMT -5
Happy Easter to those who celebrate.
I've been in bed for most of the day with a stomach bug. So we skipped church, and I cancelled Easter lunch with my parents.
At least we had a fun Easter celebration yesterday with the in-laws and had beautiful 70-degree weather for an egg hunt and playing.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 22, 2019 9:25:31 GMT -5
Don't forget to include swimsuit(s) for B too.
ETA - should have read everything first!
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 22, 2019 12:44:11 GMT -5
So Thing 1 and SIL split up and both have moved on to date other people. Thing 1's new friend is a girl and she wanted to bring said new GF to Easter. I told her she needed to tell my mom ahead of time and not just spring a random new person on my mom, because if my mom has a heart attack that I'm going to beat her (Thing 1, not my mom). So we went there Saturday and she dropped her bomb. My mom didn't seem to quite understand. My dad's first words were "Is she hot?" So the new girl came over yesterday and was very nice. I'm more impressed with her than SIL.
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Post by tcu2003 on Apr 23, 2019 16:53:46 GMT -5
In reasons my toddler is crying today, mean mommy won’t give her a granola bar for a snack on the way home from daycare. She had one for breakfast, and doesn’t want the grapes I have for her now. Keep it up, child - I’m not changing my mind.
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Post by steph08 on Apr 23, 2019 17:55:27 GMT -5
Kids, they really are weird and annoying!
My 4yo just threw/is still throwing because she didn't want to eat her dinner. And then continued to throw because I took her dinner away (after 45m of the fit) and she wanted to eat it.
Save me.
And I say that the 2yo will put me in an early grave. Man. Kids.
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Post by financialpeace on Apr 23, 2019 19:19:14 GMT -5
Random, off topic question for andi - do you know any good insurance companies that allow a woodstove in a shop?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 23, 2019 20:14:40 GMT -5
It's not as fun when they learn to read, you can't convince them their "Unicorn body wash" is made out of unicorn farts because now they can read the label.
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Post by steph08 on Apr 23, 2019 20:40:24 GMT -5
We have a wood burner in our basement (and had one at our old house as well) - our insurance company was cool with it.
Edit to add: We have Erie Insurance - not sure if that is PA-specific though...
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 24, 2019 8:07:28 GMT -5
Random, off topic question for andi - do you know any good insurance companies that allow a woodstove in a shop? State Farm will allow it around here. AAA will too, but you have to write your car with them to be able to write the house. Farmers I think will do it, but their rates suck. I don't know what you mean by "in a shop", but wood stoves aren't a big deal around here.
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Post by swamp on Apr 24, 2019 8:46:27 GMT -5
So Thing 1 and SIL split up and both have moved on to date other people. Thing 1's new friend is a girl and she wanted to bring said new GF to Easter. I told her she needed to tell my mom ahead of time and not just spring a random new person on my mom, because if my mom has a heart attack that I'm going to beat her (Thing 1, not my mom). So we went there Saturday and she dropped her bomb. My mom didn't seem to quite understand. My dad's first words were "Is she hot?" So the new girl came over yesterday and was very nice. I'm more impressed with her than SIL.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 24, 2019 8:57:44 GMT -5
So Thing 1 and SIL split up and both have moved on to date other people. Thing 1's new friend is a girl and she wanted to bring said new GF to Easter. I told her she needed to tell my mom ahead of time and not just spring a random new person on my mom, because if my mom has a heart attack that I'm going to beat her (Thing 1, not my mom). So we went there Saturday and she dropped her bomb. My mom didn't seem to quite understand. My dad's first words were "Is she hot?" So the new girl came over yesterday and was very nice. I'm more impressed with her than SIL. This was literally mine and Thing 1's response. The girl had asked Thing 1 what her family would think if she brought a girl home. Thing 1's response to her was that her mom doesn't GAF. Her grandpa's first words were going to be "Is she hot?" So when he said that without skipping a beat we both about died laughing. Shes seems like a decent girl. She's got her shit together way more than SIL does. And she told Thing 1 that she has a hot mom, so I like her already. 😎
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Post by financialpeace on Apr 24, 2019 9:35:41 GMT -5
Thanks for the responses. We have a woodstove in the house, and that isn’t an issue, but the one in the detached shop is a problem for a lot of companies. State Farm was going to make us take it out. We ended up with country financial but rate is a little higher than I’d like. I’ll check out the other ones mentioned.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 29, 2019 7:56:14 GMT -5
We had a really good weekend. My niece's wedding went off beautifully. We took the kids' new coloring books and colored pencils to the reception, figuring that dinner would be late or that they'd get bored at some point. It was a good plan because at one point C was coloring with his cousin from Chicago and his best cousin M was hanging out with them. And then K started coloring too. There was a lobby area with some tables and couches so they weren't in the way. Both kids got on the dance floor. K was bopping around doing Snoopy dances. She had a terrific time and didn't want to leave. Fortunately, the rest of her girl cousins were heading out around the same time we were so they talked her into leaving too. Whew. C was just beat by then. When I left for Mass at 830 on Sunday morning, everyone was still sound asleep.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 29, 2019 8:50:32 GMT -5
Just sent my kid a video of me on the mechanical bull from over the weekend. Mother of the year!
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